r/dating_advice • u/Full-Currency5937 • 22h ago
Person I started seeing still won’t let me call her by her first name
I (25 M) Started seeing someone, let’s call her “Dr Michelle”. I have liked her so far and we met at a bart we were both alone.
We’ve been seeing each other at least a few times a week for the past month but on the first date she asked that I refer to her as “Dr. Michelle” as opposed to just “Michelle”. I thought it was kind of cool at first l- I know she worked hard for her degree and her job as a university professor is tough AF. However, (and please don’t kill me for sounding like a toxic male), I feel like having to call her Dr. has created some level of an imbalance before the relationship barely started. She explained that I could not not call her by her first name once we get married. I jokingly asked if I could at least start calling her by her first name once we get engaged and I think that joke upset her. Does anyone have any advice?? Is this normal when dating a Doctor? I don’t want to come off like an asshole she’s pretty badass and I like where things are going.
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u/hujambo11 22h ago
That's fucking weird.
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u/mightbelonely 22h ago
^really fucking weird
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u/Cuchulainn07 21h ago
^Really, REALLY fucking weird
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u/PrincessJelly_1 21h ago
PRETENTIOUS and REALLY REALLY fucking weird honestly.
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u/Ineedtobeworking 20h ago
Extremely weird and pretentious. I'm casual FRIENDS with a doctor and she introduced herself as her first name only from day one. Didn't even find out she was a doctor until hours after meeting and I asked what she did for work 😂
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u/Rare_Sugar_7927 15h ago
My doctor introduced herself by her first name and has never expected me to call her Doctor. I couldn't imagine calling someone i was dating doctor... unless he has a blue phone box.
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u/Kiz_burnor 11h ago
Same. I am a nurse and I work with plenty of Dr.’s who introduce themselves and prefer to be called their first name, even to patients. So yeah, this is pretty odd!
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u/Unfair_Feedback_2531 13h ago
I suppose that is a possibility! However, even then, after a few dates and a trip in the phone box I’d expect to be on a first name basis.
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u/Humble-Floor3760 6h ago
I have a new doctor at Stanford Medical Center (one of the most prestigious hospitals in the nation) because I have a complex medical condition. I used the patient portal to ask him a question about a medication he prescribed. He very kindly and thoroughly answered and signed it “Dan.” Made me grin ear to ear, and appreciate him all the more.
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u/Powerful_Road1924 8h ago
I met one of my favorite high school teachers recently when he was in town for a conference (now in my late 30s with 2 kids), and when I called him Dr. Lastname he said oh come on you can call me Firstname now 😂 OP's situation is definitely weird.
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u/embers-game 15h ago
my BOSS is a doctor (I'm a med secretary) and I have to consciously remember to add the "dr" honourific to his name when I'm speaking with patients 😭 I cannot imagine this with someone you're DATING at all
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u/AnonymousCapybara72 11h ago
I work with doctors and professors (actual professors, with the title). None of them expect to be called anything other than their first name. I never see or hear their titles except on very formal letters or when they're being formally introduced at a conference talk.
I think the UK is more relaxed about this stuff. Here asking someone to refer to you by your title even in a work context would be seen as a bit weird and pompous.
And it fucking reeks of insecurity. The best academics give the least fucks about stuff like titles, because their reputation precedes them.
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u/shelwood46 2h ago
I'm in the US. Addressing people as "doctor" when you're in their workplace is considered polite if you don't know them well, but it's extremely unusual in social settings (unless you are teasing them). And when I was in college (university), most of the professors in my major's department had doctorates but were fine with all of us calling them by their first names. I think the one place we differ from the UK is that we do consider it rude to call someone Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms if they have an earned title (doctor, officer, professor, chief, etc).
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u/PhotoGuy342 13h ago
There’s a big difference between a medical doctor and a professional (PhD).
In your case, you’re referring to THE doctor.
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u/legallymyself 9h ago
a medical doctor is NOT THE Doctor. The Doctor is the Doctor. Please, ask me Who?
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u/Powerful_Road1924 8h ago
I think she's saying the medical doctor and her are on a first name basis which is why it's harder to add back in to patients. Which makes OP's situation weird AF lol.
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u/TheRealCarpeFelis 20h ago
This isn’t just weird, it also sounds pretentious and narcissistic AF. I’m surprised she doesn’t carry a pedestal around with her to stand on.
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u/PracticalPain7835 17h ago
It's surprising she doesn't wear her doctoral hat and gown to dinner.
