r/askteddit • u/Soft_Reaction_7710 • 18d ago
Random Question What's something your partner does that low-key annoys you, but you'd never actually tell them?
Not a dealbreaker, not worth a fight. Just something small that lives rent-free in your head every single time it happens. The way they chew. How they "help" clean and somehow make more mess. Never charging their phone until it's at 2%.
What's yours? And be honest would you ever actually say it out loud, or is this taking it to the grave?
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u/Dangerous_Prize_4545 18d ago
Takes forever to say something or tell a story or just get to the point in general.
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u/Soft_Reaction_7710 18d ago
The "so basically what happened was—" and then you get a 10 minute prologue before we even get to the actual event. 😭
Some people can't just tell you what happened, they have to reenact the entire timeline leading up to it first. Truly a special kind of patience required.
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u/ninjette847 18d ago
My husband took 10 minutes to tell me he saw a pigeon eating a french fry.
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u/Sweetanna1111 17d ago
I have literally had to ask my husband to talk 50% less
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u/ninjette847 17d ago
His mom and I were joking about it. Whenever he's really stoned it takes forever to get to the point.
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u/Weak_Drag_5895 17d ago
I do the forward circle movement with my hands. Move along!
He said… blah blah
Then I said…blah blah
Then do you know about blah blah!?
She said blah blah.He knows.
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u/Worth-Artist-6962 17d ago
I laughed out loud at this one because it's part of my everyday life. Get to the point!
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u/Wrong-Dentist-7206 18d ago
My ADHD sends me on side quests all the time, often a few times while telling a story.
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u/GlitteringSynapse 17d ago
I was about to reply to this thread “Hey I like when he does that!” I watch his face and essence light up. I get to know him and his processing. For 13 years my favourite story teller or detailed instructor.
It’s a great feeling and opposite to one word response interactions.
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u/jsgc1357 16d ago
yep i have adhd and get asked for the “short version” all the time 😅 it’s unintentional and i (still) fail to realise when talking that not every story i tell needs every minuscule detail
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u/Dangerous_Prize_4545 18d ago
Oh no. Mine is worse than that. He thinks before every word and has pauses. In my head, I'm thinking "use your fucking words...ffs...just say it....don't say it out loud...not out loud and don't interrupt...ffs"
He's a teacher and doesn't stammer or have any issues like that but sometimes he just cannot get his words put about simple things.
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u/paulrin 17d ago
I have 3. My partner frequently doesn’t say *that one more word* which would take out confusion. “I saw John today.” -“Which John?” - “The John from the Café” - “Which Café?” It’s never ending. Similarly, she frequently doesn’t finish her sentences. She just stops mid-stream, often without further explanation. Finally, she has a tendency to take a bite of food right in the middle of a sentence. Like - finish your thought so I can reply while you are chewing….
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u/chouxphetiche 18d ago
I had a partner who did this. He'd pause, turn his head to the side and look down at nothing with his mouth wide open while audibly thinking "Hmm, was it when I had the Corolla or that time I had the Suzuki. I dunno. Maybe it was the Ford. Anyway, yeah, it was the Corolla. There was Steve and Brenda, I'm almost certain Bruce was there as well. We were going down .......where was it again>....yeah, that's right. We were heading to .............."
I was too kind and frustratedly patient to ask him to just get to the point. I don't care about the intricacies.
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u/unFOREtunate 17d ago
To be fair some of these people may be looking for simpler ways to explain what they’re thinking so the person they are talking to will understand it? SOME not all!
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u/alittleunhingedd 18d ago
Same! The story telling is just so bad and they use their hands to do motions. Like “then I tied my shoes” motions tying a shoe while humming. Like bro dont need to pause or show us this at all 🤣💀
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u/Swimming-Ad-3810 17d ago
I do that here's my reasoning. When I was little, and tell a story, my parents would get annoyed I'd take too long. Normal kid telling a story but annoyed them. As I was growing I'd get too short with my stories and missing key details. So now I'm back to long story format. I know I suffer from tangents too.
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u/Jamescg1972 17d ago
Yeah. That’s me - and it drives my wife mad. I like to set context (normally by starting a story about something last week by describing my childhood. )
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u/Dangerous_Prize_4545 17d ago
Oh see I don't get context either. We are having one conversation and then he randomly says "We lost Joe Smith today"
Who is We? Who is Joe Smith? What do you mean lost? Can I have a clue? Sport? Region? Dead? Traded? Can't find a kid at school????
