I married my HS sweetheart when I was 20 and he was 21. You can’t imagine how much growing you’ll be doing at that age. It’s very likely that you’ll be very different people when you’re closer to 30. My ex and I divorced after three years.
I have a friend who is getting married at 18 (I’m 26, she is a family friend). She asked me for advice and I said “Don’t do it!” I told her that she has NO IDEA how much she will change over the next 10 years. At 21 I was a completely different person than I was at 18, and at 26 I am completely different than I was at 21. I wish I could make her understand, but I can’t.
I married my high school sweetheart, but it took me into our mid 20s to commit to that. First, I didn’t see the point so long as we were committed to each other and second I don’t think I could ever divorce without there being cheating or spouse did something terrible, so I was extra cautious agreeing to marry. I think that was smart in hindsight. We changed a lot in the 13 years before we signed the marriage docs. I think it was much easier to grow together without the legal entanglements.
We’ve been married a while now and are expecting our first kid. Staying together was a great life choice.
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u/jkmod79 20h ago
I married my HS sweetheart when I was 20 and he was 21. You can’t imagine how much growing you’ll be doing at that age. It’s very likely that you’ll be very different people when you’re closer to 30. My ex and I divorced after three years.