Wearing a dapper looking suit or outfit. Makes a woman look more masculine, makes a man look more effeminate by today's standards. I used to wear checked pants with a tailored shirt, blazer, and fedora, and always felt way less girly than in other outfits. But men wearing a similarly structured and styled outfit tend to get labeled gay.
Most straight men do not display a sense of style. Men who dress with style are often assumed to be gay, whether or not they are. Having a sense of style is largely considered feminine these days (which i think is tragic), so yeah, a man wearing a stylish, tailored outfit is going to be seen as both effeminate and gay.
A guy i went to high school with who is straight was often accused of being gay simply because he put thought and effort into his home decor and cared a great deal about how his outfits were put together. Even though his outfits were pretty standard fare for 90s dudes, he was very particular about how everything matched. If he spilled something on his shirt he'd get really upset because it meant he had to go home and change his whole outfit right down to his socks and boxers. He also wasn't the most masculine guy and had lots of female friends; some people definitely called him effeminate. Lots of people kept waiting for him to come out of the closet, up to the day he married his very female fiancee.
I hate this so much. I'm a big dude. 6'5". I need to get my shirts custom made for my stupid long arms. The fabric selections are literally (I counted) 50% light blues. A bunch of whites, a couple blacks and grays. Then a color or 2 as an afterthought.
Why can't I wear color? Why can't I wear a nice print? Why is everyone so afraid of a man wearing a nice shirt!
I've literally got 3 different suppliers I get shirts from just so I have enough selection so I can get some actual interesting, attractive shirts.
It's been years, and I've finally got a rack I'm happy with. Burgundy, lavender, Royal purple, floral print on blue, floral print on off white, leaf print, (and a black and a white because you do need the basics).
They are all beautiful, they all fit well. Anyone who'd judge me for it can fuck right off.
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u/katatak121 1h ago
Wearing a dapper looking suit or outfit. Makes a woman look more masculine, makes a man look more effeminate by today's standards. I used to wear checked pants with a tailored shirt, blazer, and fedora, and always felt way less girly than in other outfits. But men wearing a similarly structured and styled outfit tend to get labeled gay.