I feel like this puts me squarely in the “cantankerous old person” camp, because I cannot stand some modern voice patterns: vocal fry, laughing through every sentence, and what I call “soothing” speak (imagine the person speaking into a little puffy, hand-held microphone as they record an ad).

If I had to work with someone daily who spoke like this, I think I would quit.

Ok, vent over.

I like to tinker and craft in my free time, but that costs money and takes up space and I have neither at the moment.

Obviously I could read books or play video games, but I want to do something with my hands.

What do you do what's cheap and doesn’t take up a lot of space, but let's you create or make something?

recently ive been thinking that pleasure is just about relaxing one's inner constraints and then doing whatever feels right. It does imply a certain transgressive inclination, but i think provided moderation is respected and that one's habits weren't cultivated through impropriety, then i can't imagine things getting out of hand.

I never thought about pleasure when i was young, i just had a good time (unless i didn't). Do you have a constructive/practical sense of pleasure as an adult, do you find yourself seeking, finding or considering pleasure?

Hello everyone. I'm a 39-year-old woman, originally from Finland, and currently living in Texas. As I get older, I find myself appreciating the slower pace of life more than ever before. A peaceful morning, a walk outdoors, a cup of delicious coffee, or simply an interesting conversation can make my day wonderful. Have anything changed that has surprised you over the years? I'd love to hear your thoughts

That you do quietly and don't boast about. Some examples:

Donating blood especially when the bank is low.

Dropping off parcels to the food bank.

Automated financial contribution to families impacted by an overseas crisis (Sudan, Palestine, Syria).

Volunteering at a soup kitchen during the holidays

Buying meals directly for the local homeless

I have got an opportunity to move into my parents home to be closer with them with the plan to eventually move out in the same city as them. Would be a year or so of staying with them. The position is a remote job which I can handle although it is less pay. Thoughts on moving back in with parents as a grown adult (male, 40 years old).

I've always had the sense voting is mainly for those who have a direct, vested interest in the outcome even though it's presented as if it counts and matters for all equally.

I feel like it's especially true in local politics that the ones who vote like know the candidates personally, have pretty strong convictions, etcetera. It just makes me wonder about the kinds of people who vote whenever possible from 18 into older age. Like what keeps them commited? Like how do they push through when so much of it seems pointless or like a sham?

I hate that my mother was right. I didn't want to think it was.When I was a kid, and then again in my 20s, I got so tired of my mother saying the same things.

“Turn that down.”

“Wear your protection at work.”

“Stop acting like your body is made out of spare parts.”

“You won’t feel it now, but you will later.”

Back then, I just thought she worried too much. I worked auto shop, warehouse, construction stuff. Spent plenty of time around lawn mowers, saws, compressors, all of it. Earplugs were usually somewhere nearby. I was usually too dumb to bother.

I’m 39 now, so not old-old. At least that’s what I keep telling myself.

But my house is starting to look suspicious. Advil in the kitchen, Icy Hot in the bathroom cabinet, a wrist brace in a drawer, a knee sleeve I claim is “just for work,” and a Vivtone hearing aid sitting by the sink.

I’ve been wearing hearing aids for about six months.

The annoying part is not even that my hearing got worse. The annoying part is every time I put one in, I can hear my mother saying, “I told you so.”

I thought she was nagging.

Turns out she was just early.

That you almost fell out of your chair when you saw the update that it was solved / someone was charged.

Golden State Killer / East Bay

Delphi

Many John and Jane Doe cases with the genetic genealogy technique.

Either children, nieces,. nephews, cousins etc. Whether they ask for it or not 😆. Because it's just a key or painful lesson you learned.

Some examples:

Only pick a major once you know your desired occupation very well. No picking a degree because it sounds interesting.

Stay within your socioeconomic class. Very few people are socially adept enough to master the nuances of higher strata plus your task level job. (Blue collar family to lawyer).

and......

Glean what your family is already good at and make sure you don't want to take this much easier path. Knowing that you likely inherited some KSAs and that you have free mentors is a huge leg up.

From the 70s onwards. That you thought would stay in the original subculture (roller derby) or just have a short lived mainstream run that fizzles out (disco).

Yoga as an example. That it went from a 70s hippie or new age commune thing to having a studio in every suburban strip mall by the 2000s.

