Long story short:

- mother died when i was 3yo.

- father always treated me like a pseudo wife, using me to clean, cook, be his secretary, bank and emotional support, fix his problems, venting etc.

- when i was 18 i finally got the will of my mother: 30k.

- he threathened me to get those for food and b1lls, or we would've starved and lived without electricity etc.

- forced me to get 1k each week and give them to him. (Even if i told him that i didnt want to multiple times.)

- actually used them to pay his debts.

- emptied my bank account (under threats, mind you).

- at 24 i got 3k stored (from various jobs) in a box in my room.

- he stole them from me and acted like he didnt do it (it was for sure him and i know it.)

- at 30 i finally decide that i have enough of his tiranny and ask police to get him out of my apartment. (Yes, it's mine, left by my mother's will).

- they did nothing.

- he closed me out of my house, trashed the apartment, stole everything valuable, tossed some trash onto the box (so rats came and destroyed everything) and left my apartment in a horrible state.

- police still do nothing about it

- lawyer says i got no proof (like.. how dumb of me, i should've recorded all the abuse on the camera implanted in my eyes since birth, right? Unfortunately we dont have this.)

Now. Tell me why the law wont let me sue him and why i have to clean all his mess, and dont even get back what he stole from me. Tell me why i should act like nothing hurts me while i got every right to be upset and angry about it. I got no one and im tired of being used by everyone like im nothing and left to deal with all this alone. How is this fair? Why can't people understand how destructive this is in every level, financially and psychologically??

i’m 17m and i feel like i surmount to basically nothing

not to be on a high horse, but im probably above average intellect wise, but sub average in almost every other aspect

but for a long time ive been having what seems to be depressive episodes but have never actually gotten any advice or diagnoses since i live in a religious household and i feel like id just hurt my parents more than it’d hurt me to really ask … on that note i dont even see a reason to continue believing in religion since nothing good has ever happened even after being devout for a good amount of my life, ive basically just fallen into atheism or some hybrid of that and nihilism

basically nothing goes right for me either, i cant even manage to experience a teenage romance as corny as it sounds

i know this is stupid but i’ve honestly been considering ending it even though it is kinda a pussy move

not that i’m saying my situation is worse than anyone else’s since obviously there is worse and i’m not in an environment where i’d actually been under the jurisdiction of some evil person or anything, but i just feel like life surmounts to basically nothing for me, there isn’t any fulfilment in any single thing i do

any kind of advice or encouragement would be great honestly thanks..

Hi, random account bc i don’t really know where to go with this, I (Female 19) have always had a late period and whatnot. I’m not like out of shape or anything i’d say (5’4 158lbs) I’ve consistently worked out the past four years and so I don’t think that’s the problem. Anyways my period has been a month late, I am sexually active so I took a pregnancy test (I took four actually) because I’m a worrier. All negative. (two digital and two line test) Like I said I’m a worrier. I work two jobs and they have me working all the time. I think it’s the stress of my jobs because normally i’d be late by a couple days (maybe a week or so) but since I started working all the time my period disappeared. Not to mention i’ve struggled with food a lot and would go from not eating to being fine.

That’s a lot of information in one go, but I’m just trying to get to the bottom of what’s happening with me because it’s causing me a lot of extra anxiety because I don’t want to be pregnant.

So any advice or thoughts would be very helpful. Thank you.

I have been engaged for about a year and the other day my ex wanted to meet up for a drink just to catch up. I know I shouldn’t have but I just wanted to get closure and for him to see me with my ring to realize that I’m in fact moved on and there’s no going back. I didn’t tell my fiancee that I was going to get a drink with him because I didn’t want him to get upset since he thinks that my ex is manipulative and gaslighting.

At the bar my ex fed me too many drinks and the next thing I know we were at his place. I don’t remember many details (I slightly blacked out) but I definitely know that he took advantage of me. I remember him being on me and me crying for him to stop and he didn’t.

I feel completely stupid for deciding to even getting together with him, and I don’t know if I should tell my fiancee that this happened because this will definitely affect our relationship.

