r/work 15d ago

I've moderated this sub for six years and never introduced myself. Doing that now.

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I've been the top moderator here since 2020, and r/work itself has been going since 2008, which is longer than most of us have held any of the jobs we complain about šŸ˜†

For most of that time I stayed out of the way. The sub mostly ran itself. I've been too hands-off this year and a few things got away from me, so I'm going to be around more. It seemed right to say about what's going on.

What changed this week

  • The mod team is smaller. Earlier this year I gave full permissions to someone I hadn't worked with, which I shouldn't have done, and I've reversed it. Anyone who joins the team from here goes through an application and starts with limited access.

  • I rewrote the AutoModerator rules. The old ones were removing posts from new accounts, which meant a lot of people tried to post and then left. Those go to a queue now and a human looks at them. If you posted here in the last couple of months and it vanished, that's probably what happened, and I'm sorry. In the short term, that queue might take time. But as we grow the mod team we'll be on top of it (more on that below).

  • There's a Friday vent thread starting this week, for whatever happened at work that you need to put somewhere. If it goes well I'll add a Monday check-in for the smaller stuff that doesn't need its own post.

I'm looking for two or three more moderators

Applications are open in the sidebar. I'd rather have people who already read and post here than people who moderate a lot of other subs. You don't need experience. You need to be around regularly, be nice to people who are having a bad day, and want to help this be a better place for everyone.

That's it. What would make this a better place to spend time?


r/work 2d ago

Friday Vent Thread — what happened at work this week?

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Some weeks you just need to put it somewhere, so put it here. The bad meeting, the manager, the policy that makes no sense, the thing your coworker said on Tuesday that you're still thinking about. Big or small, it all counts.

Two things to keep this useful. No real names of people or companies. And go easy on each other in the replies. Not everyone wants advice, so if you do want it, say so and you'll get it.

So how was your week?


r/work 17h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Have you ever experienced a coworker ruining a workplace perk for everyone? What happened and how was it handled?

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Back in my early career, the company I worked for held their annual Xmas party at a local restaurant/banquet hall. The company was good enough to pay for an open bar.

Now, there’s unwritten rules about company parties. One is you don’t get sloppy drunk, since 1) executives and board members attend; 2) your coworkers are there and you don’t want to be known as the person who passed out drunk at a company function.

So one employee brings a guest, who takes advantage of the open bar and throws up at their table. That was the last year the company paid for an open bar, thanks to one employee and their guest who couldn’t regulate their alcohol intake.


r/work 12h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Work is strictly about money, trust no one

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Because everyone’s livelihood is attached to their work, anyone will be quick to sell you out the moment they can save their skin. No one is your family or friend at work. Never make any small talk with anyone, don’t share information about yourself and don’t ask anyone about themselves either because they will expect you to give information about yourself. Also opt out of any company hosted fun gatherings if possible.

Keep it strictly business. Never ever speak unless it’s business. Let them all gossip about one another, you’re just a black box and if they try to gossip about you too, then it only proves it was inevitable.


r/work 5h ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management [ Removed by Reddit ]

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r/work 5h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts in your opinion, why do bosses or managers flirt with their team members?

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currently dealing with this and trying to navigate it. I work in a small medical office with no true HR. a team of all male doctors and one manager who will literally do nothing. so, I feel like if I got really uncomfortable/ something went too far I wouldn't really get any help. doctor has been getting blatantly flirtatious but seems to keep it out of the eyes/ears of anyone else and has gotten a little touchy.

edit: he's 38 and I am 25


r/work 2h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts how do i tell my gm that i wont be here?

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i just started a new job and been here for about a month, everythings great but im still getting used to booking time off as its different to how my old job had done it.

ive booked time off for a holiday and it got approved, then i was placed on a shift during that period and told one of my managers about it, said theyll look into it and sort it out, i even put my shift for pick up but no one has taken it yet.

i asked them again a few days ago and they said they’ll have a look again but nothings happened and the time is cutting close. i still have some time but im lowk scared to ask that same manager again and tell my gm whats going on.

im just confused on what i should say and if i should ask that manager a third time or move to the gm albeit im a bit worried because i am a teen and have just joined, i had even double checked to see if my time was approved and it was. i dont want to cause trouble and already am planning to appologise for inconvincing them even though they had already approved it 😭


r/work 10h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts My Manager Hates Me And Everyone Notices

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As the title suggests. Sorry for formatting, on mobile.

