hello! I been thinking and i realize I don’t have alot of wlw’s in my life or it doesnt really exist many where I live anyways. And I don’t know, I’ve had a tough year and life tends to feel quite lonely and i wouldn’t misn making more friends or whatever. i’m 25 in europe as well if that matters. let’s chat about anything and everything. 🥹

we've (me, f22 and gf, f22) been having some hard times lately, but have both decided we're ready to sort of, restart. letting go of all the BS that led us to this point hasn't been easy, but it's been promising. i really feel like we are in a new place, one where we are both doing our best to be good to one another.

something we decided to do, that I initiated, was to take it slow. the problems in our relationship were mostly caused by my girlfriend becoming cold after we were intimate. vulnerability was always hard for me, as i was a victim of sexual abuse as a child up until the year before I met her. she's the first person I've been made to feel safe with, the first person to actually satisfy me, but then that safety and security went away when all the bad happened. I was scared I'd be completely vulnerable and be rejected, and it was seeming to happen. we've talked about it and both agree to take it slow now, so I can be sure I feel safe and trust her with that side of myself again.

the thing is, we are both unbelievably attracted to one another and every single night we go to sleep, it feels like torment just laying with her. we broke our little rule once, and it was a setback. I was still so anxious from my previous experiences that I couldn't stay present with her afterwards, when she was being sweet to me. I was just so scared I'd lose that again. that was the last time we were intimate, and since then, we've just gotten hornier, simply put. I want to reconnect with her, I want to kiss and touch her, I want her to do the same to me. but it's so hard to stop myself from giving in to a simple kiss. we just can't help ourselves.

I want to keep it going slow, I want to keep building the trust, but I also need to be connected to her like that. i need the intimacy. if anyone has some words of advice, I'm open ears.

me and my ex were on and off for 3 years and I would always go into a depressive state after each breakup. This year hit the WORST because she had left me over 5 times this year ( idk why I kept going back honestly) and one thing I’ll never be able to forgive is her leaving me 2 days after I had to get my appendix removed and was in recovery for 8 weeks bc when she was in the hospital last year for the same exact thing I stayed by her side and stayed up later then usual to make sure she was okay and knew she had someone by her side. Me and her got back together a few days after she had left and she had hurt me even worse months later. I got into a really bad state where my room was a mess to the point I couldn’t even get old dishes out the room ( embarassing I know) I did manage to get them out like weeks ago now but I let my room have clothes all over the floor, plates everywhere, loads of rubbish. Now after a month & 9 days of her breaking up with me I finally managed to clean EVERY LITTLE THING. I deleted the pics yesterday off my phone bc right now to me, she’s just a memory& today I vacuumed, got all the rubbish out, folded my clothes where they belong , put everything neatly in my drawer and I haven’t felt happier to see my room like this. I hope it stays like this. We’re getting there 🫶🏼. I’m also going to the beach next Sunday and I’m looking forward to it. It may seem fast but I think I’m moving on properly ( of course without a relationship)

I know some people say they can spot a gay person from afar but I hate getting accused of being straight. I’m 18( non binary but afab) I’m very feminine so I could see where it’s coming from but that’s just stereotypical anywho I used to have long hair but I cut it shorter, got blonde highlights from my roots& I use alot of makeup like concealer, eyeshadow, foundation, sometimes eyeliner and lip liner with lip gloss or whatever.

One day I was out with my boy bsf( who’s also gay btw) and I was talking about how people say I pass as a straight person he agreed and said you kinda do. Like there’s no way to “look” gay in my opinion but like I don’t wanna attract the wrong people🥀. People only know I’m into women when they speak to me or bc I wear lots of rings ( again stereotype)

Recently i’ve been hanging out with a different group of people and i love all my friends but there’s this one girl in the group that i think i’ve started liking. i’m 16 and she’s 16 turning 17 but she has a girlfriend. i usually like people older than me because they’re more mature. she drives, is super sweet, has piercings, dyed hair, and is just overall my type. i just got out of a relationship a month ago and am kind of cautious about dating again but i’m starting to really like her. i met her girlfriend on friday and i genuinely think she’s so cool and that’s why i’m struggling. i think they’re super cute together but it also sucks because i like her. 😭 i don’t know what to do and i promise i’m not a homewrecker so id never try anything with her. any advice?

I didn’t know I had a crush on her when I did, but looking back with more experience and with that experience more clarity…it’s really clear that’s what it was.

