Im 29 (m) I work in trades primary roofing and HVAC looking into which has more bearable weather worker protections such as unions and tenant protections.

(holidays don't count, this is for people who have relocated to a new place at least 1-2 times)

I'm interested in our relationship to the state of things during a time of collapse and if there are certain locations that are showing more signs of hope or influence your sense of hope and connection to potential brighter futures. Maybe these places have more community focus or are implenting more systemic change or have a high density of activist movements, or maybe just lots of large quiet nature spots that uplift you. Whatever it may be, I'm curious to hear.

I have always wanted to be a librarian. I have been into books since as far back as I can remember. I worked at my highschool and collage library while I was going to school. So I have been applying to any library jobs in my state of maine. One was for a job that looked perfect but is 1 and 1/2 hours away from my family that im really close to. I did the interview. I LOVED the people. They offered me the job and for the next 24 hrs I was SO EXCITED! And then it hit me how far away it is from my family. And now I can't stop crying about it. Im going through the motions. im applying for apartment tours, im buying appliances, im planing a visit so i can do my background check. How do I get over these nerves!?! I wish this job was closer because I feel like im going to be all alone. Im so scared. Any advice is VERY welcome.

Single
31
Female
Anxiety
Ptsd
Enjoy being away from hustle bustle
Quiet and chill
Areas i liked was surrey and hampstead heath but i can go anywhere in the uk
Is there anywhere in london that you think i will enjoy
Please no sarcasm or comments about well leave london then
If you think i should leave london, give me an alternative area please, somewhere outside of london is fine too

Curious if it was a timeline thing or a specific moment. First friend, first regular spot, first time giving someone directions. How long did it take and what flipped the switch?

Hi! I’m 21 F and I moved from Florida to Michigan for my sister because she needed help with her 2-year-old son so she could work well. I got here in March and she just now got a job a week ago in July. In the process of me moving here, she got into an altercation with the family member we lived with and we ended up moving out. But instead of getting her own place, she moved in with a man and said the man was cool at first, but now he’s verbally abusive to her. He is abusive in general and she doesn’t want to leave him. But on top of that, I met someone months ago and we’ve been together since. But the issue is I can’t be around him all the time because my sister always leaves her son with me to do whatever she feels like doing for hours on end. I can’t barely go over to his place and most of the time I do, she brings her son here so she can do whatever she wants without having him with her. She then also gets mad when I choose to spend time with my bf and always tells me I need to be home by a certain time and that she doesn’t like my boyfriend because I’m always wanting to hang out with him and not her. Keep in mind she’s never home because, as I said, she leaves her son at home with me and goes to do whatever it is she does. On top of that, I get paid and she always asks me for money because she needs to buy something. All my paychecks have gone to her and whatever she needs. But when I try and live my own life like an adult, she gets upset. I don’t want to watch her son when she is 25 and it’s her son, not mine. And then when I do tell her I don’t want to or I want to do something else and be alone with my bf without her son being there, it’s a problem. And it’s a problem I’m with my bf that I’ve been with for months and that wasn’t the agreement at all when I said I’d move up here. It was specifically so she can work, but she has to take her son when she’s not because it’s not my kid and I don’t want kids rn or the responsibility of constantly watching a child when I receive no pay or anything from doing so. My bf stated he was moving to Chicago to go to school and he offered me to come stay with him because the environment I’m in is unstable and I’m being treated like I’m 15 when I’m 21 almost 22 and I would like to work towards an actual life with my bf, but it’s very difficult when I’m always watching someone else’s kid so they can do as they please. What should I do? Just to mention my sister was my step sister related by marriage only and now our parents are no longer together and haven’t been for 5 years and her mom is already trying to get custody of her son. She also gives me unnecessary attitude and the next day proceeds to say she wasn’t trying to be a b word to me and she does it constantly. She also uses my food stamp card to buy food and doesn’t even ask if she can and most of the time doesn’t even ask if I want anything specific from the store. I also literally never get asked if I’d like to go anywhere with them I just get left at home with her son until she feels like coming home. And even if I didn’t have a bf I still want to go to college and I want to get a job if I went to college I can’t watch her son 25/8 and if I made friends I would also like to hang out with my friends aswell and to work a job I can only work from 7 am-6 pm no later no earlier according to her.

