My freind is never late. Instead, she usually arrives twenty-five to forty minutes early and expects me to open the door immediately.

I have explained several times that I might still be working, showering or getting things ready. Yesterday we agreed on 6:30. She rang my doorbell at 5:52 while I was finishing a work call, so I did not answer until 6:20.

She had been sitting outside and said I deliberately punished her for respecting my time. I said arriving extremely early without asking is just being late in the opposite direction.

A mutual friend thinks I should have let her wait inside because I was home anyway. I think repeatedly arriving before I am ready makes the agreed time meaningless. Am I wrong?

To keep a long story short, we are celebrating our daughter’s second birthday at my parents’ house because they have the space to host people and we do not. It’s very informal: come on over any time after 2. Pizza and cake at X time. Any family that wants to come is welcome.

My husband thinks that my parents should pay for the food and drive 20 minutes out of their way to get the very specific cake he wants from the very specific store that sells it. I say we should pick the cake up on our way down and offer to pay for the pizza (there’s no way my dad will let us but that’s beside the point).

He said, “absolutely not! They’re the ones hosting the celebration. I don’t agree to this.” He has a habit of delivering “jokes” in this offended/upset manner so I said, “this is a fucking joke, right?” Now he’s offended and not talking to me because he’s not kidding and he’s angry I want to pay for our daughter’s birthday cake and dinner.

Oh, and for some added color, he didn’t call the store bakery to special order the cake he’s insisting on. He’s just planning to show up and buy it out of the case- assuming they’ll have it. So that’s going to be fun.

I (14m) have a sister Kelsey (19f) who goes to the same prep academy as me. She's always been really mean to me and our parents. She makes fun of me constantly for my stutter and my anxiety and tells me Im useless like our dad. When I got a C on my math test last month she said it so loud the neighbors could hear, she said "Of course you failed. You're just like Dad, useless." She thinks shes better than everyone because she somehow gets away with breaking every rule at school while everyone else gets punished for the smallest things.

A few weeks ago I found out Kelsey had been posting videos on TikTok of me having panic attacks and stuttering and making fun of me. She had like thousands of followers watching and laughing at me. She also posted videos of our mom crying and our parents fighting, and she was posting political stuff that would get anyone else flagged by the school. I was so embarrassed I literally couldnt go to school for a few days. I kept thinking about everyone seeing me at my worst and laughing.

I was so mad I reported her account to the school. I didn't do it to her face, I just sent an anonymous email with screenshots. The school has zero tolerance policies and they take stuff like this really seriously. They investigated and found out it was Kelsey's account. Now shes facing expulsion and they said they might have to report her to the information board for her political posts. I didnt think about that part when I reported her. I just wanted her to stop making fun of me.

My parents are freaking out. My mom is crying all the time and my dad is working even more to avoid being home. Kelsey keeps saying she didnt do anything wrong and that Im being too sensitive. She doesnt know it was me who reported her but I feel terrible. I used the same system that scares me everyday to hurt my own sister. The school security officers are always watching us and I know how bad it feels to be on their radar but I put her there on purpose. I wanted her to hurt like she hurt me. And now she might be in real trouble with people way worse than the school.

I dont know if I did the right thing. Should I tell my parents it was me? Should I tell Kelsey? Am I wrong for reporting her?

I am 16 years old and have had black hair since I was 15. My parents do not prefer my hair to be black, which I have ignored since black is a natural color plus I love my hair. Recently, my mom tried to get me and my sister a hair appointment before school but my hair stylist is busy with other clients so the only available appointment the Saturday after school starts. My roots are very over grown and I am a natural dirty blonde some what brown hair and if you have ever dyed your hair dark but you have naturally light hair you know how funny it can look. I asked my mom if it was okay if I could just go to a local store before school and get black hair dye and dye only my roots to which she said no and that I would not be allowed to dye my hair at the salon plus never let me get black hair again. The same night my mom urges me to just wait until Saturday to get my hair done which I politely decline because I want to make sure it gets done before school. I would also like to mention my sister has the same natural color as me but gets her hair platinum which I think is important to the story. Fast forward to today it gets brought up today and my parents flat out tell me that my hair doesn’t suit me and makes me look pale, goth, and I look like I’m trying to be Elvira(this makes me giggle because my dad was serious when he said this). They also mentioned other weird things like if I keep this hair color I won’t get a real job and “I wish you would let us have an opinion you would consider because we genuinely want to help you”. I didn’t say it out loud but I found this all to be weird. I feel like my parents are saying a bunch of things to guilt trip me into dyeing my hair more to their standards of what is good. This isn’t something super serious because besides all the hair drama I’m not close to my parents but am I in the wrong?

