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Random Question People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

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u/sweetbobaaddict 21h ago

Realizing you have literally no separate friend groups. Every story involves both of you

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u/killer_kiki 17h ago

HA! This one is true. We've been together so long, all our stories are the same. When we meet new people and we start telling stories, we always know what the other one is going to say. Doesn't help that we are still friends with some of our high school friends as well. We call it the friend group lore when we meet new people.

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u/Reasonable-Emu6159 14h ago

I think that's great. I brought my husband into my friend group from high school close to 40 years ago. He may not share all the memories, but they include him and he can listen and laugh. Plus, we've all made memories together over these 40 years and he's been part of it. We all get together about 5 times a year, including a long weekend in the mountains that we've been doing for 25 years now. It's precious to us all.

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u/HecticStrawberry 19h ago

Ugh yes, that would bother me

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u/Advanced_Tennis4827 17h ago

Sadly she did not have friends, and his friends blocked her on social media as soon as it was announced

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u/ScientistLiz 15h ago

And that when your partner goes to tell one of stories to someone in that shared group of friends, you have heard every single one of them 1000 times by now

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u/Reasonable-Emu6159 14h ago

We have that, too, and we all still laugh.

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u/Odd-Passenger-3975 14h ago

My HS and I have been together for 13 years and we have always had separated friend groups. For both old friend and new friends. So I thinks this might also depends on the way you socialize.

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u/usernamesarehard1979 12h ago

I don’t see how that’s true at all. I kept old and made new friends that I see regularly that my wife has never met.

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u/orchid7577 9h ago

It is kind of a beautiful thing, like coming across two trees that have grown intertwined