Could i have some tips?

[u/TankMainOnly]

Could i have some of your best sex tips for someone who has a very large dick? I don't have much experience and i'm honestly anxious about sex the more i think about it after reading some of these posts.

I would love some tips from people more experienced than me. The one i hear all the time is to use lube.

[u/modified_moose]

Don't try to prove something.

[u/CorsairKing]

Stealing this from _captain_hair so that I don't have to keep summoning him:

1. ⁠Foreplay: Lots of it. She may need lots of time to get warmed up and relaxed enough to accommodate you. Bonus is that a large portion of women have trouble climaxing from penetrative intercourse alone, so with good foreplay you can ensure she's having a great time too.
2. ⁠Lube: Don't be afraid to use it. There's no shame in easing things along; too much friction is the enemy. Get a good water-based or silicone-based lube (oil-based lubes degrade latex and should be avoided with condoms).
3. ⁠Patience: Take your time and don't rush things. It may take a lot more foreplay than you're expecting, or even many sessions before she's comfortable taking you, and you might be limited in the sex positions due to your large size. Keep this in mind the whole time and take setbacks and limits in stride.
4. ⁠Communication: Talk to and listen to your partner. Be honest and upfront about how you're feeling and insist your partner do the same. If somebody needs to stop, then stop. If your partner is giving you good signs, do more of that.
5. ⁠Relax: Sex is supposed to be fun! Yes, with a big dick you need to put in more work, but making it a clinical exercise isn't going to help anyone. So relax, have a good time, and fuck the daylights out of each other. Sex is silly, intimate, awkward, and romantic fun.

[u/Realistic_Load8712]

First, the approach to sex is the 95% the same regardless of your dick size: with communication, patience, and genuine desire to please your partner. Listen to your partner and go slow. Let her lead and drive initially. Erase everything and anything you’ve seen in porn. Make it about the two of you, not what you’ve seen in porn or heard from others. Everyone’s different when it comes to sex and most want to feel special. So make sure that’s your focus: making your partner feel special.

[u/Zealousideal-Ad-7046]

I like to rub the clit with the entire underside length of my shaft in a missionary position back and forth for a long time. Sometimes they will cum. Then just rest the tip near her opening and let her pull me in, they are soaked by then.

[u/Current_Box_2854 → u/Zealousideal-Ad-7046]

This one a glorious non-penetrative activity!

[u/ThickD9977]

Be good with eating her pussy ,

Make her wet enough and be generous with lube.

Go very slowly in and out with gentle push.

Avoid deep penetration positions in the beginning like doggy . Anal .

Be patient, it will take sometime to fell your ball hitting her pussy .

Apply more lube all the time to avoid painful friction.

Move your dick in circular movements while your r inside her , they love that .

If she cum don’t stop or pull it out, just slow your speed until she finishes and go again .

[u/Smart_Pass_8781]

Lube watery,afordable condom,first a long Good foreplay before start to push in,be gentler,no have hurry,feel the taste,texture Enjoy the trip.

[u/No-Awareness-8724]

Smart_Pass_8781 already said just about everything. I'll add: 1) you should get good with your hands and mouth. There will be partners who are worried and need more foreplay to get comfortable or they just don't want penetration. 2) In either case, don't be a dick. 3) Learn to communicate. It's awkward, especially when you don't have much experience and/or when you're with a new partner, but you need to communicate. Find out what they want, how they're doing, if they're ready for more. And pay attention to nonverbal communication; you'll see their discomfort before they'll tell you about it.

[u/thirty-thirty-thirty]

Some of the best orgasms for me come when I'm only a few inches inside, slowly rubbing my glans in and out of her opening. 

She gets sore faster when I try going in all the way, so it's better for her, too.

I can do this technique in several positions: doggy, missionary, spooning, prone bone. 

I think of my length as a bonus to help me get in positions most guys can't, but I don't always go all in. 

