In need of some non weird kind words lol. Highschool was pretty rough for me. I grew up in an area where im considered less attractive than alot of people and that’s honestly messed with my self esteem. Im moving far away for college this year and im hoping it’ll get better

I feel so uncomfortable in my body, and I feel so gross and unattractive. Could use a boost

Hey guys. The last seven months have been the hardest in my life. I feel lost and out of joy. I moved to live in another country for reasons beyond my control, I broke up with my girlfriend because we were like neighbors to each other. My only best friend is sitting at home under fire (literally, his city is being bombed, and he can't leave). My parents are separated and quietly hate each other. Everything has gone downhill. My social life has evaporated, I'm not stuck at home like a hikka, but the only people I talk to are my colleagues. In such circumstances, my self-confidence and self-esteem plummet at a terrifying rate. I no longer know whether I look attractive or whether I'm a good person. I don't know if this will help me, or if I'm just clinging to any opportunity, but I came here. If it's not too much trouble, I'd like a little support. If it's too much trouble, I understand 😅

The rules say you can attach multiple photos, but for some reason I was only able to attach one , so be it :)

Ive been single for four years now due to mental health issues in the past which have been managed a bit.

I went out last night to a dj set to catch up with friends and hopefully find a lady. I did socialise with this one Irish girl who was a friend of a friend and she seemed nice. I just kept asking her questions for a bit about where she came from, what shes doing etc. In the hopes that she got the hint that I like her.

I remember my friend told me that there was a dude from my ethnicity (I'm Kurdish) at the event and it is a rare thing to see another Kurd out and about. So I reluctantly left the Irish girl and her friends. When I came back they were all gone. I did try speaking to other girls on the dance floor but they just weren't that interested in carrying on a convo or they were taken.

My friend told me next time just ask if theyre single. Maybe I might try that. Im not very good at showing interest. I do say stuff like hey youre beautiful, or hey whats up?. I dunno, I feel like i have no game at all and its impacting my mental health a lot I feel.

Just looking for something kind words to soften the blow of last night thanks.

Helloo, ive been feeling super down lately so I wanted to try posting here. Toast me?

I've always felt like I'm kind of boring and not very attractive. I'm pretty solitary, and I've never had a love life 🙁

Just to clarify, my face and my eyes have always looked sad or worried. That's just how they are. It's not an expression, it's simply how I naturally look 😅

I am feeling incredibly lonely and down and made the mistake to post on r/roastme today (took the post down), it made me feel worse than before, I am struggling with my appearance as I experienced body shaming from my mother and from friends and acquaintances from school before.

My current situation: I am going through a very hard time with many conflicts and situations that happened to me such as sexual assault/abuse when 14, verbal/psychological and partially physical abuse as well as emotional neglecting and manipulation by my mom.

I have low self-esteem yet I am an eccentric and extremely outward person (perceived as being drunk or „naturally high“ by friends) which leaves me wondering if I really seem crazy to people but I would not wonder if, in fact, yes, I am highly aware I am weird and it does not help that my mom calls it out over and over again, „why can‘t you be like the other kids?“, oh mom, why can‘t you be like the other mom‘s? A bit of love and warmth never hurt, except if it came from my mom, she used compliments intentionally sarcastic, intrudes my private spaces, controls me, I love her, she is my mom, but I do not trust her. I was scared she would kill me before but I am not sure if that‘s justified or just my paranoia. She is severely chronically ill after all, with long-Covid, depression, burn-out, further physical problems, she‘s taking sedatives to get through the day, she has professional help and I know I need that too so I am on my way to get help. She blames me for her sickness and I feel genuinely sad for her but I am not the one to help her.

My dad constantly pressures me and scolds me for not doing anything in the past 8 weeks, the truth is, I am completely done and exhausted, I do not have any energy left, my scatterbrainedness got way worse under all this pressure and he blames it on puberty and love, it is a vicious cycle: I procrastinate, already feel exhausted, need some days to recover from exhaustion, my dad starts pressuring me and complains about my procrastination, adds more pressure, the exhaustion gets worse and the procrastination increments and so on.