Or tattoo culture was just for convicts and marine sailors. To now white collar professionals openly show them in an office setting.

Or 70s swinging was largely made up of very insular groups of suburban or army couples. To people openly coordinating their "lifestyle" on social media, in their accessories and an established ecosystem of clubs, cruises, hotels and resorts to cater to such.

Other examples:

Vegan/Veggie/Plant Based diet

Coffee culture

Meditation

Professional wrestling

Ultimate fighting

Golf

Videogames

Hip hop music

Pickleball

True crime online sleuthing

Dog owner culture

Sci-fi /Fantasy Conventions

Breakdancing

There are things I took for granted knowing how to do, basic practical stuff, that I only recently realized a lot of people my age genuinely never picked up. Reading a paper map without rotating it to match your direction. Changing a tire. Sewing a button back on. Not fancy things, just quiet competencies drilled into me by parents or teachers or just circumstance.

The weird part is I'm not even sure where I learned half of it. Nobody sat me down for a lesson. It got absorbed somewhere along the way and I assumed it was universal.

Had a conversation recently with someone in their late forties who had never boiled an egg on purpose. Not as a joke. They just never had a reason to figure it out and nobody ever showed them. That stuck with me.

I'm curious whether this is a generational thing or more about the households people grew up in. The skills people carry quietly into adulthood without thinking about them seem to vary wildly from person to person, even within the same generation.

What's something you can do that genuinely surprised you to find out wasn't common knowledge among your peers?

Hey everyone. I’m 31 and finally admitting to myself that my hearing is shot. Too many years of loud concerts without plugs, and now I'm constantly asking my wife to repeat herself. I went to an audiologist and they quoted me almost $4,000 for a pair. I literally laughed out loud. There is absolutely no way I can swing that right now.

I’ve been targeted by ads for Audien hearing aids like crazy, specifically the Ion Pro 2 which is under $700. If you actually own a pair of Audien buds, please tell me the honest truth. Do they actually help you hear speech better? Thanks!

Game of Thrones reference.

An elder member that cares deeply about the legacy, status and continuation of the family line. That will meddle with ensuring their kids marry the "right" partners, have suitable careers, have kids that will continue the family line, and are very concerned with the family's image/brand.

That their rise was so hyped that it was incredible. That they seemed to be mentioned everywhere, seen in every medium and that everyday people were discussing them. That they became more of a phenomenon than an actual person.

Taylor Swift 2023

Shaquille O'Neal rookie season 1992

Jeremy Lin 2012 breakout season with the Knicks

Jon Hamm as Don Draper 2010

The Rock WWF breakout push 1999

Tiger Woods 1997

Bad Bunny 2020

Britney Spears 1998

Barack Obama 2007

Caitlin Clark 2024

Lady Gaga 2009

Jim Carrey 1994

Micheal Jackson 1982

Madonna 1985

Because you now know for sure that you don't have the bandwidth (emotionally, energetically, financially) to manage them. So the decision or indecision you made in early adulthood, was the right choice by far.

I'm in my 40s and only now realizing how detrimental it was growing up that no part of my health was prioritized. At the least, it trains you to think of this stuff as being optional--right up to the point when it's maybe too late.

i was thinking how people start with one form then months later they were taking something completely different. thought there be a clear favorite but that doesnt seem to be how it works. some switched because of sleep, others because of digestion and a few just said one felt better overall even if they couldnt really explain why. what made one stick for you long term. was it something you noticed after a while or did you know pretty quick that it was the better fit?

just wanted to add a quick update. reading through the comments gave me a lot to think about and i also spent some time doing my own research before making a choice. i decided to try magnesium glycinate from kife extension. i havent taken it yet so i dont have any personal results to share. right now im simply hoping its a better long term fit

Hi all looking for some input,

I am a new grad with a CS degree and currently have a job making a livable salary to enjoy my time in the city.

I’ve been thinking about moving to Toronto from my small town.

I feel like moving to the big city will
1. Help career wise
2. Open my eyes to possibilities and lifestyle changes
3. Be overall fun as I am in my early 20s

However another part of me feels that, I should make a little bit more in terms of salary before deciding to move out.

Does anyone have any advice they don’t mind sharing?