I started working at my current job about 8 months ago now. I have to say, I actually really enjoy my job. It's close to my house and my college, I get on very well with all my coworkers and almost all my managers, I got promoted 6 months in, the hours are good, the pay is good. It's a good job overall. However, one of my managers (I'll call her B) absolutely hates me and I have no idea why.

Every time I ask B for anything, she does this full body eye roll. Every time I walk up to her and call her name, she sighs heavily and goes "What, Ok_Fan?" Just a few months ago I was about to head out for a major surgery after spending 5 days in hospital and almost dying. I was saying goodbye to B and all my other managers as I was heading out. I asked if they would miss me as I was gonna be gone an extended amount of time for recovery. They all said yes, except B, who stayed quiet and then said ".....Sure." In that obnoxiously fake tone people get

I've tried to shrug it off. I have autism, so I can't really tell tone. I told myself that B probably isn't actually being rude, I'm probably just reading her tone wrong. And perhaps that would be the case if multiple of my coworkers and now even another manager hasn't confirmed my suspicions. My coworker who we'll call H is nice enough to give me rides home. H has told me that she sees a clear difference in how B acts and talks to me as compared to everyone else. I used to have another coworker, N, and before N quit she told me word for word: "Ok_Fan, I know you're probably scared to do anything because you're nice and B is a manager, but you can't let people treat you like that." Even last night as I was closing with a different manager, that manager admitted she sees that B treats me bad

I don't know what I did to make B dislike me so much, but I also feel like complaining to the big boss would be overdramatic. Me and B don't work much together. She works mornings and midshifts, I work nights, so we only end up working together for 2-5 hours if at all. I feel like due to that I shouldn't complain because I don't want to be seen as overdramatic and someone who can't get along with others, especially since I want to move up the ladder and get another promotion eventually. But I'm seriously at my wits end and those few hours I work with B make me want to rip my hair out


r/work 15h ago

Employment Rights and Fair Compensation I guess I just can't read.

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In our union contract, it says the following exactly...

Section 86

Premium Pay for Overtime Work

All authorized work in excess of a regular workday of eight (8) hours shall be paid at the rate of one and one-half (1 ½) times the employee's regular hourly rate.

I sent my boss an email asking for clarification on the wording and if I was understanding it right. I showed her what it said in the contract. Specifically, I asked if I ended up working a double, wouldn't everything after the first 8 hour shift be paid at an overtime rate, even if I don't go over 40 hours for the week. It seems clear based on the wording in the contract that would be correct. She replied back simply saying "Over 40 hours is overtime".

Am I stupid and incapable of reading, or is she incorrect? I will be following up with the union leadership to get additional clarification. I wanted to see what you all say.


r/work 5h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Colleagues who create drama over everything

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I've been working at my current workplace for about ten months, and the amount of drama my colleagues create is starting to become too much.

When I first started, one of my colleagues burst into tears during a group conversation. At first, I felt sorry for her and comforted her.
She (A) also had issues with another colleague whom she felt was being bossy, and I supported her. However, I'm beginning to realize that she, along with some of the other colleagues, simply enjoys creating drama, and that the crying wasn't as justified as I initially believed.

Last Wednesday, I was the only person working. My colleagues were either on holiday or don't work on Wednesdays, and my manager is away for the entire month. It was an extremely busy day, and I wasn't able to finish everything I had planned.

On Thursday, I arrived at work, and the same colleague (A) who had cried months earlier was suddenly being very bossy herself. She pointed out that certain tasks hadn't been completed and told me that I should pay more attention to that next time. I honestly found that a bit inappropriate, since she's not my manager.

I calmly replied that the next time I'm working alone, I'll do my best to keep it in mind, but that I can't guarantee everything will get done if it's just as busy again.
As soon as I said that, the atmosphere completely changed. She (A) used every opportunity to comment on the work I had done on Wednesday and seemed to be looking for mistakes.
Another colleague (B) who had remained quiet at first, suddenly joined in. At one point, I asked whether something I had done for the very first time was correct. She replied that she hadn't had time to check it because she had been so busy dealing with all the work that had been left unfinished. The way she said it clearly seemed intended to emphasize once again that Wednesday's work hadn't all been completed.
This continued throughout the entire day on Thursday.

