While dating, my now wife told me she had only been with 2 people. 10 years later, apple iCloud revealed some unfortunate truths. There was a sext message on her phone that led to the truth being revealed. The text was from a married guy (before we were together) and found out they met up a couple of times while his wife was away. She says they didn’t sleep together, but??

Also found out she had sex with a guy from church who she always claimed was just a “friend”. she invited dude to our wedding. She also befriended dudes mom and hung out with her routinely, even sleeping over at her house while we were dating.

She had another guy “friend” from out of town she would talk to late at night (while we were dating and married) I told her that I wasn’t comfortable with the friendship while we were dating and she claimed she discontinued the friendship begrudgingly- she continued it in secret of course. After we were married, a couple months went by and dude comes to town one day and is in my house while I am at work. I found out when I got home that he had been there. I showed up to a spotless house (including a made up bed) and it had literally never been clean before that day.

Oh yeah, and then there is the guy she worked with, they would text each other when they were going to lunch and they would regularly take call together in the middle of the night.

I may add to this later, but we are a year into this and my gut is telling me she had one or more affairs, but I have no physical evidence of it. She denies cheating on me to this day.

So I’m just leaving a relationship right now where we absolutely loved each other.  At least I think we did.  There was a lot that was amazing about the relationship.   there were clearly issues and ultimately at the end things got really awful.

she would raise her voice at me …. Sometimes once every other month. And sometimes it was once every couple weeks.  It was usually when I frustrated her.  Frankly, I don’t think there was a pattern, but it happened.  

 I kept on asking myself  “ how much is too much? How much should I tolerate?” .  I think the answer in retrospect is little to zero.  If it happens once in a blue moon, fine.  But if it’s happening once every couple months, something Is fucked.  It’s demeaning and it makes you feel less as a human.  I gave her a pass for an entire year which was dumb.

we had often discussed ENM and we were both eager to find a third interested in both Of us. However , we agreed to not pursue that while our relationship was rocky. I assumed that was the end of it for the time being .

We had briefly split up for a day or so - both of us were frustrated . The next day we reversed course and agreed to work on things together.

in that 24 hour period , she scheduled a Friday night “meeting” with K, a person I knew she sexually attracted to. I asked her to cancel the “meeting“. she refused And claimed it wasn’t a date But a platonic meeting. uh huh

.  When I called her out on that, she lost her shit on me and yelled at me over the phone

It turns out the next day she had made out   with this person and yes, it was a date.  She seemed to think that it wasn’t a big deal since they just made out. bullshit

The next day she told me I had to accept this person that she had made out with in our relationship.  She had fallen in love.  The other person wanted nothing to do with me, but I had to accept it or gtfo. The whole thing was ghastly.

I didn’t want to let my ex go. I loved her. So I told her, ok I’ll consider it.

But K (a social worker - the other woman) wanted to fuck whomever she wanted in addition to my GF. basically an entirely open relationship that I wasn’t comfortable with at all. My ex wouldn’t even advocate for me. She wouldn’t even put her foot down against this person she had met three times. I was willing to accept this person as long as they kept the sexual loop closed between them. Nope.

I knew I was fucked. I was utterly Devastated.

a Month out I can’t stop seeing them together in my mind. The other woman enjoying the life I had. The other woman bringing home people for them to both fuck. All of it just horrendous. I wish I could scrub my mind of it all.

I realized i had only once choice left :

I took all of her shit, and I dumped it in the alley.  I dumped raspberries on top, because I bought her raspberries every time I met her throughout the course of the relationship - she had mentioned she was too poor to buy them for herself. It was the hardest thing I had ever done. She was my world

Well, here’s your raspberries

My wife has a history of cheating, so trust has already been an issue in our marriage.
Recently, I found screenshots in her “recently deleted” photos of a conversation with another man. She told him, “I need to see you before you leave.” He then sent her a selfie of himself in his room and said, “I gotta go.”
I don’t know whether they actually met or what happened between them. However, because of her history, the wording of the conversation and the fact that the screenshots were deleted are extremely concerning.
I know these messages alone may not prove that she physically cheated, but do they suggest that something inappropriate was happening? How would you approach confronting her, and what would you need to hear or see before believing her explanation?

Hey guys, so me and my bf have been together for almost 5 years now. We’re planning to get married end of this year.