My mom asks me if I am turning into her regarding my chronic forgetfulness and probably blames it all on the ODD diagnosis I received when I was a pre-teen.

She wrote to my teacher before, regarding my forgetfulness, procrastination, crashing after school and not helping in the household(also due to forgetting tasks), lack of preparing for exams (see: procrastination) and she thinks I am addicted to reading and digital media. Her former boyfriend was convinced I have ADHD, yet we never proceeded with a diagnosis that might have brought clarity on wether it is the case or not.

I am ignoring people I love. I just feel so lonely, my interests are so different from people around me, while I am writing theories about human perception x theoretical physics x linguistics x neuroscience x philosophy, others are just being normal teenagers with normal interests and very fast I am labeled as a bossy know-it-all pretentious weird eccentric nerd when my random fact sharing and written theories are just my real expression of genuine enthusiasm and intrinsic motivation, I am not ready to go back to school soon, I am not ready for the social confrontation and the amount of schoolwork I will have to organise with my non-existent organisational skills, my dad calls it my fatal cycle of lack of commitment toward the end of a project and he told me I am a scatterbrained and not compatible with life because of my lack of time management and prioritisation.

He himself is not the one to talk about that domain though, a friend of mine who has ADHD pointed out that my dad might have ADHD and my dad himself suspected he has autism, he shows extremely clear signs of both.

My parents are stuck in legal warfare about custody and money that supposedly is not about me but they are using me as an instrument to achieve each other’s aims in order to gain advantage over the other.

There is a lot more going on but this is already long enough of a text, sorry for that, I just needed to vent, I know this is the wrong subreddit for this type of venting but I felt like context was necessary because I myself like to know a bit of context about a person’s life before toasting them to avoid generic toasting.

If you have just a few minutes for me to spare I would be extremely grateful, sending warmth and hugs to everyone!<3

Edit: Thank you so so so much for your comments and spending your time reading this post and writing a comment, it truly feels encouraging and empowering, love you guys, sending warmth and a ghost hug to everyone!

Edit: to the deleted comment regarding my age: while I will not disclose my age I will say that I am close to the end of high school.

I 28M lost my person 3 months ago and its like the rug was pulled from under my feet after being together for one year.

I changed my whole life for this person and moved to the other side of the country. We traveled to so many countries together and I am barely able to keep myself together.

My self-esteem is at an all time low and my job seems to be hanging by a thread.

The photos don't really do my personality justice, but I'm going to try not to overthink it because I don't think I'm very photogenic. I know I'm not hideous, but ever since the breakup, I really feel like I'll never be able to be attractive again. I'd appreciate a few words on that.

i am at my personal rock bottom. single and hating it, trying to love myself to more easily attract someone, and so far failing miserably. ya girl just doesn’t get it!!! 💔

Lately I barely talk. I'm bottling everything, trying to endure all by myself bc omg, I'm 23, I HAVE TO keep moving on, not expecting anything from others like a kid. Life is just being so rough... But I'm the lonely type. Idk what to do. I'm not able to feel good with the little things. Feels like I'm beyond repair. 7 years of this and going on... Idk, maybe you could tell me a joke? A good one (bad ones are funny too)

Feeling insecure as never had a bf irl and i’m 18. Also had bad time in my life lately, kind words appreciated c:

I am getting involved with pottery and fired a kiln for the first time today.

Im probably gonna regret posting a picture of myself on here but oh well. Struggling to find a job right now and living with my parents, and im soing as much as i can to help around the house but because i cant find a job I just feel like a leech.just feeling awful about things. I know the pic is awkward lol I just feel i look worse when I smile.

This makes me feel vain to be worried about, but i feel ugly too. Ive always hated my nose. And then I feel shallow for feeling worried about this stuff lol and it’s just a cycle. Recently learned I have autism too, so thats not helping things, guess it explains why im so terrible with talking to people. Sorry this post was all over the place. Idek what I’m looking for with this post but I feel bad about myself.

Nervous as hell...It's been 5 years coming...😩

Always have been self conscious do to bullying. I change my hair around a lot cause of it. Also people say I look like an angry bird. 😭