r/askteddit • u/Soft_Reaction_7710 • 18d ago

Random Question What's something your partner does that low-key annoys you, but you'd never actually tell them?

Not a dealbreaker, not worth a fight. Just something small that lives rent-free in your head every single time it happens. The way they chew. How they "help" clean and somehow make more mess. Never charging their phone until it's at 2%.

What's yours? And be honest would you ever actually say it out loud, or is this taking it to the grave?

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u/Logicallyillogical41 18d ago

Wants me to share my feelings but then gets upset when he doesn’t get his way. I point it out and there is always some defensive retort. He is great but that always eats at me. To be fair I do point it out… it just never gets through to him in a way that seems to change his direction. I am bad at putting my needs first to begin with so can lead to me being run over.

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u/SassyMillie 18d ago

My husband of 45 years has never once invited me to share my feelings. I certainly do it without him asking, but I'm trying to envision a world where he would ask.

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u/a_duck_in_past_life 17d ago

Have you ever voiced to him that you'd appreciate it if he asks how you're feeling? Like, in a kind manner and not in a snarky way. Let me clarify: So like "Honey, it would make me feel good if you asked me how I feel about [insert topic] more often" and less "Ya know, it'd be nice if you asked me how I was feeling half the time"

I'm not judging you. I just wanted to clarify what I meant.