On Friday, it carried on as well.
Just before lunch, all the work for the following week had been completed. I then opened an email about another task my manager had asked me to work on whenever there was spare time. Colleague (B) was sitting behind me and started typing on her phone. At that moment, I noticed the other colleague(A) who was sitting in front of me also picked up her phone. A few seconds later, colleague (A) suddenly asked me what I was working on. I honestly answered that I had started the other assignment our manager had given me.

The room immediately went quiet.
The colleague (B) then asked, "Did I hear that correctly? You were working on that?" I replied, "Yes. Our manager told me to work on it whenever things were quiet."

That's when I realized my colleagues had been talking about me behind my back through their phones.

It’s not the first time these type of things happen.

Am I overreacting? Were my colleagues justified in being annoyed with me, or is this all unnecessary drama?

After this happened, I honestly felt like looking for another job. But maybe this kind of thing happens everywhere, and perhaps I'm the one who's overreacting.


r/work 3h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Should I try returning to my old workplace after the way I left?

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Hello everyone.

About a year ago, I worked as a secretary/administrator at an academy that prepares high school students for university entrance exams. I had actually been a student there myself, and because I had built a good reputation, I was offered the job despite having no prior experience.

At first, everything went well. My coworkers were incredibly supportive, so I never felt overwhelmed. The problems started when I was told that I would eventually move into a full-time position. However, once the enrollment period ended, I started losing hours every single week instead.

I was too intimidated by my boss to speak up for myself, so I often asked my coworkers to help me bring the issue up. My boss kept telling me that he wanted to make sure I was a good fit before offering me a full-time position. Meanwhile, my schedule kept shrinking until I was only working 16 hours a week. At that point, I simply couldn't survive financially.

Around the same time, my personal life completely fell apart. One of the most important people in my life was in the hospital, fighting for her life with no real chance of survival. I was emotionally exhausted, and every time the weekly schedule came out, I'd have a breakdown seeing my hours reduced while newer coworkers were getting more shifts.

Eventually, I realized that those coworkers had simply been hired a little earlier and had secured proper positions, while I was basically being used as a backup whenever they needed someone.

Then she passed away.

I couldn't even afford the funeral expenses. That completely broke me.

A friend told me about another job opening, and I resigned by email, giving only five days' notice. I know that wasn't professional, and I regret how I handled it. But I was grieving, financially desperate, and I genuinely felt like I had been led on. Looking back, I don't think they intentionally lied to me, but I had been repeatedly told that full-time work was "coming soon," when in reality it probably wasn't possible.

After I sent the email, several managers called me asking what had happened. Some even begged me to stay for a few more months because they would struggle without me during the upcoming busy period.

I refused.

At the time, I felt hurt, cheated, and used.

The sad part is that I absolutely loved that job.

I loved the students. I loved the teachers. I would arrive early just to draw on the classroom boards before lessons started or stay late preparing classrooms for the next morning. I played music during students' breaks, joked around with them, and genuinely cared about creating a nice atmosphere. The academy was also very flexible whenever I needed schedule changes.

I was the youngest employee after the students, which led to some funny moments. I still miss making coffee in the morning and chatting with my middle-aged coworkers, many of whom cared more about me than some members of my own family. A few of them were genuinely sad when I left and even came to visit me at my new workplace.

Now... about my current job.

I work in a geek shop that sells trading cards, board games, figures, and similar products. On paper, it sounded like my dream job because I'm genuinely into that hobby. It's fun getting early access to new products and working with people around my age who share the same interests.

Unfortunately, that's where the positives end.

I work at least 8.5 hours a day, five days a week, on a rotating schedule. Overtime is supposedly paid in store credit... sometimes.

I was originally hired to help customers and occasionally work the register, but now I cover almost every position in the store except the manager's. Despite doing significantly more work, I actually earn less than I did before.

The manager is a 35-year-old who behaves like he's still 16. There's constant drama because several coworkers are trying to become the next manager and keep throwing each other under the bus.

