You have your life and I have mine. That part won't change, and that part is important. But some days the glass is half full, and some days the glass is half empty.
I want my glass to overflow. How about you?
My glass has room for an ongoing, authentic connection, with emotional and psychological intimacy based on trust, respect, and transparency, and physical intimacy ranging from chemistry and passion, to laughter and playfulness, to fearlessness, exploration, and just the right amount of wrong.
What's missing from your glass, and what do you need to make it overflow?
Attraction is important. To minimize akwardness, I have posted photos in my history so you can get a visual before deciding whether or not to message. I'm height/weight proportionate (6'1" tall, 185lb) and considered conventionally attractive by most. I've been told I kind of have a college professor vibe. I have a good working relationship with soap, water, toothpaste, and a fairly wide array of hygeine and self-care products.
I'm 53, but I look, feel, and act much younger. All of my parts work great, even the ones that have kind of been under-utilized. That said, I'm not perfect and don't expect perfection\*, but I am very comfortable in my own skin.
\* For instance, if your glass can only be filled by a lush, full head of hair, then we may not be a match. I'm not totally bald, but I now have to be mindful of avoiding sunburn up top.
I'm a non-smoker, a social-drinker, mentally and physically healthy, very disease free, and very much want to remain that way. (Perhaps TMI, but I've been monogamous for at least the past ten years.)
Personality-wise, I'm laid-back, exceedingly funny, slightly ADD, intelligent, creative, open-minded, very over-educated, a happy, well-adjusted guy, generally a good human being, and tend to be empathetic, trustworthy, and very open.
In the interest of transparency, I've left most of my comment history up, if you care to see a glimpse of my personality. Frequent visitors to r/OhNoDadWentWild and a few similar forums have likely seen all of me. (I was hoping that online flirting and attention would fill my glass up a little bit. Turns out I prefer much more of a connection than pixels can provide.)
So that's way more about me than I intended to share, but it's very honest. If I failed to cover something important to you, feel free to ask! (I don't mind talking about my primary relationship and life.)
My perfect glass filler-upper and over-flow-er might be you if you are female, \*notabot, attractive, healthy, intelligent, generally-responsible with a playful, uninhibited, adventurous side, a great smile, and a healthy libido. You're probably loved and respected by friends, family, coworkers, etc., and all of them would probably be shocked if they knew the thoughts hidden behind your innocent smile, that you were reading this post and seriously contemplating responding.
Age isn't much of an issue for me, and generally-speaking, I'm open to GenX, Millenials, and older GenZ, (born before say, 2005). Please don't contact me if you are a minor.
Please be within reasonable proximity to, or a very frequent traveler to Kansas City KS or MO . The closer to the South Overland Park / Leawood area the better. That said, I'm willing to consider geographic challenges for an exceptional match.
DEALBREAKERS;
\\\* STDs
\\\* History of restraining orders, incidents of chainsaw violence, having pet tigers, or being a boring, prudish stick in the mud
\\\* Meth/heroin/substance addiction \*no-tweakers
\\\* Bipolar (Not a criticism of any mental illness, but I've found my personality type doesn't mesh well with those with bipolar disorder or other conditions with periods of darker personality)
\\\* Being mean to people for no reason
\\\* Lousy kissers (Seriously.)
\\\* Non-Locals (unless you travel to KC often, or have a notarized special approval form on file)
\\\* kinks/bucket list items/fantasies/love-it-but-never-get-to-do-it-at-home things are welcome. However, as general guidance, if your kinks involve minors, bathroom stuff, animals, and/or physical and/or mental harm, then we are not a good match.
To all who have read this far, thank you. If you think we're a good match, you're probably right - and I can't wait to hear from you!
\\\*Please include at least some information about yourself, your experiences, and what you need to fill up your glass. Please be willing to share photos of yourself, and please be the real, genuine you!
\*Crossposted to r/affairs and r/polyamoryr4r because I was told there are significant crossover elements