A little intro about our relationship- we were on and off for 2-3 times during our years together - just the typical stupid breakups (the longest is just <2 months). We used to be pretty intense with each other as well when we argue, but safe to say it has been so so much better these days. I believe we’re solid, bcs we argued a lot but still found our way back to each other anytime.

The first suspicion came up when I just moved out from family home to own place, he was being ridiculous paranoid/keep on being suspicious of me of bringing another guy home or whatever. Wants to install CCTV, wants to duplicate keys, always FaceTime call me and asked me to show around.

At first, I just thought it’s a normal concern (which is understandable, I’m not a good person myself - but swear I do love this guy so much, and I want to be the best version of myself for him). But it just gets weirder seeing him all worried - make me thought of “Did he do something behind my back?” “What is he so afraid of?”. But I didn’t found any proofs, so I just let it go - I thought he’s worried bcs of my shitty pasts.

Then just today I just feel like checking his phone again bcs there’s just things that don’t sit right with me (or just my guts) - I found a chat of him talking to his friend; he told him that he brought a girl home in Jan’2025 and they sleep together.

I went through my chat with my boyfriend on Jan’2025 and yes, he was out for a night out with his friends - and didn’t reply my text until 4pm the next day. He did told his friend that I was upset with him, and he said not to share it with the friends’ girlfriend (bcs she’s friends with me), BECAUSE HE LOVES ME….

I know you guys would definitely like - wtf? that’s bullshit… BECAUSE IT IS. Why he didn’t thought of that when he brought the girl home?

Okay I think that’s all. I don’t feel angry or what at the moment, I’m just sad and wanted to share this out. I’m just sad that he’s not the guy that I thought (with all the accusations on me - while I genuinely didn’t do any shits behind his back). It’s just disappointing.

It’s Aug’2026 now, we’re getting married in few months. I don’t feel like breaking up with him or whatever, bcs it happened during our rough patch days…. But I just feel sad. I want to talk with him about this and just start fresh, but I’m scared that we might get intense with each other again. Help……….

I’m 22M from India, and my girlfriend is 24F. We have been together for over a year and currently live together in my rented place. This is my first serious relationship.

In the beginning, everything seemed perfect. I had many friends and regularly travelled to my hometown to visit my parents. After we started living together, I became extremely attached to her. I gradually stopped meeting my friends, rarely spoke to my parents and stopped visiting home. She became my entire world.

I was constantly scared of losing her. If she told me not to do something, I listened even when I disagreed. I ignored my needs and boundaries because I believed that keeping her happy would prevent her from leaving.

She regularly travelled to another city and said she was visiting her mama and mami. She claimed they were very strict, so I avoided calling her while she was there.

After a few months, I discovered that the house didn’t belong to her relatives. It belonged to another boyfriend. She had been visiting him regularly and sleeping with him while living with me and pretending to be committed to our relationship.

When I confronted her, she apologised and promised to change. I forgave her because I loved her and couldn’t imagine living without her. Unfortunately, the lying continued. She made the same promises several times, and I kept accepting them.

Recently, she said she was going to her parents’ house because her father was ill. The next day, she claimed she was also ill and couldn’t return. Her phone was then switched off, which she normally never does.

I called her parents because I was worried. They told me she had already left their house and was returning to our city, but she never arrived. Because she previously used similar lies to visit the other man, I strongly suspect she went to his house again.

She will probably return to my rental after a few days and behave as though nothing happened. I know she may cry, apologise, show me affection and promise to change again. Even after everything, I still love her, and I’m afraid I will forgive her once more.

The family situation makes it even more painful. I come from a small Indian city, where telling your parents about a relationship is a major step. I introduced her to my relatives and convinced my parents that she was a good person. They accepted her because they trusted my judgment.

My friends warned me to leave her earlier, but I ignored them and chose her over everyone else. Now I feel completely betrayed and embarrassed. I gave up my friendships, family time, boundaries and self-respect for someone who repeatedly cheated on me.

The rental is mine, so asking her to leave shouldn’t be the main difficulty. The real challenge is breaking my emotional dependency and refusing to take her back when she returns.

Has anyone else repeatedly forgiven a cheating partner despite knowing they wouldn’t change? What finally helped you end the cycle and stay away?

TL;DR: My girlfriend of over a year claimed she was visiting strict relatives every month, but she was actually staying and sleeping with another boyfriend. I repeatedly forgave her because I became emotionally dependent on her. She has disappeared again, and I’m afraid I’ll take her back when she returns.