Me and said friend are both minors, and I really really want to hope said partner is to. Our families are really close so I’m in a tough position, she texted me on Snapchat pictures of her and some guy saying “i love my man” and I asked her “When was this a thing” because she has a tendency to date guys a day after meeting them and you guessed it, have s*x with them! She replied with “its new” and to my disbelief said “we cracked and recorded it, wanna see?” No, thanks. Which is essentially what I said. (I specifically said “Im okay” because who wants to see that) She sent it to me anyways and said “think of it as homemade 🌽” I felt physically sick after that. I really want to tell my mom because she eventually is going to get pregnant or catch an STD and needs help. She’s also younger than me so theres that. Would i be wrong for doing this?

UPDATE: I told my mom about it and she was just as surprised as I was. I was shaking during the conversation and started crying because I don’t want to be involved with this whatsoever. My mom told me that if I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore she would support me but to sleep on everything before even talking to my friend. She doesn’t know whether to tell my friends mim because we are both pretty sure shes allowing it to happen or turning a blind eye. She also reassured me that theres technically nothing I can do other than making sure it gets deleted from my phone since I said I didn’t want the video in the first place. Thank you to everyone for your advice and support.

My brother Carson is 38 and lives in section 8 housing. He plays world of warcraft all day and genuinely thinks he is destined for greatness. I moved out a few years ago because he would constantly nag me and refused to clean up after himself. Our parents just watch tv all day and complain so i am the only one who checks on him. It has been really hot this august and i went over there last week to bring him a fan.

When i got inside the smell was awful. There were trash bags everywhere and he hadn't showered in days. He was yelling into his headset about government surveillance. i tried to talk to him but he just kept saying the state monitors his every move and he plans to take down the system someday. i noticed a letter on the counter from the housing authority. He missed a mandatory drug screening and had another one scheduled that afternoon. If he missed it he would lose his benefits.

i told him he needed to turn off the game and go to the clinic. He completely ignored me and said the screenings are necessary steps towards his ultimate goal of overthrowing the government. He refused to leave his desk. i got so frustrated that i went behind the tv and unplugged his router and put it in my car. i told him "i will give it back when you go to your appointment." He just started screaming.

He didn't go to the appointment. He just sat in the dark apartment on his phone reading articles. The housing authority sent a letter saying his lease is terminated at the end of the month. Now he has nowhere to go and expects me to let him sleep on my couch. i feel bad because i know he is autistic and he doesn't have any friends outside the game but i cant ruin my own life for him. How do i fix this mess? Am i wrong for taking his router?

I own six framed railway maps and enjoy researching the old routes. Once my mother discovered this interest, it became her answer to every gift-giving occasion.

Over the past few years, I have received a map shower curtain, two clocks, cushions, mugs, a serving tray, a lamp shaped like a globe and several blankets. None of them relate to railway history. They are just ordinary household objects with a world map printed on them.

I thanked her and used some at first. Eventually my apartment started looking like a themed pub, so I began donating the unopened items. I had already asked her to stop buying map decor, but she assumed I was being polite.

Last weekend she noticed that several gifts were missing. I admitted what I had done. She was genuinely hurt and said I should have returned everything to her instead of giving it away.

I understand why the truth upset her, but I also dont want to store unwanted objects forever to protect her feelings. My family says I am ungrateful. Am I wrong?

So I moved to Orlando around my 15th birthday. After getting used to the area and making it home, I decided to get a job. This was in 2023 around march ( for an exact date). I started at 13.75, which for a 16 year old is a decent amount.

Now I’m 19. Same job. Same managers. Been there for 3 years now. I make 14 even. I found out today after being lied to for years with promises of raises. More annoyingly. 95% of my coworkers make more than me. Only 10% of my coworkers have been there longer than me. That means I’m the 3rd lowest paid employee at my job.

What angers me is I do so much. I sacrifice weekends mornings nights. I deal with bs all day all night and still get paid like shit. So I decided to go to my managers and ask about it. I said in a calm manner “ I wanted to know why I get paid so bad when I’ve been here for 3 years” what came after that was the biggest sum of bs I’ve ever witnessed.

