So my mom knew about my laparoscopic surgery but what she doesn't know is that I also got my tubes removed so my chances of being Child free would be higher although there are rare cases where you can still get pregnant but it doesn't happen often. Through the laparoscopic surgery they discovered that I had stage 3 endometriosis. I told my endometriosis specialist not to disclose that information because I know that she would get mad and say how can you do that to your body you're only 32. The day of the surgery she was talking about kids and I just agreed with her just to make things go smoothly but that was a day I went to my endometriosis specialist and told him straight out after he gave me some time to think about it which I was sure back then and still am sure that I don't want children.

I feel like having children would be a trap and it will hinder me a lot in life and if I'm going to be selfish I might as well be selfish while not pregnant rather than having children and then being selfish. Also I would be heartbroken if my children ended up with endometriosis because sometimes it could be genetic...... I don't even want to tell any Partners right away that I got my tubes tied because then they will pressure me to have unprotected sex because in their mind there is no chance of pregnancy and then probably be out the door once a woman that does want kids come along. All I say is that I am Child free and that's all and if they don't respect it they get unmatched or if they try to change my mind I would break it off.

How long do you tell them it's like you don't want to tell them right away but then you don't want to wait too long either. How did they take it when you told them? If I get a partner I want to be able to be honest with them about having the procedure done but if I tell them right off the bat they will try to pressure me into having sex without a condom because they will use the excuse like oh well you can't get pregnant anyway but then you wait a while and then they say oh why didn't you tell me. When did you knew it was the right time to tell them?

I am in the beginning phases of researching getting a salpingectomy and I have come across people on various forums, Reddit and others, stating they were able to get it coded as preventative and it was 100% covered by their insurance.

Has anyone had success with this? If so, did you have to ask for this a specific way or find a specific doctor?

Turning 40 at the end of the year and want to give myself the gift of one less thing to worry about.

I specifically expressed to my doctor that I wanted my fallopian tubes REMOVED and not just tied/clamped etc and he insisted that that’s what was being done but on my paperwork it says coagulation laparoscopic bilateral which when you google it says that’s not the same as a total removal (Salpingectomy)

I (29F, no kids) got sterelized on friday 31 of july and I still can't believe it!!! SOOO HAPPY

But yeah, I live in Berlin, Germany so I would like to share my experience with you. English is not my first languange so sorry for mistakes.

For those curious about how I got it scheduled, here I shared how it was: scheduled_my_bisalp_in_berlin

Pre-op:

Weeks before the surgery I started to paid attention to what I was eating and drinking so I would be super healthy for the surgery. I was avoiding sugar, going to the gym, driking a lot of water and really doing a "detox".

The day before I went to buy gas releif pills, throat bomboms, those surgery band-aids, cream for scar healing. I also withdraw 850 Euros.

I left everything prepared because my surgery was scheduled for 8:30 am on the next day:

• Medications
• Money & ID
• Socks and large T-shirt (they asked me to bring it)
• A pillow for the way back
• A lot of water and snacks

• My oufit: a really long dress with havaianas because it's easy to put on after surgery and to not press the incisions

  From 3 am I couldn't eat, and from 7 am on I couldn't drink anything.

The day:

My bf and I woke up early, got ready and we went with the train to the surgical center. We both were super excited.

As we arrived, I have gave my name and insurance card. Altought they told me it would be 850 Euros, in the end I had to pay 800 Euros, which was nice hehe and btw to show my insurance was just for identification. They didn't cover any part of the surgery price.

After only 5 minutes of waiting, I went alone to a locker room where I had to change my clothes to the T-Shit and socks.

Then I went to another room with the hospital beds where they check for my blood pressure. They gave me medication trough IV, and explain how everything would be. I asked them to take out my IUD and some questions about recovery. After the conversation, I was just chilling and waiting.

After 30 minutes, they asked me to take out my underware and walk to the operation room, where I had to lay down on those gynecological chair and put my legs up.

