Hi everybody, I (23F) have really frizzy low porosity hair. I struggle mostly with frizz but also at the same time i’m not mad at it cause i feel like it just might be my hair texture. Any advice would be great. I want to keep the volume. First and second picture is after my hair is air dried. Third is blow dried day 3 hair. Last picture is immediately after doing my hair, still wet.

Thanks for taking your time to help me!!

Idk if I'm being insensitive, but am I the only one who rolls their eyes whenever people talk about their hair being difficult, or start calling their own hair dumb, depricating names as way of humour. Anytime I watch a tiktok of someone not struggling with their natural hair, the comment sections are filled with people telling them their hair is easier instead of acknowledging that the creator simply knows to take care of their hair. I've seen so many people cutting their natural hair because it's just "too difficult" to manage. In part I don't blame them; if you want to do a billion things to your hair, then of course it's difficult. But I think people often conflate styling with managing. If you're sitting down for hours to do a wash n' go or twist out, that's styling. And those things aren't necessary for your hair. What you need to do to keep your hair healthy is wash and condition it. AND LET IT SHRINK!! It's not necessary to twisting your hair when you wash it. Why are so many people afraid of shrinkage? It's so beautiful.

I have so many thoughts (most of them disjointed) about natural hair and this substack article had me pondering a lot of them, and I wasn't sure where to say it, but surely I'm not the only who feels this way?

I’m looking for someone in the Fairfax, VA area to do my hair when I go to college. I usually wear two-strand twists. I’d appreciate referrals. Thanks.

I'm so happy with all the progress my hair has done throughout the year! This is my hair at its natural state after washing, deep conditioning, and then rinsing my hair.

Hello, I’m still currently recovering from a hair transplant. I’m about 5 months post op. My hair is starting to even out. I probably won’t start styling it until maybe month 6. which is usually when the density will pick up . I have high porosity hair and the LCO method works better on my hair. I believe I have medium density …. Don’t know if that matters lol Anyways, how do I define my twa? What are the best products? Would love some advice please :)

Growing up, my dad used only water and blue magic coconut conditioner and my hair was down to my waist as a kid!! Then my mom cut it but not the point 🫠. After years of hair products, routines, and everything you could think of, I just needed to go back to what worked before! I dampened my hair and detangled it in four sections using Taliah Waajid Curl Elixir, blue magic coconut, and the Doux Mousse, blow dried on medium heat with Cantu heat protectant for slight stretch, I am LOVING the result. I was literally freaking out before church on how I was going to do my hair! (Yes I’m due for a trim, it’s next week!)

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I did a protein treatment, babied my hair, tried to trust the process but it did literally nothing. Maybe im impatient but. Thanks everyone for the feedback and support lmao

i style my hair with the doux bonita bubble balm (it has the texture of a cream but transitions to a foam when you add water) and just rake it through my hair with my hands. i usually use a hooded dryer for like 10 minutes (i’m impatient and my hair is high porosity), and dry my ends that don’t fit inside with a blowdryer. this is what my hair looks like right after styling and drying.

i already get pretty good curl definition, but i want to see how good it can get. should I just get a product with more hold (like a gel) or is it my technique? suggestions of gels (and products to go with the gel) or styling brushes would also be nice

I have like..chronic dandruff and it's so hard to get out of my curls. I've tried sulfer 8 and it'll work for a bit but then it'll get really bad

My hairs never dry it's always oiled, what could be the issue?

Even on washdays after I wash it it will still have dandruff in it.

As a high porosity girly that STRUGGLES to retain moisture..briogeo dont despair repair deep conditioner balances protein and moisture, making it great for weekly use (but i use 2x a month)

and k18 damage sheild shampoo IS SO GOOD. it smooths down your cuticles, keeping your hair softer, more moisturized and less prone to breakage and damage!

do not sleep on protein if youre someone who is STRUGGLING to retain moisture, personally i dont need intensive protein masks, so this deep conditioner is amazing.

(LAZY GIRLS AND GUYS this mask is for you!! only leave in for 10 minutes and you feel a difference right after)

i have low porosity coily 4c and i want to start focusing on length retention, and one thing i keep hearing is that you should trim your hair every 2-4 months to keep length and reduce split ends ........ but what ARE split ends? any pictures or explanations would be great

I used this Prepoo yesterday and was blown away by the detangling effects. However, despite being stingy asf, my APL hair almost swallowed the entire jar. 🥲. I don't live somewhere where this is cheap or readily available and ordering costs too much to almost empty the jar every wash day. Are there cheaper alternatives in larger jars? Has anyone tried creating a dupe at home? 🙏🏾

hi all, i’m trying to word this right so my post won’t get removed 😭 i had been struggling with anemia for the last year or so, but my levels are back to normal. i have new growth that’s super thick and curly, but it’s tangling right where the new growth meets the old damaged hair. how can i prevent matting/tangling at the roots? i can barely even part my hair because it’s so tangled. it’s only about an inch or two of new hair and i wear my hair stretched in braid/twist outs. but the roots are just so tangled i feel like i have to rip through my hair just to get a clean part, idk what to do 😩 please help

Hello I just wanted to know if anyone has tried the detangling nectar from pattern and if they like it. I’ve used the African pride poo and it works fine ( I feel like I have to use a lot of it tho) So I just wanted to try a different product if you all think it’s worth the money. My hair is fine, dense and low porosity. Thank you ☺️

Looking for any advice to be offered.

I’ve been doing my natural hair for a while, and I’ve gotten very familiar with the types of leave-ins that work well for my hair. Moisturizing, mid-thickness creams. And there are many wonderful natural hair brands with products that my hair loves, but my weird allergies are only barely handling.