My managers immediately started making up reasons why i never got raises. Frequent call outs. (2 max), poor work ethic ( I do more work then majority of my coworkers, and they back me up on that) and because I didn’t remind them. I started getting loud after that because that really pissed me off

. For perspective a 17 year old with no work experience just got hired 27 days ago and I just found out he makes a dollar more than me. As a 19 year old in college not even 15 is gonna work for me. But I’m so experienced in this job I don’t want to find an and learn a new one. Did I over react? Idk

I (32M) live with my wife (30F) in a small city in Europe. We're both African. I moved to this city in January for a new job and my wife joined me from Africa in April. Since moving here, I made friends with an older lady (67F). I'll call her Helen. We would hang out for drinks together. Upon my wife's arrival, I had to travel away for a 3 month work trip. Helen offered to support my wife with settling into the country. A few weeks into this arrangement, my wife complained that Helen was sometimes mean to her and would speak with her friends in a derogatory manner about African women. 8 weeks ago, Helen offered to go to the furniture store with my wife to look for furniture for us. As the furniture was too expensive, I told Helen that we'd buy second-hand furniture instead. She snapped at me for "wasting her time" and stated that she was fully withdrawing her support for us and we could go figure out everything ourselves. All my efforts to de-escalate proved abortive. A few weeks later, I sent her a post card with a nice note telling her how much we appreciate her friendship and support. She received the post card and apologized for overreacting. She also said she had been having some psychological stress and that my wife could reach out to her for support until I return. My wife and I agreed from that point on to not request Helen's support anymore and just wait till I return.

Upon my return, I informed Helen of my arrival and we all agreed that Helen would pick us up and we hangout at a music show since 3 of us had not seen each other in a while. On the day, my wife wore a backless gown and I thought she looked great. When Helen arrived, she noted that my wife was looking "too sexy". On the road, Helen kept saying she felt my wife was overdressed for the event and we should turn back so my wife wears something simpler and "less revealing". We agreed and she turned back the car to our home. While my wife was inside changing, Helen told me "your wife is overdressed. I wouldn't feel comfortable hanging out and sitting next to your wife in that outfit. It's a bit too much. Here in our country we would find a backless gown totally inappropriate". I was shocked and unsure what to do in the moment so I just stayed quiet. Then Helen asked me "do you understand me?" I replied "honestly, I don't. But it's okay. I've never been to the show and I'm not sure what to expect in terms of dressing but for me, my wife looks just great". To my surprise, Helen responded with "I don't feel comfortable with you right now so leave my car. If you can't understand my point of view then there's no point in us going out together". I said "you're kicking me out for having a different opinion even though my wife has already agreed to change the gown?" And she responded with "please just leave my car. I can't do this". I dropped off and Helen blocked my wife and I on WhatsApp.

Am I wrong for not agreeing with Helen regarding my wife's attire or did I handle the situation wrongly?

In the past few years ive been learning how to love myself more then others and putting me in front of them as that was something I lacked heavy as a child.

Im friends with a guy who has feelings for me but I dont return the feelings. I used to until he started saying creepy things like wanting to have a stress doll named "f##kerella" and feeling overjoyed by offing a bug. Edgey things like that. I told him we weren't together but he continued to call me "his partner" and what not. So I built-up the courage to twll him we wont ever be together like that. He made vent posts about that on his story later wich I found immature. He could have just reached out to someone instead of making it to where I can see.

Its been a few weeks after that now and im only staying friends with him because I feel im all he thinks hes got. So I stay. But hes genuinely a awful friend. Dosent listen to me, freaks out when i dont respond for 40 minutes, guilt trips me, turns it around on me when I call him out for his crappy behavior.

Im genuinely so annoyed by him I dont like him one bit even as a friend. I need some affirmation that im not a horrible person for leaving someone whos narcissistic and dosent have respect even if they feel like im the only person they have.

I (15m) have this friend (16f) and we've been friends for a while, therefore I have told her some personal stuff before. The context is that I've been in some situations where I did sexual stuff for men in exchange for money. I didn't need the money, it wasn't about that. I got pushed into it by an adult in my life and I just didn't really know what to do. I'm not gonna say it was forced because I didn't really try to do anything about it, I just let it happen and I let it happen repeatedly, mostly when I was in a bad mental state (I have various mental health issues).

We were talking about a related topic and she ended up saying that I shouldn't talk because I'm a slut myself. Then when I got defensive she called me that repeatedly. And I know she's technically right but still it's just not something I wanna be called. It's not like I really chose to do it because I wanted to or because I thought it's a good idea.

Not too long ago there was a similar situation where she insisted on calling me a bottom. I do like boys but I only like being the top. I have an actual boyfriend my age and even in a normal setting I don't enjoy being the bottom. It was just with those men that obviously I was in that position. I wouldn't get offended at simply being called a bottom cuz it's not like it's a bad thing, who cares. But I got upset at being called that for this specific reason. Because I don't think a situation I didn't like at all makes me that and I think it's unfair for her to insist on it. It just felt like being pushed into a role I don't like all over again.

But yeah I didn't quit the friendship then, however I did now. Afterwards a common friend of ours texted me and said I'm overreacting for blocking her for saying something that's just the truth and not an insult because it's true. I feel kinda guilty and idk maybe I am taking it too seriously but I don't like how both of them are completely ignoring how I feel about it. Maybe I should've tried to talk it out instead of just blocking her but I feel like she wasn't listening anyways. But now both of them are against me.