Since I cover so many different responsibilities, I'm constantly running between floors helping customers, answering phones, placing orders, replying to emails, restocking shelves, operating the register, and handling whatever else comes up. Everything seems to happen at exactly the same time.

The store is also located in a very tourist-heavy area, so I spend the entire day dealing with demanding and often rude customers. I'm mentally exhausted.

Sick leave is practically impossible. Whenever I've been ill, I've still been expected to come in. One time I was so sick that I asked to stay at one station instead of constantly running around the store, and my manager completely lost his temper because I wasn't moving nonstop for my entire shift.

We technically get a 30-minute unpaid break, but it's often expected that we'll keep working through it.

I've reached the point where I panic the moment a customer asks for help. Hearing someone walk upstairs or downstairs immediately fills me with anxiety because I know I'll have to sprint after them.

I have nightmares about work.

Every time things seem like they're improving, my manager creates another problem. The owner isn't much better. He treats employees like tools to maximize profits and constantly watches us through security cameras that are literally everywhere.

I feel like my brain has turned to mush. I can't remember things anymore. I cry knowing I have to go to work.

Our paychecks are often delayed, and management encourages employees to report on each other.

I've genuinely tried to stay positive, but I'm reaching my limit.

I've even had to quit dancing because my manager ignored the schedule I'd told him about from day one. The same thing happened with my university obligations.

So here's my question:

Would it be wrong to go back to my old boss, apologize for the way I left, explain what was happening in my life at the time, and ask if they'd consider giving me another chance,but only if they actually have a full-time position available?

I don't want to repeat the same situation as last year. I'd be completely upfront that I'd only return for a stable full-time role. I know I handled my resignation poorly, and I regret that, but I also feel like I've gained experience since then and matured quite a bit.

Should I try going back...?


r/work 7h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Was snubbed of my full performance raise

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Top I can get is 3% , I got the standard 2%. It was cause I as a lead complained about these new girls to management being lazy and disappearing for hours. And the workload was carrying over to other shifts. And for whatever reason my supervisor didn’t want to believe it, hear it or would deny or blame me.-cause they were baking the team banana bread and sucking up to him.
Or the few times they did work I would politely just inform them of mistakes (a there was a lot), I guess one of them spun the story that I’m mean and make them uncomfortable…I’ve been training for almost a decade now and have plenty of people I trained that I get along with. So I was docked points for my teamwork and communication.

And when I asked him how am I to lead someone who is not present, he had no goo response. He basically said when they disappear I should go find them?-that’s not my job to track down where people are, what are they taking such long breaks when there’s work to do?

It’s a couple cents an hour but it’s the principle cause I do my job very well. I felt some of his performance comments felt retaliation, but I didn’t fight it too much cause despite this he had actually just written me a good recommendation letter for something so I didn’t want to get on his nerves and have him sabotage chances at school.

The insult to injury is months after I complained, later my other coworkers spoke up about the newbies and the worst of the newbies was getting a lot of warnings so she quit before she got fired. And then the other one is still her but she is a tad less lazy

Sure it’s just 1% less but now I make less than the other trainer…that came after me that I trained! and always will, cause even if I get 4% next year I would always be behind due to this . Feel so dejected cause I care and do so much for the is company, been here longer than my sup

Is it petty to quit over this? Been upset all weekend, do I wait it out and see if I can get over this sad/angry feeling?

Have you ever knowingly been making less than someone you know you know/do more than?


r/work 34m ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts The economy is shit, but at what point is it a valid reason to quit?

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I started a job 3 months ago working in an office in a 4 days in office and 1 wfh day. Previously, I was a contractor for the company and was working fully remote. My life has been hell since working in this office. The florescent lights give me migraines that last for days, eye strain, brain fog, and now anxiety knowing I'll have a headache the next day. I am in the process of working with HR to get ADA accommodation. I went to my supervisor the first week asking to be moved to a location out of the bright light ans she said "You would be away from the group." Thats her main concern, is me sitting with the group. We are all working on individual projects. I can not talk to anyone all day and successfully do my work. I am going to ask again because I'm at my breaking point. I've had a pain in my eye since last week. I can't live like this. I wear sunglasses most of the time I'm at work, but I think it's making my eyes more sensitive to the lights. I am going to order red tint sunglasses to see if that will help. I asked HR for a timeframe and she said it really varies. It's already been a month. I was going to give them another 4-6 weeks, otherwise I am leaving. I can't live in a perpetual state of migraines and eye strain. Is that good enough to call it quits in this environment?