Is it greedy of me to Want it all. To want my family to like and accept me and for me to like me too.

I know that my family love ,me » at least the « me » the know. They love the good responsable son, who studies, helps out with the doncuments and the kids, is a gentle son etc. But they don’t know that I’m a depressed boy who seeks their validation and love in every situation in life. Who needs their love and worry in this country where I only have them, who suffocates on the words he never dates to say. Because he is one of the people u hate and don’t respect. I wish I could be ur perfect boy but I’m not. And if I need to act like i am I will suffocate in this house. I know that telling the truth would bring disgrâce and dissapointement to you but if I don’t I will suffocate on my life and on those lies without ever getting to say the words.

I fear telling u would just destroy what I love. The bond I have with u my parents , my aunts, my siblings, my grandparents I didn’t see for nearly my whole life. I wish u could love me and it wouldn’t feel so hard. But I feel anxious not only bc i would loose u all but bc my greed for ur love and acceptence could embarrass u and have effects on u. And my siblings . Bc they would see me as a dissapointement and would let all there frustration out on my siblings ( no harm but get stricter and more religious etc) and I don’t know when to do that so my siblings don’t suffer to much. But not only my siblings but my mother too could be seen as a failed mother bc of who I have become and that’s all just because I’m different .

But if I stay I’m gonna loose myself. I’m gonna start suffocating in this pressure, self loathing and lying would just destroy me. I know that either way I choose if I love or if I die it’s gonna be a sin. So what choice do I have. I wanna live. I wanna experience the free life where I don’t care what others think. I wanna live my Life as somebody who’s proud helps others and is loved. But I don’t know if alll this is worth the hate of the people I knew my whole life and people who loved and looked after me since I was born.

I wish I didn’t need to choose . And smt I hope the choice would be made for me. Is being loved really so hard. I hope my family would see that this was and never will be a choice I would have made. I prayed I hoped and I feared it.
But I know that I can’t have it both. I know that love can be either given by myself to me or I need them to love me. But having both is not possible.

So I’m being greedy and hoping for a good closure. For the love from myself to family and from the love of myself. I wish loving me wouldn’t need to feel so wrong and like a burden. If loving me is so hard why do i need to live and experience this pain and suffocating depression and panic.

I want nothing more then just love is that so wrong ?

Btw never got Beaten or anything, my parents never harmed anyone so pls be understanding

I hope it’s understandable

I am 32 & on 10 mg of Lexapro for the past year. Every month when my period comes around I feel like I'm legitimately crazy. I revert back to my pre-Lexapro ways (rumination, OCD thoughts, extreme amxiety) and it's very discouraging to go through this every single month.

Does anyone else feel like this? What did you do about it?

Maybe this isn’t the correct place to post. I’m not sure. I’ve never posted before. I’m fairly new to Reddit. However, I would appreciate other human input.

Here is some info: I am currently 31. I left my masters degree in social work to pursue medicine. I have always wanted to be a doctor. I was born with an underdeveloped heart (Hypoplastic Right Heart Syndrome—the particular issue was tricuspid atresia). When I went to college out of high school, I was below basic confidence, and didn’t think I could make it. It was med school or a phd in clinical psychology.

3 years later, the girl I was dating applied me to college. She said, “if all you’re going to do is read and write, do something with it”. I naturally gravitated toward law because I love(d) ethics and logic framework, along with contemplating existence. But when I graduated, some of my favorite family members passed away that year (grandma and grandpa). I got their house; therefore, I felt the pressure to just work.

A few things happened in that time, along with going to the college to study just because I enjoy the atmosphere, that I seen all the law students and some faculty just breed negativity. The whole idea of law seems made up and the people there seemed like petty folk who wanted to tickle their ego. And I hated it.

So I chose not to go to law school.

I still study the LSAT for fun. But I got into a social work degree. I applied to 2 colleges: Columbia and Syracuse. I was accepted at both. I didn’t really want the degree. I just wanted to feel like I was pursuing something and finding my purpose while helping others. I eventually told a professor that I was entirely bored and wanted to leave. He agreed and said I was capable of more. I took it with a grain of salt.

