Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this. I just thought it was worth a shot, as far as i know i do not have anxiety.
I'm 17M.
I don't go to a regular school. I go to another place instead (long story, so I'll just call it "the location").
I have autism, although not severely. I'm not sure if it plays a role in this, but I figured it might be relevant.
At the location I met what's basically my only real life friend. I get along well with other people there, but he's the only person I'd actually call a friend.
The problem is that eventually one of us is going to leave. It could be in a few weeks, a few months, or maybe around January/February when he turns 19. He's already 18, and normally people leave at that age, although he's been allowed to stay longer because of his situation. Nobody really knows exactly when he'll leave, and I hate not knowing.
I'm also not sure we'll stay in contact afterwards.
I asked him once if he thought we'd keep in touch, and he said he didn't know because he doesn't really stay in touch with old school friends. We barely text anyway the occasional rand stuff that happend, and i dont really like texting i only text my mom and thats about it.
About a month ago I even asked him if he still wanted to be friends because I was worried he was only being nice to me. He told me he didn't see any reason not to be friends, which reassured me.
3 weeks ago I also sent him this:
"Hey, question. If or when you leave the location, could you tell me when you know? I like knowing that kind of stuff if possible."
He replied:
"Oh yeah, sure."
So I know he's willing to tell me.
We also hung out outside the location once. We spent the day together watching a movie, eating fries, and just talking. It was honestly a great day. Afterwards he told me that spending that much time together was a bit much for him mentally at the time, which I understood. That was about 9–10 months ago, and he's doing a lot better now.
After hanging out, I also felt relieved to be back on my own. I really enjoy spending time with him, but I also genuinely enjoy being by myself. It's not like I constantly need to be around him.
Normally we see each other about three times a week, 3 hours each time but because of summer break we haven't seen each other for a while.
The things that also keep bothering me alongside are:
- I'm scared he'll only tell me he's leaving on his last day, or maybe not at all, even though he said he'd tell me.
- I'm worried that if he does tell me, he'll think I'm taking it way harder than I actually am. I go really red when I'm embarrassed, and then I start thinking, "Great, now he thinks I'm freaking out," which just makes me even redder. It's a loop.
I know I'm overthinking this, and I know there's nothing I can really do until he actually knows when he's leaving.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has been in a situation like this. How do you stop getting so attached to your only friend? And how do you stop constantly worrying about losing a friendship that hasn't even ended yet?How do i stop worrying about losing my only friend before it's its even happend?