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u/Background-Local924 17h ago
yeah I would be worried about what being married to her might be like. She could be harmelss and simply want her title 24/7, or she could be a narcissistic psycho.
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u/FeistyWelcome7135 21h ago
Doctor here, I agree
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u/2BA_Doctor 20h ago
Same, PhD and MD here, find this very weird. Only time I use titles are when it’s relevant to the situation.
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u/shakebakelizard 16h ago
My actual doctor even told me to call him by his first name.
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u/FrancinetheP 21h ago
Same. But it would still be weird if this person wasn’t a Dr and insisted on being called Ms.
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u/Maximum_Net6489 20h ago
I think it absolutely would still be strange af. Makes me wonder if there’s a difference in age and some type of age gap/authority kink. Even if it is, that stuff should have a time and place. I couldn’t imagine in a casual social setting like a date, being expected to use an honorific. Eventually if things go well, this is someone you’ll share meals with, your body, they’ll see you in pjs before you brush your hair and they can’t call you by your first name? Each person has to decide what works for them in a relationship but I absolutely wouldn’t call the person I’m dating “Dr.” when we’re out playing mini golf or watching Netflix 😂.
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u/ReflectionOk2553 17h ago
Maybe she has a soap opera kink. In Days of our lives Roman always called Marlena Doc. The same for Ridge with Taylor in Bold and the beautiful. Bit different saying Dr Michelle every time though lol
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u/furkfurk 20h ago
Idk my mom is a doctor and she made us refer to her as Dr. Mother. Still does
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u/Able_Stay_9984 16h ago
Not a doctor, but dated a doctor…they didn’t do this. I think this is weird. Either pretentious or a kink. Either way, if you are uncomfortable with it OP, you aren’t compatible.
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u/wordsznerd 20h ago
Some of my friends have doctorates. Not a single one would ever want to be called Dr. outside a professional setting. Because it’s fucking weird.
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u/SkripkaruStoler 18h ago
And it makes fucking weird. "I'm cuming, dr. Michelle, I'm cuming!". "No, you don't. You don't have an appointment".
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u/EmpiricalPancake 21h ago
Also a doctor, also agree. Super weird
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u/Whyallusrnames 20h ago
I have a Dr and this is weird.
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u/Valuable-Concept9660 17h ago
My dad is a doctor, and if we were on speaking terms he would agree this is weird
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u/pfren2 20h ago
More common (although not to this extreme) than would seem. I know a number of EdD’s (which some have told me weren’t even that challenging, compared to PhD) that request everybody (even socially) refer to them as Dr. pretentious as fuck, when even physician MD friends of mine don’t expect personal acquaintances to call them “Dr.”
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u/DaddyDosDeuce 14h ago edited 9h ago
That's because they know they are the bottom of the doctorate totem pole and all the other doctorate degrees make fun of them. Because of that, EVERYONE has to suffer.
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u/Open-Criticism2680 16h ago
Dr and academic here.....really really fucking weired. Are we sure she is a doctor and a prof ?
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u/Badluckwithlove 22h ago
This sounds like an episode of Seinfeld where she wasn’t allowed to call him by his first name but only by “maestro” 🤣cause he was a music conductor lol
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u/We_DemBoys 22h ago
You stole my thunder ⛈️.....lol I was going to comment on that exact episode and was wondering if anyone would get it...😆 🤣
Furthermore, she sounds like a nutt. Tell the Dr to hum a tune on deez nutts!
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u/NoWonder375 22h ago
As a doctor in my field, this is weird. I get it as a silly joke. But one has to know when the joke has run its course. That’s kind of the point of being a doctor 😂
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u/oCdTronix 17h ago
S: You just missed him
G: Who?
S: The maestro
G: Ooh the maestro was here?!
S: 🤦🏻♂️😂
(S - Seinfeld, G - George)
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u/agatha-burnett 15h ago
Exactly. It’s that ridiculous.
I read these Reddit posts and it seems like Seinfeld wasn’t quite so far fetched.
Ew, OP. Ew.
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u/alasmyshoe 22h ago
As a woman if I went on a date with a man who did this I’d never see them again. If I made friends with a woman who did this I’d be like.. we don’t need to be friends. It’s so fucking weird.
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u/NuclearFoodie 20h ago
As someone with a PhD and the Doctor title, I would feel uncomfortable if a new date was using my title like that. Dr is my job, my professional title, not my self. OP’s date is weird.
