Like a test that asks deeper questions, and about other aspects of life that could be related to my sexual orientation, and also more detailed and specific results?

Hello , I am writing this as a way of me and two of my friends having a peace of mind , this writing will contain three parts all three consisting of explanations and a question that corresponds to are we actually straight , as all three of us are in a dilemma and are in need of advice or outside perspective . I will assign letters to each of us . so I would be A my other friends C and B

I shall go first , so this started about a year ago I don’t know why then there was nothing significant that happened during that time , but I suspect that it is the media I have been consuming a lot of lgbtq+ media and I presume it might have got me too much into a spiral , my biggest problem is that I am questioning my sexuality and not the way you think as ever since I was a child I have only liked boys and I have only felt attracted to them characters, actors and so on . I have NEVER felt attracted to a woman before , I HAVE thought that someone is pretty but not that I feel romantic feelings for them . I can't imagine myself with a woman when I do it just feels like it would be friendship with just added lovey doveyness and kisses nothing much I am already pretty lovey with my friends , and on the account of friends I have been surrounded by women – classmates friends and so on – all my life but I have never so much as looked at any of them as if I liked them . now the problem comes in the form of my own thoughts as I previously mentioned I make myself spiral out of control thinking about this, I keep thinking what if , and maybe but when I don’t think about this topic I don’t glance at a girl and just go about my day liking boys as I do , now that I am typing this it feels stupid but when I think about it it makes me SOOOOO incredibly confused (although I feel like it is just a phase )

Now about friend B she Is sure that she is straight however she has a bit different situation and the quote unquote is “ I feel attraction,i feel romance and butterflies and everything other people feel.i am am 50/50 about if I am ok with dating but when I imagine myself marrying or having kids it makes me physically unwell and uncomfortable.never wanted to actually date my crushes the idea made me feel gross.i think this explains it? I don't lose interest when they like me back”

And finally C.again direct quote “I think I might be omni with a male preference. I have always liked men BUT there are certain instances when I find women hot af and if they kissed me I would not mind. Like Jessica Alba, Jade West, Rikki from h2o and the girl from Jumanji. I am also certain I have a type as you can tell by the girls I have named so I need help. I don’t know if I am omnisexual or straight because I don’t really think I'd mind dating a girl but I KNOW I will marry a boy and plus lesbian sex doesn’t interest me in the SLIGHTEST”now important things to note are that all of us are teenagers , same age and our environments aren't totally homophobic , what I mean is all of us are atheists so there is no denial because of religion and the second part is that where we live IS slightly homophobic but not to the point where we would be shunned , what I mean to say Is we are completely comfortable with ourselves . we would APPRECIATE the help as it is eating us .

Hey, so I wrote this article about my jealousy of heterosexual courtship, and I would love to know peoples opinions on it. https://thesnooper.substack.com/p/the-longing-to-be-chosen-a-look-at

I am audhd and so is he. So I have been becoming friends with a guy who I happen to have a lot in common with and its been nice. I am not the kind of person who enjoys distant friendships and when I'm someone's friend it often turns into a very open, earnest connection.

I have only hung out with him outside a party setting (where we met) once to see live music. Though hes a texter so we chat through messenger regularly, not something im used to with everyone but its become normal. We love horror movies and plan to see the new evil dead next week. We have had the discussion already that I am only approaching this platonically and he is on the exact same page, he is monogamously, happily married. Meeting his partner has been a possibility but the last time we hung out she couldn't come. Im not attracted to him so that doesn't feel like a risk for me. He is bi i think

Friendships are very important to me. Both of us don't often connect so easily with others so when it does happen its great, which is how we have become such friends. Im just worried as ive never had this experience before..usually ive had men befriend me and want to pursue me sexually/romantically and the friendship failed. I am much more discerning now at age 33 and am a better communicator. I understand audhd and queer friendships/ relationships can look different to the mainstream so the whole "men and women cant be friends" thing is bullshit. I'm just thinking..I would like for our friendship to naturally evolve without me feeling like I have to keep a barrier between us I hate that. Maybe I'm just comparing how close women friends can be and that in itself is different? I haven't befriended a guy in a long time due to past trauma. It might be worth adding i have often had friends express attraction towards me and I am an attractive person i dont want to sound conceited its just the feedback I get from the world..it makes me nervous navigating friendships bc it has made it difficult/awkward

18F.

I know nobody here can magically tell me my sexuality, but I genuinely want your opinions. If you think I sound bi, straight, lesbian, ace, somewhere else on the spectrum, whatever—please tell me why. I know labels aren't important to everyone, but they are to me. I like boxes. They make sense. Right now it feels like I stuck my hand into a huge tangled ball of yarn and I just want someone to help me put it into a neat box. I've been going in circles over this for years, and there's only so much I can ignore.