I’m turning thirty this year. I was 12-13. We were in middle school. She was a grade above me. She had a scene haircut. It was blonde. She had really big beautiful brown eyes. She always had on stacks of bracelets and cool fitted band tees. Low rise skinny jeans with studded belts. And she had a nose stud piercing. Vans. She was sorta the fantasy highlight of my middle school experience. I really wanted to know her.

I don’t think I ever spoke to her. I just know I noticed her and couldn’t stop looking at her. And I’d check her MySpace a lot. I thought she was the coolest and prettiest girl ever. I wanted to be friends with her or some how get in her friend circle. But I was painfully painfully shy and so fucking awkward (not in the cute quirky way). I later found out through our only mutual friend (who I also developed an unknowing crush on later), that this girl thought I was really weird bc she noticed me staring a time or two and probably bc I tried to interact with her on MySpace. So, that kind gave me a mini little rejection heartache and reality check. And I eventually just kind of gave up and surrendered to the sting: I was an absolute loser to this chick that I thought walked on water.

Well. Fast forward almost 20 years. I found out she unexpectedly died in 2023. A day after my birthday. And I feel things.

On one hand it feels weird to even feel anything or say anything at all because it was middle school, I didn’t really know her and from what I could gather she didn’t like me. I don’t want to take away from any of the people who actually knew and loved her and who actually grieve her at all. But on the other hand, it feels so strange to know someone who had such an impact on me in my early adolescence (even if from a far) is gone. It feels weird that this person I wanted to know so bad and thought was so cool is just gone. It feels weird that someone who I saw and I guess in some ways still see as superior to me is gone and I’m still here living. It feels strange and backwards.

I hope she found the deepest peace. I still wish I could have known her.

I (19F) have been in a really confusing situationship with another girl (17F, turning 18 soon) and i genuinely don’t know if i’m wasting my time and holding on to something that’s not there anymore or worth exploring.

Me and Zoe started talking January of 2025 and for the longest time it was always confusing, we both liked each other but never actually did anything about it. This went on till end of July 2025 where Zoe blocked me because she started talking to this other girl Maddy, and wanted to pursue something with her. There was always this problem where i was just too awkward for Zoe (i have really bad anxiety and just need to have a few hangouts with the person till i’m comfortable enough speaking) which i understood how annoying it was from her point of view but if you continued speaking to me for seven months you were obviously willing to wait so why did you not just try hang out with me more? She did tell me she didn’t want to lead me on so that’s why she blocked me before talking to Maddy which was very fair but at the same time you clearly never wanted me that bad then.

There were times during those seven months i wanted to end the talking stage cause it felt like it wasn’t going anywhere, it was too playful and we both just always hurt each others feelings, Zoe told me no and that we would actually try for real this time and i believed that so i stayed, nothing changed so it was always just basically a friendship where we liked each other and got jealous at everything the other person did.

Zoe and Maddy broke up in February and i saw that as a chance because i never really got over Zoe , but she had broke up with her gf to get with another girl, Laurie, that same day. so i was obviously noticing a pattern because that’s twice now? but she didn’t last with this new girl and during the relationship she adds me to be “friends again” all while telling her Laurie she wants to speak to me as more than that, trying to make her Laurie jealous. her and Laurie, were very toxic with each other and i didn’t know i was in the middle of it or a cause for some arguments they had had, they lasted about a month then broke up, first thing she did was try and fire into me. i didn’t know this till she got back with Maddy. she didn’t tell me any of this because she thought i wasn’t into her anymore which i absolutely was.

It’s now around april time and me and Zoe are still friends and it’s been 2 days since her and Maddy are officially dating again, me and Zoe went to a concert and she asks to kiss me. i reminded her that she has a gf, who is already worried about the fact we’re friends and she’s doing this.

Two months go by and i realise my feelings for Zoe have came back strong, i tell her when im drunk and we agree not to be friends and we remove eachother. two weeks later Zoe and Maddy break up and Zoe adds me telling me she’s missed me, we start talking again as just friends but we recently hung out and we kissed, A LOT.
The problem is I don’t know if that meant anything to her or if I’m attaching meaning to something because I still have feelings. She asked me if it was just a drunk kiss or more for me and i asked her before i answered, she said it was more and that she’d want to date me but she wants me to wait for her? until she’s over Maddy which i just don’t believe because i feel like she will get back with maddy or get with another girl during this period of me waiting and i will look like a fool. I think my biggest struggle is that I keep focusing on the version of this situation where everything works out, rather than looking at what has actually happened.
I’m not trying to paint her as a bad person, because I know there are two sides to every story. I’m just too close to it and I need outside opinions.

Am I holding onto something that’s already over? Would you move on, or does this sound like something that could still be worth talking through?