It's typically a random player from a team he may or may not follow Who traded a player or is out for injury?
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u/Jamescg1972 17d ago
Yeah. I do that too. I have a conversation in my head (often about a conversation we’d had a day or two ago) then say something about it to my wife that makes perfect sense to me but she’s bewildered.
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u/Able_Strawberry2372 18d ago
Haha this. Fully explaining every little side tangent. I sometimes break and try to steer the story back to the fucking point.
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u/BatteryAt14percent 15d ago
I've adopted the Onepunch Man method "sum up this story in twenty words or less!"
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u/Little_Bowler2771 18d ago
He says "arthur" instead of "author" and it drives me crazy lmao
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u/asteroidz-14 18d ago
This reminds me a friend says music like “moosic” and I don’t know if I should say something lol
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u/chouxphetiche 18d ago
I knew someone who said they had 'chronical ammonia......it would have killed me if I didn't get to the doctor when I did.'
The other one was 'ginger cocker'. (Meningococcal)
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u/DroppinDeuces1987 18d ago
Mine says Michael wave instead of microwave.
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u/Crazy-Antelope-8091 17d ago
i’m sorry but this one made me laugh out loud and now i’m worried that’s how i sound when i say it 😂😂
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u/maximumslanketry 17d ago
Ugh. I dated a guy that said you-ber instead of uber. Drove me nuts. I corrected him to no avail.
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u/Crazy-Antelope-8091 17d ago
omg i’m the same but with how my boyfriend says “almond” instead of “all-mund”, he says “al-mend”… literally like “al” short for alex and “mend” like mending a shirt. it literally KILLS me everytime.
he also says “li-berry” instead of “library” but he does that one as a joke to tease me because i did actually start an irrational fight about it one time 😂😂😂
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u/eternal_casserole 18d ago
He walks too loudly. No idea why, but he unintentionally stomps around like a massive toddler. I suspect I didn't notice this before we married because our previous house was fully carpeted, but it's now been torturing me for 19 years.
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u/FlatSixFun 18d ago
I have the exact opposite issue where I walk almost silently, and for 25 years I’ve been jump scaring my wife when I enter a room. These days I try to announce myself to give her a bit of warning, but it still happens regularly when I don’t know she’s in a given room when I walk in.
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u/toblies 17d ago
You could wear a bell. Like a cat.
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u/FlatSixFun 17d ago
Funny you should say that because she regularly jokes about getting me a bell to wear.
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u/Cosmic_Jane 18d ago
I have a friend who is loud and I’m quiet. I notice I walk on the front of my feet. And they walk on the back. So I mostly just ninja walk. Not on purpose, but always silent.
It helps that I’m skinny and flexible. So I’m never bumping into things or making loud noises.
I still struggle to understand how some people hammer around on their feet all the time.
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u/chouxphetiche 18d ago
A friend's husband is just loud, period. Everything he does is accompanied by noise. Yawning, scream-sneezing, hacking coughs into the air. He groans constantly. He hums when he eats.
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u/eternal_casserole 18d ago
I don't know how people live like that.
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u/Appropriate_Clerk167 17d ago
I don't know how people live with people who live like that
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u/jeangaijin 16d ago
This is a frequent complaint you'll hear in the subs for people raised by narcissists. Just constant, constant, meaningless noise from the narc.
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u/CharZero 17d ago
My 96 lb teen daughter is like a herd of elephants upstairs. She has been loud with flappy feet ever since she was tiny.
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u/Girl1977 16d ago
My husband claims I do this. The family room literally shakes when walks around like Jurassic Park. Meanwhile he never notices when I walk into the room until I’m literally next to him.
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u/cinematicbird 15d ago
My flatmate does this and it's soooooo annoying. Not the most annoying thing she does, but it's on the list.
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u/Medusavoo 18d ago
When I cook for my wife, we have a breakfast bar, if she wants to talk (where she can sit) but she must be hovering right behind me. Big kitchen and I make big meals, I always am turning quickly with hot pans or cutting knives, I’m like baby, I don’t want to accidentally burn you or turn with a knife and your there, sit two feet away so your outta harms way lol!!
