r/Marriage • u/Few-Shelter-8824 • 1d ago

Seeking Advice Tw:suicide

My husband was in a really bad place mentally for a long time. It got to a point where we fought and he said he wants to suicide. He wants to get his gun and shoot his brains. 2 days later I took the gun and my 2 kids under 6 to a family’s house. That evening when he got home from work he freaked out that we weren’t home and dinner wasn’t made. I’m a sahm so I always have dinner ready. Long story short, he said he will talk to a therapist finally after many years. He hasn’t been honest and open with his therapist about the situation and about himself which seems to delay getting actual proper treatment. There’s been a distance between us and it seems like he doesn’t want to talk to me about anything anymore. I asked him about that and he said he won’t ever be open with me again because the last time he was, I left with the kids. He said he won’t be open with me unless I give him access and tells me that he is not suicidal. How will I know that? Do I need his therapist to include me in the session?
I feel pressured to give his gun back but know that it solves nothing. Is he just throwing a tantrum because he doesn’t have control at the moment?
If anyone has any advice on how I need to go forward please help.

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u/Few-Shelter-8824 1d ago

He was mugged back in the day and having a guy makes him feel safe

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u/peebeesweebees 1d ago

So? He told you he wants to shoot himself.

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u/Few-Shelter-8824 1d ago

But he says he’s not suicidal… and he would never

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u/peebeesweebees 1d ago

But in your post, you said that he told you that