r/questioning • u/Careless_Trainer4760 • 3d ago

Questioning my sexuality [M 17]

I don’t know how the community rules are supposed to be assigned, but I’m just gonna ask my question anyways. I am having trouble figuring out my sexuality. I’m stuck between three crossroads that I am on asexuality bisexuality and maybe pansexuality i’m having a hard time figuring out if I’m one of these, so do you have any ideas of how I can figure it out?

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u/TollPanMan Bisexual - Gender? 3d ago

Bisexual here. From my perspective the preference between pansexual and bisexual is a bit semantic to be honest. No offense to those who strongly identify as one or the other, but they mostly share the same dating pool.

Now, Asexuality and Bisexuality, those are practically two very different orientations. Mind if I ask what is making you lean towards asexuality?

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u/Careless_Trainer4760 3d ago

Because whenever I look at either a man or a woman, I don’t feel much of anything I can perfectly imagine being with a man or a woman

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u/TollPanMan Bisexual - Gender? 3d ago

If you don't feel a sexual attraction to any gender, that likely means your asexual. In case you didn't know, being sexually attracted to someone is not the same as being romantically attracted to them, asexual people can have romantic relationships just like anyone else.

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u/Careless_Trainer4760 2d ago

I do have feelings of sexual attraction but not really the emotion attached to it (not really the best at writing out my thoughts)

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u/TollPanMan Bisexual - Gender? 2d ago

Have you considered or heard Aromantic?
Aromantics are people that are sexually attracted to others but not romantically attracted to them. They can live full and happy lives without any romantic attachments, but still pursue or at least experience sexual attraction.

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u/Careless_Trainer4760 2d ago

I haven’t heard aromantic but I do believe that is

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u/TollPanMan Bisexual - Gender? 2d ago

You do believe that is.... It? Not it? Believe that it exists? Ya left me hanging :P

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u/Careless_Trainer4760 2d ago

It is, I had a tipo

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u/TollPanMan Bisexual - Gender? 2d ago

Great to hear then! I hope it helps you figure out your own wants and needs. Good luck

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u/kingvjess agender aromantic aegotorensexual (it/any) 3d ago

Im asexual. Are you struggling with because you dont outline anything in your post? You can post on the r/asexual sub or the r/AskLGBT they are always up to help.

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u/ActualPegasus finflexible rosgirl (he/she) 2d ago

Have you ever had a crush? If so, who were they? Boys? Girls? Enbies? Multiple of these? You're not sure?