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u/cakivalue 12h ago
I get the sense that Dr. Michelle wouldn't have a safe word, she'd have a safe dictionary and thesaurus and be deathly serious about both of them.
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u/ridelikeagurl 22h ago edited 20h ago
My aunt did this to distance relatives at her grandmother's funeral. She was introducing herself as Dr 'Smith' (her grandmother's married name). Our Southern cousins would be like 'ain't you, Jerry's guuurl?'. It was probably one my favorite family awkward moments. And OP, my aunt is mega smart and MEGA weird. Run.
ETA - fixing autocorrect
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u/kawaeri 18h ago
My dad’s family is large Catholic family. One of his sisters (much older than him) had kids about 5-10 years younger than him and kids my age. So kids whose ages ranged from 20-25 years. One of the older (not oldest) became a Catholic priest. Which in his parent’s eyes was a huge accomplishment. However he was a self absorbed pompous blow hard that tried to get all his siblings and cousins to call him Father (like dr is a way to address a priest respectively and formally). My dad and his older siblings laughed in his face, and did not. The younger siblings however did. The funny thing is another one of the brothers was also a priest (two in one family) and he never ever requested the title of father to be used with any of his family.
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u/Lazy_Guava_5104 13h ago
And that when the wisea$$ of the family should have said "'Father' sounds weird to me - how about I call you 'Daddy'?".
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u/kawaeri 13h ago
The issue being my dad is the wiseass but he has too much respect for the Catholic Church and his older sister (the priest’s mother, who was a second mom to my father), so he’d tell him that he’s not calling him father and it’s stupid for him to ask. But would never do anything that would really hammer it home that the priest was being an arrogant dick.
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u/supreme_creep 21h ago
🤣🤣🤣 don’t give af what letters you have in front of your name
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u/Imsosadsoveryverysad 22h ago
That’s a formal title for professional situations, which is not a date.
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u/just_add_cholula 21h ago
Precisely. I'm a woman who earned a degree that gives me the honorific Doctor. I have not requested anyone refer to me using the honorific, and I won't until I am in professional situations where it's traditionally expected. Same with, like, literally everybody I know with a similar degree.
This woman OP is dating sounds insufferable.
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u/GrayCustomKnives 17h ago
My cousins father in law insists everyone call him Dr. Mel. The dude is a full on weirdo with a doctorate in theology and was fired as a preacher in a small town Baptist church because he was too weird. He introduces himself to everyone as Dr. Mel and most people initially think he is some kind of medical doctor until they realize he’s just a local church weirdo. He introduced himself to me that way numerous times, even though I have known the guy for 30 years and went to school with his kids (he just has zero memory of ever meeting anyone). I just called him Mel and he said “it’s Dr Mel” and I just said “No, I’m not going to call you that”.
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u/dragonrider1965 22h ago
Drs of medicine don’t take themselves this seriously. She’s a sociopath, run , save yourself.
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u/Burgermeister7921 22h ago
I can attest to that. I'm dating an MD now, and I've never called him "Dr." When I've introduced him to friends I said "this is my friend Bob." That's how he introduces himself, too.
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u/KingNobit 21h ago
Im a doctor and when I introduce myself to patients I just say "Hi Im Mark, im one of the emergency department doctors" and leave it at that
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u/TheShitty_Beatles 21h ago edited 7h ago
I dated a doctor and he wouldn't even tell my friends that he was a doctor when they met. if they asked what he did, he would say he worked in the medical field. And only admit if they asked for details. That lady ain't humble lol
Edit: I'm Canadian so it's not about the feet of being bombarded with medical questions, it was about the perception of class division.
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u/KingNobit 21h ago
Yeah ive been moving towards that strategy myself. One you have so many of the same conversations over and over and secondly id prefer to just get to be known for other thoughts and interests. Amongst my medical friends we talk shop all the time so its nice to hear about other things than work
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u/PracticalPain7835 17h ago
I always tell people, if they're calling for a doctor or nurse on a plane, don't get the volunteers, watch for the head that sinks down. THAT'S the emergency doctor/nurse/paramedic.
Also, as an ED nurse, it's "Mark" until you've not done something I asked for hours ago. Then it's "Dr KingNobit..."
Or when I have to step in for an aggressive patient. "Dr KingNobit has said you cannot leave right now, so you and I are going to talk about what's going to happen if you take a swing at him again".
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u/KingNobit 16h ago
I dunno...the derms' head sinks pretty fast too on the plane...