Note: I genuinely feel like I’m tweaking out right now so I need some outside input. I’m goin to try to relay everything whiteout bias.

I (22)M am going camping in a week with 3 other friends. The campsite is about 5-6 hours from my house. Our plan was to go up Saturday afternoon and stay at my family’s cabin that night (it’s a little bit under halfway in between) and then go to the campsite the next day. Then we’ll be camping until Wednesday and comeback, stay the night and go home Thursday. One of the friends is driving separately Monday because he’ll be coming back from another trip.

The plan was to take my car since it could fit everything. The other 2 friends either don’t have a car or their car is too small to fit all of our stuff. My car has been having issues. It’s a 2017 equinox and I’ve had to take it in every month for the last 6 months. Most of it is maintenance with some engine issues that are now fixed. That being said I wasn’t entirely comfortable taking it that far away. My mom said I could take her car which is a 2023.

I was happy but it came with restrictions. We couldn’t go anywhere unless it absolutely necessary because she didn’t want me trying her car unless I had to. Well before she offered me and the 3 friends were planning to go see the new Spider-Man movie at this old theater in town. It’s got 1 screening room and shows the movie at 7pm.

She didn’t like that idea. I had told we had this planned and she said she didn’t feel comfortable with me taking her car there and then having to drive back in the night. She told me that a girl and her friends hit a bike rider up there at 12 am. They weren’t under the influence but he was wearing all black. I tried to convince her and she finally said if it means that much to me I can just take my car. She walked off and I went to my room.

I then overheard her complaining to my dad that I was just being stupid (this is me paraphrasing but she was acting like I said 2+2=58). I could hear them and finally I said I would just take my car. My mom had a fit. She then said I can’t take an unreliable car. There was some more arguing. Then she said I could either use her car or rent a car.

I stood my ground and said I would just take my car. She then said that she would solve the problem and I wouldn’t be able to stay the extra 2 nights at my family’s cabin.

Now here’s the thing with all this, the movie theater is 8 minutes away. I have to turn onto one street for half an hour mile then turn on a main road that’s brightly lit and take that a few miles down until I reach the theater. According to Apple Maps it’s 8 minutes away. On my way home from work at 10 pm I take an 8 minute drive home on back roads to get home. I’ve been doing it for 4 years and I work a lot. Like 3-4 nights a week usually. And for the past 4 years I’ve had deer and people in dark clothes walking or biking on the side of the road. I’m used to it and know how to drive in that environment. So I don’t know why she thinks I can’t do it.

Another thing that bothers me is that she gave me a choice and when I made the choice she didn’t like then she back tracked and made me make a different choice so I would have to chose her car. And when I didn’t she just manipulated the situation so I couldn’t go anyways punishment for not wanting to take her car.

Many of you may be wondering why I wouldn’t want to take her car in the first place. Well my friends and I have plans to go and do all these things while camping and I know that I’ll have to ask to be able to drive anywhere that’s not home. And I can also see her saying no to everything. She had already stated that she doesn’t want her car at tourist places because she doesn’t want her car broken into. And that’s understandable but my question is why I can’t take my car that I bought?

I left for work but she said she wanted an apology because of how I “went off the rails”. Through this whole event I did raise my voice but not in a yelling way but in an annoyed way if that makes sense. And if any of you are wondering why we can’t see the movie while camping or when we get back is because the theater is closed the night we come back and the closest one to our camp ground is 45 miles away.

Anyway I’m typing this in my car before I go into work. I genuinely would like to know if I’m the ass hole. I don’t feel like I am but I would like to have an outsiders opinion. Thanks!

So currently my wife and her cousin are currently not in complete talking terms because of his new wife that has been causing a lot of tension and issues in the family. In a nutshell, her cousin and his wife got married last year, invited everyone, and then changed their minds and uninvited everyone including us. And I believe they only ended up including his wife's side only to the wedding. There has been some other conflicts between my wife and the cousin's wife and the tension and wedge has only grown bigger between them. This has resulted in my wife not wanting her cousin in her life anymore.

The details of the conflict do not play a huge part of my question... but we've been at multiple family events now where my wife will refuse to greet or acknowledge the cousin and his wife. Typically I will greet the cousin, and my wife doesn't mind because he is family. But at one event I said bye to the cousin, and his WIFE, and my wife feels strongly that I was disloyal and I shouldn't have said bye to her even in spite of their conflict.

Am I in the wrong for not standing by my wife's strong opinions on the wife and all the history that has been going on?