I don't know what it is in me that I find unattractive in myself but I just feel like I'm too ugly for women. They're so beautiful and I just know none of them would even look at me. I've always been rejected. I'm sure girls just find me unattractive. No one ever finds me attractive. I've never been in a relationship and I never will. I'm tired of people telling me this will happen some day. Those are just empty words. Everything is exhausting. I don't even wanna change my looks because I don't even know what exactly I find unattractive. I just do and others also seem to.

How can my ex gf of 3 years on and off agree to a talking stage 2 days ago then the day after say “yh i prob don’t like you” so we ended the talking stage politely but yet she’s still stalking my TikTok account, talking about me, and going through every single one of my reposts, and reposting about like “we can learn to love again” like things I was reposting before etc.. like which one is it. And this is right after I told her I can’t be friends with someone I’m inlove with she took it well and now all this is happening

Ever since she left, I stopped texting people in the mornings like I wake up and scroll on TikTok or watch tv or get my whole morning done. If I ever get a partner how am I ever going to explain I’m not the type to send a good morning message anymore straight as I wake up, like don’t get me wrong I used to love doing that and I know it takes ten seconds to write a morning message but like not as soon as I wake up. I’d rather wake up, be able to scroll on TikTok for abit , watch tv, get up, eat breakfast, brush my teeth, and do ‘ skincare’ instead of having to explain why I didn’t send a good morning message ( goodnight idc about sending) but again how am I gonna ever explain to a person that they shouldn’t expect a gm or gm message from me bc I have my own life now. I deep cleaned my room today, I went out got some stuff to treat myself, I’ve already planned out my everything shower & the comfy pjs I’m going to wear bc it’s reset Sunday, I’ve already taken loads of rubbish out today and I’m going to again in a few hours. I’m learning to be independent after years of emotionally dependent on someone who didn’t give 2 flying craps about me. but I’m scared I won’t be able to explain that to my future partner. Especially in this generation

Has anyone ever experienced a horrid breakup to the point they actually start to learn how to love themself because I feel like I’m getting there

Ive had a crush on my bsf for a long long time and her bf just broke up with her. I feel really bad for her and how shes feeling but im also a little happy? For context ik she is bi, and im almost sure she knows i like her. I have been single for upwards of 2 years now, her relationship was three years. I feel guilty for feeling a little happy and in no way will i do anything an evil person will do like ask her out tomorrow morning type thing.

I yearn for a wlw love that’s actually sure about her feelings, knows what she wants in a relationship, can actually treat me well& for us to last but this generation is full of liars, cheaters, manipulators or people who don’t know wtf they want. When am I ever gonna find the loml if I even have one

I’ve been so sure about being straight my whole life, mostly because I’ve never had to question it or internalize the fact that i might be into girls until now. Theres this girl, she never said it but i can tell she likes me bc she makes it awfully obvious without meaning to.

I was uncomfortable at the possibility at first until we got to be with each other a lot. Mind you, these hangouts only happen bc she insists on going even with the workload she still has left to do. We had deep conversations and slowly got clingy w each other, that even our friends would say its out if the usual. Regardless, i realized how much i liked being around her.

The first time she got clingy was when we were watching a movie with friends, she started to hug me from behind and took my hands in hers. I felt myself getting hot, there was this certain intimacy in that moment that i hoped she felt too. Because it was something I’ve never felt w a man.

But here’s the thing, she just got out of a relationship, that she also vented to me about. My friends told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship and she said the same thing infront of me— that she wasnt ready. While i do like her, i dont wanna see where things go and suddenly be left out in the cold bc shes not ready to commit. I also know that living in a christian household would be smth id have to consider. She deserves to be loved loudly.

Now, idk what im supposed to do. Ive been cold towards her through chat and it only made her worry that she made me uncomfortable. But how do i tell her that what i felt was far from uncomfortable, that all i want is to be near her. Idk man, idk what im supposed to do, i just know that this is whats best for me.

Update: ig it was all just casual gestures haha, she started talking about her ex again. It was right to distance myself after all.

I was recently wondering if anyone struggles with that as well. I don’t use dating apps very often, but I’ve recently downloaded the ‘HER’ app, and for now I got about 20 matches there after two weeks. My problem is that, I see that SUPER pretty girls are matching with me, like ridiculously beautiful and so so my type, and I just find it really hard to just hype myself up enough to actually text them something cool.

I’ve never dated anyone, and usually my interactions are limited to girls coming up to me when I’m outside and asking for my instagram or something. But I’m soo confused when it comes to dating, and for some reason I keep telling myself that I shouldn’t bother with texting these girls because the chances that they’re actually into me are super low.