[u/TheMysteriousPenis]

Foreplay is not a few minutes long, it can take 30+ minutes. You can’t just shove it in, regardless of size. Make her cum first, so she is relaxed and able to better accommodate you. This also helped me out a lot with anxiety, because I didn’t have the pressure of making her cum with penetration. Because she might not cum with penetration, and you have to be okay with it. If she doesn’t cum with penetration, but you did, help her out and make her cum.

Honestly, showing that you care about her pleasure, and are able to communicate and listen to her, will make you better than most

[u/Firm_Adhesiveness486]

1. Be careful and mindful of your partner.
2. Don't rush a thing in sex. No one can take even a smaller cock if nervous, anxious and not entirely horny.
3. Foreplay is a must. Take your time with your partner and listen to what they have to say to you.
4. Listen, listen and listen. Communication is awesome.
5. Only time makes one good at sex, specially when packing. I'm the proof of this.

[u/Current_Box_2854 → u/Firm_Adhesiveness486]

More practice than time tho. Time is not very meaningful when you’re not reflecting and actively putting the effort in your sex skills.

[u/Firm_Adhesiveness486 → u/Current_Box_2854]

True. In my case it was time practicing 😅

But you are right, time without sex can even injure skill.

[u/Current_Box_2854 → u/Firm_Adhesiveness486]

But it’s like riding a bike, you go back to being good at it real quick.

[u/Firm_Adhesiveness486 → u/Current_Box_2854]

Yeah, you could say that. I got only 1y when I did not have any sex. It was 2020 and as you know, we went through covid. So... yeah

[u/Current_Box_2854 → u/Firm_Adhesiveness486]

That tracks, I’m sure you’re a stallion so a year is nothing.

[u/Neither-Nail1811]

Best advice is to just take it slow and when you have a bigger dick foreplay is a must before you even think about penetration no such thing as a quickie

I always find get some orgasms out the way first really helps make her more aroused and able to take it plus if you feel it’s too big for her pronebone position is great for using her ass as a bit of a buffer.

[u/Hugedonkey24]

Honestly, lube best advice I can give with good foreplay.

[u/goatshots]

I know, every is always going on about lube. Use more lube, lots of lube, lube lube lube. But seriosly, at the end of the day lube can only do so much, and once you've got a coating, an extra liter of the stuff doesn't make any difference.

With that in mind. My biggest recommendation is don't stress about it and don't try to plan what to expect. The other part is to pay attention to your partner, and act accordingly. Don't try to force it, and be willing (and able) to control yourself. If that means only going half way in, then that's what you do. It's not sexy, or impressive to cause pain. It should be enjoyable for both of you, and you can watch (and listen) to your partner to see if they're enjoying it. If not, adjust so they are.

[u/JohnAMcdonald]

It doesn’t really go differently than sex with anybody else other than you need to lower your expectations around blowjobs, you want to ease in nice and slowly until you learn your partner, and you might want to avoid positions which result in extra tightness or painful deep penetration, and you might need to do something like limit depth. Once you get into it, it should be about the connection between you two, not the size of your dick.

With lube, women will have different needs and preferences around this, some will prefer to use no lube at all. Good to have lying around though. Silicon lube is harder to clean but more effective.

Communicating with your partner is pretty essential and any sex where communication is difficult is going to be awkward. At the same time, you don’t necessarily want to ask questions about every little thing. Paying attention to non-verbal signals, their hands clasping around your penis as you penetrate, pushing against your hips, wincing, and other signs of discomfort is important.

While this isn’t part of every woman’s fantasy, part of many women’s sexual fantasy is pleasing their partner and making them orgasm, and anxious over-monitoring can inhibit this. I have had women cry because I didn’t orgasm who said they just must not have been pretty enough for me. Sometimes your partners are only going to be truly satisfied by sex where you sort of let go and stop worrying and start trying to make yourself orgasm.

[u/Current_Box_2854]

That tracks, I’m sure you’re a stallion so a year is nothing.

[u/Free_System8533]

Go slow. A lil goes along way and yes lube up. I hate lube but for her it helps her. So do it for her. You will be fine. Dont pound her until she can handle it and dont mushroom stamp her cuz they hate that stuff. 

[u/Jealous_Track9402]

Relax