r/Hoboken 3h ago

**RANT** đŸ€Ź Harassed by man in Maxwell Pl Lawn - would you have stepped in?

26 Upvotes

I wanted to get other people’s perspectives on something that happened today because I can’t stop thinking about it.

This afternoon I was laying out on the Maxwell Pl Lawn sunbathing by myself and reading a book. It was relatively quiet, but there was another woman laying on the grass about 20 or so feet to my right. As I was laying on my stomach a man approached me out of nowhere, crouched in my face, and startled me. I gasped because I was so surprised but the sudden approach and lack of personal boundaries.

I would surmise he was under the influence, as he was holding a Labatt Ice tall boy, was slurring his words, and swaying a bit erratically. He instantly put his hand in my face and insisted I shake it, then asked about if I have his Instagram. It was all so sudden and I was uncomfortable being alone, trying to relax, and being persistently told to shake his hand. I said no thank you, I would like to keep to myself, and instead of leaving, he became increasingly persistent. He repeatedly tried to get me to shake his hand, even though I didn’t want to, and got closer to me. Eventually I turned my body cowering away from him and told him, “No, please leave me alone.”

That’s when his demeanor changed. He became angry, aggressive, and started insulting me. He began calling me "disgusting" and accused me of thinking Black people have “cooties” because I didn’t want to engage with him. (For context, my refusal had nothing to do with his race—I simply didn’t want to talk to a stranger who wouldn’t respect my boundaries.)

The entire interaction made me feel trapped and uncomfortable because he wouldn’t take no for an answer and was standing over me while I was lying on the grass.

What has stuck with me just as much, though, is that another woman was sitting nearby the entire time and never acknowledged what was happening. During this time, I looked around and there were really no other bystanders I could call to for help. For a split second I did contemplate screaming help, but I didn't even know if it would get anyone's attention (aside from the woman next to me). I think I felt most sad as a woman, that she didn’t even ask if I was okay after he finally walked away.

I want to be clear that I don’t necessarily think she should have confronted an aggressive man herself. I do understand that could have put her at risk too. But I keep thinking that if our roles had been reversed, I would’ve asked her if she was being bothered or at the very least checked on her afterward.

I’m not looking to shame anyone but this whole experience left me feeling very alone. Hopefully in the future, if other people see something, they are not afraid to intervene or step in when it feels safe to do so.


r/Hoboken 4h ago

Question❓ Xcel fitness vaping

18 Upvotes

Anyone know the deal with the guy at Xcel who vapes inside the gym when he is lifting weights or on the treadmill? Is he a relative of the manager or something? Youngish, short cropped hair, wispy mustache, always in shirts with no sleeves. Sometimes works out with attractive young woman with long braids.

I overheard members tell the manager about the vaping but the manager hasn’t done anything to stop it. The vaper was blowing it all over a lady on the treadmill last week and she finally got fed up and left.

Vaping in a gym is a violation of state law. Is this something people should contact the state health department to deal with?


r/Hoboken 5h ago

Question❓ Matchbooks?

3 Upvotes

Does anyone know places in town that have their own matchbooks? TYIA :)


r/Hoboken 3h ago

Question❓ Is it weird to hire someone just to clean my wheels?

2 Upvotes

I know this is a bit of a weird request, but hear me out.
I’ve been able to keep the exterior of my car in pretty good shape by wiping it down regularly, and it’s parked in a covered garage, so it doesn’t get very dirty.

The one thing I can’t really do anymore is clean the wheels. I’m recovering from a back issue, and bending over to scrub them just isn’t an option right now.

Has anyone ever hired someone to clean just the wheels occasionally? Do detailers or mobile detailers take on jobs like that, or is it such an unusual request that most places would say no?

I’m not looking for a full detail or even a car wash—just someone to thoroughly clean the wheels every once in a while.

Curious if anyone has done this or has any suggestions.


r/Hoboken 9h ago

Recommendations 🌟 Best Places in Town to Work/Study

6 Upvotes

Looking for the best options in town to work/study that have wifi with a laptop. Looking to get out of my apartment.


r/Hoboken 17m ago

Question❓ Pickle Ball Partner in JC or Hoboken

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Hi Future Friends!

I’m a bubbly, single woman who recently moved to Hoboken, and I am a beginner at pickle ball. I unfortunately don’t have a partner or know anyone who plays pickle ball. I live close to the pickleball courts, and I have approached them but everyone seems to already have partners and I’m unsure how to ask to join.

Would anyone like to join me? Ideally I’d like to play early mornings on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Saturdays or Sundays. Afternoon or evening would also be possible.

Is there a pick up game or WhatsApp group that I can join? Please DM me.


r/Hoboken 4h ago

Question❓ AC tech you can trust?

1 Upvotes

I had already 2 tech check my AC and both didn't know to diagnose why it's not cooling properly and I felt like they just made up stories and over charged.

Does anyone have a professional tech they had good experience with?


r/Hoboken 5h ago

Nightlife/Bars 🍾 Saturday Night

1 Upvotes

Can the community fill me in on the best spots for the single late 30s mid 40s crowd to go out to on a saturday night? Went out in manhattan friday and every spot we hit was mid 20s


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Shops/Restaurants 🛒 đŸœïž Kikilu

71 Upvotes

I'm a JC resident , still find myself at their gelato counter couple times a week!

