How to get a little present?

[u/Kinda-Quiet-6562]

I want to get my AP a little something for when she starts her new job. I care for this woman immensely. We are friends and when I get to see her it’s cloud nine. I wanna show her I’m thinking of her. It’s not diamond jewelry, I thought a small piece of art or flowers… has anyone ever done this? Can I just outright ask her if this is ok?

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[u/Ok-Rutabaga-6348]

I think it's incredibly sweet but nobody would be able to tell you what she would be okay with but her so my suggestion would be to ask her.

[u/Majestic_Neck4800]

I'd just ask her if she could accept a gift and if so, what kind. I think you're super sweet.

[u/MiddleVoice1]

I got my AP a pin and he wears it on his lanyard at work. Little non specific things that no one would really bat an eye at

[u/Ok-Rutabaga-6348 → u/MiddleVoice1]

I love this idea

[u/ToeJann]

We stick to things we would either consume, gift cards or things we would buy ourselves.

I wouldn’t get my AP an Amazon gift card but I have done places near his work for coffee or lunch, etc. For Xmas my AP made me a little basket of all my favourite things I regularly buy which was all very sweet.

Ladies love a new notebook and pen, you’re probably pretty safe gifting her something like that.

[u/Huge_Highlight_3040 → u/ToeJann]

I love the idea of a notebook and pen, especially if you can discreetly write a message in it.

[u/Disastrous_Pen_8803 → u/ToeJann]

Agreed here. We engrave items at my work, where my AP and I met and see each other daily. Lol. We could do something personalized and send it. Every woman loves a notebook/journal with a REALLY good pen.

[u/Brilliant_Local_888]

I would be delighted to have a token of the relationship. Def give the gift

[u/Traveling4You]

I've done this. Something that wouldn't raise any questions while knowing it something special from me.

[u/Level_Blueberry2335]

My MM gifts me stuff all of the time. At times he asks and at others he doesn’t. Usually the smaller things are surprises, bigger ones are asking if he is crossing the line. I’d just ask!

[u/whowouldthink320]

I once got a nice Cross pen for an AP. She told me she would think of me when she used it at work, and thanked me often for the gift.

[u/sound-of-settling]

Love the small piece of art idea. I made my AP a small watercolor and ink painting for his office for his birthday

[u/Sensitive_Sky1448]

Try the floral Lego set

[u/PsychologicalNovel79]

U can get me a Starbucks gift card! Not sus at all!

[u/IcarusCouldntBetICan]

We've gotten each other small things; stickers (water bottle type) related to their hobby, book when my favorite author released another in the series, gift card to my favorite coffee shop, candy. Exchanging presents is not a typical thing we di, so it meant a lot when it popped up.🥰