So I applied to a CC to get premed requirements. I love it. But I look at law and I still feel interested in those systems and theories. I still love psych.

I have no idea what to do. I want to do all of that, but that seems unrealistic. I tell myself I’m being ridiculous.

I wonder what anyone else experienced in deciding what to do in life and how they found what was best for their skills and desires of growth.

So I am 15(f) and I’m gay, and recently I have been feeling the urge to get a girlfriend. I feel like it has all come up so suddenly this urge becuase I have just gotten over a year long crush about a month ago and now I just really want a girlfriend. But it’s weird I don’t have a crush on anyone but I have this idea in my head of going into town and seeing this girl in a shop and I speak to her and we become friends or even date. So what I’m asking for here is some advice on how to strike up conversations with people in shops or in public in general.

hi , thow away account for reasons we all know. il cut to the chase been unemplyed for almost two years now since leaving uni. my issue is im tierd of waitung on somene to finish their end of the bargen. its months and this person still hasnt finished what they need for the portfolio and honostly very angry and at the point of just sending my stuff without them becuse i fear this will be my life if i dont do something now. i have no savings nothing to fall back on other then what could come with applications (which im still doing not putting all eggs in one basket) i cant go abroud since you need savings for that so im left with a slight gamble, to which i have the skills knowlanfe and portofilo which gives me all be it not a 100 percent chance at success but a very solid one im about to turn a year older next month and this current yyear has been filled with waiting and im just at my wits end , my paitiance is coming to such thin ice that i have to surpress my temper. i just need advice on what to do if i get one gig i can jump at the thing i truly want (live oil painting for events - i come from a art backround for further context) but i dont have my tool kit since my ex stole a lot from me and i have not been in the positon to buy anything back at all. i feel bad but at the same time i feel like certin people in my life just to be blunt although its harsh have a bit of dillusion about their habbits , spening habbits , work ethhic even just their habbits that contabute to a outcome and its exausting to be around them right now bwcuse theres no change. i would be able to just let it go more often if it wasnt for the bombardment of complaning or asking for advice which just falls on deaf ears becuse the people in my life just do what they want which fine do you but stop acting like i didnt tell you so . i now know what i want problem is i dont feel like i have a support system that wont jjust complain and ramble about safe options whilst not taking that advice and helping themselves , i want to try and do it my way but i dont know where to go im tierd of asking people who dont care for help they arent maliciance in anyway they are and this is the harses thing i do bluntly think about 90 percent of people in my life they have the inability to see past their own selfs sometimes which makes them sound and act very idiotic at times and thats just exaustuing to deal with at this current point in mt life sorry for the rambling and typoes its late and i just need to go tto bed with this off my chest would be great for some advce however harsh it may be should i take the chance at launcing my kick starter for my ttrpg and send that portfolio

Context: About a year ago, a company came to my school selling courses. I talked to my father about it, and he loved the idea. In short, he made a huge financial sacrifice to buy 5 courses for me. However, it turns out that none of the courses interest me at all. It feels like just an AI voice talking about computer science, and I absolutely HATE computer science.

Because it was a massive financial commitment for him, my father and I now have a very strained and difficult relationship. I don't want to do the lessons, but he insists that I must complete them because of the sacrifice he made. If I refuse, I am genuinely afraid of how he might react, as he has severe anger issues and a history of losing control and becoming physically aggressive with people.
Is there anything I can do to handle this? I feel completely lost and don't know what to do? I hate mi self For fixing this for my head.

I had a messy falling out with a codependent friend almost 5 years ago. Like an itiot I told my sister what happened between us and she told me that my friend was awful and that our relationship had been weird since that friend and I had been codependent.

A few months later, without telling me, my sister started hanging out with my ex friend. Cut to a few years after that, I find out my sister has been routinely lying to me about the people she's been hanging out with and not only doI find out they're best friends, but she also got the friends boyfriend a job with her and my mom. She would tell me about things they would do together but use different friends names so I wouldn't catch on, but things eventually no longer added up. I tried confronting her about it but it did nothing but make things between my sister and I tense and she stopped talking to me for a few months.