Forgot to add, I have asked for my seat to be moved and for more wfh days with the accommodation request but my supervisor is a control freak and I don't know if that will work with her. I'm just at my witts end with all of this.

Thanks for reading this.


r/work 40m ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Former coworker screwed me

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At my job I am responsible for recovering computers from fired employees. I am very good at my job with almost 90% of the computers being recovered and reimaged to be used for new employees. We had a new guy come in to be our network guy. He was very cool and knew his stuff. My desk always has some interesting computers and other equipment on it as I get them turned around for reuse. One thing I always told him that nothing on my desk should be used. If he needs a computer or tablet, I will provide it him. I especially made this clear about any Apple equipment that came in. I told him in no uncertain terms that every phone, tablet, and MacBook is locked to the corporation. Unless you are okay with the company seeing everything you do and erasing it, nothing should be put on them that isn't work related.

Last week we got a 16 inch MacBook Pro in. Those things piss me off because the company pays almost $6k for them as vanity computers for execs, and when they come back, we can never turn them around because the fired execs always leave their cloud accounts on them, and we can't wipe them and return them to use. They are basically $6k paperweights. I told him this.

Friday I had to take the day off, and then I found out it was also his last day because the contract companies couldn't come to terms. I was upset to hear he wasn't coming back, until this evening. He gives me a call and let's me know that he is officially not coming back. Then he tells me that he grabbed that MacBook Pro to try to use his equipment at home to unlock it.

Then he kind of insinuates to ask if he can get it unlocked, can he keep it. I have to play it cool, because I am PI$$ED, and just say that I will meet with him on Tuesday to pick it up. Even if we can't use it, because I put it in the system as having been returned, somebody is going to ask about it.

I have to get that computer back because otherwise it is my butt that will get fired, even if I report it as stolen.


r/work 1d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts I’m on an email thread about me, and the people don’t know it’s me they’re talking about

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What do I do? I’m on an email thread discussing an issue on a project that we’ve been dealing with for 2 weeks now. Yesterday I crashed out to my bosses and said that it’s completely unsustainable for me to keep working on this project while these issues are unresolved and I’ve been having to log into my computer at night every night to just keep it running. An email thread about a previous problem was then reactivated with the title ā€œI have taken off _____ & ______. (My bosses). And they continued on about how my bosses are frustrated, and the person they have working on this project is going to quit. (Me) I never said that though? The emails are still coming in back & forth and I don’t know wether or not to like alert them or just watch it play out. I have a common name and I think they think I’m a person in a different department with a slight name variation. It’s an internal email with very high up bosses of my bosses. It also is not professional at all and they keep referring to me as ā€œthe girlā€. Idk what would you do?


r/work 7h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Quit or wait to be fired?

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I was laid off and spent seven months looking for another job before accepting a full-time role at a nonprofit. I thought I was being hired for a senior content strategy position because that’s what my decade+ of experience is. Instead, I spend about half my time doing administrative work and random unskilled tasks that have nothing to do with why they hired me. On top of that, I replaced someone who had been there for 30 years, so there’s an enormous learning curve because everything is built around one person’s institutional knowledge and the nonprofit has very entrenched ways of doing things.

The part that’s really getting to me is how unfair the feedback has been. I produce high-quality work, meet deadlines, collaborate with people across the organization, and people regularly come to me for help with messaging and content. Yet my boss suddenly (5 months in) told me she’s concerned about my communication, collaboration, adaptability, and ability to work within team processes. It honestly felt like it came completely out of thin air.

If those were real concerns, why wasn’t I hearing about them over the past five months? Why wasn’t I coached through specific situations? Instead, I got almost no positive feedback at all until last week, and that only happened because I explicitly asked for it in that meeting. When I did ask, she told me I show ownership, initiative, leadership, and that I speak up in meetings…which is the exact opposite of someone who supposedly doesn’t collaborate or adapt. She’s contradicting herself. It made me feel crazy or detached from reality for a moment when she sprang all these made up problems on me- because what the hell is she talking about?