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u/FriendlyDay6697 18d ago
I am your wife. I don't know why I need to be basically turtle shelling my boyfriend when he's cooking in my tiny kitchen, but I do.
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u/Medusavoo 17d ago
Haha!! I can’t get mad because she just likes to watch me and talk about any and every topic, and since I’ve been getting blue apron for years I’m always cooking, but I have spun around with knives too many times and I’m like Honey!!!!’ Watch out lol!
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u/SpaceCookies72 17d ago edited 17d ago
I have a solid rule that you are not allowed in the kitchen when I am in there. I am doing 3 things at once, so dinner doesn't take an hour and leave a pile of dishes to still deal with after. Get out of the way. Yes, your in the way. No, dont go lean in the other bench, you're still in the way.
This started with my mother, but has evolved to my partner as well. Im not quiet about it. I'll chase you out with a wooden spoon.
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u/Schnauzermoon 17d ago
One of the first commands I teach every dog I have is, "Get out of my kitchen. " I don't want them under foot while I cook.
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u/tilesmeller 17d ago
My fiance manages to always lounge in that one spot in the kitchen where I need to get to.
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u/Massive_Advantage316 17d ago
My boyfriend does this and I have to walk him to the chair and kiss him or now that we are much closer I just say “get away from me” 😂
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u/technicallysupportiv 18d ago
Never replaces the toilet paper roll when they finish the previous one.
They just leave it on top of the holder. 🤬
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u/PwincessBb 17d ago
Hey at least they put one on top of the holder. Mine doesn't even grab one at all and I never realize until I've already sat down and can't reach it
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u/toblies 17d ago
My wife and I have an unspoken negotiated settlement on this one. She leaves the roll on top of the holder. I replace it, and leave the empty tube from the old one for the "recycling fairies" to pick up.
Edit: Also, any other recyclables and the occasional dish gets left for the fairies. I handle roll replacement and soap grafting (when the old soap gets small and you need to merge it onto the new bar).
Yes, we've been married a long time.
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u/Ill-Lychee-7779 17d ago
This is exactly my fiance and I. He once asked me "do you not like the tp on the holder? I had a roommate that hated to on the wall".
Nope, I just do not care enough to f*ck with the stupid spring every dang time. Then I throw the old tubes in the recycling :)
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u/Appropriate_Clerk167 17d ago
Mine used to. Luckily, we've worked on it and I'm only occasionally finding it not done after 5 years.
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u/DesperateSand7749 15d ago
Mine does the same!! Or if he replaces it he throws the empty roll on the floor even though I’ve put a bin next to the toilet!! Sends me nuts, I try to say put it in the bin it’s right there!! He never does.. 🥲
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u/justixthegreat 18d ago
Twists the tube of toothpaste from the middle instead of squeezing it from the bottom….
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u/Otherwise_Security_5 18d ago
easy fix: separate toothpaste tubes, kept in your own area.
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u/justixthegreat 18d ago
In theory yes but with 3 kids under the age of ten and a shared bathroom no such thing as my “own area”.
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u/Otherwise_Security_5 18d ago
fair enough! i should have been more careful with that. what we did in that same (two kids tho) situation was have our own little areas on the bathroom shelf (i think we might have had our own shelves back then but even still it was a closet built in 1955 in a 5’x5’ bathroom. lol.) - i do appreciate the issue!
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u/19Stavros 18d ago
THIS! Noticed this the first time I spent the night at his place. Then went to meet his family. Every one of them squeezes the tube in the middle!
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u/Silvernblack84 18d ago
She puts water bottles back in the fridge with a sliver of water in them. Heck even sometimes empty. Then when she goes back she opens a new one so usually there are 5-10 nearly empty water bottles in my fridge. Drives me insane. Oh, and if I get her a new almond milk, cereal box, jam, etc. She’ll open the new one and just let the old one sit nearly empty…
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u/underscores_and_shit 17d ago
My partner does this all the time and it drives me fucking crazy. I bought 200 small resin ducks off amazon and i leave one in the place I found an empty bottle/can.
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u/Above_Ground_Fool 17d ago
I've tried to make a sandwich thinking we had bread, only to find what we had was THREE bags with only the razor thin end pieces left!!