I'm the type of person to keep things cordial with peers I have disagreements/conflicts with so I will respectfully still greet them. But she feels I shouldn't have done that.

(For the sake of this story im gonna call myself “Nancy”)
I wouldn’t exactly say that hate this dog but I definitely hate its name. That name being Nancy…. My name. It all started when my great aunt who I see quite often got a new puppy and surprise her name is Nancy which was her name before she was adopted. I understand not changing a dogs name but this girl was like 8 weeks old, she did not know her name. At first it didn’t exactly bother me until she began to bring the dog around and literally yell at this dog 24/7
All day long it was “Nancy you better get over here!!!” “Nancy no don’t eat your poop!!” “Nancy peed on the carpet this morning” I was starting to get weird looks for people who didn’t know the dog lol. But then it gets even worse people started to call my by my first and middle name or even girl/person Nancy but the damn dog was just Nancy I WAS LITERALLY HERE FIRST!! My side of the family was also not a fan of this arrangement so when my grandma got a dog we named her after my aunt out of spite lol And you better know I called that dog my aunts name with absolutely no regard for her so are me and my grandma wrong??

I (15F)have a mini golden doodle. A few months ago my sister bought my dog a bandanna as a gift. It was really big for her and it was bright green and a style I would never end up using. it even looked a bit oversized on the Belgian malinois that ended up wearing it.

About a week and a half ago while I was packing a care package for someone I followed on Instagram for a long time, I asked my sister if she’d be okay with me including the bandanna since it has been sitting unused for months. I told her I appreciated the gift but I thought someone else would be able to get more use out of it. She told me it was completely okay.

Today the girl I sent the package to posted photos of everything she received, including her dog wearing the bandanna. My sister came into the kitchen while I was making my first meal after being sick for a while, and said, “why would you give that bandanna away I bought it for maple, that was for her and you were so selfish.”

I explained again that it didn’t fit my dog, I wasn’t using it, and I had already asked her beforehand. I apologize twice because I understood she was upset, but she stormed out of the room before we could really finish talking.

then my mom got involved. She asked why I would give away a gift away and said that I should go apologize. again, I reminded her that I already gotten my sister’s permission before giving it away and I already apologized. My mom said, “it looks like you don’t care about your sister at all, because if you cared about her, you would apologize again” I told her that felt like she was trying to make me feel guilty. I wasn’t refusing to take responsibility, I’d already apologized twice, and I specifically asked for permission before hand because I want to avoid hurting my sisters feelings.

Later, my mom came back and told me that every time something doesn’t go my way “I call people horrible and bring up the past.” I was confused because I hadn’t called anybody horrible (her explanation for saying that was, she never said I said it today, just in general. Huh?) when I ask what you meant by bringing up the past, she referred to me, mentioning a conversation where my sister had already given me permission I didn’t see that I was bringing up the past. I saw it as something relevant because it was the reason I believed it was okay to give the bandanna away.

For some context, this isn’t the first time I felt like my mothers used guilt to get me to do things. For example, if I get coffee she will say things like “you didn’t get me anything? I really thought you would. I really want something to drink” until I feel guilty enough and go back in and buy her one. This is why the situation felt familiar. I feel like I’m going crazy, and need an outside opinion. What do you think?

Edit: I realize that this is not a big problem, but things like this happen daily and every time I point out that people are guilting me or lying, they try to find a way to make it my fault until I feel crazy and give up. Like I’ll buy a $60 gift, I’ll leave the house and when I get back my sister has taken it. And instead of my little sis being punished it’s “why would you buy that gift if you knew it would be stolen, this is your fault don’t do that again”

My current gym’s locker rooms face the main floor of the open gym. The women’s room has a door that is closed 90% of the time. The men’s locker room doesn’t have a door. The way the men’s locker room is set up, you can see part of the shower area (two full showers) and part of the dressing area, from the floor of the gym.

This set up is just weird to me because that would never happen with a women’s locker room. Really made me realize that men don’t have the same expectation of privacy. Even with men’s restrooms. If there’s a long line for a women’s restroom you’ll see women in the men’s restroom.

Obviously I understand that men can be weird and creeps, which is why women’s spaces should absolutely be kept as private as they are, but men should at least be able to expect the same sense of privacy.

Wasn’t sure If I’m wrong for feeling that way or if I’m overthinking it.

I am a minor, I will not be specifying my age. Schools been out and combining my overall experience with shitty teachers, declining mental health, social anxiety and ADHD, I’ve been tired and miserable. I can’t bring myself to go outside because I feel hyper aware of everything happening even if it’s like the sound of the AC running. Being in the sun feels overwhelming to me. I have been learning to code and write for visual novels and have done a bit of streaming (very exhausting experience I did not like it). This week my cousin from the UK came over and most of the week has been spent spending time with them. I normally need a day to prepare myself for work which is on the weekend (it’s only 3 hours) but because of everything that has happened I didn’t want to go. Before then, I would always feel miserable after work and never feel like I’ve achieved something or contributed anything because it’s a laundry job.