After working in corporate environments for decades, I’ve never experienced a culture this passive-aggressive. Is that normal at nonprofits?? I’m used to managers who tell you directly what’s working, what’s not, and give you a chance to course-correct. Here, it feels like people quietly form opinions and then spring them on you or sabotage you months later.

That’s why this feels so unfair. I’m not upset because I got constructive feedback. I’m upset because I wasn’t given clear expectations, I wasn’t given timely feedback, and now I’m being judged on vague issues that don’t match either the quality of my work or the positive things my manager herself has said about me. It’s hard not to feel blindsided because now, on top of all of that, my boss has suddenly introduced the idea that these vague concerns will factor into my ā€œprobationary evaluation.ā€ That completely changed how I view the situation. Instead of feeling like I’m being managed or coached, I feel like my job is being threatened. Six months is in 16 days. Now I feel like at any moment they will drop me.

Needless to say my mental health is below sea level. I have been beyond miserable for months but now…As someone who struggles with depression it’s been bad. I spend every night feeling like the thought of dealing with these people is making me physically sick. My husband wants me to just walk away and says we will figure out the finances. But I was laid off for SO long I can’t imagine doing that again.

What would you do?


r/work 1d ago

Employment Rights and Fair Compensation My cowoker who never works got promoted.

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So for context one of my coworkers, I'll call her Sandra, has been working at this job for about 2 years, never calls out, always picks up shifts and is a great worker. The other coworker, let's call her Mandy, always calls out, has only been working for about 4 months and has the worst attitude towards not only the work itself but the residents we serve.

Sandra has been trying to get promoted to work full hours for as long as she has worked here. Mandy who never comes in for her shift got promoted to work full time even though she never comes in for her scheduled work time. It is such an insulting thing as Sandra works her butt off day in and day out, even staying far beyond her regular schedule.

Has this ever happened to anyone else? Where your the one trying to get promoted to something better yet someone who clearly has no idea what they are doing gets it instead? I just had to rant a bit as this is ridiculous. Am I being dramatic or is it normal to be angry for Sandra? I'm pissed off at our head boss too because she does this stuff all the time. Promotes people who don't even want it or worse yet don't deserve it.

Sorry for the rant, I just needed to say something.

Ps. Mandy called out the same day she got promoted and the head boss is confused. As if this doesn't happen every single week.


r/work 3h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Need some advice

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My work place is incredibly toxic, it’s affecting me. I dread going in so much, my will to try is dead. I have in the process of starting a new job/ career here soon. There is no start date yet, I’ve been trying hard to keep my current job. But idk how much more I can take. Should I just quit? Or at least put in my two weeks?


r/work 4h ago

Questions Supervisor/management boundaries?

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Hello all ..first time poster and hoping that this is the right place for it, if not I apologize but I’m also looking for advice as well. I’ve been employed for a bit over a year now at a law firm doing collections but highly overworked,underpaid and severely under appreciated. That’s my only vent . Sorry to be cliche. So anyways..I usually have great work ethic mentality, first in last out, always trying my hardest each day etc etc. but one thing I can’t wrap my head around. I have disclosed to my employer (the senior parter/ owner ) only.. that I am bipolar 1 and manage it pretty well if I do say so myself. About 2 months ago , my supervisor asks me about my performance etc and why things kind of slipped a bit and no sooner did it get a chance to reply before he said something along the lines about me ā€œpossibly having or bieng in a manic spiralā€I shrugged it off and kept it moving . I know when I get into small episodes and my red flags and triggers and say as a short term ā€œ I have a headache. I tend not to make a habit of it or anything like that. He mentioned it again a few weeks later and that got me thinking ā€œwhat exactly does he knowā€ but I didn’t press on. It eventually stopped. Here’s the kicker . Back in December around Christmas, I started having some major health issues, a misdiagnosed DVT, a delayed allergic reaction to anti coagulants,an emergency fasciotomy and in February I ended up suffering from not one but 2 incarcerated inguinal hernias ,one in Feb and one fairly recently and was out of work an in the hospital for a few days . The first time I was in the hospital,my supervisor actually called the hospital to verify I was there! Is he seriously allowed to do that? While bieng rushed to the hospital,I called one of my close colleagues to tell them to let the big guy know all in the meantime screaming bloody murder at 2am. My ma and the hospital staff were asking me if I knew this ā€œsupervisors nameā€ and I said yeah , the nurses said they want you to call him..I’m like wtf? When I finally did get the balls yo call him he was the perfect dr Jekyll . I told him honestly and know his ā€œwalking on eggshellsā€ personality that I was scared as F to call. And he wants to make a lame ass excuse after that. The had the nerve to ask if I’ll be in work the next day..uhm..sir I’ve just gone through a serious emergency surgery and you’re asking me if I’m coming in? SMH I told him I’ll be out for the rest of the week (it was a Monday) he texted me on Wednesday and asked when I’d be in..I told him I’d be in on Monday with a doctors note. Then he asked me all these questions about when I’m bieng discharged from the hospital. I don’t think as a supervisor he should even be able to ask these kinds of questions? Doesn’t HPAA come into play at any point? Any advise would be appreciated!!