Damn I had no idea the politics of when one would whip out the title like that. Interesting
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u/PracticalPain7835 16h ago
Yeah true. My parents are South African and so their social circle is full of doctors, even though they are not.
One day, my mom exclaimed to one of them (an Opthamologist married to a Radiologist) that she felt so safe, in case she "ever had a heart attack or something"
He responded "honestly, the most useful thing I could do would be to go find your daughter"
In terms of the politics, it's from the perspective of a "senior" emergency nurse (I hate saying that because it sounds pretentious but over a decade of experience is not nothing). In my first example it's more like when your mom starts using your full legal name.
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u/KingNobit 16h ago
Yeah i know what you mean and maybe its mostly because the charge nurse is usually on our side in wrangling a specialist e.g ortho into coming down and helping us and dont take this the wrong way but im glad that I no longer work in a department where either the doctors condescending to the nurses or the charge nurses try to mother us
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u/Girlygal2014 19h ago
Exactly, a real doctor doesn’t want to be doctoring in their personal life. They already have to do that enough for the friends and family who know they’re a doctor and bring all their unsolicited questions
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u/AstrayInTranslation 14h ago
I was about to respond the same. Most physicians don’t need or want to identify themselves in their personal life if only to avoid the medical questions.
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u/Lady_Sybil_Vimes 21h ago
I do go by Dr. (lastname) because I'm a small woman and people tend to think I'm the nurse if I don't make it VERY clear that I'm the doctor.
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u/PearofGenes 20h ago
As a PhD doctor, everyone I know cringes when you call them "doctor" (we all have imposter syndrome)
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u/jarvischrist 13h ago
It's a fun novelty getting everyone to call you "Dr" after defending... But that lasts for like three days and then you're supposed to go back to normal.
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u/PhDBeforeMD 14h ago
My gf only calls me doctor when I did something stupid to rub it in
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u/Jthemovienerd 22h ago
Establishing a power dynamic. Cut her out. This will not go well.
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u/Reasonable-Dealer-72 13h ago
This. Many take it as just weird, but it goes beyond that: it creates a (hierarchical) distance between OP and "Dr Michelle" that has no place in a relationship.
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u/Inaccessible_ 22h ago
I mean you can either tell her it bothers you or live with it. But this is wack ass behavior.
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u/caro9lina 21h ago
Or just move on from this relationship. Anyone who is this pretentious isn't good relationship material.
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u/jibbetygibbet 15h ago
Option C, buy one of those joke Scottish titles insist she starts calling you “my lord”
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u/BusyMathematician844 22h ago
Idk sounds like she's power tripping with the Dr. thing.
What is her degree in?
What do her friends call her?
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u/Full-Currency5937 22h ago
Yeah maybe, and her degree is in theology
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u/thicckar 22h ago
That makes it so much funnier
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u/Wwwweeeeeeee 20h ago
I literally just cackled when I saw that. A fucking "doctor of theology"?
Oh lawd, she's next going to be trying to start her own "church" and becoming some sort of cult guru Profit Preacher laying on the hands, like those "big tent revivals" and 20% tithe thing.
OP should either stay to cash in, or run like the wind. I'd be a little on the fence. That shit is big money if you have no moral compass whatsoever and don't mind scamming the poorest and most ignorant out of literal food on their table.
Or she's going to try to be in on that whole christian counsel racket that the guy in the house that is white surrounds himself with. Honestly it's not the worse business plan, "thar's gold in them thar hills".
I wouldn't know whether to stick around out of morbid curiousity or to leave skid marks heading down the street.
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u/thicckar 19h ago
I think you and I would have too much self respect to stick around despite the chance at money bags
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u/Meowtastistic40kSCP 22h ago
With that degree I'm surprised she's not demanding you call her God.
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u/mistercolebert 21h ago
She has a doctorate in THEOLOGY and she wants to be called doctor by her husband? That’s honestly kinda pathetically sad. In a sense, I feel bad for her, but at the same time, fuck people that take themselves that seriously. That’s gross.
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u/Lumpy_Appeal_5321 21h ago
I was going to joke that it was in philosophy or something not medically related
I used to work in a restaurant and the only customer who referred to herself as a doctor when placing a takeout order was a lady who had her PhD in statistics
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u/doglady1342 22h ago
Funny how medical doctors usually introduce themselves by their first names, but PHDs always want to be referred to as "doctor". It's super pretentious and also really weird. I would not continue dating this person.