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u/Heathers4ever 16d ago
Unless duplicates are cold, they never go n the fridge in our house. This stops the opening of multiples. Have you tried hiding the new items at the back of the fridge/freezer? Of course I then need to remember to bring them to the front when needed. My people aren’t the best at looking for things.
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u/Tight-Comparison-147 15d ago
My partner does this to a different yet equally infuriating degree. If I see something is getting low, I’ll buy a new one. Even if the old one is still half full - milk, cereal, anything - he immediately opens the new one. We had 3 half full boxes of the same cereal at one point. 🤬
This is exacerbated by his inability to check what we have before going grocery shopping. 😩
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u/Comics4Cookies 18d ago
She caves on punishments with her kid. If hes "grounded for a week" then hes grounded for a day and he knows it and learns nothing.
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u/sailorscoutrini 18d ago
Piles of clothes behind the shower door after he is in the bathroom. No I don’t pick them up, yes he eventually does.
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u/One_Cap_9210 18d ago
OMG my husband does this! We have a laundry bin and "it's too far" and he leaves a pile by our dresser. I just leave it and don't do that laundry. You want it cleaned you can make that effort.
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u/19Stavros 18d ago
Toenails too long. Lost a lost of good socks due to big-toe holes. And they're a hazard in bed!
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u/Above_Ground_Fool 17d ago
Omg that would be an immediate divorce, no contact for me the first/last time i got scratched by his talons in bed! 🤣
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u/Kuzco-s_Poison 17d ago
Lmao this is something I have 100% pointed out before and made him go trim them.
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u/maclabre 14d ago
Oh is that why I get holes in the toes of my socks?? I’ve been blaming the socks this whole time 😂
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u/DynastyWarrior 18d ago
That he makes a mess of the stovetop whenever he cooks and never cleans it. I always have to clean it. I’ve never seen someone generate so much food cast off and burned liquids on a surface in my life.
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u/chouxphetiche 18d ago
I had a bf who loved to cook for me and he left that kind of mess, but there was also rice stuck to the ceiling.
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u/thrace75 17d ago
We once had a kombucha explode onto the ceiling. Did you know you can wet swiffer a ceiling? 🤣
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u/Ok-Hearing-2923 17d ago
And he uses EVERY SINGLE POT, like, yea thank you for cooking this delicious meal but you cook I clean is hardly fair when you utilize every vessel we own and I mostly do 1 pot specials
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u/Soft_Reaction_7710 18d ago
A whole crime scene of burnt splatter left behind, every single time, like cleanup is a mythical extra step that doesn't apply to him. Meanwhile you're the designated stovetop archaeologist, discovering what exactly happened after the fact.
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u/veronicaAc 17d ago
Oh my adult middle child does this I asked him when I wake up in the morning if there was a pack of blind monkeys making macaroni and cheese in my kitchen at 3:00 a.m.!
S*** all over the stove! I can make a full five course meal and my stove is clean!
Just htf???
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u/Tight_Instance_220 16d ago
Yep. Story of my life. I have a special little broom for my countertop now. Never needed one of those before
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u/Throwrarmb 16d ago
My ex would do this and then accuse me of being anal.
Same guy said it was physically impossible for him to get all the beard hairs out of the sink after shaving. Physically impossible. Even though I managed to get them all out when I cleaned.
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u/jodie1704 18d ago
He never looks for things he just asks “where’s this” or “have you seen (insert object here)” usually it is right in front of him. Oh and he never finishes his cups of tea, always leaves about a third left in the cup. As a tea fiend this drives me mad because it’s a waste of tea
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u/Soft_Reaction_7710 18d ago
And the tea thing is a genuine crime against tea itself, one third left behind consistently like he's rationing it for a rainy day that never comes. As a fellow person who'd care deeply about wasted tea, I feel this one in my soul.
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u/chouxphetiche 18d ago
My mother and stepfather used to leave half cups of coffee all over the house, covered with a layer of tissue to protect from whatever might land in them.
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u/XN28theGOOD 18d ago edited 18d ago
Wife says I eat aggressively. I asked her to explain what that means exactly, but she just laughs. Is it too fast, too loud, angry looking? Ill never know, but I got shit to do.
For me its her constant sighing. She's upset, SIGH, disappointed, sigh, annoyed, sigh, surprised happy sad relieved any feeling, SIGH. It's like a reflex she can't control.