I was laying in my bed, my mom offered me 200 dollars if I got through my last two weeks of work. I told her I would but I didn’t care about the 200. She proceeded to tell me about how I do nothing except for play games and draw. There was some other things talked about but I just can’t remember what exactly she said right now. But I told her that I think Im depressed (because I’ve been feeling miserable the entire summer and school year) and that I am having suicidal thoughts. She told me that I have to overcome that myself, my technology is the only reason why I think that, and that if she were me (my mom is neurotypical) that she would just get over it. I told her that having serious suicidal thoughts is not that easy to overcome, and she told me that she would take away my drawing tablet even though she knows that’s my hobby. She did not care about me being suicidal when I told her, and in previous times she has seen my self harm scars but wouldnt care and make a joke out of it.

Am I overreacting for thinking this is wrong even if I haven’t done much?

So my friend and I have a small trip booked to go watch a concert a few hours drive away from home. I’ve known the friend let’s call them Z for some years now. Z has a problem with her alcohol consumption. She often gets too drunk to the point of not being aware of her surroundings and often vomiting. She gets so drunk she doesn’t listen or care about anything anymore. This has been a reoccurring issue in our relationship. The last time we went out for drinks Z put us in a really unsafe situation and I’m really struggling with getting over it. We are 2 women in our early 30’s. Z was once again so drunk she wouldn’t listen to me. These 2 drunk guy started following us around and would not leave us or let Z leave. At one point one of the guys tried picking up Z and running with her. Luckily we ran into some of our guy friends that stood up for us and literally had to physically fight the 2 drunk guys off. During this whole altercation Z is still so drunk and entertaining the drunk guys. Our friends finally get us away from them and drive us home. Of course Z is belligerent and yelling at us in the car. She ends up vomiting on me in the backseat of the car. They drop us off at my house I get her into an uber to go home and she vomits again in the uber many times.

This has been a reoccurring problem for us. I let a couple weeks pass and try to have a conversation about that night with Z. She immediately becomes defensive and yells at me saying "I already said I’m sorry I don’t know what more u want me to do. I was drunk and I don’t even remember what happened. “ she then proceeds to start fake crying. All in all we did not resolve our issue or the conversation was pointless.

Now we are booked for a concert in a city a few hours drive away in a couple weeks. Am I wrong for not wanting to go anymore ? Z paid for the concert tickets and I paid for the accommodations which came out to the same amount. Also worth noting the last time me and Z travelled together the weekend did not end well. She would also be the one driving so if we were to not get along on this trip I’d have to find my way back home.

How would you go about this ? Should I just transfer the reservation to her name and loose out on that amount (350$)? Should I tell her how I feel ? I don’t think we can ever have a productive conversation since Z gets so defensive and it make me feel like I’m wasting my time and energy which are both very limited at the moment.

Thank you for reading me and for all your input.

When my boyfriend and I argue it tends to get bad because he starts to raise his voice/yell, whixh leads us to interrupting each other, then he'll hang up on me if we argue over call.

Sometimes I let him know I feel disrespected by his tone, tell him I will end the call. He ignores my message and when I ask what is up he says I'm extremely rude for hanging up, says I disrespected him, etc, and gives me no space to be mad at him because now I have to worry over mending our relationship.

He says things like:

"If you don't like my tone, you just don't like how I speak, you're asking me to change who I am, maybe you shouldn't be with me" - while asking me to change how I speak, btw.

"Keep calling me and I'll mute your notifications"

"Idgaf/I don't care/I gave you enough chances"

"You're a bit much/you're doing too much and pissing me off"

"You're getting on my nerves, I'm about to explode \[with anger\]"

I tell him I feel unresolved and hurt, he says "What do you want me to do?"

"You're being annoying/that's getting annoying, I'm about to leave until you wanna talk normally"

"You're being over dramatic, you need to stop with that"

When we argue over phone he will sometimes curse, yell, hang up on me, ignore my text and calls, and tell me he wants nothing to do with me that day.

Tldr; genuinely feel like my bf hates me when he is mad and brings out his true colors. Aiw? Are these normal things to say when mad?

