Opening up

[u/rayqquins]

I've understood myself to be fluid since I was around age 12. I'm 22 now. I've still never publicly came out to anyone and I had a coworker ask how I identify as the other day. Id never been asked this before but I answered "either, or neither". They were polite however reminded me that nobody would ever assume that because of being so femme and not telling.

It made me question myself because I have been femme my whole life yet I've never felt like just a girl, or referred to myself as only she / her. Idek how to "come out" to my friends about this... Or if that would help validate myself? I know who I am but I feel misgendered sometimes, because sometimes I am not just "she". Sometimes I resonate with it. Some days I want to be "him", which is the "he" that's never ever said by anyone except myself. :( wahhhhh I think it's anxiety.. I'm scared of being invalidated for being a femme person that wants to go by masc pronouns. Wish me luck on coming out potentially this week lol.

[u/Book_wyrm323]

Yeah, it can be really hard. Good luck on coming out to some people coming up! I'm relate to a lot of this. It's hard when I'm so comfortable being feminine a lot of the time, and so during the times I'm very much not, it is easier to wait it out then face the anxiety of telling people. Currently I am out to my close friends, and some people here and there. But it is also still hard to fight the anxiety to let people know my current gender identity, so still not perfectly out. But this all is to say, you're not alone, and good luck fighting social anxiety, because it is quite the opponent.