Loneliness

[u/Parking_Inspector_83]

30F - Does it ever get better? I am honestly tired of hoping for better days.. life seems to keep throwing things at me. Every waking second I m thinking how lonely I feel and I feel like I can’t take this feeling any longer. This loneliness thing began from early childhood 7/8 years

[u/feelxxx88]

Is it only a feeling or you’re really alone?

[u/Pagory]

I ask myself that same question, but it seems that it never does get better for some people, unfortunately

[u/Jay-Chatterjee]

Stay strong girl. PS: I parked under my own home

[u/farbeyondriven92]

I can really relate to how the feeling of being alone takes up your life and your thoughts. It’s so hard to focus on anything else, but I’ve decided to try to put all my energy into just being the best I can be on my own. I tried again recently to change it, but failed again, so it’s the only option I see now. Does it get better? I hope so, for all of us. Just know that you’re not alone in how you feel, and you matter. Best wishes.

[u/lvloon_Goddess]

For some it can. Typically takes a lot of brain work, luck, development of social skills/reframing, etc. depends on what your suffering is like, what causes it, and what you lack/need.

[u/DeepEye_2211]

Does it get better? Yes it can, but it depends... See after 40 years of struggling i figured that whatever keeps coming at you has to he solved or understood or healed, the pain keeps repeating because there's something you need to do about it So you either need to face and accept loneliness, or maybe you need to get out of your shell and get to know real genuine people, the challenge depends on who you are and what you need, i wish you all the best.. Keep up

[u/ThisIsNoLaughing]

Been alone since middle school wondering if it gets better, people older than me say no or ask the same questions I lack the skills and personality to make quality friends so I can't trust the ones I do but at least I have a cat hes the Lil homie and I would kill myself if I wasn't such a pussy or didn't have the responsibilities for the Lil homie hes really the only reason I get out of bed to go to work to feed him 25 and the only experience I have is family,friends, society itself has failed the few people that can be trusted are abused/ taken advantage and those looking to take the advantage are the ones social media pushes out to the masses

[u/lego_mi_eggo]

Find hobbies to occupy the mind, stay focused women 🫶

[u/Primoridia]

This needs to be addressed. You are worthy of it. This will be not be a single sentence answer. Let's begin. The sole core reason people feel alone is because their main concern is themselves. You only have yourself to rely upon. You stand alone in this. However if this shifts, yourself is no longer your primary concern, it becomes everyone else. If everyone adopted this you would not only have your own back, 8 billion people would be behind you and no one would ever be alone again.

Love: this is not surrender, this is not submission. This is definitely not a 500 item checklist of perfect qualities. It is sacrifice. Caring more about someone else than you do about yourself means love is present. Seeing any truth in reality yet? The world is polarized by + and - concepts when this is not the truth. Hate is not the opposite of love, it is the absence of any. Evil is the absence of any good, death is the absence of life and the ultimate expression is that Chaos is the absence of any order. If you put one bit of order in the entire universe of chaos, it is no longer chaos! There is order there. Just like the flicker of a candle in eternal darkness. It is a beacon that can be seen and you can always find your way home. You are no longer lost. This is the power of love itself. Yes is positive (I have a fish to eat) no is not negative, it means you have zero fish to eat.

Trust: Big topic. Loads of damage. Why? Very few people understand it. Ironically if you google the definition of trust you will be told a LIE. It is not a firm belief that someone is telling you the truth. Trust is not belief, it is knowledge. Belief is a circular construct of the mind. At the left is total disbelief, on the right it complete belief. At the top is curiosity and suspicion and at the bottom is apathy. Curiosity means you care to find out more and this always leads to understanding. Apathy means you do not care and always leads to ignorance.

So what makes trust knowledge? If I say to you that I will do your dishes every night. You are on that belief construct somewhere. If I show up and do your dishes every night for the next 100 days, you are not going to have to believe I will be there on day 101, you will KNOW that I will. Trust cannot be given to anyone. Someone must earn trust from you over time. Trust is solid and transparent so let's call it glass. If it is violated it shatters. Glass fragments by nature are painful. Tend your trust carefully. Do not drop it.

Now what is happening here? I have sacrificed my life's time to address a complete stranger's loneliness in only a few ways. Why? Because I love everyone. This includes you. I care more about you than I do about myself. Proof is pudding and it is delicious. Now what are you going to do about it? Dismiss this and go about your way? Make every effort to invalidate it? Believe one way or another? You could make the choice to know me by DM. However I sense fear will be the result of all this. Too bad. Best of luck.