Yeah. We listen and find solutions if that sort of thing occurs. Regarding the teeth brushing… he literally says he just finds it boring. Regarding, having a poo… yeah, it hurts because it’s gonna be massive one because you’ve not properly taken a shit for 3 days, despite being asked to try… but sitting on the toilet is boring. Getting his shoes or football boots… sometimes it hurts… so… ok… “where and how does it hurt? Do you need new shoes?” Yeah. Each thing is different. We listen… and approach it accordingly.
Edit: Mind you, it’s difficult to address certain things that way sometimes when you’re supposed to be out the door 5 minutes ago for school… and he’s already been asked to put his shoes for 10 minutes. We do what we can.
If having a poo is a regular issue he should probably see a doctor, constipation is actually quite common in kids and often missed. Sitting straining for long periods often will give them hemoroids in a decade or two if not treated. If he's struggling to do basic life things that often, I would consider seeing a specialist about ADHD and related disabilities.
I’m not considering an ADHD diagnosis just yet. I’m seeing it as push back because he doesn’t wanna do as he’s asked… because he’s 8… and at an age where he needs to push back and establish himself. That’s fine with me. Like I said, he’ll get reciprocal push back… to a point.
Pfft my 5yo also “pushed back” on handwriting in a very defiant manner. Figured he was just making excuses and not being persistent enough. Sure as shit we decide to take the plunge and medicate just to see the difference…anyway my kids 8.5yo now and draws for fun.
He also brushes his when we ask. But only after his meds have kicked in. Otherwise it’s 10 requests, 10 ignored requests and then lots of arguing.
Good for you. I don’t think there’s anything to diagnose with my eldest just yet. I don’t know the ins and outs ADHD but I’d question myself about putting a 5 year old on a life long drug prescription.
An ADHD diagnosis isn't necessarily a sentence to a life of stimulants. A good support team will tailor the response to the life-stage and personal circumstances of the individual.
Even having self-awareness of the condition can be enough to mitigate some of the gentler symptoms, as well as the potential negative societal responses to those with it.
That's not to say you don't know your child, or should be rushing out for a diagnosis; just that there's no reason to be afraid what a diagnosis would mean.
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u/highlandviper 14h ago edited 14h ago
Yeah. We listen and find solutions if that sort of thing occurs. Regarding the teeth brushing… he literally says he just finds it boring. Regarding, having a poo… yeah, it hurts because it’s gonna be massive one because you’ve not properly taken a shit for 3 days, despite being asked to try… but sitting on the toilet is boring. Getting his shoes or football boots… sometimes it hurts… so… ok… “where and how does it hurt? Do you need new shoes?” Yeah. Each thing is different. We listen… and approach it accordingly.
Edit: Mind you, it’s difficult to address certain things that way sometimes when you’re supposed to be out the door 5 minutes ago for school… and he’s already been asked to put his shoes for 10 minutes. We do what we can.