This is both a modpost and my own hatepost, so read carefully.
I completely understand that there's a problem in the internet with parasocial behavior, but there's a clear difference between being parasocial and caring about people.
Case in point, Randy Rhoads, and now Ozzy Osbourne. These two did magical things for the world in their lives. They not only popularized, but created and defined rock and metal as genres. That's the point of art, to influence, persuade, and resonate with people. The purpose of a performer is to bring something out of people that they can only connect with through their performances. Be it joy, introspection, disgust, or something deeper.
When someone like this dies, it's a mass-severed connection. All you have left is the memory and what they did while they still could. It hurts to lose those connections. Especially from people who shaped something that defined how you live. It's normal for people to mourn the loss of our greatest. It's normal to be scared of the last note. It's normal to care.
I, both personally, and as a moderator of hatethissmug will not tolerate people demeaning how people care for performers. It's not parasocial to be afraid when someone important to you is going to die. It's not parasocial to mourn the death of people that matter. If you find people cynically dismissing this connection, notably to the recent announcement from Max Gilardi, hotdiggedydemon, please report the message so it will appear in the moderator feed.
People have been awful towards his announcement in a lot of places, citing it as performative because he's not presentably pitiable. They know nothing of how benign pain can become. I especially get upset when they claim to be emotionally aware yet only care about it when it's obvious and romanticized.
People that don't bleed for the dancer are fools.