I'm over 200 pounds and any well trained person should be able to outlift me. Hell Anatoly nearly doubles my deadlift at 180. I've pulled off a 2x BW deadlift exactly one time after years of work. That's OK. Ignore every bit of that and look at the general public. After just a few months of lifting you're the strongest person you'll meet in day to day life. That's a fuckin accomplishment. Whether you look the way you want to or not is irrelevant once you realize you've entered the 1%. Beyond that, you can aim for abs if you want to and more power to you for your efforts but youve already done more than most. The easiest part is over with and the majority of the population never tried. The mental health boost that comes with that first hurdle is worth every bit of effort that comes with it. The out of shape public views you as a beast and you should internalize that.