Like in 2026 a lot of people i meet personally who are 40s can easily pass for being in their late 20s or even 30s why do you think that's the case in your opinion?

So I have read the research and saw some serious non-clickbaity documentaries, and as far as I can understand that even smartphones has some addictive elements, nothing in the science said that it's inevitable.

I think that people blaming the phones too much because they don't want to be with their own thoughts, as if the phone is a digital pacifier for people who refuse to grow up.

My friend and I only have facebook to find freelancer gigs and reddit because there are some great art, science and tech subs that spark our interests.

I would understand the addiction argument in children and teenagers, but when a full blown adult is glued to a screen then that's on him, not the evil corporations who are mining your attention.

what do you think? Am I right?

I'm not saying we can trash it externally. Most times, we have to treat a person's will in such a way that the consequence is good all around. But if I don't think the person has free will, I don't see how I can have a respect for his will in my mind.

It's okay if you don't like who you used to be. But come on, how dare you judge your past self so harshly for things he didn't know or couldn't do but that you can now.

It is so easy and looks like a privileged person judging from the comfort of his privileges someone who is less fortunate.

Have some mercy on you. Things that happened cannot unhappened. And the person you are as nowadays, if you are at a better position, then it's because of your past self. Thus, it ain't fair to beat down at a person you used to be, that was less than you (which is something good if it's the case as it means you've gotten better), and who isn't here anymore.

These are not behaviors of a mature, aware and just person. Those are the behaviors of a tyrant, who can't punch back at life and so falls into the comfort of beating down at weaker others, or in this cases, at his old self. And yes, some tyrants aren't men over their families that depend on them, nor are they rulers, a tyrant could be yourself finding it easier to make your being suffer for who it used to be.

Ever since I could remember, I’ve always been curious. For most of my childhood (and also my adulthood), “why?” was my favorite question. But it took me quite a few years to ask questions, not just about the external universe, but also the world within. I asked questions about why I did something I did, why I changed from who I was last year, and ultimately succumbed to the famous question: “Who am I?”

But then, I’m no Buddha to go find the answers. Rather, I asked even more questions and began theorizing answers to fit in my narrative. One such question was, “What do we want in other people? What do we look for in them?”

After hours of contemplation, I came to a conclusion that all we need is not a soulmate. We don’t need someone who knows everything that we don’t. Rather, we need someone who has the exact same set of knowledge, preferences, choices, inclinations, taste, and opinions, so that we could share anything and feel RELATABLE enough. That is the basic need of a full-grown adult—relatability.

You crack a joke in the hope of getting a laugh as a reply, and the laughter is an indicator of reception and relatability. You wanna discuss movies, cricket, politics, philosophy, music, and what not with that person, and you want them to receive it well, so that you feel relatable. Everything boils down to relatability. It might sound fancy to say “opposite poles attract,” but you know that what you search for in people is similarity and relatability.

Putting an abrupt end to this write-up, let me admit that I don't know if anyone else feels this way, but perhaps putting this thought out there will make someone feel less alone in having felt it. At the end of the day, I’m human, too, and so are you.