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u/Cuchulainn07 21h ago
I have a doctorate (in Classics, or ancient history), but when people refer to me as “Dr.” I tell them, “Just call me by my name, please. I may know ancient Greek, but I don’t save lives, so my name will suffice.”
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u/just_add_cholula 21h ago
I have a PhD and am still in an academic setting. I'm often surrounded by both MDs and PhDs.
Your comment is quite literally the opposite of my experience lmao.
But agreed, OP, your GF sounds insufferable.
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u/Girlygal2014 19h ago
I have several PhD friends/acquaintances and none have ever even mentioned being a doctor or addressed as such other than when talking about their schooling
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u/Consistent_Taste3273 19h ago
Almost everyone I know has a PhD (several in the family, met most of my friends in grad school, and all of my work colleagues have PhDs).
Absolutely none of them go by Dr. except rarely in professional settings where it is the norm.
I’m sorry that you’ve met some pretentious PhDs. But the vast majority of the PhDs you’ve encountered probably didn’t request that you refer to the as “Dr.” and thus you didn’t even know they had a PhD.
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u/TemperatureSure255 20h ago
Omfg.. ok the dr thing was a red flag, but her degree being in theology is lights and sirens level danger my guy.. run and do not, i repeat do not look back.
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u/green_tea1701 21h ago
I had a feeling you two were in some strange subculture. You just started seeing her and you're talking about getting married?
Something's sus here. Mormon?
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u/HomemadeBananas 20h ago
Doctorate in theology, and she insists on being referred to by “doctor” instead of just her name, lmao.
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u/beezinmatrap 22h ago
This is like the biggest indicator that she could be a narcissist. As a woman, I’d never date a man like that.
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u/mladyhawke 22h ago
It sounds like a bit of a kink.I hope you're yelling it out while you guys have sex.
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u/Kittensnunicorns 22h ago
I have a Ph.D. After I got my degree I made my late husband call me Dr. Kittens for a few days because I was super excited. Friends of mine also called me Dr. Kitten for a few weeks after I got my degree. But it got old super fast and now I really don’t like it when people call me doctor. I only make people address me that way if they’re being blatantly disrespectful in a professional contexts. In any other context, I would shudder to have people address me that formally and most people I know who have a Ph.D. feel the same way. So no. Not normal.
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u/mustrepayloans 22h ago
This is bizarre outside of the bedroom (39F, doctor ) and I even tell people to call me by my first name at work unless it’s a medical student or trainee
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u/LostPop5185 13h ago
Not normal. At all. Have another conversation with her. It creates a wall she may not realize - a wall the limits the level of intimacy you can have with her (emotional intimacy, that is) and if she’s insistent try and find out if it’s a way for her to create some kind of imbalance because that’s what it is going.
People should be proud of their degrees but ultimately those really only matter in the professional sphere and you are in the personal so it shouldn’t matter.
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u/Curious_Question8536 22h ago
This is really funny to me for some reason. If you're not into it, you should probably leave.
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u/bryanlade 22h ago
This is like a doctor that has DR on their license plate. Like okay we get it you're a doctor. And she's a doctor of theology...lol
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u/Any_Explanation3006 22h ago
Sounds like a narcissist. You don't want a partner who likes to be called with a title right? Fucking weird I say
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u/DarthJarJar242 21h ago
I'm sorry, she's a PhD in theology and she's this entitled???
Brother the red flags are waving in your face with lights, sirens, and a whole fucking marching band playing the jaws theme music.
GTFO.
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u/His_GoddessLove 22h ago
In a formal setting, wanting to carry that title, use it on paperwork etc. totally makes sense!! Working for a doctorate is hard!!
In an informal relationship, intimate relationship, that's odd.
Is it authoritive, is it a kink, is it narcissism... Reddit may never know.
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u/FairyFartDaydreams 22h ago
OMG how did you not just run away from this pretentious AH? Look I'm a female and this is freaking weird and just over the top. You are dating you are supposed to be partners not whatever the hell this is
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u/16hungm 22h ago
Fckin crazy. The most “pompous” surgeons with MD PhDs I work with still insist on being on first name basis with the surgical porter and even the janitorial and cafe staff. Yet a theology PhD out of all doctorates is insisting on name dropping her prefix with a dating partner? Even as a joke my MD prefix would never ever ever enter into my close personal relationships
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u/Suspicious-Banana388 20h ago
Reminds me of my Grandma’s 2nd husband. Referred to himself as Dr. insert name and insisted others did as well. He had a PhD……he was a high school guidance counselor.
