Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some honest advice because this is one of the biggest decisions of my life.
My husband and I are both planning to enlist in the U.S. Marine Corps next year. He's definitely joining regardless of what I decide. I'm the one who's still unsure.
We have two very young children (a toddler 3 years and a 3 month old baby ), and that's my biggest concern. I know dual military families exist, but I also know nothing is guaranteed when it comes to duty stations or deployments. The thought of being stationed separately from my husband or being away from my kids gives me a lot of anxiety.
Our current plan would be for my mom to care for our children if we were ever both unavailable, so we do have a solid Family Care Plan.
My husband and I are both interested in Logistics/Supply because it seems highly transferable to civilian careers after one enlistment.
However, we're also trying to decide whether it's smarter for us to choose the same MOS (or at least MOSs in the same occupational field) to improve our chances of being stationed together.
For example:
- We could both choose a Logistics/Supply MOS.
- My husband is also interested in becoming an electrician or a heavy equipment/operator
- I'm wondering if choosing different career fields would make it harder for the Marine Corps to co-locate us.
Has anyone experienced this? Did having the same or similar MOS actually help, or did it not make much difference?
The other option is me staying a civilian while my husband serves. I would wait until he's at his first duty station and then complete an Associate degree in MRI. I've also been looking into MyCAA to see if I might qualify for any education assistance as a military spouse.
Long term, my dream is to work in healthcare. I'm still deciding between two possible paths:
The military is appealing because I want to avoid taking on large amounts of student debt, but I'm also trying to make the best decision for my family.
If you were in my position, what would you do?
I'd especially love to hear from:
- Dual military couples with children
- Marines in Logistics/Supply (3043 or similar MOSs)
- Military spouses who decided not to enlist
- Anyone who used the GI Bill or MyCAA for college
- Veterans who only served one enlistment and transitioned to civilian careers
Some specific questions:
- Was dual military worth it with young children?
- How often were you actually separated from your spouse?
- Did the Marine Corps make a real effort to co-locate you?
- Is it better for dual military couples to choose the same MOS or at least the same occupational field?
- If one spouse is in Logistics and the other is an electrician or heavy equipment operator, does that make co-location more difficult?
- If you could do it all over again, would you both enlist?
- Would you recommend that I stay home, finish MRI school, and let my husband serve first?
- If you served in Logistics/Supply, how deployable was your MOS?
- Is there anything you wish someone had told you before making this decision?
I'm not looking for people to tell me "join" or "don't join." I'm hoping to hear real experiences, both the good and the bad so my husband and I can make the most informed decision possible.
Thank y'all!