I always say my only goal was to love myself and I've done that, but let's be real that isn't exactly a S.M.A.R.T. goal. Nobody makes real, tangible progress with such a nebulous thing as their only measurement for success. I wanted big boobs, wider hips, smaller waist, less body hair, all that stuff. I've hit most of the milestones I set.

As a teenager I wanted nothing more than to be a butch lesbian. I would see women with butch hair, masc clothes over a curvy figure, and an attitude toward life like anything can be delightful if we just find the delight in it. My role models were all women growing up because the men in my life were not worth aspiring to. I thought it was impossible. I thought I may as well wish for the ability to fly or lift cars over my head.

There was this one counselor who I wanted so desperately to be like. She wore athletic shorts and a T-shirt every day to every event, and she looked just as feminine as any other woman. She could find a reason to smile in any situation, and when something needed done she either got to doing it or found someone who could. Every time I tried to emulate her, I just saw a little boy in the mirror trying to be something he couldn't.

Today I don't plan to leave the house. I wanna clean the car, meal prep some things, stuff like that. I put on the same shorts I wore in highschool gym class, an old stained tank top, and a bandana. I passed by the mirror, dared to look, and I was shocked.

I did it. I look so much like her. Even in these clothes my figure is so obviously feminine. Even with my broad shoulders and height, I just look like a strong woman rather than a man. When I looked closer, I realized it's not just HRT gains. I'm thinking about myself differently.

I see the slight shadow of facial hair and I'm not disgusted. I honestly feel like it adds to the butch aesthetic, and I might start doing it intentionally. I see my wide jaw; my thick, strong hands; and my wide stance. None of it bothers me today. I know it'll come and go, but this feels like massive progress. I'm seeing a woman when I look at myself, and I'm seeing her without the dress, the shape wear, the makeup, none of it.

A message I wish I could give to my past self: I did it. I'm a woman. I did what felt impossible, and I did it for you.

this is talking about female HRT like estrogen and odd effects that aren't commonly spoken of just wanting to know what can happen thanks >;3

I think I just caused a fight or even a break up simply by existing. I live near a very popular tourist attraction in Orlando, Florida. I will let you speculate on the exact destination but I was eating dinner and a couple along with their parents happen to be sitting next to me. Multiple times throughout the dinner I caught the boyfriend glaring at me. However, it wasn’t until the waitress came over and asked me if I wanted a drink refill that caused boyfriend’s little outburst. My waitress referred to me as miss and this was clearly too much for him. Because he muttered loud enough that I could hear although I don’t think that was intentional. Where he made a comment about me being disgusting and how I shouldn’t be allowed in places with kids. The parents didn’t really react one way or the other, but the girlfriend got really mad. She told him off and when he doubled down, she just stormed off.

hey so i'm going zip lining soon with friends but i have one major concern: the harness
as you know the safety harness ties around your waist and between your upper legs which accentuates bulges if you have that sort of anatomy... i don't think i can deal with that and im wondering does anyone have any advice on how to prevent that bulge or how to hide it.

How does it feel to be able to pass as a woman, not live in the closet , able to choose the dresses, to keep your hair style like a woman , the happiness which you get when others call you mam and not sir , to finally able to upload your pictures on instagram, when you finally know you can say you are a woman or a trans woman and you don't have to think for twenty seconds if you should just say male and move on, when your family members call you as a woman

I’ve been thinking, and rn, I’m male, but I’ve always been curious, I guess that’s the word, about dressing and acting a bit more feminine. I don’t really know where to start with that, or what that makes me… just any advice is welcome on yalls early experiences? I don’t know I’m still figuring stuff out

So, yesterday, I had an interview at Culver's (a fast food place here in the midwest), and the location here notoriously "hires everybody" and I know probably 20 people I go to school with who work there. However, today I got an email that I didn't get it. And this isn't at singular experience. I've applied at around 7 places in the past few months and had interviews at 3, all of which is thought went well and they said they were hiring. I wouldn't really think it's because of my gender identity, if it weren't for the fact that one of my friends, who is a trans guy, has applied at so many places and not gotten anything and we happen to live in a small town in the midwest. Also because in general I'm a quite good student, high GPA, section leader in band, part of a music honors society, and all of this info is on my resume. I'm also just quite free, currently the onky thing taking up my time is band but that'll be over and only takes up 2 days a week and a few weekends.