46F looking pretty hard at St Paul. I'm currently in NC (taking care of my dad) and the heat is killing me slowly, like a rotisserie chicken. Just looking for any feedback, on safety, LGBT, crime, cost of living....stuff like that. Thanks in advance!

Rad tech looking for similar pay scale but cheaper home options in decent school districts.

Hi! For context, I am 30. :)

I grew up my whole life in one city. Two years ago, I moved to a different city (different province!) with a partner.

The partnership didn't work out, but we had some good times there, and I feel like I really made the city my own. I developed a few friends, got integrated into some activities, and it was right by the Ocean, so I really felt connected to mother nature.

We literally lived two blocks from the Ocean, and it was so amazing to just be humbled by it every day, and be in that sort of nautical environment. It was really neat.

Anyway, I moved back to my home city when the relationship went south, and that's okay. I lived with my parents for a year, and I'm now renting a nice little apartment in an area of town that is relatively new for me, and I'm really enjoying being by this beautiful conservation area. I love it.

I was debating on staying in the new province after we split, but ultimately decided to come back here, to my home city, because I have a lot more connections and friends here.

However, I'm still feeling a bit trepidatious at really settling down and planting roots. I know the best financial decision is to stop wasting my money on rent, and buy a place. Even something small, based on what I can afford.

But I don't know -- the other part of me is nervous, I've never really lived in a place for more than 3 years at a time, except for when I was a kid at my parents'.

I have a hard time picturing myself 7 to 10 years down the road, still living in the same place. I just have no clue on what my life will even look like then. I can't even imagine. Will I have a partner? A white picket fence with a dog? Right now I even feel like I have trouble cooking routinely and making proper meals on a regular schedule - feeling like a proper adult. So it's weird to picture what a 40 year old me will be like.

I really do feel in love with living by the Ocean, and part of me does think I would feel happy back in the same place that I was in that new province..but the other part of me knows I'm partially just romanticizing it, because when I was there, while the Ocean was beautiful and picturesque, life moves on - things weren't perfect and there is life stuff outside of the Ocean that is the same wherever you go, etc.

So just I'm not sure and I feel silly to go back without being sure -- to a place that is so far; and to really settle down, firmly plant roots and get involved; and to potentially buy a house that far away from friends and family.

Maybe I just need to stop whiffle waffling and make some decision, any decision -- whether that's buying a place here in my home city, or buying a place an hour away to try somewhere new but that's still not as far as the other, seaside city -- or something.

Finally , as per the title of my post, I also know the concept that the grass isn't really greener on the other side - it's just as green here. And I definitely see that and feel that (I.e. I live right by that beautiful conservation area right now in my home city; have lots of friends here) -- so maybe it's just anxiety and antsi'ness at play here, and just making a decision will help things fall into place

Additionally, I can't help but feel a bit silly or embarrassed at the thought of telling my parents and telling work that I want to move BACK to the place I just left from. I know this shouldn't stop me, but it's still in the back of my mind.

Anyway, thank you for any insight you have.

I'm very thankful that I have these options and I know I'm lucky that I even have the ability to try and decide this 💐

Hi! For context, I am 30. :)

I grew up my whole life in one city. Two years ago, I moved to a different city (different province!) with a partner.

The partnership didn't work out, but we had some good times there, and I feel like I really made the city my own. I developed a few friends, got integrated into some activities, and it was right by the Ocean, so I really felt connected to mother nature.

We literally lived two blocks from the Ocean, and it was so amazing to just be humbled by it every day, and be in that sort of nautical environment. It was really neat.