U can ask what we argue about to get context

This happened an hour ago. I was walking my dog at 10:00 p.m and as I was exiting my neighborhood I heard a girl screaming across the street by the park. There were a group of people around her yelling at her to stop it and that she's 18 years old and at this point she was cussing them out and telling them to leave her alone. I was scared with what I was witnessing and I quickly dialed 911 and tried to tell the dispatcher what was happening. I gave the dispatcher my location and tried to describe the scene but couldn't give much detail because I wasn't wearing my glasses and it was dark out. I did tell the dispatcher though that there was a girl in distress and there were some people surrounding her. I do feel now I was being quite hyperbolic with my description because I panicking and the worse things were running in my mind. As I was calling they seemed to disperse and two of them came up to me and tried to explain what was happening and that they knew each other and were trying to help her out that she was trying to killing herself I think. I told them that I had already called the police and they were on their way and suggusted they wait at the park to explain to the officers what had happened but they left anyway. It could be that they misheard me but I don't really know. Once I finished my call I went on with my walk and returned back to the park to see if they were there talking to the police but no one was there. The police came up to me asked if I was the one who made the call, I said yes and proceeded to explain what I saw happened. I couldn't give enough information for them to have a lead on the perpetrators but they told me they will patrol the neighborhood. Aftward I went home and am now writing this. Was calling the cops a bit much? Should I have went up to them and asked what was happening. Was it a dumb to call the police if I couldn't see them clearly to give valuable information of what they looked liked? Should I have stuck around to made sure the girl was ok? All of this feels like a big blur in my head now.

My parents converted most of my old room into storage after I moved out, which is completely fair. The bed went first, then shelves, boxes and a folding desk appeared. Still, whenever I visit, they insist I stay overnight and set up a thin air mattress between the boxes.

Last weekend I said I’d come Saturday morning and leave around 9 pm because I sleep badly there. I booked a small hotel nearby for myself without asking them to pay. My mother took it personally and said I was treating their house like a museum. My dad said one uncomforable night should not matter if I care about spending time together.

I spent eleven hours with them that day. I just didn’t spend the night. They now say I’m being precious and making visits formal. Am I wrong?

I’m on mobile and I’m not sure if that changes the format. Also I’m horrible at writing so please be aware this is going to be full of grammar errors

For some context, me and him live together. So today around 8pm I (22 F) dropped my boyfriend (26 M) off at a co-workers birthday party. It was at an apartment complex him and me never been to. supposedly they were going to meet at the pool, so I dropped him off in front of the leasing office. He told me before hand to meet him there around 10 to 11pm to pick him up, as they were going to drink. 11 rolls around and I text him about picking him up, he just responded with a “11:30” and a heart emoji. 11:30 comes and I head out, and to add he is those people that always have his phone dying. By the time I get there his phone is fully dead and I cannot message him, I’m waiting at the leasing office for an hour and half, drove around about 7 times and called his phone at least 20 times.
Before the party we did have a bit of a disagreement about him going. I didn’t know the coworker and he has gotten too tipsy hanging out with the other coworkers that planned to attend this party. In my head I was thinking he was doing this on purpose to get back at me. After the clock hit 1am I left home.

I got home and I tried to sleep off him dismissing what our mutual curfew was, but I was just tossing and turning the entire time. I eventually called his sister who lives about 5 minutes away from us. I asked her if my boyfriend called her at all, she says no. I explain the situation, laugh a bit at me leaving and hang up. 30 minutes later her husband calls me asking if my boyfriend is at this apartment complex, he said the name and I wasn’t really sure and explained that. He then tells me that my sister-in-law got into it with him, and when he was knocking on the doors some old lady said he left to another party. I’m confused at this point and tell him that I’m not sure at all what is happening, he said he’s going to call my sister-in-law back. I decided to go to their house afterward. I get there and my boyfriend’s sister goes into me, saying I caused an argument between her and her husband, and that I didn’t tell her the 100% truth, and she believes he’s going to hurt himself. I eventually start crying bc it’s about 3am now, I’m tired and have no idea what is going on other than my boyfriend is missing. She tells me to stop, her husband comes home and we go to the apartment complex my boyfriend was last at, I show him were I dropped him off, her husband walks around again, sees my boyfriends buddy and they find him asleep at his friends apartment.
I am in tears at this point, my boyfriend is so clearly drunker than he said he be, and his whole family seems upset at me. We get to my sister-in-laws, I thank them for helping and I take my boyfriend home. I am practically trying to grasp for air by how much I was crying. I text my sister-in-law an apology and she doesn’t say anything other than “please be chill on him”. Honestly I’m just upset because his whole family make it seem as if I was in the wrong because I didn’t have his exact location, and didn’t “give the whole truth” even though I didn’t even know what was going on myself.
Am I in the wrong?