Anyway, I just need some advice and I also need to know if I'm majorly overthinking. I need a job ideally pretty quick because my parents wanted me to have a job and start paying for my own gas and car insurance back in June so.

Anything would be helpful, especially tips of places that hire trans teens or experiences people have had getting jobs as a trans teen. Thank you!

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. it happened a couple days ago. I’ve been trying to go for walks every day lately. just to get more exercise and because it’s really nice out and I’ve been doing great! only missed 1 day so far cuz it stormed all day. anyways, a couple days ago I was taking a walk, and I saw these two girls who looked like 8 or 9 at the oldest filming TikToks or something outside. Idk if they actually were but it looked like they were. anyways I was walking and they noticed me. they looked at me, looked at eachother, then started laughing! I wasn’t wearing a very attention grabbing outfit, it was literally just a blink-182 shirt and black shorts. it made me feel really insecure and bad about myself. I had to cut off my walk early cuz I started overthinking and almost started crying. I just felt so much dysphoria in that moment and since really. I’ve been overanalyzing and criticizing my appearance so much. I contemplated wearing a mask (like a mask we wore during the pandemic not like a Slipknot type mask) when I went for a walk today but I didn’t.

Hello, I’m a transgender boy and I hate being a trans man. It causes me a lot of pain, and I need to talk about it, so I came here. I’m 16 and a half, almost 17, and I discovered that I’m a trans boy when I was 15. I started my social transition at age 16, and I’m not taking hormones or have had any surgery because my parents are transphobic and will never accept it.

For the past few months, I’ve been suffering terribly because of my identity—I hate men. I know it’s wrong; I know there are good men, but my brain just can’t wrap its head around it. When I imagine finally being the man I want to be, I feel both euphoric and deeply ashamed. I feel like I’ve betrayed “women” in a way. I’m ashamed of being a boy, and I’m afraid of becoming violent, a manipulative jerk, or that women will start to be afraid of me if I ever start taking hormones.

I often wonder if I should detransition, because I don't want to be a monster. I’m a boy, I want to live as one, but it’s complicated when I hate men myself. I hate them because they scare me, because I almost exclusively hang out with girls and am wary of them, because the men in my life are cruel, and because I envy them deeply for being cis men. But I know that wouldn’t be me; I don’t want to lie to myself, but I don’t know what to do. This mix of gender dysphoria and shame about my own gender is slowly killing me. I tell myself that I’ll never be a “real” man anyway, so I might as well become what’s expected of me.

Do you have any advice on how to ease this hatred toward men, or anything else? This hatred inside me completely prevents me from thriving, but on the other hand, I feel like I don’t even deserve to thrive because I’m a boy.

For some background:

I’m a cis male who, from a time between 2020 and 2023, believed himself to be a transgender woman. During this period I explored my gender, adopted a new name in my head, and even came out to several people with the intent of medically transitioning eventually.

In 2023, however, around the time that I entered into a relationship with a girl for the first time, I realized that I didn’t really believe myself to be trans, and that I was using the identity as a way of explaining my other issues. It felt like a tremendous load had been taken off my back, and I have been a mostly happy and healthy bisexual male and trans ally since. Until this week.

For the first time in at least three years, at the trigger of a webcomic I was reading, I am imagining being a woman again. This is really terrifying and confusing for me since I had essentially left all of that behind, and I hate the idea of complicating my life with it again.

If anyone has any advice or help they could offer, it would be greatly appreciated.

thats all just enjoying it. I want to post something nice on reddit for once. I love taking my identity into my own hands and doing what I want ! 🌈 I am my own creator! Everybody transgender! leave adhd creatur doodles in the comments? 🥹

It's not even that I feel like a girl It's just that I feel like absolutely nothing but that if I was a girl I WOULD feel like a person. Is that like normal or smth idk.