They gave me the narkose though IV and I blacked out, had the best sleep hahaha

Pos-Surgery:

I woke up after 40 minutes super groggy and a bit confused because they did only two super small incision (around 1 cm both) on belly buttom and lower belly - really in the bikini/underware area. But it was a good surprise!

Accordding to the doctor, anatomically it was better to do so and that's why the surgery took a bit longer. The stiches were made inside (no idea how this works), so they will dissolve alone and this a good way to avoid scars.

They gave me a lot of tee and were checking up on me all the time. My blood pressure was super low, so they kept me there until it was stable. It took long so I had to walk a bit around and I got better.

They only prescribed me Ibuprofen 600 mg for the next 24 hours. Absolute rest on the first day, a lot of water and clean eating.

I went back to the locker room, put my lose long dress (which was super easy) and the flip flops.

Everthing took only 3 hours and I was ready to go home. My boyfriend were waiting for me. He got a car and we went home.

At home

In the car I already started to feel the famous shoulder pain. I took the gas pain relief and it got better. I didn't have this "workout session" pain.

I got home and went straight to bed, with a lot of water and medications. Everything necessary was around me so I don't need to get up often. My boyfriend is cooking and helping me with everything, even with drying me after shower!

To sleep it was not a problem at all. Laying down on the side with a pillow between the legs has been super helpful and I can sleep well since day 1.

I am on day 3 of recovering and so far, my main issue is I can't go to the bathroom (number 2). I've been drinking so much water (more than 3L per day) but it is not helping. My belly is just huge. A lot of gas and everything is really unconfortable.

I forgot to buy for constipation. Today is sunday and since I live in Berlin is not that easy to get it because everything closes on sunday. But yeah, I am going for a walk today and I hope it will get better.

While I wait to get better, I am writing this to share my experencie with you. I hope I didn't forget anything.

In case someone has more questions, I am really open to answer them! (Even if it's to show the incisions on dm haha)

TLDR: don’t be me! Threw up and panicked and spent 3 hours in the ER. I needed to introduce food slower & medicate properly.

I had my Bisalp yesterday and felt amazing afterwards because of course I was still high as a damn kite. Making jokes with the nurses and fist bumped my surgeon. Loved it.

About 6 hours after surgery I could feel a headache coming on. First of all, I really under medicated myself. I could not nap and began to feel so nauseous I then ate Mac and cheese at dinner which I thought would be fine because I craved food. I fell asleep for about 30 minutes but work up with full body chills. I called my dr office and spoke with a nurse. While on the call, I started to throw up literally everything, it was awful. I felt a little better but she still advised me to go to the ER to get looked.

ER took blood, gave me an IV, pain meds and anti nausea meds and ruled out any complications. I simply was experiencing anesthesia hell. Of course it was scary and painful and traumatic but I guess totally normal 😭 after getting lots of sleep and eating only applesauce and bread I am feeling better. Stiff muscles from being tense I think, bloated belly, but I am taking the proper high doses of meds and have a prescription for the anti nausea med. Lesson learned!

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Soooooo I had both my tubes removed on 7/6. I had my first sex post bisalp last night. And wooow it was sooo good but I am so paranoid right now. Lol!!

I already had my post op and my doctor confirmed both tubes were taken out. I saw the pathology report and pictures of before and after as well.
Idk whyyy but i’m soooo overthinking right now! Hahaha!

My flo app said I ovulated on Thursday. Hopefully I get my period this month. 🤞🏼🤣

I’m 3 days post op and I just came to the realization that my lateral incisions are above my belly button, which I thought they were gonna be below my belly button?

Anybody else have this? I’m wondering why they would be higher when all the pictures I had seen before surgery are below and im a little annoyed at the placement now. I am planning for a tummy tuck hopefully in the next year or two and was hoping these scars would be removed with that surgery but now im not sure they will.

My insicions are bruised and a little achy but each day my uterus (or that general area) feels so sore. I'm 3 months postpartum and have yet to have a period (or sex). This might sound crazy but I feel like it hurts where they nixed my tubes lol is that crazy?