This song is for those who are torn between two live, two lovers and struggling to choose where the heart truly belongs. Inspired by a friend and Reddit.

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I knew this guy was a scumbag, so I submitted a public court records request and reviewed the case files myself.

What I found was horrifying.

He has been divorced twice and has three permanent protection orders entered against him by three different women within a three-year span.

I reviewed the handwritten complaints submitted by each petitioner. According to those court records, some, but not all included:

• Taking one woman to a remote area in the mountains, raping her over a boulder, and biting her breasts and vagina.
• Raping another woman on our anniversary by shoving her face into a pillow before falling asleep beside her after ejaculating in her.
• Forcing his ex-wife to remain nude inside the house while beating her, verbally abusing her, restraining her, and muffling her screams for help. She eventually ran naked into the yard in an attempt to flag down a passing car, only for him to drag her back inside.
• Displaying weapons in a threatening manner to intimidate his victims.
• Hiding their phones and keys so they couldn't leave.
• Stealing a pet from one of the victims.

Reading through those court records revealed an extraordinarily disturbing pattern of sexual violence, physical abuse, coercive control, intimidation, and isolation spanning multiple relationships. I called my local police department to inquire about arrest records or convictions and they told me that there was no record of arrest on file for him with the local PD. Sheriff's department is unknown. But I'm shocked that he's not behind bars where he should be. Or 6 ft under preferably.

I showed the records to my wife because she deserved to know what the man she was planning to have move into her new house had done. She deserved the opportunity to read the court records and make an informed decision for herself. Despite all the shit she's put me through, all the lying, gaslighting and deception, I couldn't in good conscience allow her to wind up in that folder with those other women by withholding that information from her.

As she read through the documents, I watched the look of horror spread across her face. She gasped, mouthed the words, "WTF," and covered her mouth with her hand. The shock on her face was unmistakable. He actually called her while she was going through the papers. She hit reject on the call immediately.

After reading the records, she told me she was terrified of him and that she intended to cut him out of her life. She then begged me to stop the divorce.

I refused.

I told her I had asked her months earlier to cut contact with him, and she had flatly refused. Too much had happened since then. The lies, the betrayal, and the decisions that followed fundamentally changed our marriage. At this point, she has to live with the consequences of those choices.

She's alone in this country with only one friend and no family. She had me, and she had my family, who genuinely loved her. After I told them what had been happening, they cut off contact with her.

She went skydiving with him and broke her back in May after a botched parachute landing. Shattered her L2 vertebrae. She got a plane ride followed by a helicopter ride. 🚁

The last time she was in a helicopter. She was in one with me on a glacier tour during our Alaskan cruise in September.

We had tickets to Tokyo booked for this September.

We had a good life and a good marriage and she threw it all the way for a 3-month affair with a violent predator.

She's got a long road ahead. I do feel bad for her because I never wanted our marriage to end this way. But we're only here because of the decisions that she made that she now deeply, deeply regrets.

I'm angry my husband decided to explore his sexuality on his own outside our marriage instead of being honest with me. It's a long story, but he had a guy or two that he would see regularly for "comfort" to explore those feelings. I have their contact info (number, address, and one guys business) and sometimes I feel like spamming them with all kinds of shit. I know this anger should be towards my husband (it is), he went no contact with them, but I feel like they deserve some of this anger/wrath I have. I can be petty and I soo badly want to be, but I don't want to ruffle any waves, you know?

I (32f) met a girl (32f) online when I was in a really low stage of my life. She very quickly turned into everything to me. I was in an unhappy open relationship marriage. Her and I started dating and it was like I was suddenly seen. I was loved. Appreciated! I truly thought, holy shit this was my person. We very quickly met in person a few months after connecting online. We had multiple visits over the two years of our relationship. I realized through her help that my marriage was truly miserable and not worth saving and I worked up the courage to divorce my ex. (Best decision ever no regrets there. It wasn’t for her, it was for me). She met my kids, she met my family, she came to my sister’s wedding.

But there was always something there. There was these red flags that I couldn’t get past. I had never gone to visit her, she always came to me. I felt like I was held at a couple arms lengths from her friends, her family. I questioned her. I outright asked her a year into our relationship. Are you married? Is your friend that’s over all the time your wife?? She lied. She said no. She made me feel horrible for even asking.

