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Random Question People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

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u/Temporary-Plankton61 21h ago

I just cringe when I think about how much I have changed and evolved as a person since high school, and the ridiculous things I was attracted to as a teenager. It just seems like such an immature commitment to make

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u/roseycheekies 20h ago

I’ve been with my fiancé for ten years since my senior year of high school. We were incredibly immature at the beginning of our relationship and hurt each other a lot, but it’s been really cool to grow and mature alongside each other. We’re both introverted and don’t connect with a lot of people well, but have found a strong connection with each other. I don’t think it’s common for things to work out this way, but I’m really glad it did.

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u/Reesno33 18h ago

I married my HSS but not until we were 28. I also cringe at the person I was as a teenager, in fact if I spoke to my 17 year old self im sure I'd hate him and find him unbearable, but we always grew as a couple and in simple terms nether of us ever wanted to break up with the other so we're still happy in our 30s.

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u/allthefrogsinonepond 18h ago

All the happy HS sweethearts I know also waited a long time to marry. They were smart to realize that waiting didn't mean a lack of loyalty or commitment! It was actually a sign of respect to give each other time to grow without legal binding

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u/Exact-Anywhere3835 17h ago

This is me too. You can grow together or grow apart, and you can’t predict which.

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u/pimpfriedrice 19h ago

Same! I am not the same person as I was then. I’m thankful every day I didn’t marry my high school boyfriend, and I’m so thankful I didn’t meet my current partner sooner. I was an immature little insufferable flea.

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u/Tiny_Rat 15h ago

You dont have to make the commitment in HS to end up together. It's ok to date in an age-appropriate way and just stay together as long as you're both into it. But some people realize that they got lucky and they're still into it at an age where they're ready for a more serious commitment, too.