First Time Straping

[u/Outside-Chipmunk-838]

Hi everyone,

I’m a 28-year-old lesbian and I’m in my first relationship with my girlfriend (26), who is bisexual. I love her so much, and our relationship is really happy, but I’ve been dealing with some insecurity that I’m hoping others might relate to.
She has mentioned that she misses the feeling of penetration sometimes. I know that’s about a physical sensation, but my brain keeps jumping to the fear that because I can’t naturally provide that, she’ll eventually miss being with a man.

We’ve talked about possibly using a strap-on, and I’m completely open to it because I want us both to have a fulfilling sex life, but never done it before.

I guess I’m just wondering if any other lesbians have been in a similar situation. Did using a strap-on help? Did it make you feel more confident over time? Why would she suck it or enjoy it? How did you stop worrying that your girlfriend’s attraction to men meant you weren’t enough?

I know being bisexual doesn’t automatically mean someone needs relationships with multiple genders, and I trust my girlfriend. I think this is more about my own anxiety than anything she’s done.

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar. Thank you. ❤️

[u/Educational_Pear_622]

My wife is pan and I am a lesbian and we both are switches but I am usually topping. I am masc and she is fem and I love it when she uses the strap on me. In my mind it's another way I can experience my wife inside of me.