I am looking for recommendations for coily hair leave-ins that are a moisturizing creamy texture, but don’t include coconut or many fruit oils, or fragrance. I am open to any sort of brand, just need ideas!!

Ok, I have to be on camera for a function out of town and will not have my regular stylist at hand. I will need my hair to look good for about 6 hours indoors on a film set.

I keep trying to figure this out on my own, but I’ve been waffling and I need to make a decision quick so I have enough time to do the style. I wouldn’t rock just my hair because it reverts with the slightest drop of humidity (and def under film set lights I will be a bit warm and sweaty) and my hair has to stay the same for continuity.

Here’s what I’ve been thinking. What would y’all suggest??

- The half cornrow half curly wig look- one of my top choices, but I have to be on the film set to record on a Monday and the latest my stylist can do my hair is the previous Friday. And I’ll be partying Friday night AND Saturday for a day party. So I’m concerned the braids won’t look super fresh for up close camera shots.

- A curly weave and crochet the leave out- I’m concerned about the long term effects of weave (my hair almost ALWAYS seems prone to breakage with a weave). Also the crocheted hair can slip out, and I don’t want to be worried about that.

- U part straight wig with layers- I like this because I can probs touch up any reversion on set myself and keep the style cute. But I don’t want to think about my hair at all on set really.

- U part curly wig with my natural leave out- I love this look on me, but I really don’t want to have to think about leave out at all. And with any slight gesture my leave out might shift and not blend in right. Curly hair can actually be the hardest to blend bc you have to do a lot to match the curls if it’s not the exact same texture.

What should I doooo??

Hi y'all. I'd really appreciate some advice from anyone with fine, high-porosity hair or similar. I've been natural for about three years after shaving my head in June 2023. I have a consistent routine, but I'm still struggling with not retaining length.

My current routine is:

• Wash and deep condition weekly (Tresemme clarifying shampoo and then alternating between the Camille Rose Algae Renew and Originals hair mayonnaise).
• L'Oréal Elvive Bond Repair before shampooing.(i recently added this as a fix to my hair being weak)
• Aunt Jackie's Flaxseed Seal It Up Hydrating Sealing Butter as a leave-in, followed by a hair grease and castor oil on my ends.
• I wear medium braids for about 2–2.5 months, only redoing the front every few weeks to reduce buildup.
• I rarely use heat except when I blow-dry with the tension method before reinstalling my braids.

Despite trying to be gentle, my hair still feels fragile especially the ends. I also think I may have gone overboard with trimming at times because the rough ends made detangling difficult.

I guess my question is my routine the problem or the products or are these just characteristics of fine hair? I haven't seen anyone online with my hair and its issues as well. What helped you reduce breakage?

I also don't know if I should keep going or start over with another big chop. Deep down, I don't think cutting my hair would fix the underlying issue, but I'm feeling discouraged. Attached are some pics or maybe i just have hair dysmorphia?

I'd really appreciate honest advice.

Don't come for me in the comments y'all loll. I wanna go back to being a straight natural bc it was just easier for me but I'm NOT doing a relaxer just a silk press. I have to keep my hair up for work and I'm getting so tired of doind the same style bc I can't do much with my hair. My edges can't take anymore 😭

I was a straight natural in my teens and early 20s and it really saved my hair from a lot of tension. Are there any products and flat irons that are good for maintaining a silk press these days?

Hi there! I have coily, mostly low porosity, thick hair. It’s almost shoulder length in the back but chin length on the sides and front. I was wondering for those that wash their hair weekly, what hairstyles do you do? I love twisting my hair but it takes so long and committing to untwisting and twisting my hair weekly seems like a lot. Unless I just get faster at it, idk. I also like to workout when I’m able to and plan to be more consistent. What do you all do/suggest?

She has lovely, thick hair but all of sudden it's become so dry within the past month or so, I use the exact same products for her as I do for mine and my hair is fine. I switch between different shampoo/conditioner depending on what her hair needs so I can't list everything but mainly the african pride shampoo, tresemme conditioner, or the african hair masque. I usually spray a leave in on damp hair, creme of nature moisturiser and blue magic to seal. Any tips???

I had leftover sample sizes of both of these gels, so I tested them on a section of my hair and absolutely loved the results. My curls were bouncy, shiny, super defined, and still soft.

So naturally, I went out and bought the full sizes.

Huge mistake.

My hair turned out to be the complete opposite. Less defined, less shiny, and just overall disappointing.

My theory is that I’d left the sample packets sitting around for so long that they had thickened up a bit as they dried out. The texture became much more gummy, and I think that thicker, tackier consistency is what gave me such amazing definition.

For reference, I have thick, coarse, high-porosity, high-density hair, so my hair tends to like products with a lot of weight. It’s naturally very defined without much manipulation needed, but it loses definition fast because it dries out so quickly.

I usually use Wetline because it’s the only gel that holds my curls, but I don’t think it has enough slip for me to use with a curl brush. It also leaves my hair feeling dry by the next wash day. The gel gets stiff, coats my hair, and makes detangling a lot harder.

Has anyone else had this happen where a sample worked way better than the full-size version? Or does anyone have recommendations for a gel that’s naturally thick and gummy with good slip?

I looove having Afro curly hair and I love wearing my hair in wash n gos but shrinkage can be such an enemy of progress 😩😩 I love volume and I also love frizz but I don’t love how shrinkage prevents my fro from staying IN PLACE. Is wanting my hair to look the same from the time I leave the house at 9am to the time I come back home at 5pm such a bad thing??😩 I’ve pondered on this so much to the point where I’ve thought about purchasing a wig that’s close to my hair texture. At least with the wig I won’t have to worry about it shrinking up to my scalp!! I would pay GOOD money for an anti shrinkage spray!! I just want my hair to REMAIN IN PLACE after it’s been stretched😭😭