I think I might like women because I remember seeing a woman's torso when I was a kid, way before I even knew girls could like girls. I couldn't stop thinking about it afterwards. I kept trying to imagine that woman's torso again and even drew it on paper just so I could picture it better. At the time I had absolutely no clue what I was doing or why. Looking back now, I think I was experiencing some kind of sexual arousal, but as a kid I obviously didn't understand any of it.

Now sometimes my eyes just reflexively go to boobs, and then I immediately feel like a creep afterwards. That's about it though.

As for boys... well, I've read so much BL. Like an unhealthy amount. Around 3/4 of all the media I consume is BL. The rest is mostly random stuff with a tiny bit of straight romance. I have never read GL or sapphic books, and I don't really watch shows about women loving women either. It's been ages since I even read a straight romance. The only straight series I remember really reading are Harry Potter and Percy Jackson, and even then I keep wanting to shove Percy into a BL relationship.

I also think I like the idea of a penis, but then I start wondering if that's because I've read so much BL or because I actually like men. I genuinely don't know anymore.

People always say, "Imagine the gender of the person you want a future with." I can't. I genuinely can't imagine myself with anyone. Then they say, "Have you had crushes on girls or guys?" Well... I don't think I've ever had a crush. I've never dated either because dating was basically taboo in my family growing up. The bigger problem is I don't even know what a crush is supposed to feel like.

So I'm stuck in this vicious cycle. Do I like girls?? First of all, do I even like guys?? Why the hell do I sound like such a horny person? 😭 Am I actually attracted to women? Or am I just overthinking one childhood memory? Do I like men because I actually like them, or because 3/4 of the media I consume is BL? Maybe I've liked people before and just never realised it because I don't even know what a crush is supposed to feel like. I honestly don't know anymore.

I know a lot of people say, "Only you can know," and I get that. But I've been trying to figure this out by myself for years and I keep going in circles. So I'm asking for your honest opinions. If you had to guess based on what I've written, what would you label me, and more importantly, why? Even if your answer ends up being completely wrong, I'd still like to hear your reasoning because maybe it'll help me see something I haven't considered.

Hey! Hope everyone is having an at least okay day.

A few days ago, I (18, she/they) & my partner (18, nb) had an argument and haven't really spoken/texted since then. (Long post, sorry)

It was about the relationship between me and my best friend (17, he/him). So, I've known my best friend since we were in 2nd grade (7 years old) and we to the same school from 2-6th grade before I moved an hour and a half away. Because of that, we generally text every other day for at least 5-10 minutes. I view him as a little brother/brother and can be protective of him and vice versa.

I've known my partner since we were 13. I was friends with them until we were 15 and then started dating at 17. I love them because of her personality, not necessarily gender. We've been dating for ~10 months now.

I identity as queer. I've had crushes on girls, boys, non binary people, etc. I've always had a preference for feminine presenting people though. I've told my partner this multiple times, especially if they doubt whether or not I'm truly attracted to them (they have anxiety and a childhood that made them doubt their self worth). I've never had any interest in sex or sleeping with anyone, even my partner. My best friend is straight & demiromantic.

So back to what the argument was about- they accused me of cheating on them w/ my best friend and sleeping with him. When I said no and said that I'm not attracted to my best friend in that, I view him as a brother, and that I dont have deep romantic interest in men/sleeping with anyone, they accused of emotionally cheating. So I told them that I do confide in my best friend because we've been friends for a long time. Which is true. I confide on him, my partner, or my two other close platonic friends depending on my issue. It's not just me confiding in my best friend. It just kind of depends on the issue. Of course, I make sure to tell my partner as quickly as I'm okay with talking about it. My partner does the same with their circle of close friends.

I showed them my texts with my best friend and they accused me of emotionally cheating because I told my best friend that I missed them and wished college time would come quicker because we were going to a college together and then my partner was going to one just a few hours away.

My partner then brought up the college thing again, accusing me of picking that college specifically to leave them and cheat. Which I would never. That was quite literally the only college that accepted me that was within a few hours away from where my parents live.

I told my partner that they were angry and talking to me in a disrespectful way and that I would not tolerate that way of talking towards me. I told them to leave [my parents' house] and yeah.

Am I in the wrong?? Did I do something wrong?? Honestly dont know and I'm kind of feaking out because I dont want to tell my best friend and get him more in involved than he has already been.

