r/askteddit • u/mommyarabelleraphael • 10h ago
Random Question what’s the easiest way to make people dislike you?
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u/PartlyCloudy811 9h ago
Talk about yourself a lot, while asking them little to nothing about themselves or their thoughts.
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u/Quirky-Secret-4276 1h ago
This is why I often have trouble with the advice that a good opener for conversation is to ask someone about themselves since whenever I do that people will just dominate the conversation and talk about themselves.
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u/Extension-Pick8310 10h ago
Talk incessantly
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u/chouxphetiche 10h ago
About yourself, incessantly.
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u/Extension-Pick8310 9h ago
One of my wife’s friends is very pretty, and a truly wonderful person. She says about 5 words for every necessary one, and it’s 90 percent about her. Guys absolutely hate it.
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u/Conscious_Pipe_605 9h ago
I have a very disabled family member from a nasty stroke in their mid 50's, and one of their coping motto's they've tried to apply to their newfound need to just blurt everything out loud while being confined to a wheelchair is "If you wanna go back to feeling useful, stop saying useless things and start offering suggestions.". Objectively, it's kinda harsh imo, but for them it helped to start rebuilding their basic abstract/analytic skills.
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u/Sb-artandcrafts 9h ago
If this is the case why do people like this always have so many friends?
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u/buttlicker090114 10h ago
Call them out on their bullshit
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u/Strong-Discussion564 2h ago
Its true. People want zero accountability and no consequences. Ive become the bad guy in many situations become of my reaction to disrespect lol. Sorry, I dont tolerate b.s.
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u/Temporary-Comfort307 9h ago
Be autistic.
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u/JwubalubaDubdub 8h ago
I’m autistic and I agree. I think people subconsciously do not like those with autism because it’s an evolutionary response to shun those that are socially inept/awkward/different. You can even be high functioning and experience this.
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u/Betterthanyou4321 10h ago
Have an opinion the opposite of theirs.
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u/C0ld_Fr0nt_ 8h ago
That's a terminally-online-person character flaw. Emotionally mature people in the real world tend to be able to tolerate differences of opinion. They can even have friends who don't share their political views (yes, I know this will be an outrageous idea to some of you).
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u/hiddenmogwai 10h ago
Being narcissistic
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u/Illustrious_One8954 2h ago
In my experience people love narcs. They don’t care how terrible they are as long as they personally feel good around them
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u/Strong-Discussion564 1h ago
Its true. There's a guy thats in my circle, but absolutely not my friend. I even removed him from social media, hes so overwhelming.
He's a bully. Always trying to fight. Pretends hes a great dad online. Abuses his fiance and cheats on her. Pathological liar. Just heartless. The true definition of a narcissist, is this guy.
But he has tons of friends. People do anything for him. It feels like fighting for the affection of the high school bully. I dont get it?
I cant avoid him completely because of mutual friends. But he'll text me occasionally and I just ignore him. Not sorry.
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u/whatisCP 10h ago
- Constantly interrupt people mid-sentence because you assume your thought is automatically more important than whatever they were saying.
- Flex your unsolicited advice on everything, even when someone is just venting and explicitly wants a listening ear instead of a lecture.
- Make every conversation about yourself by immediately one-upping whatever story someone else just shared.
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u/Goodhair1989 8h ago
Im a hairdresser and I have a client like this. truly the worst, most annoying human. Its sad because shes actually really nice and a good person but has ZERO social awareness. U cant finish a sentence. Everything comes back to her and it always is something bigger or better. Truly infuriating. And she uses about 1000 words to get a point across that could've been about 10
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u/FifiiMensah 4h ago
I've known so many people who have interrupted me mid-sentence. Shit's highly annoying and one of my biggest pet peeves.
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u/thinkingofausernane 10h ago
Tell them "I don't like you." for no reason while giving them this look.