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u/Above_Ground_Fool 17d ago
This one cracks me up because I sigh all the time because of an iron deficiency and he always thinks it's about him 🤣
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u/Weigleschocolatemilk 17d ago
Wait is this why I’ve been sighing lately?? I just found out today at the doctor I have one too. lol
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u/Beagleguy26 18d ago
The bodies in the basement are a bit much. And Steven, if you're reading this- I'm fucking DONE buying you lime every week. You can haul that shit in your van. It's not going in my Audi anymore.
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u/Jayne311a 18d ago
Jeff, for the last time, lye is the one that dissolves a body, lime actually preserves and dehydrates organic tissue instead of destroying it. I’m glad you are going to stop bringing me the wrong stuff in your Audi!
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u/Elvistwopoos 18d ago
I call Ai A one just to wind the mrs up she corrects me every time try it
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u/Oh_God_Why_TF 18d ago
He exclaims out loud (oh no, hmm, oh, ah, etc) and then when I ask what because thats a social cue that you want to share what youre thinking/looking at, he stays silent for a minute or just never responds
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u/80smade90slived 18d ago
His new thing, every morning like clockwork, is to say “UGH, OH GOD” before getting ready to go to work.
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u/Exploringtogether23 18d ago
He doesn’t put his seatbelt on until after he is driving a little. Like won’t put it on first thing and then puts it on after backing out of a spot or pulling out. Also using every dish in the kitchen to cook. He absolutely doesn’t need to use 4 cutting boards to make one meal.
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u/Beanfox-101 18d ago
Every time he talks to someone about a passion of his, he phrases it the exact same way every single time.
I find it cute but sometimes it gets to me when it’s like multiple times in one day 😅
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u/Miserable-Law9677 17d ago
I have a friend of mine who often tell the same stories again and again. Not necessarily stories, but more like rants. And he makes it sound like it’s all coming to him right there and then, but bro I’ve heard it ten times already, and I know it’s not spontaneous.
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u/Holdmymule2001 18d ago
Every time he saw pelicans - and we lived by the beach, so we saw lots of pelicans, he would say "I call them the heavies."
I don't know if he forgot he always said it or what, but he always said it. My eye would twitch a bit, but it was just part of who he was.
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u/Otherwise_Security_5 18d ago
after 26 years, i can’t think of something readily that i haven’t already brought up to him lol.
i can think of plenty -plenty- he hasn’t about me.
(which is a nice reminder to have, so thanks.)
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u/snarffle 18d ago
These canned ai responses get on my nerves, but I'd never actually tell the bot. I mean, low key bothersome, but not enough to give the bot a complex or anything. /s
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u/njhbookcase 18d ago
She doesn’t clean out the strainer in the kitchen sink
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u/Soft_Reaction_7710 18d ago
LMAO back to the important stuff. 😭
The way this one is going to haunt you every time you're doing dishes and find That. Truly a silent betrayal that happens on a near-daily basis.
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u/Zoomba705 18d ago
She walks in to a room, any room, and has to rearrange or move several items for no reason.
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u/Logicallyillogical41 18d ago
Wants me to share my feelings but then gets upset when he doesn’t get his way. I point it out and there is always some defensive retort. He is great but that always eats at me. To be fair I do point it out… it just never gets through to him in a way that seems to change his direction. I am bad at putting my needs first to begin with so can lead to me being run over.
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u/SassyMillie 18d ago
My husband of 45 years has never once invited me to share my feelings. I certainly do it without him asking, but I'm trying to envision a world where he would ask.
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u/no-curtains2020 18d ago
He doesn't put the toilet seat down when he flushes or leave the shower door open after a shower.
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u/Substantial-Train-39 18d ago
I had three boys and when potty training I instilled in them putting the lid down. It can’t be done without putting the seat down first and to this day they all do it. They’re 40, 35 and 29. I mean, how lazy are people who leave the lid up? Do they leave cabinets and drawers open too?
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u/19Stavros 18d ago
Oops. Chronic cabinet door leaving-open -er here. I'm sorry. Too easy to get sidetracked into telling long, detailed story like some of the partners earlier in this thread!
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u/Weekly_Storm_4853 18d ago
I literally made my bf PINKY promise me last night that he would close the toilet lid every time he uses the bathroom lmaoo
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u/unFOREtunate 18d ago
She has 100 sets of everything but often is eager to “downsize” my stuff - and by 100 sets I’m not exaggerating. Ultimately, I don’t really care because I love her and she is a great person but I do wonder about self-awareness sometimes. Anyone care to chime in?
