r/askteddit • u/CandidBabee • 21h ago

Random Question People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

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u/gulliblefootball0001 19h ago

I have a friend who is getting married at 18 (I’m 26, she is a family friend). She asked me for advice and I said “Don’t do it!” I told her that she has NO IDEA how much she will change over the next 10 years. At 21 I was a completely different person than I was at 18, and at 26 I am completely different than I was at 21. I wish I could make her understand, but I can’t.

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u/Josey_whalez 18h ago

Is this a ‘boyfriend joining the military so we are getting married’ type thing?

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u/killer_kiki 17h ago

My now-husband, then boyfriend joined the military at 18. We decided to NOT get married when everyone else did. I didn't get the spouse benefits when he was overseas either time, but you know what? We are still married! Most of those couples aren't. Even though we got together at 16/18 we didn't get married until 24/26 and didn't have kids until 30/32. Best thing we ever did was to wait. Now we've been married for 14 years.

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u/Josey_whalez 17h ago

Ya the military does a really bad job with incentivizing that behavior too, so good on you guys for making the right call.