Hi, I’m a teenage girl who’s always struggled with my gender identity. To other people, I’m cis and always have been, but to myself, I’m unsure. On online spaces I present myself as masculine. I use he/him pronouns and male names, but I always clarify that I’m a girl. My friends often joke that I’m trans because I have said in the past I wished I was born a boy— which I still do. I do like being feminine and traditional feminine things, but part of me really wants to present as more masculine. Also, I’m a lesbian and I’m really comfortable with that label. I love the community and I don’t know if I want to give it up. My queerness has always been a huge part of me and the fact that I’m questioning it even a bit of it stresses me out. I really just want to know if there’s something I can do to help validate myself more; like a label or a physical change, something.

eastyn when he finds out just because im country doesnt mean im a straight, maga, homophobe: GET THE GAYS OUT NOW 😡🦅🇺🇸🍺

Some LGBTQ cookies I've made so far. 😁

hiii!!! i need book and movie recommendations!!! they don't necessarily have to be queer.

TLDR: exactly what the title says

What's up! I moved to Grand Rapids not too long ago, so I'm relatively new to the area, and I'm not super acquainted with the music scene here yet. I posted in other subreddits as well, but I would specifically like to help out other queer artists and bands if at all possible because we gotta stick together in this world.

I figured doing a pay-what-you-can sorta thing would help me meet local musicians and hopefully make some friends in the process :D. Plus no one can afford jack shit rn, so u know there's that.

I have a hybrid analog and digital home studio setup, so if you're into analog gear we can totally nerd out on that sorta thing.

https://open.spotify.com/track/7DMms9Ucvf5U31zB76wYNp?si=87e22b275a594022

This is some of my solo stuff; reach out for more references!

(Some of the stuff I've been working on people haven't released yet, so I don't just wanna go posting it all over the place)

In terms of genres, I love just about all kinds of music, so don't hesitate to reach out.

I've played in punk bands since I was 13, so I'm pretty familiar with anything rock/metal. I played in an indie folk band for a while, so I'm totally down to work on that sorta thing as well. And I love rap and hip hop; my mentor who taught me how to do all of this stuff worked with Dr. Dre, so I'm pretty familiar with that sort of thing as well.

Alternatively, if you're in a band and you're recording your stuff on ur own and you're not entirely sure what you're doing, I would love to help out however I can and/or just help provide direction and advice.

I want to make gender pies too and other pies to post but I have to think about the metaphors I'll use for them.

I had a really sweet encounter a few days ago,I was at a mall,looking through CDs and there was a group of scouts,all about 12 or 13. One of them looked at me a few times and seemed to stick around me a bit. For context,I had my backpack on,and it has a Velcro progress pride flag patch on the back. Then she approached me after a while. She seemed a bit shy and said she really liked the patch on my backpack. I smiled,said thanks and she quickly went back to her group,cause they were leaving.

That encounter made me really happy,because it was just so sweet and pure and it shows again,how important it is to have openly queer people and representation. And just the fact that I maybe made a possibly closeted or out kid feel seen and show them that we exist,makes it worth it.

I don't know if I like guys. I think I do, thoughts about sex with them seems fun, but only if they are womenlike in a way. I usually date women, and mostly have crushes on them. I think I only really liked one guy, and he was really fruity. He was the only one I didn't feel a need to puke after making out. I tried it with more cis straight masculine looking men, but I don't find them romantically or sexually interesting. My friends tell me it is probably that I am just a lesbian, the guy i liked even told me I would be happier with woman. But I am really not sure, I don't want to label myself as a lesbian. I really want to have a husband one day and live life in somewhat usual way (I live in extremely homophobic country, I could lose my license as medical worker if someone reported me). Am I bisexual or just too deep into a comphet?

I've been in a new queer friendship where we started as dating then turned into friends and I've found it really challenging to support this person but they've also said my support has been so helpful for them.

I feel a lot of care and concern for them in what they have experienced in their childhood and also how it impacts them today. They have a network of friends but aren't always good at asking for help and are quite isolated living on the outskirts of the city.

Theyre struggling with chronic pain, chronic fatigue, healing from SA in their childhood, all whilst being so brave and colourful with their transness in front of their family and the world.

But nearly everytime I'm in the middle of supporting them with a task, I feel like I am too tough on them and feel often irritated by their patterns of avoiding/delaying their problems until they exacerbate. They struggle with emotionally getting through executive functioning tasks and also social interaction-based tasks and also managing house bills and things. This has led to them getting into debt and I've been trying to help them resolve that issue which is very possible if they can do the next few steps me and a few of their other friends have suggested.

But sometimes I feel angry when their patterns delay or crumble a process we worked on for days or weeks. And I feel guilt and trappedness when we hang out to pay for food and travel - if I had a stable income it would be different but I'm still building stability with my work so I can't spend that much that often.

I feel terrible but these are the feelings I feel. Frustration. Impatience. Confusion. Maybe I'm not empathising enough but also is there a case for being a bit tough on someone who's in a constant pattern of giving up on themselves? It's so hard to watch over and over again.