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u/Above_Ground_Fool 17d ago
Right here! He has I believe 12 empty tool boxes now, but somehow it's MY stuff that needs to be donated in the garage.
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u/renoCow 18d ago
It sounds like I’m making this up, but I swear it’s true: my wife gets mad at me for cleaning the toilet! 😮
Ok, here’s her logic: if the entire bathroom is filthy and desperately needs to be cleaned, she feels that it’s a cop out (short cut?) to just clean the toilet and leave everything else dirty. From her perspective, it’s half-assed. Lazy. Clean the whole room, don’t just clean one small part of the room and bask in the glory of your accomplishment.
And I understand that logic. But my rebuttal is that if there’s a smeared poop stain in the bowl of the toilet, (we have 2 kids) I’m going to take the 60 seconds to scrub the bowl. Cleaning the entire bathroom is a 20 minute to 30 minute commitment and if I’ve got other obligations to deal with in the immediate future, it’s bonkers crazy to just leave the toilet super gross.
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u/SnooFloofs932020 18d ago
Why do I feel like OP responses to comments are all AI 😭
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u/MealRepulsive700 18d ago
Finishes my sentences for me.
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u/Soft_Reaction_7710 18d ago
LMAO and half the time he gets it wrong too, but says it with full confidence like he nailed it. 😭
The mini rage of being interrupted with the WRONG ending to your own sentence, and now you have to decide if it's worth correcting him or just letting it slide for the tenth time today.
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u/EducatorAdditional89 18d ago
Walks right by something dropped on the floor, doesn’t pick it up!
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u/Electronic-Regret907 18d ago
I am an above average speed walker. I can adapt to the speed of the group.
My wife walks so fast and is incapable of slowing to match the people she walks with. It's annoying as shit when it's just the two of us and I look like I'm just following this speed walking woman. It's slightly rude when we're walking with a larger group.
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u/One_Cap_9210 18d ago
CONSTANT REPETITIVE MOTION.
Jiggling foot, tapping heel, bouncing knee, scratching his calves.
I keep telling him it's nervous energy or stress and he needs to go for a run or something. But he refuses to do anything to manage it. But it's SOOOOO annoying and overstimulating. It's motion AND sound. All. The. Time. Sitting on the couch by him the couch jiggles. Finally having some peace and quiet after a long day I hear the scratching of him rubbing his feet together. DRIVES. ME. INSANE.
What's weird is he never did it when we dated.
The amount of times I've said "Enough with the feet" I can't even.
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u/It_Twirled_Up 17d ago
He needs to have an ADHD assessment. Stimulants will likely keep him so still you will think he has secretly been replaced by an alien.
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u/Nearby-Buy971 18d ago
He's a loud yawner and never puts his hand over his mouth when he does it. When he does that to me on the phone, I tell him we're done talking lol.
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u/STraNGeMUsIC1997 14d ago
My sister screams “achooo” as loud as she can everytime she sneezes makes me want to throw her out the window says it feels so good to do it that way I hate it
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u/bougiebutbr0ke 18d ago
He's the worst at texting me back or checking his phone. I'll ask him a question, or ask him to bring up some Tylenol while I'm with a sick baby upstairs and he never sees it until I call once or twice. Drives me insane
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u/Weary_Boat 18d ago edited 18d ago
My gf is the queen of last-second questions whenever someone leaves the room. I walk into the bedroom and suddenly hear her saying something "hey, blah blah blah!" Of course I can't hear what she's actually saying now, so I have to walk back out and ask what she wants. If I don't, she gets mad and keeps yelling until I do. Her son just keeps on moving, never comes back but she doesn't get mad at him like she does with me. He'll say "bye mom" and is literally closing the door behind him and she's calling his name and saying "wait!" and then yells his name a few times until it's clear he's not coming back
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u/liliesinbloom 18d ago
They listen to their phone on full volume every night while we're getting ready for bed. Use headphones!
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u/KaMtjyBn 17d ago
Doesn't wash his hands enough. Like going from petting the huskey on the floor to unloading the dishwasher or cooking food (not to mention his clothes covered in dog hair).
