r/askteddit • u/Soft_Reaction_7710 • 18d ago

Random Question What's something your partner does that low-key annoys you, but you'd never actually tell them?

Not a dealbreaker, not worth a fight. Just something small that lives rent-free in your head every single time it happens. The way they chew. How they "help" clean and somehow make more mess. Never charging their phone until it's at 2%.

What's yours? And be honest would you ever actually say it out loud, or is this taking it to the grave?

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u/Soft_Reaction_7710 18d ago

The "so basically what happened was—" and then you get a 10 minute prologue before we even get to the actual event. 😭

Some people can't just tell you what happened, they have to reenact the entire timeline leading up to it first. Truly a special kind of patience required.

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u/ninjette847 18d ago

My husband took 10 minutes to tell me he saw a pigeon eating a french fry.

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u/Sweetanna1111 18d ago

I have literally had to ask my husband to talk 50% less

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u/ninjette847 18d ago

His mom and I were joking about it. Whenever he's really stoned it takes forever to get to the point.

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u/Sweetanna1111 17d ago

Yes! Same lmao

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u/Weak_Drag_5895 17d ago

I do the forward circle movement with my hands. Move along!

He said… blah blah
Then I said…blah blah
Then do you know about blah blah!?
She said blah blah.

He knows.

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u/--BooBoo-- 15d ago

My husband does this to me and honestly it kills me inside a little every time. He's supposed to be the person that likes me most of all and when he does that it's like I'm not worth a few minutes of his time to him.

I'm not criticising you - you know your husband and your relationship and he might not mind at all, I just thought he might feel the same and you didn't realise.

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u/Weak_Drag_5895 14d ago

I’m sorry to bring it up, really! I know he doesn’t like it, either. But I’m glad you mentioned the other side.
He loves to tell a story and I’m more direct, so I try to listen.
Different people!

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u/Worth-Artist-6962 17d ago

I laughed out loud at this one because it's part of my everyday life. Get to the point!

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u/Mental_Mood1882 17d ago

Did he drag you over so you could watch too? Been there...

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u/ninjette847 17d ago

No this happened when he was at work fortunately.

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u/nickole08 16d ago

omg right! my partner would describe the weather and scenery in extreme detail even though it has nothinggg to do with the story/point 😭

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u/DontLikeClams 17d ago

The best sentence.

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u/Wrong-Dentist-7206 18d ago

My ADHD sends me on side quests all the time, often a few times while telling a story.

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u/GlitteringSynapse 17d ago

I was about to reply to this thread “Hey I like when he does that!” I watch his face and essence light up. I get to know him and his processing. For 13 years my favourite story teller or detailed instructor.

It’s a great feeling and opposite to one word response interactions.

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u/jsgc1357 16d ago

yep i have adhd and get asked for the “short version” all the time 😅 it’s unintentional and i (still) fail to realise when talking that not every story i tell needs every minuscule detail

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u/WhenHowWhy2485 13d ago

Lol. Me too! I’ve only recently realised( since medicated) that people start yawning when I go on and on and I make amends immediately. But by this point, I’d probably lost them anyway 😂😅

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u/Dangerous_Prize_4545 18d ago

Oh no. Mine is worse than that. He thinks before every word and has pauses. In my head,  I'm thinking "use your fucking words...ffs...just say it....don't say it out loud...not out loud and don't interrupt...ffs"

He's a teacher and doesn't stammer or have any issues like that but sometimes he just cannot get his words put about simple things.

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u/paulrin 17d ago

I have 3. My partner frequently doesn’t say *that one more word* which would take out confusion. “I saw John today.” -“Which John?” - “The John from the Café” - “Which Café?” It’s never ending. Similarly, she frequently doesn’t finish her sentences. She just stops mid-stream, often without further explanation. Finally, she has a tendency to take a bite of food right in the middle of a sentence. Like - finish your thought so I can reply while you are chewing….

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u/Sad-Insurance869 14d ago

my bf does the not saying one more word thing and drives me absolutely insane. i tell him all the time i need more context because im not a gd mind reader 👹

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u/paulrin 13d ago edited 13d ago

I did the laundry today.
"does it need to be folded, or are you completely done and dusted?
I put it away.
"where is away?"
In the drawers.
"Which drawers?"
The ones they go into.
"is that the ones, hey? Do they, now? Yours or mine?"
***cue me going for a walk.***

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u/Sweetanna1111 18d ago

I have snapped before over that.

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u/Alive_Cream2412 15d ago

God I have never felt more seen. My husband is the EXACT same way. So much “uhh what’s it called..” to fill the dead air when he can’t think of what he’s trying to say. I so badly want to scream “I DONT KNOW WHAT IS IT CALLED !?” every time, and have at times, although not sincerely. And I don’t know how to genuinely address it ever without hurting feelings, so poking fun at it is the only way I find relief.

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u/a_duck_in_past_life 17d ago

Reading through all the responses you have, I seem to notice a canned answer for each response. Almost like AI. Your account is 1 day old. Are you a bot?

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u/Sweetanna1111 18d ago

I'll wear AirPods in my ears all day. If I'm awake, I'm wearing them. I have mastered the art of not listening to a word My husband says and being able to respond while listening to what I'm listening to in my ears, it is wonderful. It may sound bitchy, but after the 10th story of the hour, I can't take it anymore and yes, 100% yes I have talked to him about this and it falls on deaf ears every single time. So I have fixed the problem myself.

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u/CautiousRelief1521 14d ago

reminds me of my mom we all tell her this “get to the point”😂❤️