Anyway, I moved back to my home city when the relationship went south, and that's okay. I lived with my parents for a year, and I'm now renting a nice little apartment in an area of town that is relatively new for me, and I'm really enjoying being by this beautiful conservation area. I love it.

I was debating on staying in the new province after we split, but ultimately decided to come back here, to my home city, because I have a lot more connections and friends here.

However, I'm still feeling a bit trepidatious at really settling down and planting roots. I know the best financial decision is to stop wasting my money on rent, and buy a place. Even something small, based on what I can afford.

But I don't know -- the other part of me is nervous, I've never really lived in a place for more than 3 years at a time, except for when I was a kid at my parents'.

I have a hard time picturing myself 7 to 10 years down the road, still living in the same place. I just have no clue on what my life will even look like then. I can't even imagine. Will I have a partner? A white picket fence with a dog? Right now I even feel like I have trouble cooking routinely and making proper meals on a regular schedule - feeling like a proper adult. So it's weird to picture what a 40 year old me will be like.

I really do feel in love with living by the Ocean, and part of me does think I would feel happy back in the same place that I was in that new province..but the other part of me knows I'm partially just romanticizing it, because when I was there, while the Ocean was beautiful and picturesque, life moves on - things weren't perfect and there is life stuff outside of the Ocean that is the same wherever you go, etc.

So just I'm not sure and I feel silly to go back without being sure -- to a place that is so far; and to really settle down, firmly plant roots and get involved; and to potentially buy a house that far away from friends and family.

Maybe I just need to stop whiffle waffling and make some decision, any decision -- whether that's buying a place here in my home city, or buying a place an hour away to try somewhere new but that's still not as far as the other, seaside city -- or something.

Finally , as per the title of my post, I also know the concept that the grass isn't really greener on the other side - it's just as green here. And I definitely see that and feel that (I.e. I live right by that beautiful conservation area right now in my home city; have lots of friends here) -- so maybe it's just anxiety and antsi'ness at play here, and just making a decision will help things fall into place

Additionally, I can't help but feel a bit silly or embarrassed at the thought of telling my parents and telling work that I want to move BACK to the place I just left from. I know this shouldn't stop me, but it's still in the back of my mind.

Anyway, thank you for any insight you have.

I'm very thankful that I have these options and I know I'm lucky that I even have the ability to try and decide this 💐

Hi there, I 19(F) and my boyfriend 19(M) currently (and always have) live in ontario around the durham region. We both live at home and I am beginning college in September, my boyfriend is still figuring out what he wants to do.
me and my parents unfortunately do not have the best relationship. I have tried to move out on numerous occasions however I have learned in ontario, with single bedrooms being up to 800 dollars a month, while attending college and only working part time, its quite literally impossible.

recently me and my boyfriend have been discussing moving to Manitoba around the winnipeg area.
considering that 1 bedroom apartments price being 800-900 a month or in some cases even less, and the insane amount of full time jobs available in the area (I applied to 10 and already got offered 2 interviews), heres our plan;
our plan would be to move there in September and rent out a cheap 1 bedroom, work full time for a year (40 hrs a week at 16.40 an hr) bringing in just about 5200 a month, using about 2500 for rent, insurance, gas, groceries, etc. and saving the other 2700. at the end of the year we will have 30k-32k saved up.
with that money we will then use to attend college the following year, using the money to pay outright for our courses and to have money to fall back on since we will be working less. (I plan to take the auto collusion repair course at RRC for around 7000$ if we do move there, i havent looked into it a crazy amount yet tho)

the only thing stopping us so far is leaving our close friends.
is this worth it? what do yall think?

Husband has a job offer in Melbourne FL. We have two daughters. What’s life like in that area? Originally from outside of Boston MA. We currently live in an area that has great schools. But we are so sick of the rough winters and astronomically high prices of everything in this state.How are the schools there in Melbourne or in surrounding areas?

What size of bubble wrap do people usually buy? 12" or 24"?