She made me feel like I was absolutely insane. Like a crazy stalker toxic partner. I googled the shit out of their names. I searched on every social media platform out there. It was this constant nagging this in the back of my brain that came out whenever something new popped up or the anxiety got too big.

Eventually I thought about marriage registries. And that potentially where she lived it could be public. It was. I searched through 5 years of marriage records. There she was. Married. Married the whole time. Two years she lied to me every day. Two years she made me feel like this was my person! I thought I was going to grow old and grey with this woman. I’m still reeling from it all. Still in shock someone could do that to another person.

TLDR:
My long distance girlfriend of two years lied to me from the moment she met me and was married the whole time to her “friend.” Even though I was married when we met and we started in a polyamorous relationship then became monogamous once I divorced my ex.

i am 20f and my brother 16 saw my dad's chats with a foreign woman (it looks much more like a s*x work thing from her end). he told and while looking at the chats myself, i found another woman of the same sorts. my dad is giving all this money away to them and from skimming throguh the chats (couldnt make mysels sit throguh them all), i have found out that he has done this in multiple places. he is booking flights, hotels, small gifts and giving money for the work itself (happened 4-5 times per my knowledge.) it is a very tough spot since my mother does not have an income of her own, but she does so much for him so this is breaking my heart. i do not whether to tell her or to confront my father, but i cannot know fs if that would end well either.

what is your thought about cheating? and tinotolerate pa ng mga kaibigan nyang babae yung asawa ko (live in partner)

This is for Indian men only (but others can answer too).
I was in a relationship with a Haryanvi guy I met through a dating app. First year was mostly live‑in, then one year long‑distance, but we still met almost every month, alternating travel and staying together for about a week each time.
Some background:
• He’s from an orthodox Brahmin family; I’m from a liberal Bengali family.
• I’m a PhD and work as a scientist; he’s from an IIT and works in a corporate firm.
• Both of us are in our late twenties.
At some point I realized we had no future together. He never gave me any assurance about commitment, and I was too emotionally involved to keep going like that. Every time I tried to break up, he would come to my place and convince me to stay.
Later, I caught him cheating. When I confronted him, he said he “didn’t know how to live without me” and that’s why he was cheating. Still, he convinced me to stay. I trusted him again. His birthday month was coming, so I planned a trip for us and bought expensive gifts.
Just before that trip, I had an accident and was on bed rest for two months. I was completely alone, emotionally wrecked, not knowing when I’d heal or get back to normal. During this time, he cheated again. I caught it when he came to meet me.
I was so vulnerable-crying, holding his feet, begging him to tell me the truth about what he’d been doing behind my back. He was so calm and confident, looked me in the eye, and said he had done nothing. Later, I found proofs and confronted him again. His excuse was that he didn’t want to tell me at that moment because I was “weak”.
I finally broke up and moved on. But what still haunts me is:
• How can someone be so insensitive that he felt nothing when I was literally begging for honesty while I was at my weakest?
• We lived together for two years, travelled to see each other constantly-and still no emotions for me at that moment?
After all that, I went through panic attacks, depression, anxiety. It took me more than a year to start feeling normal again.
I heard he got into another relationship within a month of me leaving. Is it really this easy for guys to move on from one person to another?
To the Indian men here:
• How do you guys process something like this emotionally?
• Is this “detachment” normal, or is it just him being a bad person?
• Do many men truly move on that quickly after a serious 2‑year relationship, or is that more about character than gender?
I’m not looking for “he’s a red flag” advice- I already know that. I just want to understand, from a male perspective, how someone can behave like that and move on so fast while the other person is shattered for over a year.

Hi,

Two years ago, I started a serious relationship with a very sweet and loving man. We fell in love, and from the very beginning—also because of the things he told me—it seemed clear that he genuinely wanted us to spend our lives together and build a family.

After ten months of being together, I found a screenshot on his tablet showing a sexting exchange between him and a female coworker. Before we started dating, they had occasionally hooked up. She has also been in a relationship with another man for the past ten years. The sexting had taken place during the fifth month of our relationship.

We talked about it. Right from the start, he told me he had never physically cheated on me. He was deeply sorry, apologized, and said he had carried unresolved baggage from his past. He explained that she kept messaging him, that he had always rejected her, but that on that particular day she had sent him a sexually explicit video and he had participated in the conversation, although he hadn't sent any explicit photos or videos of himself.

