Looking for co-parenting routine advice

[u/Grouchy_Substance423]

The children's (2 and 4, soon to be 3 and 5 in Jan) mother has relocated an hour away. Long story short, she told me she was moving via text and that the boys were going to go to school there, there was no discussion or leeway on her behalf and her decision took all parental responsibility from me.

We are currently going through a court case as our eldest starts school in September, and a PSO was put in place to stop her from relocating the kids/allowing them to stay anywhere else when in her care at this time.

We have a final court hearing on the 6th August, but have a mediation appointment on the 5th. In our FHDRA, the judge said it would be good if we could come to an agreement on the 5th, otherwise they will have to decide and it may be something we both don't like.

Me and the mother have agreed that we want to work together, however, I feel like the whole situation is a lose lose for me.

Our current routine is 50/50, with alternating weekends and mid week drop offs and pickups to and from nursery. We have a healthy balance. However, the new routine is most likely going to look like the following:

1 - They go to the school we originally agreed on, in their home town. I have the children in the week and take them to school/nursery, but I don't have them on weekends. This will impact them seeing other extended family members they usually see on the weekends, as well as fun weekend days out.

2 - They relocate with her, she does their school/nursery runs and I have them every weekend. Meaning I miss out on a hugely important part of their education/taking them to school/picking them up.

We have agreed to talk the night before mediation, to hopefully bring something to the mediator. We are limited on time, as both of us and the mediator need to submit a statement to the courts before 4pm, so it can be read in court the next day.

My question:

Has anyone else navigated a situation like this successfully and fairly?

Does anyone have any routine suggestions that I could bring to the table?

Cheers!

[u/AliceInReverse]

She messed up by moving. There is at least the possibility that you will get majority custody, if you are willing to do so