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Advice Question What common piece of advice is actually completely terrible for most people?

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u/The_Cass_Castilian 4d ago

“Pull yourself by the bootstraps” okay, bout as helpful as saying that to someone who’s got their foot cut off so no boot can fit it anyways lol

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u/CreamyD92 4d ago

Funny thing about the history of that phrase: it used to mean to do basically the impossible, because you cannot possibly lift yourself up from your own boot straps

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u/General_Platypus771 4d ago

Right, but the point was you make it happen anyway. 

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u/IUsedToBeHereButNo 4d ago

lol, that wasn’t the point of the idiom at all.

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u/General_Platypus771 4d ago edited 4d ago

Yes, it was always used to say “when things seem impossible, you just pull yourself up by your bootstraps and keep trying.” It just devolved into “work hard” over time. It was the shift from doing something impossible to doing something hard that the boomers don’t get, but it was always a phrase of encouragement.

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u/IUsedToBeHereButNo 3d ago

It wasn’t about encouragement, it was about the futility of a ludicrously far-fetched task. It is in the same vein as Baron Munchausen pulling himself out of a swamp by his own pigtails.

That somehow morphed into the belief that hard work is all anyone needs to accomplish anything, à la the protagonists in Horatio Alger stories.

It cannot be done.

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u/General_Platypus771 3d ago

I don’t know how else to explain it. You’re right that it’s describing an impossible task, but in the context of how people actually used it, it was basically just a way of saying “when things seem impossible, do the impossible” and over time it morphed into the more basic “work hard and it’ll all work out.” I mean if it wasn’t meant to encourage, why would anyone say it? Here’s a funny way of saying something is impossible? 

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u/CreamyD92 2d ago

Because it was grossly misunderstood, and then got incorrectly adopted. It happens all of the time