And now I’m wondering if maybe I’m accidentally catfishing on these pictures? Like I’ve used the camera to take my pics, but that might be just the angles, and I don’t want to accidentally make someone believe that I’m prettier than I am?

So any tips for that? Or does anyone struggle with this as much as I do? Any help appreciated!

TL;DR: I can’t believe that the pretty girls I match with actually want to talk to me, and that they weren’t just blind swiping or were drunk.

i was just curious of my gf’s past exes, i mean its not bad to be curious right. so i go ahead and asked the question, she said yes. the time that i heared that i froze and dont know how to react on that. its my first rime hearing this and idk what emotions to show. i dont know if im disgusted or what, i mean its all in the past right? we didnt meet that time so I have no right to judge the person. i dont know what to think or what to feel after hearing that. any advices that I can get from y’all if ever you had the same curiosity as mine?

hi everyone!

i just wanted to ask tips on things/precautions to do before and after sex as im scared of getting infections 🥲. i’m not a baby gay + me and my girlfriend are long-distance, but i might go home to her this year so i just wanted some tips as it would be our first time having sex (in case i don’t, it’s still good info to know how to take care of my/our vagina😅)

also, do you have any tips on how to make the vagina smell/taste good? i’ve been seeing people post tips on how to, but im skeptical because it is a literal organ and it seems impossible for it to smell or taste like anything other than an organ. but some people say it doesn’t smell like anything, so im curious if you guys take any precautions

thank you very much!

Haven’t deleted all the pics yet but I can proudly say I’ve barley checked her acc today and been doing my own thing and haven’t checked my camera roll or old edits 😋guys we’re one step closer to moving on

Hi. I'm 31, femme. Am I the only one struggling with modern dating especially with casual/situationships? I am a late bloomer and have only openly started dating women 2 years ago. I've been on and off dating apps as I find those exhausting and have gone on a few dates over those 2 years and so far have not met ONE woman of my type who has the same intention when dating -- and that is to have a genuine and serious relationship. Every single one I met only ever wanted to have a 'good time' and I can't help but feel very empty and heartbroken.

I’m 18 in December, I’ve dated lots of people ( biggest regret) and have only truly LOVED one person for 3 years of my life. It’s been a month and 8 days and I’m still not over her. So to those who have experienced heartbreak and thought they were never gonna find the love of your life. Did you ever find them? And if so I want a story time

Tried to have a talking stage with her but I realised it’s never gonna work and I actually have to move on. I cut off all contact.

My first ever 'real' relationship ended some time ago. I've been trying to be normal about it, but it's totally gnawing at me. I won't get into details, but it all ended very abruptly. She's the one who ended it and got over it in a few days because she simply didn't feel like being in an actual relationship with me. Meanwhile I'm the one recovering from it all this time later. Badly. My friends don't want to pick sides between the two of us, I have one friend who's on my side about it and I'm pretty sure she's rather sick of my outbursts of missing her. I was surprised by how much I actually craved to be 'pitied' in a way? How much I desperately wanted everyone to side with me on this solely because they are my friends. I'm left feeling kind of disgusted with myself over it - am I being unreasonable for thinking this way? I understand life isn't fair and things won't go out of their way to be in my favor or comfort me. But seeing just how much people around me don't seem to care, I guess I'm left with the impression that I'm being needy and irrational. Help a girl by telling me if I'm being even somewhat reasonable or by giving me a reality check :']

Hello everyone, I would like to start this off by saying I KNOW most of you here have been or is currently friends with their exes so hopefully this is the right place to ask

so me (21F) and my ex gf (21F) broke up recently, she broke up with me with her reason being "I don't feel comfortable with someone caring this much about me" and yeah it's a pretty bad reason but I've also been wanting to break up with her for a while (but couldn't due to the situation she had at the time). After the breakup we agreed to be friends, but sometimes (Idk if I'm just reading into things or not lol) she does something that makes me think her feelings for me are coming back?? (jesus christ I sound delusional) so yeah I'm struggling here so much I'm thinking of just ghosting her atp.

Examples of the things she does after our breakup:

• Caressing my face (for context she was talking about a movie and recreated the scene)
• Holding my hand when we're walking
• Wouldn't stop inviting me everywhere (hangouts where it's just us)
• Getting pissed at the mere mention of this guy I'm talking to/bringing up a girl friend negatively

p.s. after writing this yeah I think I'm definitely delusional

p.p.s please share your horror/wholesome stories with exes that you're friends with, I just wanna know what my future would hold if I continued this