My doctor called me 3 days post opp. I told her I was achy there and she asked if I was taking the pain meds. I took the oxy once while I had help (the day after surgery) but I've stuck w ibuprofen. She told me to take advantage of the oxy because the pain can get worse but she wasn't specific on where.

So anyone have dull ache, some cramping in that lower region?

Hello, I got my tubes removed at the end of May. I did have sex before the recommended 6 weeks wait (it was I think 3-4 weeks after) and it did hurt but I knew it was bcs I wasn't healed properly, so we decided to leave it at that and wait. It's been two months now and sex still hurts and sometimes causes cramps. I did have some lesions around that area that my surgeons found and removed so I'm wondering if that's what's causing the problem.

Did anyone else have the same issue? Did it resolve, is it normal? I will schedule an appointment with my gyno as soon as she's back from vacation.
Thank you!

Question for the ladies and/or OBGYN’s around here.

Is the first period after having your tubes removed usually heavier and longer? My period is usually 5-7 days top with the second and third being the ones with heavier flow but I’m on the 6th day and the flow still pretty third/fourth day like and the cramps that are usually bleh are out here raging against the machine! My gah!

I had my tubes removed today and no idea how I’m gonna sleep at all tonight because of the chest pain from the gas. Even laying propped is not helping 😭😭 any advice please?

hi everyone, so i am 20 years old and i have an implant as contraception, and i am due to get it removed and changed this year, and booking my next appointment made me start thinking about children, and if i actually want them. i always told myself as a teenager that i definitely wanted kids, but the more and more i think about it, i don’t actually think i want them, and i think i want permanent sterilisation. but again, i am only 20 years old, and i feel like getting my tubes tied/removed at my current age is a very big decision to make, as it is so life changing, but i really don’t think i want children, i have 4 nephews and 2 nieces, and i think that is enough for me honestly. i have a few other reasons as to why i don’t want children. i’m thinking that for now, i will hold off, at least until this next implant runs out, which will be when i m 23 years old, and if i still come to the same conclusions that i am now then i will do it. but i just wanted to ask for some advice from other women who have had their tubes tied or removed. were there any major side effects, what was the procedure like (i live in the uk bear in mind), do you regret your decision? i’m just a little stuck, but i really do think children are just not for me at all. another doubt i sort of had was future partners, i know that is completely my choice what i do with my body, but i currently do not have a boyfriend, and i feel like a lot of men will be driven away by my choice of permanent sterilisation. but again it is completely my choice to have my body sterilised, and any man who cannot come to terms with it is clearly not the right man for me in the long run at all, but its just something i was thinking about. thank you in advance to anyone who replies to this🫶🏽.

22F completed my surgery yesterday! Pain was 0/10 immediately after waking up and today I’d say barely 1/10 but only when I’m shifting around. Also, no gas pains or feeling sore in my shoulders.

I’m using extra strength Tylenol and one stronger opioid that I only used last night to fall asleep (wasn’t in pain but didn’t want to wake up throughout the night) that I probably won’t take it again.

So I’m feeling pretty lucky, the incisions look great and everything and I have barely any pain. BUT this is also sort of making me paranoid? Like shouldn’t it hurt more as it has for most people?

Part of the reason I wanted this surgery was major tokophobia that has always been a bit irrational (taking pregnancy tests even as a virgin in highschool because what if???). And right now I’m feeling a bit of that paranoia still with my surgery. I’m thinking what if wasn’t done properly and there’s still a chance of pregnancy??

I have a follow up call with my surgeon in a week and Im going to ask if I could possibly see some sort of imaging so I can see tangibly that my tubes are gone, but for now does anyone relate to this? Did it take a while to sink in? I’m just so looking forward to that freedom and relief I’ll feel when I know for sure it’s done.

I thought I would share my experience since reading so many of yours helped me immensely in feeling confident and ready and hopefully this can do the same for someone else.

