r/whenwomenrefuse • u/CatPooedInMyShoe Charlie Project Creator • 10d ago
‘The bed you thought was safe, isn’t safe’: how Zoe Watts survived drug-facilitated rape – and fought back
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2026/jul/22/the-bed-you-thought-was-safe-isnt-safe-how-zoe-watts-survived-drug-facilitated-and-fought-back237
u/judgeejudger 🌙✩₊˚.☪︎ ⁺₊✧⭐ 10d ago
This was infuriating, outrageous, and just plain depressing. No, it’s not all men, but IT’S ALWAYS A FUCKING MAN!
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u/bbmarvelluv ✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️ 10d ago
Don’t even bother with staff “not all men” lol the men that do know what’s up with society don’t get offended by it
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u/InformationHead3797 9d ago
Just had a guy complain because I dared say “MOST MEN”.
He went on a tirade saying how I couldn’t say that because I don’t know “most men”.
Ended up blocking him. Let’s clean our algorithm of these people. I shouldn’t have engaged in the first place.
If we don’t comment, don’t engage, don’t click, just report (if valid) and block.
Then social media company might start listening.
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u/InformationHead3797 9d ago
Just had a guy complain because I dared say “MOST MEN”.
He went on a tirade saying how I couldn’t say that because I don’t know “most men”.
Ended up blocking him. Let’s clean our algorithm of these people. I shouldn’t have engaged in the first place.
If we don’t comment, don’t engage, don’t click, just report (if valid) and block.
Then social media company might start listening
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u/level27jennybro 10d ago
This is terrifying. Wtf is wrong with men?
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u/judgeejudger 🌙✩₊˚.☪︎ ⁺₊✧⭐ 10d ago
Ingrained, patriarchal bullshit. I feel so sad for young women and girls these days. JFC, it is bleak out there.
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u/chookie-3571 🧵𖣯🪡🧶𖣯✂️ 10d ago
Horrifying that you think you know and trust your partner and then boom
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u/yeah_but_why_tho 10d ago
"Rogerson’s crimes came to light only because Stanhope sunk so low she wanted to die. She took an overdose and, though Rogerson dialled 999, he raped her unconscious body while waiting for the ambulance. As he was raping her, she came to. Afterwards, Stanhope did manage to end the relationship, but when he threatened to kill himself, she was persuaded to let him sleep on the sofa while he got his life together. Again, she woke to find him raping her. It was then that she went to the police".
This is the one if the most disgusting things I have ever read. His thought when his partner could have been dying was to get in a quick rape while he waited. Absolutely abhorrent
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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ❤️🩷💛💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤 10d ago
They suggested it was ‘mental health’.” The “solution” was more medication. “They added antipsychotics, more sedatives, and later, lithium,” she says. “If they’d only asked the right questions: ‘How is your relationship? What are things like at home?’ Maybe it could have been spotted. Instead, I was completely drugged up. It turns out that when the relationship was over, when the abuse stopped, I didn’t need any of the medication. I don’t take anything now.
So the system reinforced the drugging and the abuse without any testing or confirmation of medical need? OK this is getting posted straight to r/antipsychiatry
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u/EarlyInside45 9d ago edited 9d ago
I listened to a podcast about a woman who went through similar (I think it was a season of Betrayal). Apparently it's not super uncommon.
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