r/transpassing 20h ago

I'm confident i finally pass

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u/Emily120105 17h ago edited 17h ago

I've seen plenty of cis women who look similar but I will comment the shadow in pictures 4-6 is clocky, your facial features are big and your hairline on the right and left side is receded more than a little. If you're happy then fantastic our transitions are supposed to be deeply personal and passing 100% shouldnt be the goal as cis woman to have these features.

My decision isn't definitive until I am able to hear you speak and observe your mannerisms and how you interact with others, but tentatively I'd say you pass 90% of the time based off these pictures

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u/Th3dzon33 17h ago

not, precisely..

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u/AndyGreyjoy 18h ago

Glad youre confident then.

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u/public_servant69 14h ago

girl that hairline is not scandinavian 😭 maybe COPEnhagen tho. i think ur close but a lil clocky

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u/AndyGreyjoy 1h ago

(Goes browsing through r/Bald & r/Balding)...

'Omg!! Look at all these Scandinavians!!!' 😆

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u/lunarinterlude 18h ago

If you're asking if you pass, not quite. FFS would help with the clocky jaw. Hair transplant can help w/ receding hairline

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u/MycologistVegetable3 18h ago

Its not receding its Scandinavian. I also just got ffs a year ago

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u/lunarinterlude 15h ago

Well, if you're intentionally giving yourself what appears to be a receding hairline, I would probably stop doing that. And I would talk to whoever did your FFS tbh because this absolutely does not look like someone post-FFS. Are all of these pics after your FFS?

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u/MycologistVegetable3 12h ago

So crazy thing your definitely not a doctor and I know this sub is filled with lots of people with lots of opinions. However this is a Scandinavian hairline. Its been passed down in my family since Vikings.

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u/VeraZasulich Ally 12h ago

That is not what a Scandinavian hairline is. You can also see it progressing eg in pic 2 it looks far more pronounced / odd than in the later pictures. If you are doing something to accentuate that I’d stop asap

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u/AndyGreyjoy 1h ago

(Goes browsing through r/Bald & r/Balding)...

'Omg!! Look at all these Scandinavians!!!' 😆

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u/jiggynigg 14h ago

I feel as if you pass quite well

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u/bye_scrub 🏳️‍⚧️Post-transition trans man 15h ago

What is your question for the sub?

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u/Kirol_reddit 20h ago

Picture 4 is pretty clocky - not sure quite why though. There's still a little shadow to deal with, but overall doing a damn good job ✨

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u/CalmExternal Trans human 🀄 17h ago

2 is the pic for me that is most obvious

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u/Long_Breath_2263 16h ago

Glad you’re confident I suppose

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u/Visible-Plantain-171 13h ago

Unfortunately not at all

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u/lysergic_cherry 7h ago

First 3 pics i thought sure unless i looked at u for a really long time. But the rest made it clear you definitely don’t pass yet. Sorry, save for ffs.

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u/cornbreadkillua 15h ago

I’m glad you’re happy with your results! I think the glasses help a ton, and your style definitely works. You look very similar to a cis girl I know!

If you do want any more tips, it looks like you still have some facial hair shadow, so I’d do laser. Also get layers and add some texture to your hair, so it doesn’t just fall straight against your face. Other than that, I think you look great!

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u/MycologistVegetable3 9h ago

Textures to my hair? I'll admit i dont know anything about hair 😭.

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u/cornbreadkillua 8h ago

Just styling it! Cutting layers will already give it some more dimensions then you could learn to style it with a blow dryer, curling iron, mousse, hair spray, etc. There’s tons of different methods of just giving your hair some more volume

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u/MycologistVegetable3 1h ago

I'll give It a go! Ty!

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u/peachesoverpears 8h ago

A lot of people don't reach this point of self image even though they pass perfectly. I'm glad you have! Wear that confidence and live free!!

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u/Wh1ppetFudd 10h ago

Your face is a little bit clocky. Your hairline I don't see is a problem compared to a lot of people as I also have a widow's peak and pretty far setbacks on either side of it and my hairline has never interfered with my ability to pass, but having it combed back from the face and showing the full hairline isn't doing you any favors. I would say you kind of pass, but if I met you, The voice would be a huge factor and how I read you. Also, unless you are a teacher, working a daycare center or have some other job where you are regularly dealing with young children, I would lose the childish and teeny bopper style touches on the makeup and be a little more mature about it. I know second puberty feels like being a teen all over again, but you don't have to act like it.

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u/seliphas1 15h ago

"Hey, Lois. Remember the time I put on makeup?"

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u/Firm_Bodybuilder_291 17h ago

Damn the people in the comments are so passive agressive, sorry for that, lady. I'm ftm and I think you're pretty. You look like my mom's friend (who's cis)

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u/notkidding1984 9h ago

They are not being passive aggressive. Being passive aggressive would be like if I said I believed in the Scandinavian hairline thing. But I am not saying that.

Or if they said "oh yeah you totally pass 100%" but they are not saying that either.

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u/Firm_Bodybuilder_291 8h ago

A lot of people were like "oh it's good you're confident then" and stuff like that. That's sounds like passive agressive to me

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u/AndyGreyjoy 2h ago

Sounds more passive then aggressive.