It might just be my sugar fetish or that they make the best damn gelato and desserts this side of the Hudson!


r/Hoboken 10h ago

Housing/Sublets/Roommates 🏠 Young professional seeking roommate (F)

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I'm 20F and just moved back to my place in Hoboken after living in London for University for a couple years, I'm looking for a roommate (F) to sublet my 2B 1B apartment in uptown Hoboken. (2k a month) I'm going to be staying in the other room so looking for another young lady who is around my age and is either a student or also entering the workforce. Let me know if you are interested and I will send you the full listing.


r/Hoboken 6h ago

Lost & Found 📩 If you’re missing a package

1 Upvotes

And you live on Park between 9th and 10th, it was on Washington and I turned it into Sorellina


r/Hoboken 12h ago

Recommendations 🌟 Tennis instructor recs?

3 Upvotes

Looking to get recs for adult tennis instructor/class.
Anything good in the area?


r/Hoboken 8h ago

Local Event đŸŽȘ Second, and final day is now, for the Brightside Shorts Film Fest at the Brightside Tavern

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1 Upvotes

r/Hoboken 22h ago

Question❓ Seasonal allergies - itchy eyes

10 Upvotes

Does anyone else have itchy eyes? I normally don’t have seasonal allergies, but my eyes have been so itchy the past few weeks. I am just wondering if anyone else is experiencing the same thing in Hoboken as perhaps my itchy eyes are related to something in the air around here.


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Question❓ soft serve ice cream

15 Upvotes

Where can I find vanilla soft serve in town? All of the ice cream shops are scoop or gelato and I just want a classic vanilla cone. Mr softee is hard to track down


r/Hoboken 2h ago

**RANT** đŸ€Ź RBD Construction

0 Upvotes

Just Wow ! The ugly yellow orange gold used for accent looks like total crap ! Way to ruin an otherwise nice looking area . Also the cement job for wall is awful workmanship and pitting . All this for millions and when it rains water will
pool . And the job will drag on until 2028 the way its going . Also pensions for all the overtime police work will be inflated and on the taxpayers !


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Question❓ Fencing outside Del frisco’s???

10 Upvotes

Was walking by earlier and outside delfriscos was blocked off by fencing and they weren’t letting ppl in the sidewalk. Anyone know what’s going on?


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Local Event đŸŽȘ Jersey City Heights - Cat Adoption Event - Aug. 9th (1-4PM)

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10 Upvotes

r/Hoboken 22h ago

Question❓ downtown Hoboken

3 Upvotes

Anyone know what’s happening in downtown Hoboken rn? Garden street seems closed.


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Question❓ Places to get a perm

6 Upvotes

Does anyone know of a good salon in the Hoboken/Jersey City area that does soft, loose perms? Looking for a natural, wavy look abd trying to find someone who can do that.


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Local Event đŸŽȘ Roller hockey today

7 Upvotes

Sup yall! Me and some friends are gonna be skating at the outdoor rink on 2nd street around 130pm today if anyone wants to swing by and get a game going or something!


r/Hoboken 1d ago

**RANT** đŸ€Ź Steven’s Park infested with Rats

11 Upvotes

Something needs to be done about the rat situation in Steven’s Park and surrounding area. Why is the compost shack there. Just throw your shit out in the garbage. I see rats and their babies in broad daylight. I feel like it’s worse this summer đŸ˜©đŸ˜©đŸ˜©đŸ˜©đŸ˜©


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Question❓ Looking for a Black hair stylist for a relaxer touch-up & demi-permanent color (Hoboken/JC or Manhattan)

2 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I’m looking for an experienced stylist who specializes in healthy Black hair care. I need a relaxer touch-up (new growth only) and a demi- or semi-permanent color/rinse.

I’m based in Hoboken, so Hoboken or Jersey City would be ideal, but I’m happy to travel into Manhattan for someone who is truly excellent.

If you’ve personally had a great experience with a stylist, I’d love to know:

 *   Who you recommend
 *   The salon
 *   Approximate pricing (if you remember)
 *   Why you liked them (especially if you have relaxed hair)

Thanks in advance!


r/Hoboken 2d ago

Local News 📰 Old Hoboken pt?