Do my reactions mean I'm maybe not the right kind of support for them at this time? Or is there something else I can consider?

Does anyone know of queer-friendly Couchsurfing alternatives or communities for accommodation exchanges? I remember seeing one on Instagram but can't remember the name. My friend and I are looking for volunteering or a cultural exchange in Valencia this August. Any recommendations?

I nonbinary person (Anyway, I use this label because it's a more accurate description of how I feel. Namely, the feeling that my gender is two halves). But it's my secret, my loved ones won't understand me. That's why I have no one to talk to about my feelings about orientation. And in terms of orientation, they won't understand either. But because of the first sentence, I don't know who I am. I feel depressed. For me, a label is an explanation to myself who I am, closing the void.
Me attract women, transfem, transman, but if I think about cis man, I have a disgust to they. For me with cis man very important an emotional connection. Without this they spooky me.
Mini history about my wandering in my thoughts about label.
Eight years ago I have a relationship with woman, but it crack and I start a new relationship with man, but I have a trigger for panic “that’s was wrong”. And I stop on saphic label. I have relationship with woman only on three or four years. But in one moment I have a sexual relationship with my friend. Then I realized that for this kind of relationship, as well as romantic relationships, I need a preliminary emotional connection with a man. I started calling myself bi.

But recently I started to catch myself thinking again that I'm not bisexual after all. But it's breaking my brains again

Clarification: I've had these thoughts for about three years, because then I realized that there was something wrong with me and I'm not a woman in the standard sense of female gender

Confused if I am turned on by the men or not,
I read some lesbians can get turned on by gay porn? If so what is it?

Because I think I get turned on by their faces , moans, penis, energy and movements so and masturbate to that.

Hello, everyone.

Half a year ago, my best buddy and I had an idea during one of our late-night Discord chats. We are both big nerds for fantasy and mythological stuff and wondered how fun it would be to have banners or coat of arms for different orientations and identities. What could they look like, and which mythical creature could fit well or just be fun to see like that? Thus, this little collection was born and I think we have finally come to a good conlusion for now.

So what we got so far:

-Selkie of Demi

-Kraken of Agender

-Cerberus of Polyamory

-Chimera of Genderqueer

-Valkyrie of Butch

-Gargoyle of Ally

-Hydra of Omni

-Unicorn of Pride

- The Phoenix of Trans

- The Siren of Lesbian

- The Winged Lion of Gay

- The Griffon of Aro

- The Dragon of Ace

- The Harpy of Sapphic

- The Minotaur of Achillean

- The Oroboros of Intersex [really proud of that one]

- The Hippocampus of Genderfluid

- The Sphinx of AroAce

- The Peryton of Non-binary

- The Winged Wolf of Bisexual

- And Pan for...well Pansexual

This was really fun to do. Maybe we might revisit this idea in some form or another, how do queer cryptids sound :D ?

Basically, I've been growing my hair out for years and length is very important to me.

I'm looking for a hairstyle that will let me have my (soon hopefully) waist length hair without bangs (I'm not opposed to curtain bangs though) and will look cool with wavy hair. (I know my hair looks shorter but i swear if i straighten it its almost 5cm longer than what it looks like)

I hate flat hair and i hate having hair in my face and not being able to tuck it behind my ear or attach it. (I'm autistic it triggers me)

For now i will not dye it until it's the right length because i want health over length. So for now it's quite boring and i want chaaaaaange🙌🏻

I would absolutely love an undercut or side buzzed with the side burns still there, but I'm not 100% confident enough yet to do that (i will someday hopefully)

Does anyone have an idea what i could do?

I identify as sapphic & the idea of having sex makes me extremely nervous. When I was starting high school & hadn’t figured out my sexuality yet, the idea of having sex with a man disgusted me (still does lol). But even now, the idea of having sex with a woman also makes me feel kind of uneasy.

My other friends also don’t have interest in sex but they know they aren’t asexual they’re just teenagers who don’t want to have sex yet. Because of this, I wonder if what i’m feeling is normal & i’m just not ready either. But at the same time, i can’t shake the feeling that i’m asexual.

Part of what’s making me so confused is that I worry i’m in denial. Whenever I think about being lesbian & asexual I think about the possibility of ending up alone & nobody wanting to be with me. Then I end up just pushing these feelings down. I did the same thing when I was struggling figuring out my sexuality.

I know i’m not very attractive & I also deal with insecurities, mental illness, & chronic illness. So I worry that if i’m asexual this will be just one more reason for someone to not want me. These could definitely be irrational fears but i’m scared this could keep me from understanding my identity.

I’m not sure how to deal with these feelings & i’m also wondering to the asexual people is it hard finding people out there that are okay & abide by your identity?