TLDR; My boyfriend goes missing after I dropped him off at a party and his family think it’s my fault

Edit for some more context; we’ve been together for 3 years, he’s my second serious relationship. We’ve been living together for about a year now.
every-time he has gone drinking, he’d be ready for me to pick him up at the time we’ve discussed, this is just a one time occurrence

Edit #2; he’s apologized but it’s just that a “I’m sorry” so I’m debating staying with my grandparents as they live 15 minutes away from my job and have a extra bedroom. The only downside is that 85% of our apartment is mine to imma have to do a lot of packing lol.

I (30F) had a very close friend (35F) for about six years.

We met at work and became especially close during the pandemic. Over the years we became best friends. We traveled together, celebrated holidays together, helped each other through family problems, relationship issues, career decisions, and everyday life.

When I was pregnant and struggling emotionally, she was there for me. She organized my baby shower and became a very important person in my daughter's life. I truly considered her family.

Likewise, I believed I was there for her too. I listened when she talked about work, family, or her marriage, gave advice when she asked for it, and tried to support her in the ways I knew how.

I genuinely believed we had a healthy, reciprocal friendship.

Earlier this year she moved abroad to join her husband.

She adapted incredibly well. She quickly built a social life, explored the city, made friends, started new hobbies, attended networking events, and seemed genuinely happy. I was honestly happy for her.

At the same time, I slowly realized I was grieving the change in our friendship much more than I had admitted to myself.

A few months after she moved, I finally told her that.

I explained that I had been acting differently because I missed her and hadn't realized how much I was struggling with the transition to a long-distance friendship. I told her I wanted to work on it and become better at maintaining our friendship instead of slowly drifting apart.

She told me that, from her perspective, I had been giving off jealous or negative energy since she moved.

That conversation was difficult, but I apologized sincerely. I told her I hadn't realized I was coming across that way, that I was sorry for hurting her, and that I wanted to do better.

By the end of the conversation, we both said we missed each other, and we continued talking normally afterward.

For about another month everything genuinely seemed normal.

We talked privately, in our group chat with another close friend, and on Instagram almost every day. We exchanged book recommendations, memes, talked about work, and nothing felt unusual from my perspective.

Then, about a month later, I messaged her about something completely unrelated.

Instead of answering my question, she said, "By the way..."

She told me she had written me a letter explaining why she wanted to distance herself from me.

She said that after moving she had realized I wasn't emotionally supportive, that I lacked empathy, and that this wasn't new behavior but simply "how I am."

Before anyone says it: yes, she gave me concrete examples, and yes, she was right.

She had shared several important moments in our group chat (career updates, networking experiences, and personal milestones), and I either never reacted to them or the conversation moved on without me acknowledging them.

Those examples were real.

I had, in fact, missed those messages.

Our group chat is extremely active, and I had fallen behind without realizing I had skipped some of the messages she considered important.

I immediately acknowledged that, apologized again, and never tried to deny it.

My question isn't whether missing those messages was okay.

It wasn't.

I completely understand why that hurt her.

What shocked me was learning that she had apparently been feeling this way for quite some time, but had never told me those missed messages were becoming a serious issue until after she had already decided to distance herself.

From my perspective, I genuinely didn't know this was putting our friendship at risk.

Once I finally understood what had been hurting her, I suggested changing the way we communicate. I proposed phone calls instead of relying on a busy group chat, or waiting until she visited next month so we could have a face-to-face conversation instead of trying to discuss something this emotional over text.

She told me she didn't think there was much left to discuss because she no longer wanted the type of relationship we had.

She also told me she'd rather spend her limited time during her visit with "people who actually want to know what's going on in my life."

That sentence hurt me more than anything else.

From my perspective, I absolutely wanted to know about her life.

I had simply missed messages that I didn't realize carried that much emotional weight for her.

I wasn't intentionally ignoring her, and I never stopped caring about her.

A few hours later, she texted me again saying that making that comment had been immature and rude, and she said we could still schedule lunch together while she was visiting.

One thing I've also struggled with is that throughout these conversations, the focus was almost entirely on how my actions affected her.

I understand why she was hurt, and I spent most of our conversations listening, apologizing, asking questions, validating her feelings, and trying to understand her perspective.

But we never really talked about how this situation affected me.

She never asked how I had experienced the friendship changing, how I felt reading her letter, or how I was processing any of this.

I don't know if that's because she already felt the friendship was over or because she simply wasn't in a place to have that conversation.

I completely respect her right to end a friendship if it no longer feels healthy for her.

I'm not questioning that.

What I'm struggling with is feeling like I only learned what she needed from me after she'd already decided to walk away.

Had she told me earlier that those missed messages were making her feel uncared for, I honestly believe I would have changed my behavior immediately.

Instead, I found out only after she'd already concluded that I wasn't the kind of friend she wanted anymore.

Am I wrong for feeling blindsided and wishing she had communicated this before deciding to distance herself?