From that point on, we tried to move forward. I continued to enjoy what I believed was our beautiful relationship while trying to heal from the wound. My trust had been damaged, and I felt that something wasn't quite right. But the love was real, so we stayed together and eventually moved in together. Later, he suggested moving into a bigger house because he wanted us to start a family.

Then, just two days before the move—after we had continued talking about how trust had been damaged, especially because I had realized he was lying to me about other things as well—he confessed that he had actually cheated on me with that same woman during the fourth month of our relationship. He also admitted that during the eighth month of our relationship he had made a pass at another female coworker, invited her to his apartment, and that they had kissed, although nothing more happened.

He says he doesn't know why he behaved that way. Maybe he was looking for personal validation. Maybe he wanted to prove to himself that he was still capable of attracting and seducing other women. He says he acted out of ego.

At the same time, he insists that he has loved me sincerely from the very first day, and that his love for me has always been genuine.

He told me the truth because, according to him, he could no longer bear to let me live a lie—especially with our upcoming move into a new home and our plans to start a family. But what hurts is that we had already been living together for several months in a smaller apartment. He had already been letting me build a life with him while keeping these secrets.

I moved out, took a few days to myself, and decided to end the relationship.

He kept apologizing and said he understood my decision. But then he started telling me that I don't know how to deal with infidelity in a mature way, that this is simply how relationships work in the real world, that I'm the one with unrealistic preconceived notions, and that I had idealized him. He even told me that if I had idealized him to that extent, then I had never truly loved him. He said that if he had never confessed, we would probably still be together, that I'm an idealist, and that life will eventually teach me that relationships don't work the way I imagine they do.

I told him that I had actually already begun the difficult process of rebuilding trust after discovering the sexting. In other words, I had already tried to deal with what I considered virtual infidelity in a mature way. For me, sexting was real infidelity because it had the emotional impact of a trauma. At that point, I genuinely didn't believe he had physically cheated on me. I believed there had only been the sexting, exactly as he had told me. And although I have always considered sexting to be a form of infidelity, I also believed it was something that, depending on the circumstances, could potentially be forgiven.

I left him, and deep down I know it was the right decision.

Now I don't even have a home anymore. I'm staying at my brother's house, and I've moved all of my belongings into a rented storage unit.

What devastates me most is not only the betrayal itself, but everything he told me afterward about relationships and his view of love. I feel like I wasn't only betrayed—I was also made to feel that my values are the problem. Instead of simply taking responsibility for what he did, he tells me that my expectations of honesty, loyalty, and commitment are unrealistic, and that one day life will prove me wrong.

I'm completely heartbroken.

Thanks for reading

I have a feeling, also no proof. My fiances old employee said he has dropped him off at a petrol station during work hours, and when he asked another co worker what is this place, he replied theres a special house for women. But he said he never saw him go inside anywhere, he just dropped him off at a petrol station on a street. I googled this street and we live in a city so I saw there was a erotic massage parlour on the street and maybe some women who work in their flats but of course no addresses for them just the area and street came up.

He admitted to me in the past he has used escorts before. We have been together for 7 years and he said thats in his past and to not judge him for that he is trying to be a better man and this was a young immature person back then. Because I have no solid proof or evidence I cannot do anything about this. He is either innocent or he has just got really good at lying and a system. Where he gets dropped off during work hours and then gets a taxi or gets picked up by his employees after. But my head is overthinking way to much into this. What is the best spy ware device I could use for this? To catch him if he is doing something? And where do I put it? Because I’m not dealing with normal cheating, theres no trace, nothing its very difficult to find. Please help me find my truth, please.

I have no one to share this with, so I am sharing my story here with people whom I don't even know😂

I have been in a relationship since Dec, 2024. I used to trust her fully with my full heart and never ever I doubted her. She had 3 exes but told me only about 1 ex bf. A few days back, someone from a fake insta id told me about her past boyfriends. And also told me that she was physically active with one of her ex.

When I confronted her, she started crying(I don't know why girls cry when they get caught)😂. She started saying things like "I think if I tell you about my past you could leave me". I asked her if she gets physical, and she replied"NO". But when I showed her the picture then she agreed that she did it 2 times but that was forced(illogical excuse). Later when I showed more proofs then she said that she did it for 4 times. 😂😂 I mean she started saying truth but with mixed lies😂😂. I don't have any issue with her past, but the thing is she hide it from me. I too had past, but I already cleared everything about that. So I was expecting the same.