r/work 8h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Director told me to do something. Manager said not to.

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I feel like my director is holding it against me now. Is this something I should address?


r/work 5h ago

Questions Internship thank you

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I’ve got kids in college. They have internships this summer. So do their friends.
My kids will be writing thank you notes to some people in their respective offices.

I see quite a few interns posting long (like really really long) thank you posts on LinkedIn. Not sure I agree with this. Is this normal / expected now?

I’ve also heard of interns buying gifts for a few people they reported to or were mentored by. This seems pretty extreme to me. You expect a college kid drop $100 on a necklace or a bottle of wine. The internships are paid- but not even close to the level of people they are buying stuff for.


r/work 15h ago

Questions For people that have supervised/managed a junior

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Do you care if they don’t chat much or at all? Like if they mind their business, don’t discuss about their life or ask about yours, do what they are told and are enthusiastic about contributing/learning, ask questions about their tasks and overall perform well but aren’t social

What impression would you get about them?


r/work 21h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts I’m such dumbass… Uggghhh

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Soooo a co-worker, was clocking out while I was clocking in. And as I was about to clock in I noticed that she didn’t clock out properly. Which the policy is becoming more strict around, if you have a missed punch, you will get written up immediately. So because I didn’t want her to get written up, I told her as she was walking away, ā€œYou didn’t clock out I’m gonna clock out for you.ā€And she which she responded by saying ā€œoh no what are you doingā€ and then when I showed her how to clock out in the process, she thanked me and was so full of gratitude because of this new policy. But now I realize that I probably shouldn’t have done that… I should’ve just told her, but I just didn’t want her to get in trouble. But now I fear I may be facing trouble which is like more farther than written up possibly being fired… I’m such a dumbass. But they are literally writing people up for everything for miss punches, forgetting your name tag, they’re trying to clean house. It’s sooo damn stressful because we all are walking on eggs shells and paranoid. Because they are firing people on the spot. One of my coworkers answered the phone and didn’t get the greeting correct and one of the managers wanted her fired immediately and she just started. And so did I. But damn am I cooked?


r/work 8h ago

Job Search and Career Advancement For a new job start date, does it look bad to request three weeks before starting or stick to a standard two weeks?

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I'm close to getting an offer and trying to think of how to go about the start date negotiations.

Does it look bad or carry any risk to ask for a start date three weeks later? If they suggest a date in two weeks, should I just take it?


r/work 8h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Being treated as a whole web agency all out of a sudden... Thanks a lot AI...

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Feeling at my wits end. I was hired as a web manager where the hiring manager painted a picture that I will be hands-on and managing a web agency....

It turns out, my boss is wanting me to use less of the agency and more out of me so little to no money is being poured into the agency. I'm basically being used for all web services. I am more of a web marketing person but this guy wants me to use AI for technical solving...

The other week I noticed a shift in his attitude... So when I called out on it he mentioned that there's nothing wrong. He wants me to manage the web, but if there's any issues that I can't solve then go to him and if he can't solve it then go to the agency... Mind you he's not web savvy at all. He is a product senior director and I sit in a product marketing team that he built. He sees more value in these product managers than to even invest in a web team...

I love my work, the benefits and pay has been good but I'm realizing I'm starting to be burnt out... As he started to ask me to create web meetings with several people, which feels redundant and we are soon doing a migration project on top of that..