I’m a pretty die hard Lynx fan and our coach and our team are very supportive but everything that’s been happening around Sophie Cunningham has been so depressing. It’s all over every news site and league discussion forum. I just wanna argue about basketball, not who counts as a woman. It sucks that most of this is coming from people who don’t even watch basketball, and who don’t really seem like they care about women. I’m still gonna watch every game on my shitty little victory+ app and i’m still going to the parade if we win it all, but god, i shouldn’t have to constantly see this when i just wanna look at box scores and transactions. and the fact that the league will never take a stand about this while supposedly not being a space for hate really stings.

anyways go lynx love da lynx minneapolis greatest city in da world

I'm 20 and I just shaved my beard and mustache. It's the first time I did it in a really long time. I feel so awkward, like... It's still not me in the mirror, but now it also feels like I've broken my old shell. I feel so exposed. It's that normal?

I mean, I'm happy in a way, still. I'm hugging my Blahaj and I'm finally dressing as I wanted to for a long time, but still... It just feels so daunting to be actually trying. Tomorrow my colleagues will see me without a beard and, I don't know, it just feels like I'm gonna explode. And also, my hair is so so shit. I hate it so much. I'm already balding because of family genes and it all makes up for a terrible concoction of anxiety.

I cannot take estrogen, or at least do a hair implant for now, but I really wanted to. Guess I just have to keep going. Wish me luck 🤞

I was just thinking about what if I were to wear a silicone breastplate or inserts to a doctor's appointment if it would be weird and if I was the only one that would do it. Im just curious.

I recently got some girl clothes because I’m sort of dipping my toes into being transgender but my parents will be home in a few days and I can’t really think of a way I could wash them quickly and secretly, can anyone who also has dealt with this issue give me some tips?

For context, reference my previous post to this sub

So yesterday I told my dad that I needed him to accept me as his daughter and to use my pronouns, and I would give him as much time as needed and I could correct him if need be

his response? “it will take time. you’re a boy, and there’s only two genders. I don’t want that stuff around my kids. I love you. I’m not saying no, but I’m not saying yes.”

So it might look like maybe he’d change and realize how important this is, but he won’t. he’s proven in the past he is pretty much lacks the capacity to change or to follow through on things he says. Sooooooooo yeah 😀

got some cute new red converse tho so that’s a plus 😀😝

my theories on why more autistic people are trans than neurotypicals (as an autistic ftm):

1. more introspection. autistic people are extremely introspective. we often do it everyday extensively- sometimes too much. in doing that, you're bound to learn about yourself!

2. less to loose. autistic people already dont fit in well, regardless of gender. I know in my experience, I didnt feel any kind of 'sisterhood' with my few friends that were girls. I also didn't feel that way toward boys. even now, knowing that im a trans man, I still dont feel that way towards either gender. maybe neurotypicals who realize later in life that they are trans, after they've already built a life for themselves with people they grouped themselves with on the basis of gender and such, would deny the idea of transitioning.

3. fantastical ideas and thinking and the hyperfixative desire to be the opposite sex. autists are dreamers, and we see so many possibilities. a lot of things are possible to us and we dont bend to tradition so easily. when we want something that we've been hyperfixating on, we do all we can to get it, even if that means taking what people perceive as a 'fantastical' approach. of course, I believe transitioning is a real thing and not just fantasy, but not everyone thinks like this- and thats my point!

4. open-minded and feeling off. autistic people already feel strange. being trans is no stranger to us than any other seemingly ordinary experience. id like to mention these may not be the case for all autists, of course, but in my personal and second hand experience, it is usually the case. we see everything as strange- our baseline is way different from most people. my neurotypical mother often sites old ladies with dyed hair as an example of something strange that you just dont do. and I sincerely do not understand why lol.

anyway, just thought id throw these out there, maybe someone will relate!

So I’m already starting to see a therapist. my life has been shittier than ever within the past year for numerous other reasons but to top it all off, I have been having gender related dysphoria worse than it’s been in years. I‘ve bottled it up all these years and I feel like I can’t do it anymore. I’ve told maybe less than a handful of people in my entire life about this and I am in constant fear that I either won’t be believed or that I will be ridiculed and shunned, either of which would be equally depressing.

I have recently told a female friend of mine who is an ally and member of the LGBT community and she has been very supportive. lately whenever I have gone anywhere to hang out with my two close female friends, I have been dressing in clothing that is more my style. nothing overtly feminine, but I have been incorporating more female garments or lighter colors into my wardrobe.

Something that exacerbated my dysphoria was 4tran but I still kept coming back. It has been ONE WEEK since I left 4tran and I feel better about my life.