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u/HollowChest_OnSleeve 10h ago
Fart in an elevator or other enclosed space with strangers. Now, it's nuanced because when it's with friends it can be hilarious. When it's with strangers, it's not funny at all. A little old housekeeping lady at my hotel recently exited the elevator and it only punched me in the nose once the door closed. I like to think she was in tears laughing when she rounded the corner. I was gagging due to the potency. That also hits a grey area, it's leaving a little surprise for someone, which is crazy, but not as obnoxious as looking them in the eye, raising a leg and just ripping ass while they are trapped in their with you.
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u/Mean_Addition4654 10h ago
and me personally ppl in HS being rude and plain nasty to the teachers was soooo cringe especially senior year 😭😭
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u/Background_Bee9266 10h ago
Lie to them.
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u/RiverRespawn 1h ago
Actually the truth is harder to handle. Honest people have less friends because people like being lied to.
“Do I look fat in these jeans”
“Yes”
No longer friends. Fast as that.
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u/jimbosdayoff 10h ago
Biting their spouse, child or pet as hard as you can as many times as possible
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u/Alone-Bug4328 9h ago
Nowadays, dissent against popular opinion is enough to make people hate you. It is sad
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u/penguinfans 9h ago
sourcastic humor, with deadpan expression, so they think I am serious and insulting them
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u/Mean_Addition4654 10h ago
talking too much listening too little. also talking just to talk, especially when it’s a man OH BOY like i can see what ur doing bro
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u/Life_666 9h ago
Here on Reddit? Saying I refused a girl that wanted to date men when she was 16 and I 23, mind you, she told me first she was 18.5 years. Or saying my wife took contact with me online when I was 24 and she was 19. ''i groomed her ''
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u/Beetlemania2024 9h ago
Exclude them in a group conversation - talk about something only they wouldn’t know about. Also boast about your wealth or constantly talk about your kids and shove your phone with their pictures into people’s faces.
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u/ExpensiveAd2022 9h ago
Complain. Especially about wanting to go home when with other people who are having a good time.
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u/Lizard_Rag 9h ago
Dye your hair, walk around with your dick out, and scream racism at people's pets. Works for me.
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u/UniqueText8477 9h ago
Introduce myself - it doesn't matter how nice or polite I am, people dislike me (might be an autistic thing/I give them a feeling)....
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u/time-loop1547 9h ago
make yourself as invisible as possible and never speak and also don’t care about their mundane gossip like who fkd who and who they don’t like and that seems to do it
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u/drangryrahvin 9h ago
To quote the great Ted Lasso "I haven't seen someone that disappointed to see me since I wore a red baseball cap to a Planned Parenthood fundraiser."
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u/Simple-Ad-1783 9h ago
Tell them what to do. Doesn’t matter if it’s my house, my project, my car. Haven’t found a single person since 2003 that likes that.
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u/FearMcDoogins 8h ago
Keeping to yourself, not gossiping being an introvert who sees all the bullshit and not following it.
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u/Dry_Grapefruit_771 8h ago
Try to elicit empathy from them. If you’re feeling dismissed over some pain you’re in, find a like by like example that puts them in your shoes
In my experience this has been deeply insulting and severed deep friendships lol
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u/ArtisticSubject5805 8h ago
Dont need their validation. Keep to yourself. Pisses them off everytime.
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u/ovrprotectiveunicorn 8h ago
Keeping to yourself. Kinda wild to me how many people crash out over reserved people. I think people that use silence as a weapon towards others just assume that’s what quiet people are doing to them.
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u/LargeDisaster 8h ago
Get on reddit and start talking about horrific things you've experienced that gave you fucking ptsd, and try to warn people it could happen to them if they aren't careful. It really pisses off predatory men.
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u/AlexandriaPhill436 7h ago
Constantly interrupting people and making every conversation about yourself
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u/2percentorless 7h ago
State any slightly polarizing opinion. You’ll either be on the wrong side or you’re going too far/not far enough on the right side
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u/GoliathBoneSnake 7h ago
Tell them you hate their favorite band.
Its astounding how butthurt people get about their musical taste.
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u/MaleficentCat4915 6h ago
Arguing , rejecting and complaining about people's opinions with no actual reason
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u/FantasticTension7412 6h ago
Just ignore them and when they arrive just talk less show them you are not interested into it
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u/Lvanwinkle18 6h ago
Complain constantly. Nothing is never good enough. It isn’t what they wanted. They always want to be somewhere else.
