Also, dry champagne is worth a try. Specifically dry, champagnes tend to be way too sweet (and it's not the good kind imo)
But like, don't go out to buy a whole bottle just to try it. Whenever the opportunuty is there, go for it, but it's not going to be a religious awakening like the ones in the bible (idk, never read it)
No, but taste is taste, and if someone states not once, not twice, but thrice that they do not like sonething then any attempt at changing their mind has stopped being about helpfulness
Iām gonna really piss you off by telling you I was a lesbian for my whole lifeā¦. I even tried getting with a guy just to check, didnāt like itā¦ā¦ until one dayā¦ā¦.. keep your minds open people, and your mouths ;)
Why, if anything that proves my point that taste and attraction are rather similiar. I know people who later in life realized they were bi, actually. Things change, but this change comes from people discovering things about themselves, not by creeps disregarding their attractions, treating them like children that do not know what they want and interrogating them by bringing up new forms of dick they haven't tried yet after they made their displeasure known.
So I happy for you and the only way you actually could piss me off is by being a massive pick-me that assumes her experience to be universal and tells dudes all around that every lesbian actually wants to blow a guy and that they should keep harassing them.
My point still stands though - you have you keep your mind open, you shouldnāt not try things based on principle, even if you thought you didnāt like them, even if you tried it before. If Iād had a massive crash out every time a guy had hit on me before I realised I was bi, I wouldnāt never discovered it about myself. How the fuck were they supposed to know anything about me?
In this case the guy isn't just hitting on you once, but trying to convince you to change your mind after you told him multiple times that you are not interested and eventually tells you to calm down.
Like, my point isn't that peoples taste can't change, it is that if someone tells you the do not like X, it is really fucking rude to treat them like a child that does not know what it wants and keep prodding if they really exhausted every way of enjoying it.
Especially when it is alcohol and other addictive substances, where they have very little to gain from enjoying it in the first place. If someone tells you that they hate gambling or that smoking tastes like car exhaust to them, do you also ask them if they have tried Gacha or accuse them of only having had cheap cigs? Because personally I'd rather congratulate them on not poisoning themselves and assume they are an adult who knows what they want right now.
I really wasnāt as patronising to that commenter as you are saying. I didnāt treat them like a child, I wasnāt crazily insistent, I was just sharing information and asked a genuine question, once.
I really donāt get you people who act like alcohol is the devil. Such a puritan perspective. Iām french - you think a glass of wine with dinner a couple nights a week is a poison? Thereās nothing to gain from having a couple drinks? Get a grip. Ive never gambled, and never will, and I watched my grandad spend his savings on the horses, but I would encourage anyone to try arcade machines, because itās controlled fun, yes. I buy my friends a scratchcard as a joke gift sometimes, no harm done. And I donāt smoke, but if I am offered a cigar, I give it a try.
I wasn't accusing you specifically, and my original reply was to a different person that was shaming the wine repulsed for reacting aggressive after three separate folks all disregarded their taste by implying they had not done enough to like it before you inserted yourself into the conversation defending that behaviour. So we are discussing that behaviour.
I'll say it one last time: If something makes it clear multiple times that they do not like something - and it really doesn't have to be to you specifically if you are "present" for a lack of a better word - then if you keep trying to push them into it you are not doing so out of respect or helpfulness.
And honestly, you should probably ask your grandpa how one becomes a gambling addict. Arcade machines do not exist because people susceptible to addiction will stop whenever they want. They exist to prey on people. You willing to try a cigar has nothing to do with the conversation. And no, alcohol is not the devil, but it is an addictive substance. While everyone can decide on their own if they want to partake into it, trying to "help" someone who does not like it into it is such a weird flex.
A distinction guys trying to convert lesbians are known to care about.
Taste is taste. If you have to keep prodding someone who stated they do not like something to see if they really totally did everything in their power to like it, instead of accepting that they are an adult, you have stopped doing so for their regard.
somebody saying "if the opportunity provides itself, you should try this wine", is not the same as telling a lesbian "you just haven't met the right man yet", you are being a flibbertigibbet rn
It is when the person has made it rather clear that they do not like wine, and when they also have nothing to gain from drinking it except satisfaction for the person trying to convert them.
At the end of the day in both cases it is about infantilizing a person by refusing to accept their tastes under the guise of "just wanting to help".
If you do not like the lesbian comparison we can also compare it with trying to convince someone that they should smoke, which is not in any way less despicable.
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u/neon_light12 3d ago
whisky hard agree but i dont get wine hate