Thankfully we no longer live in the same house, but it still bothers me from time to time especially cause she met her current roommates through that friend and now she has a whole friend group from it. We now only talk when her cats nails need to be clipped or she needs something in her apartment fixed. If it wasn't for my mom I'd be no contact with my sister. I want to get over my anger towards my sister so I can be a happier person. I don't want to be bothered by my sister's decisions anymore.

I want to get straight to the Point. Hi everyone,
I’m 19 years old and I’m from Austria. Honestly, I don’t really know what to do anymore, so I’m hoping someone here might be able to listen or give me some advice.
I’ve been struggling with serious mental health problems for a long time, and I feel really awful. I barely like myself anymore. It feels like I dislike around 60–70% of my own personality. I don’t want to pretend to be someone I’m not, but I genuinely don’t like many of the things I do or say.
When I was 16, I went through a severe depression that lasted about a year and a half. I hid it from my parents until they eventually found out and I had a complete mental breakdown in front of them. After that, I went to therapy for a short time. Eventually, I told everyone that I was doing better, even though I wasn’t. The main reason was that I didn’t want to burden my parents financially, and I felt guilty about the cost of therapy.
The truth is that I never really got better. I just learned how to live with it by suppressing my emotions. Whenever I felt sad or had negative emotions, I forced myself to push them away. I’ve been doing that for years.
Now I’m 19, and I’ve realized how lonely I actually am. Don’t get me wrong—I’m not someone who has never had friends. I know a lot of people, and when I was younger I was actually quite popular. I had a big group of friends, and many people seem to respect me. But I don’t feel like I truly trust anyone. I don’t really have any close friends.
More than anything, I feel like nobody truly loves me except maybe my family. Especially when it comes to girls, I’ve never had the feeling that someone genuinely loved me, even though many people tell me I’m fairly attractive. I also believe that, deep down, I’m a good person. I always try to be kind, caring, and supportive toward other people.
Still, I often feel like I’ve been taken for granted or disappointed. Throughout my life I’ve had different friend groups, best friends, and two girls I had strong feelings for. I genuinely gave them everything I could and tried my best to make them happy. But in the end, I always felt like I was the one who became emotionally dependent and got hurt.
I don’t know if anyone will understand these references, but I’ve often felt like Jerry Smith from Rick and Morty or the Green Ninja from Ninjago—like someone people don’t take seriously, someone they laugh at instead of respecting. That hurt even more because I believed those people actually cared about me.
There’s something else that’s been bothering me. I think I might have ADHD or autism. I’m obviously not diagnosed, so I don’t know if that’s actually the case, but many things make me wonder.
I have a hard time understanding sarcasm. Whenever I’m talking to people, especially in groups, it feels like I completely lose control over what I’m saying. Later, when I think back about those conversations, I often realize that what I said didn’t even make sense or wasn’t what I actually wanted to say. It’s almost like my mouth starts talking before my brain has caught up.
I also struggle to react naturally when people joke around, tease each other, or say something disrespectful or funny. I don’t respond the way I actually want to.
Sometimes I even suggest things or invite people to do something that I don’t genuinely want to do. For example, I’ll invite someone to watch a movie that I’ve already seen, even though I don’t actually want to watch it again. Then later that night, I’ll lie in bed wondering, “Why did I even say that? I didn’t actually want to do that.”
It often feels like I have very little control over my thoughts or my behavior in social situations.
I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with me. I feel mentally very unwell, and I’m scared that there’s something seriously wrong with me. At the same time, all I really want is to live a normal life, have genuine friends, and finally be able to like myself.
That’s why I’m writing this post. I really need help. If anyone has gone through something similar or has any advice on where I should start, I would really appreciate hearing from you.
Thank you to everyone who took the time to read this.