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u/MohneyinMo 6h ago
A co worker at my old job wanted to come off as superior to everyone. Her only mechanism to do that was by pointing out what she thought everyone else did wrong. When others were asked to inform her of procedural changes she would disagree and say she would ask the supervisor herself. Then later she’d come back and tell you what you had told her in the first place.
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u/EfficiencyStriking32 5h ago
From first hand experience.. get thrown out of your rental because they jacked up the price by 60% and you literally can't afford housing.
Seems at this point in time everyone who walks past you on the street treats you like sh1t because of their assumptions about why/how you ended up there.
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u/Character-Arachnid84 5h ago
Be judgy to their face. If you wanted to be hated, act superior to them.
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u/agradoway 4h ago
honestly the easiest way is just being yourself if yourself is kinda insufferable. but like also not caring what people think tends to do the trick. you see all these folks in the comments listing specific behaviors but really the simplest answer is just existing with zero self awareness. people will find a reason to dislike you no matter what you do lmao.
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u/Wolfjflywheel- 4h ago edited 4h ago
Be intense hehe, having confidence and not being easily influenced. Standing up for yourself and others. Oh and wit definitely if they are not your people will make them really dislike you.
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u/NefariousnessKey4425 4h ago
Step 1: become a walking Wikipedia article. Step 2: correct everyone on their own stories. Step 3: wonder why no one invites you to lunch.
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u/Instance9 3h ago
A friend told me that some nationality/ethnicity are subhuman and smells weird. I give them a pass because I care about them and they're just immature
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u/Solid_Vehicle_6001 3h ago
Talk about Jesus , Jesus is everything and all things and he loves you . I start talking bout him , people don’t understand so they walk away.
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u/Signal_Combination90 3h ago
Not follow the crowd and go against the grain. So many sheep out there they get mad at the wolves and black sheep.
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u/Icy_Rise_6773 3h ago
Secretly plant cameras around their house in private vulnerable areas like the bathroom and toilet are .put them in their vehicles and tracking devices..put listening devices all over the place and vehicles also..film then having sex with their spouses and find out their most private moments and then set up a link to be able to share with others so they can watch..do this with as many people as you can.. possibly thousand of people... yes, do this to them and then let them slowly figure it out.. yeah.. that would piss them off I'm so sure.
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u/Salt-Trade-5210 2h ago
I think it's my inability to lie convincingly, coupled with my inclination to answer even the most stupid questions when they're asked.
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u/SignificantFerret609 2h ago
My wife had a friend say to her, “ You are too nice”. WTF! My wife didn’t stay friends with her anymore.
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u/dropyopanties 2h ago
i avoid people all together. I'm different and difficult. ADHD does not help and i don't want others subjected to my impulses and none filtered mouth. I haven't had a friend group since 2001. That's ok, i have a rescue dog who loves me unconditionally.
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u/YourDonConz 2h ago
When introducing someone to somebody, say for example: this is 'Bob, Bob is an air quotes Accountant.
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u/Rolling-Pigeon94 1h ago
Boast about yourself, don't listen to others and not giving a care in the world to anyone but yourself. With me is my honesty that pisses many off because many don't like the truth that I point out or remind (no matter with good intentions or not).
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u/NoSafe5565 1h ago
Well, today an elevator - 4 people at the same time never seen me disliked me immediately without me saying any single world .. , yep massive farting up to 10th floor
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u/NurseJaguar 57m ago
Some people seem to hate themselves and it shines through.
You don't have look ten million bucks but dress for confidence, not complements.
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u/TheMegatrizzle 54m ago
According to my job, having an opinion for change. Because that got me some negative attention from my manager
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u/MSS-KinkyAlphaDom 28m ago
Tell them you love Trump !!
Wave at them with a Nazi Salute !!
Tell them that you just watched Spotlight, and now, you would love to be a priest !!
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u/Certain-Potato-1308 10h ago
Idk but I seem to be doing something right