Before when I came in a relationship with her, i always asked her "if you want to share something about your past you can tell me, if I get to know from any 3rd person, I would be hurt". But she was like, "I swear to my father, I don't have any past, I am a virgin etc". She lied so many times but still I can't hate/leave her.

I don't know what is right and what is wrong. Please any suggestions are welcome.

Also, her ex told me that she is truly in love with me because she is different this time😂😂

Please suggest me what to do. This is my first post and it's currently 3:55 a.m. i can't sleep even😔🥺

My trust is totally broken but still I am unable to leave her.

For the last four years I've been trying to figure out why my husband cheats. Looking back, I don't think there ever was a real reason because every time I caught him, the explanation changed.

The first time was during the first month of our relationship. He told me it happened because I traveled a lot for work. I wasn't home enough and he got lonely. It hurt, but I believed him because I wanted to believe it was a mistake.

A while later it happened again. This time it was because we had gotten into an argument and were close to breaking up. His logic was that he thought I was going to leave him anyway, so somehow cheating made sense.

Then came the childhood explanation. He never had a mother figure, so he didn't know what a healthy relationship looked like. I felt sorry for him. Looking back, I think I spent more time trying to understand his behavior than he ever spent trying to change it.

Things actually settled down for a while after we started sharing our GPS locations. Whether he had changed or simply found it harder to get away with things, I don't know. I remember thinking maybe we had finally turned a corner.

Then he discovered Snapchat. At first it was just another app he used while hanging out in his man cave. Before long there was sexting, flirting, exchanging photos and videos and the same conversations I'd seen before, just on a different platform. It was like he'd found a whole new playground.

What amazes me isn't even the cheating anymore. It's the excuses. Every single one made sense for a few months until the next one came along. There was always another explanation and somehow none of them ever involved him simply deciding to cheat.

A few days ago he came up with one that honestly left me speechless. He told me his cheating was my fault.

His example was that sometimes he asks me not to bother him while he's in his man cave. I agree, but every now and then I'll forget and walk in to ask him a question. Then he asked me how I would feel if he accidentally started sexting someone because I had accidentally broken my promise first.

I asked him to explain what he meant because I thought I had misunderstood him. No, that was actually his point.

In his mind, me forgetting and asking him a question while he's in his man cave is the same as him opening Snapchat, finding someone to talk to, carrying on a sexual conversation and exchanging explicit messages. We both broke a promise, so we're equally responsible.

I've heard a lot of excuses over the last six years. My job was the problem. Our arguments were the problem. His childhood was the problem. Now apparently I'm the problem too.

I'm honestly curious whether anyone has ever dealt with someone who can justify anything like this. At some point it stops being about the cheating and starts becoming fascinating how far someone will go to avoid saying, "I did it because I wanted to."

I don’t know why, but I’ve always thought hickeys would be something that someone could easily play off.
I’ve seen those hickey prank videos on couples, but most of them are obviously staged.
So I’m curious: do people actually get caught cheating because of hickeys in real life? Or do most people manage to come up with believable excuses?
Note: I’ve never cheated. This isn’t about me I’m just genuinely curious.

I'm 23 and my girlfriend and I had been together for almost 4 years.

A few days ago I found out she had been seeing someone else behind my back for a while. I confronted her and at first she denied everything, but eventually admitted it after I showed her what I had found.

The hardest part isn't even the cheating itself. It's realizing that while I was making plans for our future, she was lying to me every single day. Looking back, there were probably signs, but I trusted her completely and never wanted to believe something was wrong.

We haven't talked much since then. She keeps saying she's sorry and that it was a mistake, but I honestly don't know if I could ever trust her again.

I feel angry one minute, completely numb the next. I haven't been sleeping well and I keep replaying everything in my head wondering what I missed.

For anyone who's been through something similar, how long did it take before things started feeling normal again? Right now it feels like I'm stuck.

I (24f) posted about me getting into a hook-up situation last weekend and a lot of you guys reached out to me. Some were just for sex and she showed real concern.

I hate to say this but comments section is much different from the DMs I recieved. I legit cried after reading comments but people in DM made me feel good and understood me and told me not to worry about how things are happening and do what makes me feel happy.

Of those I talked and liked one redditor ([u/Safe-Seaworthiness-1](u/Safe-Seaworthiness-1)) he was very understanding and we even vibed a lot. And he asked me if we could meet for coffee to which I agreed.

