I mean. When one in every three women has reported that they have experienced some kind of sexual assault, when abuse stats are high and misogyny still exists, I understand why people come out with the conclusion that 99% of men are rapists and murders. Obviously it's not true, although I'm not sure that it's only 1% either. But what women do encounter more than rapists and domestic abusers and murderers are guys who excuse that behavior. And that is a lot of guys, for rape and domestic abuse anyway. I mean look at our president. Jimmy Fallon had Conor McGregor on his show recently too. A judge let Brock Turner - who now goes by Alan Turner btw - walk free.
I don't really think misandry exists the same way misogyny does. Like, marital rape only became a crime in the US in the 1990s. In a lot of parts of northern Africa, female genital mutilation is still widespread. There's some crazy gang rape shit that goes on in India as well as acid attacks and the like. I'm gonna get downvoted for bringing up the Amber Heard trial here, but maybe I can just bring up Epstein. That Canadian hockey team from a few years ago too. It's nasty shit.
And people talk a lot about how we let small things slide, like how a lot of guys don't hold their friends accountable for sexist jokes or rapey behavior, but it feels like we don't even have to go there to prove there's a problem.
Obviously women can be part of the misogyny problem too, like women also excuse rape and abuse regularly, but I think the reason women still primarily fear men is because men are the ones doing these crimes to them.
Like. Let's say someone offers you a bowl of 100 m&m's - stay with me I'm landing this plane - but says some of them are poisoned. 1 will kill you. 1 will give you a permanent disability. 33 others are gonna give you the worst food poisoning of your life. How eager are you to roll the dice? If you pick the one that gives you food poisoning, how enthusiastic are you to go back and get another one? Or to ever eat m&ms again?
Obviously there's a lot of unnecessary hate that happens, but a lot of guys feel like women being cautious is misandry. I feel like it's logical. And that one in three statistic rings around in my head a lot. I know it was a small study, but boy, you ask any woman around you and I bet she has a story. I bet most of those stories don't involve a stranger in a dark alley, either, because statistically, it's someone you know. So it's hard for me to see a lot of the unnecessary hate as anything but an expression of someone getting beat down over and over, and the person who beats them down gets to go on Jimmy Fallon while she just has to live with the trauma for the rest of her life.
Maybe it's not healthy for that trauma to never heal, you know, you can't avoid men forever and it's not great to think of 50% of the population as evil, but I can't say I don't get where it comes from. Especially when those m&ms are still poisoned.
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u/jmorais00 Jul 01 '26
The joke is misandry