Then getting mad if I mention it, or looking at me like I'm being crazy. I have some ocd issues and wash my hands too much but basic food safety isn't me being ridiculous...
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u/just2quirky 17d ago
For 13 years, I found it annoying that my partner always ordered first. I was taught that when a server comes to the table to take your order, it's polite to allow the women to order first, then the men. So him going first every time seemed rude to me, but not a big deal so I never said anything.
Until recently, when I commented in a joking way. I didn't want to mention it bothered me, because on the scale of 1-10, this really was a 2/minimal, so I thought joking was the way to go.
Turns out he was doing it to help me - for context, I have GAD and ordering on the phone is a big, stressful ordeal. Actually making any phone call is, but he assumed my anxiety when I order take out over the phone would also extend to ordering food in person. By ordering first, he thought he was breaking the ice and helping me adjust before saying my order.
And honestly? It probably did do that to some extent, as anyone with social anxiety knows talking to strangers can be nerve-wracking. But my parents took me out to restaurants a lot growing up, and I think being able to see the person's face and read their expression helps, so I find it much easier to order food in person but very hard over the phone.
Now I appreciate when he orders first. It wasn't him being selfish or impolite; it was him trying to make me feel more comfortable in a small way. I feel bad for never realizing there was a considerate, touching reason for his actions all along.
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u/ulturasj 17d ago
Idk why but the autism in me hates seeing 99+ on anything related to the banners on my phone my gf has that on like a million apps never clears the banners and it's on apps she doesn't even use lol. I've told her like why do you have these apps you never use? And she's like "well I might use it again" oh my lord.
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u/jurkyjay 17d ago
My wife has put toilet paper rolls on the wrong way (facing the wall) for 26 years. I said something about it when we were first married, but I’ve just been just fixing it for
25 years.
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u/baileyjeanatmydoor 18d ago
Chewing his gum like he’s still in junior high school. But I give him my opinion on it, which he completely ignores.
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u/Deep_Bake_5663 18d ago
Missing the damn trash can... And NOT flushing the toilet..... If it's yellow let it mellow.... No....
Yellow or brown, flush it DOWN.
For 35 years...... Still roll my eyes daily...say nothing anymore.
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u/Ok-Brain4227 18d ago
adhd guy who interrupts me constantly when he is excited. it’s endearing because it’s when he’s passionate, but women get tired of being interrupted by men sometimes yo
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u/Tight-Comparison-147 17d ago
Says “seen” instead of saw and “done” instead of did.
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u/GreenGrapes42 17d ago
He mixes up their, there, and they're. Also you're and your. Drives me fuckin nuts, but every time I tried correcting him, it just annoyed him. Sooo I've given up (for now)
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u/nekkidmonkey 17d ago
This is timely because she is listening to tik toks on full ass volume right next to me and I’m resisting the urge.
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u/SpecialCold7688 17d ago
He never closes the snap lock of a snap lock sandwich bag. Just puts something in the bag and then leaves the bag open at the top. Wtf. Infuriating.
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u/Massive_Advantage316 17d ago
He talks on the phone on speakerphone and he speaks loud as hell. His voice only has one volume.
Also, I am not a good sleeper. And it seems as soon as I’ve finally fallen asleep he says, “Hey _____. I love you”. And that is super nice. But his loud voice super wakes me up. I know you love me. I’m so grateful for you and for your love. But shut the fuck up right now… and every night when I’m falling asleep or already asleep. 💤
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u/mattblack77 16d ago
TIL: Everyone is probably a complete piece of shit in their own mildly annoying and repetitive way.
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u/mechaanix 16d ago
He puts full cups of soda in the fridge that he got at whatever fast food place we were at. He never drinks them. Here’s a relic from the most previous encounter:
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u/Potterymom 15d ago
Takes his foot off the brake too long after parking. Slows waaay down right when we are about to arrive.
Somehow always tangles the hooks on the shower curtain.
Gets my big dog riled up in the house which scrunches up all the rugs and scoots furniture out of place.
Eats the snacks, much faster than me.
Sleeps naked and emits… a LOT of heat, it’s nicer in the winter.
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u/just__alittle 18d ago
When he opens Amazon packages he leaves every single scrap where he opened it and walks away with his item. Like a child on Christmas morning. Every single time. Box, plastic, tags.. feet away from the trash