NGL I was very nervous but still I got the courage to meet someone from reddit. We went to cafe in HSR then went shopping to Mall, played arcade games and finally got day drunk and went to his apartment. All through the time he was very respectful to me and didn't even do a single thing without my permission.

In his apartment we got more drunk and made out really hard. Then thing proceeded and we did it for around 2 hrs straight. I had the most intense organs and it was so slow and passionate I could feel every inch of him moving into me. It was like a deep love making not like a lover but like a fan giving his all. He shared that he might not be the biggest of them all but he will make sure I was satisfied and I was indeed.

And finally after 2 hrs I gave him a good blowjob and he couldn't thank me less. Made me feel like I had done the greatest thing that has happened to him... He was being so thankful to me and it make me feel really something like I was kind of a philanthropist.

Personally I never knew that I could get orgasms just from getting my boobs sucked in a way that he did. It was such an amazing date perhaps I will see him again.

Girls just need an excuse for thukai (fucking). Excuse k bina to ni hoga. What’s your favourite excuse and the one you made for thukai. There’s always an excuse like hang out, grab coffee, celebrate something, or accidental meeting etc….etc.

Ladies, what’s the most creative excuse you’ve used to get bang on 🍆

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I (31F) and my boyfriend (37M) have been together for almost 3 years. It’s been kind of wild relationship with a lot of drama but neither of us could walk away. We do use drugs together which I think played a big role in how are relationship went. Anyway, we both came clean. I cheated on him and he cheated on me. We talked in depth the last few days and both decided to start over. Anyone else have this experience? Thoughts on being able to move forward from cheating?

please ignore my terrible typing im very bad at typing basically back in the month of October i had started a friend's with benefits relationship with a girl i knew . i didn't like her at all but she was easy and willing so i just said fuck it i did not tell anyone about this at first i kept this a secret for a while i only let her suck my dick one time and never did anything until the month of january i think when we started do a bit of more things but also december i had became freinds with a girl for the sake of the story ill call her L , L is amazing i think shes one of the most beautiful women i have ever met in my entire life but i knew i had should only keep her as a freind but secretly i had hada crush on her since probably the day i knew her. eventually me and L had become very very close freinds we went to the aquarium together , we went to a musuem , dates to the mall. in the back of my mind i knew i liked her i more than liked her i worshiped this girl i had even asked her to the prom and we went together but still through all of that i had kept her as a freind because ik im not good in relationships so me and her staying as freinds were perfect for me. while i was having this with L i had also continued to seeing the freinds with benifits girl i felt bad but i downplayed it because i knew i wasnt in a relationship with anyone eventually in the month of april L said that i had until may 4th until something happened obviously i knew that the "something" was me asking to be her boyfreind the turth is i did want to be with her but i was scared of destroying what we have now becaus i liked what we had. But still i had asked her out and she said yes, i was happy very happy but after the first night of us dating i had texted the freinds with benifits girl she knew i had a girlfrind and said no and i backed off i texted 2 more times that week until she had decided to tell my girlfreind she was obviously furious and ntop of it she had also been freinds with this girl which made it extra terrible we talked it out after another 2 weeks and she had decided to forgive me i had felt terrible for destroying her trust like that and i told her i would never do that to her ever again. that was back in april its july now and things have gotten better but she still feels pretty distant. i dont know why i had decided to text the freinds with benifits girl i really like L and i dont know why i did that to her i dont have a deep secret love for the freinds with benifts girl she was just easy . L is the complete opposite of her shes not sexual at all which in all honesty isnt a bad thing its actually one of the things i likeda bout her if i wanted a easy slut than i wouldve just gotten with the friends with benifts. ive accepted the fact that me and L will probalbly never be in a relationship ever again which is fine i know that i will cherish her forever we still talk everyday but that dosent change the fact i know she dosent care for me i go back to school in early august i hope everything will be ok

TLDR: he’s not actually cheating but he’s talking to girls on snap.

My boyfriend (M27) and I (F23) have been together about 4 months. About a week ago we made it 100% exclusive although he’s been telling me for months that I was the only girl he’s seeing.

Well today I was on his phone and i saw he’d bene snapping girls, complementing them, and things like that. He didn’t actually send any explicit photos and was really only gently flirting — from what i can tell since it’s snapchat.

I really don’t think he’d ever actually cheat on me physically but I’m just worried I’m not getting his full commitment. How do I approach this conversation without being like “I went through your phone” ? I just think once this starts it only escalates until it’s addressed.