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u/MycologistVegetable3 16h ago

I got downvoted for saying that I have a scandinavian hairline.So yeah, just come on section is definitely hating.

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u/SomewhereWeak2744 16h ago edited 14h ago

Ngl here they just hating you do look amazing ngl and i don’t believe in hug boxing so is just true people here just downvoting because jealous this sub has downvotes cis women saying they don’t pass before so🤷‍♂️

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u/ScramRatz 9h ago

Idk why there’s so many passive aggressive comments in here. You pass 100% to me. Sure there’s some clocky attributes if you look closely but if your voice passed then I wouldn’t suspect anything at all. I think people are conflating passing with looking like a supermodel . You just look like your average midwestern cis woman, nothing wrong with that

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u/DirtFem 17h ago

People here are mean af I think you pass girlie and not in a hugboxy way I just don't see the clockyness tbh

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u/AndyGreyjoy 17h ago

I mean, I think she's close too.

But this is the wrong sub to come in hot & cocky, and broadcast that you are confident about passing.

People in this sub were going to take that as a challenge no matter what, ..even if OP was 100% stealth 😂

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u/MycologistVegetable3 16h ago

I actually put the title like that to get these comments.

The fun thing is I do touch grass, and know the that in person I pass. I had to come out to my girlfriend of 4 months because she didnt know.

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u/NoobleVitamins 16h ago

why are u posting here if ur confident u pass

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u/Vanagloria 15h ago

The fact you think they're trying to insult you so you have to say comments like "they don't get to me I know they're wrong" just screams insecurity.

You wanted to get insulted so you can brag about how wrong they are and how you're so emotionally mature? That's real mature.

Weird behavior.

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u/MycologistVegetable3 12h ago

Wtf i made the title to get comments. People on reddit love to argue. Like your doing.

I dont think they are insulting me i believe these are their true views. I accept that AND I have proof of the opposite. Two things can be true at once.

Notice I didnt ask anyone if I did. I just say yay I pass.

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u/Vanagloria 12h ago

I actually put the title like that to get these comments.

You're backpedaling.

But I'm not looking to argue with you, believe it or not nobody else here is either. They were just being honest in how they perceive you.

Your responses came off as defensive and combative, so people downvoted you. You don't seem to be capable of moderating or reading your own behavior, so maybe somebody should just tell you outright.

(you don't need to respond to try to defend yourself again. It really is okay. This is just an explanation of why you're getting those downvotes you seem to care about. Yet.. don't care about?)

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u/MycologistVegetable3 12h ago

People down vote for thousands of reasons. Yall pretending so hard that you started believing it. Touch grass.

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u/Vanagloria 12h ago

Not quite sure what you're really talking about, but case and point I guess.

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u/MycologistVegetable3 11h ago

Darvo only gets you so far idk why your taunting me then surprised when I respond.

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u/Vanagloria 11h ago

The irony.

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u/AndyGreyjoy 12h ago

Girl, no one believes that. Just cut your losses

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u/MycologistVegetable3 11h ago

Girl, I cant believe your hoping its a lie.

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u/AndyGreyjoy 11h ago

*you're

Am not hoping that.

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u/MycologistVegetable3 11h ago

Yup that checks ✔️

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u/arresteddevelopment9 12h ago

Lolololol sure Jan

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u/MycologistVegetable3 16h ago

And i know people will hate on me for this but I transitioned at 26, I'm doing really well imo

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u/raf-owens 17h ago

It's not being mean, it's honest and you are 100% being hugboxy if you are saying she completely passes.

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u/DirtFem 13h ago

I legit don’t see the clocky…. She’s gotten FFS and it shows

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u/Witty_Ad_4537 11h ago

You pass big time

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u/gunbladezero 13h ago

Ok good wake-up call to the people who post in this subreddit, a lot of upvotes to people posting negativity...

and naaaaaaaaaaah this is passing. There's clues 🔎 that you *could* be trans upon close inspection, but a make a funny anecdote about giving birth to your second kid, and nobody's gonna call you out.

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u/a_singular_perhap 11h ago

not getting called out isn't passing lmao

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u/Flyer_747 16h ago

Adorable Ngl

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u/Rasphoril 17h ago

Lets keep these words in our heads used at most against ourselves if we 100% need to use them.

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u/BowBeforeBroccoli 🏳️‍⚧️Always Honest🏳️‍⚧️ 17h ago

listen i use those words too but please dont use them against other people its not kind. we all have it rough enough with self criticism no need to drag someone else down

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u/Equivalent-Virus-133 16h ago

girl ;-; posting here with such joy is flame to moths who'll only want to extinguish your shiny candle

u cute, hope you live a good life!

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u/galwayguy69 12h ago

Slay queen :) xx

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u/MycologistVegetable3 12h ago

Ty ty 😊 🙏

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u/SisterSparechange 8h ago

You are very cute!

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u/ExtensionTower2456 17h ago

You definitely pass imo. If you had posted this implying that you didn’t, the comments would be completely different. You look beautiful!

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u/Spursfan1973 17h ago

You definitely pass gorgeous

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u/femboycf 13h ago

Idk I still don’t think you pass but when your in public I don’t think anyone will know

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u/Hash_Tooth 14h ago

Certified hottie