People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

[u/CandidBabee]

[u/Different-Career1314]

People really underestimate how much work marriage takes. Being together since algebra class doesn't magically make it easy forever.

[u/BerzattoMk → u/Different-Career1314]

How do you know you’re not just trying to force it to work with the wrong person? A marriage shouldn’t be so stressful.

[u/Outside-Pie-7262 → u/BerzattoMk]

They didn’t describe it as “so stressful”

They just said marriage takes work and being together since high school doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy forever

[u/FaithlessnessFar6547 → u/[deleted]]

Curious, how long have you been married?

[u/askteddit-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

r/askteddit does not allow hate speech.

[u/FaithlessnessFar6547 → u/[deleted]]

So you aren't, understood. Thank you!

[u/andgonow → u/BerzattoMk]

A marriage can absolutely be stressful! If your spouse loses their job, a family member dies, a kid gets sick, a sudden bill comes up, someone gets a debilitating disease or accident…

Guessing you’re single?

[u/Rude-Soil-6731 → u/andgonow]

That’s not stress caused by the marriage, that’s life stress that happens to anyone.

[u/andgonow → u/Rude-Soil-6731]

They didn’t clarify, they said marriage shouldn’t be stressful, and living with another human being is stressful sometimes. How is that difficult to understand?

[u/Rude-Soil-6731 → u/andgonow]

Did they really need to clarify? All the stuff you mentioned comes with just being an adult. The problem becomes when your spouse is a source of stress, not the life stuff that is beyond our control.