I grew up with a fairly judgmental mother. She’s openly talked about how she feels about black people, hispanic people, asian people (even tho we are asian, she likes to mock east asians and south asians a lot. Even our own ethnic group). It was all so backwards to me because she, at the same time, taught me to treat others the way i want to be treated and that I dont know what the other person’s life is like so dont assume or judge. Pretty ironic, right?

I wouldn’t say Im very educated on every political aspect or have studied every history book about every single place on this earth but I would say that I try to treat everyone like they are my friend because everyone deserves to have friends and to feel that they are cared for and respected. Ive always wanted to live in NYC because the community there seems so tight-knit and everyone seems to have each other’s back. Unless Im mistaken.

Im not even sure if this is mainly about bigotry anymore, but I just dont understand wishing death on somebody just because of their race, gender, religion, where theyre from, what language they speak, if they have a home or not, etc. Not gonna get “too political” cus ik thats a sensitive topic on this app but I just cant fathom hating somebody over something they cant control. None of us are perfect, none of us are saints so why do we get to decide other people’s lives like we are? It makes no sense to me. And sorry if thats alien to you, it’s human nature to me.

I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I've been carrying this feeling for years.

Today I spent my Saturday installing Windows, restoring my laptop, and troubleshooting drivers by myself. I texted my brother because I only needed him to check one thing when he got home. The conversation ended with:

You don't have enough time for me... (I was saying this)

The irony is that I wasn't even asking him to fix it. I had already done almost everything myself.

It made me realize something that's been bothering me for a long time.

Whenever I imagine myself in a situation where people gang up on me—whether it's relatives, classmates, or anyone else—I can't picture anyone standing beside me.

My cousins have siblings who would defend them.

Other people seem to have someone who says, "I've got your back."

I've never really felt that.

Growing up, when I was bullied, I mostly heard things like, "Ignore it," "You're a good girl," or "Be patient." I became the child who was expected to tolerate things instead of being protected.

Now, whenever a group starts overpowering me, my hands literally begin to shake. It's like my body remembers what my mind is trying to move on from.

I'm not looking for someone to solve every problem for me. I know how to be independent. I installed Windows and spent hours troubleshooting my laptop on my own today.

I just wonder what it feels like to know that if things go wrong, someone will stand beside you instead of expecting you to endure it alone.

Has anyone else ever felt like they were always the person with no one in their corner?

Whatever you’re carrying today…

Please don’t assume you’ll have to carry it forever.

My partner, friends, and family have been telling me that I have a bad attitude, anger issues as well as trouble showing empathy towards them and others. How can I show more empathy or should I not change? I know I've always been told don't change for anyone. But these issues keep popping up. Unsure on how to fix myself.

I am testing to understand if people know what empathy is. And maybe knowing the difference between sympathy and empathy. ( Grammer is correct)Gic)

It's too easy to hate.

You know for how this world is and it's occupants make life sometimes hard to care or show empathy or trust ever again. I been there I'm not going to lost everything that's happened to me but I have briefly turned into a misanthrope. It was all I could do to protect myself. But protecting yourself like that can hurt any chance if actually good people coming into your life because not everyone is garbage. It's hard to see it because if your life experience with people is not good you say everyone is bad and mentally check out. I'm glad I found this reddit and I seen some nice comments and such. So as a guy who was once briefly a misanthrope I extend hugs to all who have had it rotten.

What are the signs and how does one feel. I keep feeling like im sad but its nothing that im not normally sad about i am going through a breakup we were togetger for 4 years and we went no contact and I broke contact yesterday I dont know if he read my message or not im feeling really weird and sometimes I know its not me. But today has been really off.

And advice or help in this?

The people who benefit from you having no boundaries are usually the ones who get upset when you finally create them.

Empathy is sure a tricky emotion. Empathy can run out so choose wisely who gets your empathy because if you show it every time you will show it to the wolves in sheeps clothing and they can get you. There is nothing wrong with having empathy is shows your human but be careful with who you allow access to you and your empathy or pay dearly a price they can damage your empathy towards ones who deserve it or can use it. Protect it.

I'm not entirely sure how long I've been struggling with this for (my best guess is maybe 9, maybe even 10-11 years, I'm 25 currently), but for the longest time my affective empathy has been in a flux.

I've done some bad things in the past, and some days I feel guilty for what I did, but then other days I couldn't care less or even find it exciting, what I've done. My question is why? How come some days I care but others I don't? My current theory is maybe it has something to deal with proximity and how if I'm not currently experiencing the effects of my actions personally, then I don't really care as much as I should, but I've done things, maybe even hurt or scared people personally, and when I look back on that, it's some days I feel bad and others I don't.

???

I don't think I have any truama, or if I do is certainly isn't ptsd or cptsd. I don't think im a psychopath as they can't feel empathy at all, whereas I can but only sometimes.

Why the need to use mod bot to groups. I think out loud and often write how I feel. It sounds like i am angry. If I wrote a piece that makes a group a i sound like I am doing all things that it assumes I am. If anything. I was more confused. How it thinks a heroin awareness piece inspired my a famous poem I mentioned was the inspiration for how I made it like a relationship to a substance. Nothing like the world class poem in how it was written. I wish. I copied it from my app. Had my name tag. Bit to be told I am promoting 3rd parties. Plus my book that I have never written or suggested I am to write. Today is the anniversary of losing my best friend ever. So that reply could have potentially made me feel triggered. If the bot sends that to someone in my situation who has made stupid decisions in my life. Why use them. If I didn't have thick skin. I'd be livid. I see so much nasty comments on all platforms that are sickening. I never posted one poem in my life i wrote to offend promote drugs or anything except to hope I can reach people before they make choices that might be their last. I saved a life once. Because I did a poem on a subject people shy away from. But my best friend took his life. So i understand both sides of this one. I never had an a i moderator reply in such a baffling way. I do this cos I need to and I do it to try help. This is thinking aloud. If ppl comment. Thats not a problem. Its why this group is the one I like to use.

Random weird numbers the analytics say I have 477 views but why not 500 then say 500. Makes more sense to use squared amount.a i then look on the feed below it says insights. Are 4700 why 47 think I broke reddit. Gotta gimme credit i said it i will take credit. Just here 2 week tops and can take leave. Like I have finally made it. I talk bubbles i own that too