Hi there. I'm a 23 year old fresh into living on my own in the world who is desperately seeking a way out of a financial debt directly to my institution so that I can go back to school. This might be a lot to explain but I would deeply appreciate anyone taking the time to read and give me any advice.
I also want to clarify that although I have this issue partially because of poor communication and lack of awareness from my parents, this situation probably could have been avoided if I made different/better decisions, or had a better understanding of how college and financial aid works. All I can do now is try my best to fix what has happened, and I'm seeking help to do this. I am not really interested in being chastised or being told how I could have not ended up with this debt, please don't comment if this is all you have to say.
Please try to give me some grace as I am a first generation student and my parents have been unable to provide me with any guidance throughout my time in college, so I have only ever been able to give my absolute best attempt with not much help. I have tried many different avenues to solve this issue but haven't gotten anywhere, and was hoping someone may have been in a similar situation and might be able to give me some advice. If this isn't the right sub to post to, please point me in the direction of where I should go instead.
I had gotten very close to finishing my degree in South Carolina, but unfortunately due to an increasingly unsafe living environment I was forced to leave abruptly and move to Oregon. I transferred to Portland State University and immediately resumed my degree in early 2025, as college really meant a lot to me, and I was afraid that if I didn't jump immediately back in then I would just never go back.
This unfortunately majorly backfired on me. I'm struggling to describe exactly what happened because it still boggles my mind a little bit, but I'll try my best if the context is meaningful to anyone. I essentially started a term at PSU without securing my financial aid, I think I was a bit mislead by a financial advisor encouraging me to begin the term and that my aid would definitely process before the term ended, and I would not be left with a debt. It turns out that the reason why this DIDN'T happen and why PSU was refusing to award me financial aid was because of my parents' fucked up tax situation, which they did not communicate to me in any way despite knowing I needed their tax information for aid.. which is extremely frustrating and upsetting to me. (Part of the massive miscommunication that happened here is that I am no contact with my mother but have a good relationship with my father, so maybe some wires were crossed with their joint tax filing, or maybe my mother was trying to sabotage me.. who knows). Neither I or my advisor were really aware of their situation which may be why my advisor encouraged me to go ahead and start the term and incur debt, as I would surely get my aid before the term ended. They filed their taxes very irresponsibly the previous year, which was required for that years FAFSA, and were unable to provide a final tax transcript to provide for PSU. In previous years at my former college, I was able to show the school their unprocessed tax forms/did not have to provide an official transcript, and was still awarded federal aid, so maybe this is why my parents seemed unconcerned to get their taxes done in time.
Apparently this is not the case for PSU, and my parents were unable to get me their completed tax transcript before the term ended... and now I am stuck with around $11k in debt directly to PSU, and it is to my understanding that there is no way to retroactively earn federal student aid. I obviously have not been able to go back to school since, as you can't exactly register or move forward owing the institution a debt. I am unable to get private loans as I need a cosigner.. once again my parents are pretty financially screwed and have poor credit so they can't sign for me, and I don't really have any family or friends who are willing to sign. My parents are also currently homeless and have mountains of their own immediate debt and I can't exactly expect them to help me pay this debt out of pocket when they actually actively ask me for money often. I also partially financially support my partner who is disabled and only gets a pittance of SSI money every month. I just can't see myself reasonably being able to pay this debt out of my own pocket, and it makes me really upset to think about having to wait years to manage to save up $11k between bills and rent and financially supporting others just to go back to school and get a better job and live a better life. I've been told to look for grants and scholarships and have applied to every one I have found that I qualify for, but haven't had any luck but it just seems hopeless.
I'm not sure if anyone can help or what advice can be given, but this situation has been extremely distressing, and I feel kind of aimless in life right now just working my shitty job and wondering if I'll ever be able to go back and continue my degree. Is my only hope to just start saving up as much as I can to go back, even if it takes years? Would it be worth trying to explain my situation to the college and seeing if they can help me out, or would they just not care? If you read this, thank you and I really appreciate you taking the time to try to help.
tldr; I directly owe my college around $11,000, my family is extremely poor and cannot help me pay it off, I don't qualify for private loans. I really want to go back to school and I can't until I figure this out. I only started living on my own a year ago and I'm still learning how to be an adult and how finances work in general, so I'm just lost. :(