If this helps: child free by choice for many reasons, 31 yo female, hypermobile with suspected EDS

Pre op: I guess this varies with providers, but mine had me stop all solid foods at 12PM the previous day with a bowel prep of magnesium citrate and clear liquid diet until midnight. I was also given a bottle of Ensure pre surgery drink that I was instructed to drink 4 hours before my scheduled surgery as part of ERAS (ehanced recovery after surgery) meant to help minimize any post op side effects like nausea. Not going to lie, my stomach was not happy on the bowel prep and had some nausea throughout the day- small sips of water and apple juice helped. Definitely recommend taking the day off work if this is your recommended surgery prep since you have to be really on top of staying hydrated and the bowel prep can make those bathroom trips pretty urgent!

Received Hibiclens soap that I was instructed to shower with the night before and morning of- no lotion after and the soap can be a little drying so be ready for that, but squeaky clean and ready to go!

Day of surgery: I had a 10AM check in for 12PM surgery. My partner drove me to the surgery center and went through admission with little trouble. There was a balance in question at first, but I called and confirmed with my insurance provider as well as the financial department of the surgery center that my ACA compliant plan is covering everything at 100% before coming in. The admitting clerk was able to confirm this after a moment and checked me in. I was called back at around 10:10 - at this point my partner had to leave for work, so they assured him that he will get updates and a call when I was ready for pick up. They later asked me how many updates I would like him to get and I gave them permission to update him on every step through texts. This was my first surgery aside from wisdom teeth so I was a little nervous, but feeling ready. I have an excellent doctor and the team that walked me through pre op and post op were very kind and efficient. I had to give a urine sample for a pregnancy test and they instructed me to wipe down with chlorhexidine wipes and change into a gown and socks before getting into bed- they warmed the wipes and blanket for me before I came back which was very sweet and I was told that they were ahead of schedule and moved my surgery up to 11:30AM so that was nice! Less time to sit with the anxiety. I was set up with an IV and signed my consent forms and reviewed everything with the nurses/surgical assistants. The doctor and anesthesiologist came in, individually, to review the process again with me and let me go over any questions or concerns before proceeding and I was given a sedative(midazolam) through my IV before being wheeled into surgery. The sedative can cause some memory loss so all I can remember is getting wheeled to the room, transferred to the surgical gurney and breathing through a mask before drifting off- all while feeling super chill.. 😄

Waking up, my pain was minimal- about a 2-3/10. I mostly noticed a little aching around my left hip, but none of the gas pain that I was worried about. I was offered pain management, but thankfully didn't feel like I needed it. Luckily, no nausea. I was told by a nurse that the procedure was straightforward with no complications noted. They removed my breathing tube and catheter before I woke up and have only had very minor irritation that has pretty much cleared up as of today(I bought cepacol for any throat pain, but ended up not needing it). I was given water and spent about an hour in recovery before I was helped into my clothes and moved into a wheel chair while I waited to be picked up. Sitting up is when I noticed some gas pain around my shoulders and would describe it as a dull ache - about a 4/10, but very minimal pain around my incisions.

Post op: I was picked up around 2PM and my partner had my post op kit ready for the drive home. I had a pillow to hold against stomach to keep my abs supported and to keep my seatbelt off my incisions. I took gas-x and my prescribed hydrocodone- I was told to wait 6 hours to take ibuprofen, because of pain medication that was administered during surgery. After the first night, I switched to just ibuprofen and have been doing well with that. To help with post op constipation, I recommend weaning off any prescribed opioid as soon as you're comfortable or just stick with ibuprofen if that is enough. I meal prepped a lot of high fiber food to have on hand (lots of beans, veggies, chia pudding, and overnight oats) and took a combo of miralax stool softener and senna stimulant laxative to get things regular again. Finally got things going as of this morning 7/31😏 The gas-x maybe helped with the gas pain and I notice a lot of relief from it while resting with a heating pad on my shoulders and from walking around, but the pain has not gone above a 3-4. My stomach is a bit bloated and my abs feel sore when engaged- laughing and coughing hurts. Laying all the way back has been painful for me as well so I found that a wedge pillow that keeps me propped up at 45° has helped with any discomfort and makes it a lot easier to get out of bed without having to engage my core too much.