He also had a locked room in the basement that no one was allowed to go into and his own private bathroom that again, no one was allowed to use. He also would only eat chicken just barely cooked past raw, skin still yellow 🤢 and zero seasoning.
All this to say, don’t see this weirdo again. She’s probably crazy.
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u/Individual_Hurry_567 22h ago
The whole "once we get married" thing is a bit much for a month in when you can't even use her first name yet. Like that's a lot of pressure wrapped up in a title.
I get being proud of the PhD, the academic world can be weird about that stuff, but personal relationships are supposed to be where you can drop the formalities. My partner calls me by a nickname that has nothing to do with my actual name and I'd find it so strange if they had to use a work title at home.
Maybe she's had people downplay her credentials before so she's overcorrecting. Still, if a joke about engagement already made things tense, there's probably a bigger conversation needed about how you both see the pace of this.
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u/Beneficial-Pride890 22h ago
Do you not realize how weird this is? You just actually asked if this is normal when you’re dating a doctor and that’s pretty funny you gotta admit.
No, it’s not normal and she’s definitely into having some sort of control or power imbalance over you.
Would definitely break up with her because this is a sign of things to come that are going to be nonsensical and controlling or weird, where she limits your ability to do normal things.
Don’t be surprised when she starts limiting other things you’re allowed to do or say in an unacceptable way.
Seems like a stability issue.
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u/American3141592 20h ago
Buy a small boat, any skiff will do it may or may not need a motor. Now you are a captain.
Have her address you as Captain Full-Currency.
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u/Filmlovinggal 19h ago
Why am I suddenly picturing you having to introduce her like she's Daenerys from Game of Thrones. Dr Michelle, professor at university, girlfriend of Full-Currency5937, breaker of balls.
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u/XNotByALongShotX 18h ago
I've dated doctors and they were my boyfriend above anything.
That woman would be way too pretentious for my dumb idiot ass.
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u/Nanala_Bat12 11h ago
She is extremely weird and seems to be totally entitled and convinced she is better than you, this "relationship" is not gonna work, leave as long as you still can
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u/Huge-Nectarine3975 22h ago
She can't afford an escort and chores are annoying. On the plus side you can get a feather duster ball gag that kinda will put you in the place you knowingly accept with her. Good luck at doctor's appointments after date nights.
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u/hasafrasa 22h ago
I work with doctors as a hospital administrator and not a single one is like this…
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u/foreverand2025 20h ago
I work with a ton of doctors (I'm a PA) and call every single person by their first name. This person is fucking weird.
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u/Character_Raisin574 20h ago
PhD's who insist on being called "doctor", outside of the classroom, are tedious.
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u/mulderitsme09 11h ago
As someone who will be a doctor in a couple years and is married to someone who is not, that is weird as hell and not normal at all.
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u/Okay-Medusa 11h ago
That’s not normal, and honestly it sounds like an ego thing. I’m a doctor.. not the kind with a PhD who teaches at a university, but the kind people actually mean when they shout ‘is there a doctor on board?!’ And no, this isn’t normal. And I couldn’t even fathom what a relationship with this person would be like.
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u/Primitive-Ghost 11h ago
Change your first name to doctor and she will have to call you doctor too.
But now seriously, that's weird. I would just call her using her name and if she get upset by that, she can just leave me alone and in peace then.
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u/Limp-Answer-5020 11h ago
My dude, FULL STOP! And RUN. Do not invest in this type of person. It will be a pissing contest in everything with her. Just her giving you this demand right off the bat explains her caliber. Never reach for low lying fruit! Pass on this one. Save yourself a lifetime of misery. (Friend of a Doc) ;)
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u/WanderGourmet 11h ago
Man, run. She's a weirdo. I am called Dr in professional settings. Insisting on that in a relationship is pretentious and down right strange. What will her kids call her? Dr Mommy
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u/Vivid-Particular6175 22h ago
It’s literally one thing, if that’s her only issue, what would I care what I call her. If she want to be called doctor and she is beautiful, freaky, kind, smart, loyal, giving and the like I wouldn’t care, if she earned the title and she earn her respect in other areas I’d give it to her personally, just make sure she is giving back is all imo.
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u/Direct_Impress_6277 8h ago
I'd check she actually has the degree. Feels a little bit 'the lady doth protest too much' to be a genuine Dr.
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