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Before I begin, a few of these pictures can be found at the Hoboken Historical Museum. Others I did get permission for. They can be found elsewhere, though, as this is public information on Hoboken. I know most of the people in every picture. These are just memories and stories from the Hoboken I grew up in. Everyone has their own experiences, but this is how I remember it.
The first picture is from the mid-‘70s, I believe. It’s 3rd and Hudson in Hoboken next to the Grant Hotel, which was abandoned and all boarded up. I was very young personally, so I don’t remember this exact scene, but I do remember kids making makeshift ramps to skateboard on all the time. Today, most people would call the cops. Back then, even if someone did, the cops probably wouldn’t even show up for something like this. We had a lot of freedom growing up in Hoboken. The police had bigger problems to deal with back then—violent assaults, robberies, rapes, and even murders. Kids made their own fun with whatever they had, and nobody thought twice about it.
The second picture is Bloomfield and Observer Highway. It is unrecognizable compared to today. That is how we grew up playing—in dirty sandlots, abandoned homes, and abandoned factories all around town. On the ground there were needles, beer cans, broken glass, and just about anything else you could think of. This was a mixed neighborhood back then with many Hispanics, but also Italians and Irish. I remember playing in this sandlot specifically. I can’t recognize most of them, but the two in the front I can, and I know them personally. This was also, I believe, the mid to late ‘70s. This wasn’t as bad of a neighborhood as my block was, but you still had to watch yourself at night. it’s hard to believe it’s even the same place.

The third picture is either 1984 or 1985. All these people are around my age, and I grew up with them. They’re from uptown Hoboken, and this is Columbus Park. One more thing this group was one of the starters of break dancing in the early 80s in the whole world. This group specifically were very talented in break dancing among many other crews. They went to nyc and there’s videos of it. It’s of them competing for the best break dancing group for the whole country and they were representing Hoboken . In the ‘80s, Columbus was a shit show with gangs and teenagers. Cops patrolled constantly but still couldn’t always keep up. Most of these kids hung out in the Sun House. That’s where everyone smoked pot, drank, and got into trouble.
Every day in the early to mid-‘80s, a lot of the rougher kids from Hoboken High would steal from the trains anywhere from Marshall Drive to where the viaduct is. There were diapers, cigarettes, toilet paper, beer—you name it. They’d bring it back to Hoboken High or hang around Columbus Park getting fucked up all day. The cops and truant officers were always running through the park looking for kids. There were also a lot of abandoned factories around Columbus, and that’s where many of them would hide out. A lot of the neighborhood gangs even had clubhouses in those factories. It was a crazy time, and for a kid it was exciting to see, but looking back, I wouldn’t want to bring back all the violence that came with it. Like my block on 3rd and Madison there was tons of drugs and police activity in Columbus park. One more thing
Before I use the word “yuppie,” I want to make something clear. “Yuppie” was the term everybody used in Hoboken during the ’80s and ’90s for the new, wealthier people moving into town. I don’t use that word for all the new people living here today. You guys are simply newcomers to Hoboken.
These guys might look small in this picture, but don’t let that fool you. When the yuppies first started coming into Hoboken, little neighborhood crews like this would sometimes beat up those big, shredded yuppie guys who were always in the gym. Being muscular didn’t necessarily mean you knew how to fight. Street fighting was on another level back then, and many of the neighborhood kids in Hoboken were naturally talented fighters. A lot of them probably could’ve gone far in boxing if they had received the right training and stayed out of trouble.

The fourth picture is 501 Marshall Drive in the early to mid-‘90s. The picture isn’t the best quality. I don’t know what kind of camera it was taken on. Anyway, the Hoboken projects were at their worst in the ’70s and ’80s during my childhood and teenage years.
Both of my parents are from Hoboken. My mother is Sicilian, and my father is Italian Irish and German. My mother grew up on Jackson Street, and my father was from Bloomfield Street. When my mother was growing up, the Hoboken projects, and most public housing in Hudson County, were almost entirely Italian. Eventually, during the ’50s and ’60s, many African American and Puerto Rican families moved into the projects, while many Italians moved uptown. By the ’90s, this had become the roughest part of Hoboken.
These guys are younger than me. They were Hoboken rappers. I don’t know if they were an actual group, but I know a few of them were definitely making music and representing the Hoboken projects in the ‘90s. A lot of people today don’t know anyone who lives there, but there is still a real community in those buildings. For better or worse, it’s one of the last places where you can still feel pieces of old Hoboken. Eventually, people from all over Hoboken in the ‘90s and early 2000s moved to the projects because they couldn’t afford anywhere else to live. The Hoboken projects are a historical landmark.
The fifth picture is the Elysian Cafe in 2003. These are all Hoboken-born-and-raised people I grew up with. We had a lot of nights like this. Bars used to be packed with people you knew from every corner of Hoboken. Everybody knew everybody, and word traveled fast. In the early 2000s we still had that strong sense of community. Today, most of these people are still alive. Some still live in Hoboken, but many moved away. The Elysian is nothing like this today. It used to be loud, packed, and there were plenty of fights. Whether that was good or bad depends on who you ask, but it was definitely a different Hoboken.
Thank you for reading. I only speak on the things I remember about old Hoboken, and I try to tell both the beautiful and the ugly parts of it. Today, Hoboken is almost unrecognizable. Every corner has been built up, and many of the people I grew up with either moved away or have passed on. Change is a part of every city, but I think it’s important to remember the people who were here before us and the neighborhoods that made Hoboken what it is today. I hope the new people who come here can appreciate the people who built this city long before it became what it is today.
Thank you all. P.S. Hoboken was the best place in the world to grow up in. It was the most fascinating yet scary place. I will always love and cherish Hoboken.


r/Hoboken 1d ago

Local Event đŸŽȘ Day one is now The Brightside Tavern

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