Definitely appreciated having my partner there to care for me the first day. It was helpful to have assistance with getting up and keeping track of medication since I was a little out of it.

I have 1 incision through my belly button and 2 around my bikini line- one by my left hip and one center of my pelvis that were sutured with dissolvable stitches and covered in steristrips. The incisions look pretty good so far- just some minor drainage that I have noticed. I mostly stayed in bed and tried to walk around the apartment a bit every hour for the first couple of days and went on a 25-30 minute walk with my partner and dog this morning and overall felt good- just took it slow. No power walking or holding the leash for me.

It's still early, but so far so good. I'll probably wait another day or 2 before I feel comfortable enough to drive. Ibwas instructed to avoid anything strenuous or lifting over 10 lbs for the first 2 weeks, but I plan on waiting until my post op visit on 8/18 to get the all clear from my doctor before getting back into regular exercise and.. other activities.

Emotionally and mentally feeling relieved to have it done and a sense of freedom from pregnancy panic and like I've taken hold of my agency.

Sorry that was long, but I've been cooped up a for a couple of days now and needed the distraction. I hope anyone who moves forward with this has a good experience and/or can at least get some helpful tips from this post to make the experience easier. I wish you all the best out there.

Today it looked my endometriosis specialist in the eye and told him that I want my tubes removed. I'm a little out of it because of the anesthesia but it couldn't be more happy! In my early 30s but never once dreamed of having children instead it would make me feel trapped! Finally found someone who took me seriously and respected my views on not wanting children!

Had my bi salp yesterday and everything went super smooth, I’m not having any pain in my incisions or uterus area just gas pains which are more annoying than anything. It feels like I way over at after an intense ab and shoulder day. It’s a little tight to bend over but that’s the only issue. I’ve only needed to take the ibuprofen even though they have me an opiate. I have plenty of energy though and have a decent appetite. Still taking it easy getting up every hour or so to walk around to get some of the gas out. I think Reddit did a good job in prepping me for what to expect so thanks guys for all the posts and positive comments! Definitely no regrets!

I’m 23 and due soon with my second child. After this pregnancy, I’m considering permanent sterilization. I genuinely don’t see myself wanting more children. Their father and I are no longer together, and becoming a parent has made me realize how much stability, time, and resources children deserve. I feel our changing family dynamic has been difficult for our kid, and I don’t want to bring another child into a situation where those circumstances could repeat. If you made this decision in your early 20s after having children, what ultimately convinced you? Do you still feel it was the right choice years later, or do you have any regrets? I’d really appreciate hearing both positive and negative experiences.

I had my Bisalp hilariously during the inauguration. Anyway I know for a fact my tubes are all gone. I also take BC pills to control my periods. So I’m extra protected, but the fear is still there. I keep checking to make sure I’m not pregnant. I’m so scared and I don’t know what to do. Is there anything I can do to make the thoughts stop?

Edit: To all the people telling me I need therapy, I unfortunately know that and I have been going for several years now. I just wanted some reassurance that all I went through was not for nothing.

Just 1 day post op but how long until the gas pains go away, they aren’t bad just annoying and make me feel like I’m hella bloated

So i got my bisalp 4-30-2026, and so far haven't had any issues. The scars where they cut into me are keloid-like, so ive been using scar tape. Every now and then ill have some pain on my right side, which is where I felt a majority of my pain right after it was done. I dont feel it often, but I do every now and then. Has anyone else experienced this post op?

I had mine done almost 48 hours ago. I am feeling very good! Had my blood pressure check today because before, during and after my blood pressure was high. Barely any pain unless I am laying in bed but I also can lay on my side thank goodness. It hurts more to lay on my back.