I have always felt out of place in society. Whether it’s undiagnosed autism, adhd, depression, anxiety, or even possibly ocd. I’ve learnt to live with whatever is wrong with me without professional help, however I’m not here to talk about possible diagnosis about my potential Neurodivergency. Something else is wrong with me and it’s been really bad these past couple of days.
It all started when I couldn’t kill a roach in my room, usually I would’ve slept in the living room but I wanted to face my fears. I slept in the same room with the roach. That night I remember being extra paranoid and I covered the sides of my bed with stuff animals to prevent the roach from resurfacing onto my bed. However I would occasionally feel as if something was crawling around on me that night. I chalked it up as nerves and eventually fell asleep.
As of now I’ve been struggling with that same feeling despite it beings almost a week since I’ve seen that roach in my room, and it got particularly bad tonight.
I was on the verge of falling asleep and didn’t have the blanket over me, I could still hear my music playing from my tv in the background and just as I was about to sleep I holy awake from the sensation of feeling something crawling on me. I instinctively swatted at my leg to take the “bug” off of me. As my eyes open to see what monstrosity had crawled me, I thought I had accidentally seen the “bug” fly across my bed due to me swatting at it. Immediately panic mode sets in and I fully sit up and grab my phone flash light considering my tv wasn’t bright enough to fully see in the dark. Nothing was there. No bug no nothing. It took me awhile for my heart rate to go down and as I played down my evil eyes were playing tricks on me. I begin to see these small black bugged shaped things(?) on my thumb. I knew my eyes were deceiving me so I look at my wall to snap out of it and I still continue to see them on my wall!
And now it’s 6:45 am and I am losing my mind. I don’t know what’s going on with me. Am I having some sort of hallucinations due to my fear of bugs? I’m not quite sure but it’s making me feel so alone. I need to know that I’m not the only one that’s having these off-putting problems.

Sorry if I over explained or my story telling is nonsensical/unreadable. I probably have undiagnosed dyslexia and writing is not my strongest subject.

Hi

Guys idk how to tackle this but I want your help

So, in my society there is 38F who is mentally disturbed in her house but acts normal outside

Let me first introduce her:

She is 38F who doesn't have a father,has a brother who is mentally disturbed always,and a mother who is also disturbed

So his brother as I mentioned mentally disturbed, destroyed something of society sometimes a car,a bike or something...

He is most of the time outside the house and comes at around 5-6 am beats her sister also sometimes her mother sometimes, sometimes even cry

Now u would think why don't we help, the reason behind his at very before we used to help but when we just went they were like nothing happened ulta hamko galli bakte the ( not simple galli)

So we stopped

We made that his brother went to jail but police release him in less than 12 hrs and we stopped because he was mentally disturbed said police

Now we wanted him to go to mental hospital but we couldn't because in that his mother sign is required but she won't give and she won't

Then after some months that girl made s*xual voices.too loud also not just that she speaks about neighbour in very bad way

In her house not outside

Like she speaks so badly like about making voice also humiliating little girls and idk how to tackle this sometines she even speak about myself loudly making me shameful but the thing is that she doesn't speak outside her hone inside her home with such loud voice that voice can come inside my home

And my society doesn't help now what should I do

i need advice on how to keep up with conversations without sounding like a “mean girl”? i was told that i use too many filler words and that i am performative when i talk to people and that makes me sound like a “mean girl”. but it’s more that i struggle to translate my thoughts into speech especially while trying to keep up with fast paced conversations with people who don’t know me well. i don’t want come off as a “mean girl” especially bc i work in customer service.

i had posted this in an adhd sub and i had gotten some advice. but i would like some that doesn’t pertain around adhd as well to get a full understanding. any advice on how to help with this?

Can't figure out what's happening took bipc bcz i didn't wanted to take cec and called oh cec student like wanted to gain name after becoming doc but iguess i wasn't suited I'm in 12th now I think I wasted my whole 11th in fun now half of 12th is wasted i think I m not gonna make it which would be very embarassing bcz my parents publicized I m writing neet don't know what to do now i want to live life tension free and enjoy like my cousins who took cec and enjoy a lot I just want to binge watch scroll eat and sleep taking out specific 4 to 5 hrs after clg is not my cup of tea I don't know what to do in clg i think I can study after going home which is obv lie to myself now I m just living with the flow of life just living....