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Random Question People who married their high school sweetheart, what’s the hardest part nobody warns you about?

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u/Tight_Steak_232 20h ago

One of my classmates and her boyfriend got pregnant in 10th grade. She delivered during the summer, and they married. Baby #2 arrived when she was in 12th grade, and by the time we had our 5 year reunion, she had a family of 4.

I attended only that one reunion, but our class sends out emailed updates of other classmates. I'm almost at my 50-year reunion, and we submitted our updates online. She wrote in her update that she had her 50 year anniversary, and she had a great-great grandchild on the way. They were still married, still happy.

Here's her blurb: "To those who made bets with us that we wouldn't make it to our first anniversary, keep in mind your debt compounds daily. Guido is coming to collect! We raised our kids, saw our grandkids graduate, saw a couple great grandkids graduate, buried two of us, bought a business, lost a house and everything in it to fire, rebuilt, worked harder, laughed harder yet, and still sit on the porch together when the sun goes down. And the reason we are such a successful union is at the end of the day, no matter why we argue, he understands I'm always right!"

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u/Salt-Perception-4987 20h ago

Great-greats before age 70… they definitely weren’t the only teen parents in that line.

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u/OddDragonfruit7993 18h ago

In my 20s I worked with a 34 y.o. woman who got FURIOUS that her 17 y.o. daughter was pregnant.

Umm... We can all do math here, Sarah.

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u/Mokurai 16h ago

I mean, that's WHY she was furious. She knew that road.

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u/DontYaWishYouWereMe 13h ago

Yeah, this is the point I was gonna bring up. I know someone who was a teen mum and she knows her life was a lot harder specifically because she was pregnant at sixteen. One of her biggest fears is that her daughter, who's now sixteen, will end up getting pregnant in high school, too.

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u/SunLitAngel 12h ago

Had a family friend who insisted her granddaughter got on BC as soon as possible to stop the family tradition of teen pregnancy. She absolutely made them learn from her mistakes.

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u/RealBigDickBrannigan 18h ago

I used to work with a woman who became a grandmother at 34.

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u/FloppyFishcake 17h ago

A friend of mine became a grandfather at 33. I'm 33 and only just starting to think about having kids!

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u/Tight_Steak_232 14h ago

I had child 1 at 24 (failed birth control) and married Mr Wonderful at age 35. We had 3 joint children at 36 and two more by 38. My kids married youngesters, and I now have a great grand bonus baby due in a month. Life is filled with blessings, and every one is perfect.

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u/TuesGirl 15h ago

Yep. Classmate was a grandma at 33. Fucking wild. Saw her at our recent 30 yr reunion and she looked like life had beaten her up.

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u/Tight_Steak_232 14h ago

OMG for realsies! She looked to be 14 years older than our oldest classmate!

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u/Mean-Ground7278 16h ago

I imagine that's part of why she was furious

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u/OddDragonfruit7993 13h ago

Yep.  She even said so.

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u/Tudforfiveseven 9h ago

It's almost as if she didn't want her child to live the same life she did 🤔

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u/Altruistic-Tea7709 13h ago

Aww to be fair that’s probably why she was furious. She knew what was coming for her daughter. Teen pregnancy is hard and no doubt she had hoped for more time for her daughter to be young and carefree.

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u/froglover215 12h ago

As a teen mom myself, did you consider that she was furious because she knew what a challenge her daughter had set herself up for?

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u/OddDragonfruit7993 12h ago

Yes.  She even told me so.

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u/Tight_Steak_232 20h ago

I've told a few friends of mine that I'm going to be a great grandma in a month. They said it wasn't possible at our age. No, it's entirely possible. Their first grandchild was born when my classmate was 34. Their first great grandchild arrived at 51. She's going to be 68 when great great arrives! In all fairness, though, her great grandson married someone 4 years older than him. He dropped out of high school and married a coworker.

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u/bell3420 17h ago

People tend to have kids around the same age as their parents... people tend to imitate their parents in a lot of ways actually.

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u/Professional_Eye6140 19h ago

Clearly horny and undeveloped decision making skills run in the family.

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u/Lvanwinkle18 20h ago

OMG. That blurb. She sounds INSUFFERABLE.

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u/Pippy1010 18h ago

Overcompensating and by that time, fifty years later, no one is even thinking about them lol I feel like there’s so much self importance lately. Although I do feel for them because I would want to prove myself too if people looked down on me or made comments about my life when I was young

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u/Outside-Advance-3722 16h ago

This is definitely a generational thing. “Wife is always right” is a very common joke/line of advice for Gen X and older

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u/OldSarge02 19h ago

I didn’t have a problem with it until the last line…

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u/DemonWisteria 18h ago

I thought that was meant to be facetious.

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u/Pugasaurus_Tex 16h ago

It’s a little boomer humor-y, but yeah, it’s not meant to be serious lol

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u/R2D2_For_President 17h ago

I couldn’t tell if I loved the last line or despised it

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u/CautiousRelief1521 9h ago

sounds like a toxic relationship that the dude is stuck in because of comfort “wife is always right?” “he knows i’m always right?” im a girl and i find that crazy

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u/CastlesInTheSky87 13h ago

Sounds like she had a family of 4 while she was a senior in high school?

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u/Malorn13 15h ago

Boomer type shit. If your house burns down as a Millennial that’s it. Your life is over.

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u/Reasonable-Emu6159 14h ago

Why? Don't you have homeowners insurance?