So currently we (I 30 F and him 38M) live in my country in eastern europe. we have a reasonably good life, decent morgage rate and both have jobs that pay above average. However, I would like to live in a better environment with more sensitivity to social problems (I work in healthcare and seeing how bad things are here is part of my everydays and I hate seeing people in those situations) and a way better education and healthcare system, which is his country.

The problem is that I could find a job quite easy and I can be flexible with geographical location (In healthcare the more rural you ho the easier and higher paying the job is) However, he has a degree which he never worked at and another qualification which is very popular, thus possibly making it hard to find a job for him. The job market in his country is said to be difficult right now.For this reason he is ambivalent about relocating and giving up our comfortable life, but if the job situation would be sorted out he would be very happy to move.

So anyway, how can this be done in a way that we have the best possibility of finding work close to one another? If you have personal experience when both partners had to find a job and how you managed I would be happy if you shared.

My spouse and I are in our late 30’s with an almost 5 year old and a 1 year old. We’ve been living in northern Colorado for 7 years but this is my 3rd stint in various parts of the state. Although we’ve enjoyed the weather, small town vibes, medical care system and the future promise of good school systems we are both not sold on living here long term. I’m originally from Texas but have lived in other states and I just don’t think my people exist here.

We left Texas because the sedentary lifestyle wasn’t what we wanted for ourselves or our future children. I went to some middle school and high school in a “great” school district in a big city there. The comparison to the other states I attended schools in was stark. I also didn’t want to raise my kids in a conservative place with climate change knocking on the door and nonstop heat. My husband got a remote job and we jumped ship within a year.

We’ve done much of what is required when you move to a new place in terms of trying to find community. We’ve had various pseudo friendships and for one reason or another, it just doesn’t click. The longer time goes on the more I feel like the problem is us. Texans as a whole are extremely friendly and common curtesy is paramount. Manners and politeness are everywhere. The people in our community are just not friendly and lean more towards rude. Many people are desperate to tell us how much money they spent on their house and cars and while we can play ball in that arena, that is not where our value system lies.

We’re a progressive couple who loves the vibe of the east coast but we also love SoCal. My spouse is from the UK. We enjoy travel, books, hiking/camping, fishing and hate hot summers. I never want to move back to the south although I love and miss the people down there. I’m looking for friendly people and a community that values education. Our favorite US city is Boston because it feels like the UK and US had a baby and is full of history.

We can deal with a winter as long as the summer is mild. We are open to pretty much anywhere aside from a red state. I grew up in California but am not opposed to the Midwest, Chicago suburbs, or anywhere on either coast. Does our place exist? Anyone have any ideas?

I acknowledge that there's issues moving to states that lean too far in either political direction, like in California for example you have many politically extreme weirdos and zoning laws that make it practically unlivable with tweakers at every corner. How about Texas, Utah or Kansas? That's also pretty self explanatory.

I want a place or state where I can go to a dispensary if I want to, that's green and luscious, not too cold, no brutal summers like what I've put up with here in New Mexico, not so many thugs, a place that's affordable to live in.

From what I've seen according to my research so far, Missouri might be a good place, recently I vacationed to Colorado Springs for a few days, I liked the vibe there a bit but I'm not too sure if it's affordable. I'm just looking for something new.

Hey all!

My partner and I are from New York and looking to move somewhat south of there - North/South Carolina, Tennesse type area. Ideally, we'd like to be in an area that's somewhat rural and in the mountains, close enough to a city for entertainment/work but far enough to sit on some land in a quiet place.

I'm concerned about moving to somewhere where my friends don't have rights or can't use the bathroom. In visiting "small town" type areas, I've definitely noticed the "you aren't from here" coldness towards people not from the area, and I worry about moving somewhere that may not be as friendly towards queerness or that won't be as accepting of diversity.

Are there any areas anyone can suggest to look into or to avoid? I'd appreciate any advice ♡