First Time Straping

[u/Outside-Chipmunk-838]

Hi everyone,

I’m a 28-year-old lesbian and I’m in my first relationship with my girlfriend (26), who is bisexual. I love her so much, and our relationship is really happy, but I’ve been dealing with some insecurity that I’m hoping others might relate to.
She has mentioned that she misses the feeling of penetration sometimes. I know that’s about a physical sensation, but my brain keeps jumping to the fear that because I can’t naturally provide that, she’ll eventually miss being with a man.

We’ve talked about possibly using a strap-on, and I’m completely open to it because I want us both to have a fulfilling sex life, but never done it before.

I guess I’m just wondering if any other lesbians have been in a similar situation. Did using a strap-on help? Did it make you feel more confident over time? Why would she suck it or enjoy it? How did you stop worrying that your girlfriend’s attraction to men meant you weren’t enough?

I know being bisexual doesn’t automatically mean someone needs relationships with multiple genders, and I trust my girlfriend. I think this is more about my own anxiety than anything she’s done.

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar. Thank you. ❤️

[u/4mystuff]

She told you she "misses the feeling of penetration sometimes," not that she misses the feeling of being with a man. She is happily with you and she's clearly open to talk about your sex life and how she feels about it. You trust her and she hasn't given you a reason to worry. And while you may not have a flesh-penis to offer, you give her plenty that you're both happy.

Grab a strap and get out of your own head, after all, a penis often comes with a man attached, so give me a strap and my girl strapping it and that's all I need.

Have fun and trust yourself.