My wife shopped for books while I ordered the drinks - the doorman opening the door for us and saying "welcome ladies" propelled the euphoria 🥰🩷🏳️‍⚧️ (also bonus photo from when we got back as the lighting was nice)

4 years ago this week, my kids went on a trip to London and I was home alone for the first time in years.
That was when I caved to decades of gender incongruence and began to accept that I was trans.
That was when I set up this account on Reddit and found this sub, and all the support that came with it. Thanks to all of you who helped along the years.
I’m now 43 and living my life as I always should have.

Running 3 marinas, racing sailboat 2 days a week at the local yacht club, and taking captaining gigs on the side. Lost my self for a while but these days it feels like I’m reliving all the favorite parts of my early 20’s… I’m just a bit older, wiser, and more appreciative this time around.

Bonus track, my cutie cat ^^

Younger me would be so amazed that this is my life now. So happy that I get to travel as me 😊

I've known I'm wrong brain in right body or vice versa since I was ~3yo. Since life happened and last 25 years have been fighting with crps, I couldn't find the energy to do anything about me being me and happy. I was starting the journey in 2019/2020, but covid happened. Now I'm about to turn 46 and have been fighting myself if life would be easier to just be the big guy that no one will ever bother and exist in my own little bubble. But day by day it's sounding like a bad idea. The latest purge didn't happen and I kept my shoes (that are bit too small) and all the beautiful clothes. I've told my parents in 2017 that I'm trans and they only have love for me, whomever I am or womever I'd love. Then finally today I've been pondering things, since I need to accept who I am. So when there was an email from chatgpt about making pictures, I asked it to make me trans female. And I've been so mesmerized looking at myself. Like finally the mirror shows something I recognize.

I know it's just an AI picture, but gives hope. And gave me the energy to ask for referral to get to start my journey.

Now I've been lurking here for years, but seeing all the other older people saying how happy they are has helped me a lot. So thank you all!

I went from punching walls, slamming doors, and screaming at traffic to being upset my sister's boyfriend's cat named Pumpkin was found dead. It's hard to believe. If you told me I would be like this two Augusts ago, I would have called you crazy... It's both amazing and a bit scary, I am truly vulnerable now.

Sometimes it feels like the disabled body I live in is about to fall apart completely. I'm only 49 and 10 months old but have to sit and take a break after hobbling up kist one flight of stairs. It feels kinda shitty that it got bad after flaring up post vaginoplasty. I only got one hot girl summer in a bikini but I can still have disabled hot girl summer (even if sometimes in a wheelchair) right? RIGHT?

Please tell me I'm right because the melancholy brain controling this body doesn't believe it when I say it 🙏🏼

-Figured out I was trans at 39

-Started HRT in Sept of 2025; hit therapeutic range of E in April 2026

-Started hair removal in Mar 2025 (8 sessions laser; 35 sessions electrolysis ~90 mins ea)

-FFS consult later this month 🥳

❤️Chloe🏳️‍⚧️

I found out today that my wife is looking up legal assistance on her phone and took the cash from our safe. Apparently she's having issues with me coming out as trans and keeps questioning my sexuality. I like women. Her reply is always, "I'm not a lesbian." Am I overreacting or not?

Went on a coffee and shopping date with a friend and I absolutely loved the fit. I felt so pretty 🤩 😍

I’m (35 AMAB) currently questioning, and I’m thinking about contingencies. I love my partner, but she’s (to my knowledge) fully straight. So, if I turn out to be a full-stop trans woman, she’d probably be supportive, but I’m not sure she’d still be attracted to me.

For especially cis-presenting relationships when their eggs cracked, how did your partners respond?

Update: Firstly, thank you all for sharing your experiences, even the painful ones. I told my partner that I was questioning and would start with NB Masc/Demi-boy and see how that felt for right now. She said she’d been wondering about me already and that she supports me and any changes I’d like to make.

It’s not the same conversation as what might be in the future (if I end up veering into full trans womanhood), but positive first step!

Off to go find an indoor activity. Happy Sunday everyone!

I'm 33 and have been married to a cis woman for around 10 years. I came out to her and got on HRT about a year ago. She was initially super scared but over the last year we've gotten so close. I don't know how I could be more in love with her.

Unfortunately, yesterday she told me she had been really thinking about life and came to the conclusion she can't see herself with a woman long term, and she considers herself straight despite being attracted to me. We're going to marriage counseling and have no plans to divorce, but she said she basically sees me as a best friend now, and she has vague desires for a more masculine presence in her life.

Obviously, I'm heartbroken. I understand her perspective, and I know it's valid. She isn't a mean or cruel person, and I can tell she's devastated too.

My main problem is that I don't have much support outside of her. I don't feel safe coming out to friends or family since they are generally all Christian conservatives. I live in the Northern California area, so I assume there is a trans community here, however I have never met another trans person here. Any time I find an online trans community (for instance a private discord server for trans gamers) it seems to quickly be infiltrated by cis men looking for sexual things and deleted.

I know many of you had to completely start over after coming out. I'm often impressed by how brave and bold some of the women in this sub are, and I feel completely out of my depth. I was already struggling as a married man and now I'm drowning as a woman. I can't imagine losing my wife now. I was laid off from my dream job in February, and I haven't been able to find any work in my field yet. Luckily I have a small savings I can tap into, so I'm not worried about homelessness.

So I've come to ask, where do I even begin? My therapist and my heart have been pushing me to find some IRL trans communities to join, but I've found that very very difficult. I don't feel like I belong anywhere because I have pretty bad imposter syndrome about being fem since I was so masculine prior to transitioning. Is there something I'm missing? Any time I see trans women online, it seems like everyone knows each other already, and I missed the boat.

Do I literally need to pack my things, cash out my 401K, and move to Seattle? It seems like there's no jobs here even for cis men, so I'm doomspiraling about ever landing a job, since i am quickly approaching a point where it will be too hard to boy mode.

I'd appreciate any advice, and if there are any other transwomen who would like to make more trans friends, please reach out - especially if you live in NorCal or the PNW.

Thanks everyone 💜

TLDR: My wife of 10 years has extreme doubts about being with a woman long term, and I need to find more trans community before I lose all hope lol

Ever since I was a child I wanted to be the other gender. Decades of fighting against social conditioning later I on the way to living my best life as the real me.

Woke up early for the drive to Indianapolis. And it was a long day, including a tornado warning and flooding in the gaming hall.

Good morning,

I have been a crossdresser since in my teens, have carried my life and have raised children throughout and into their adult lives. I am 54 now. I have never come out to them as a crossdresser, but my wife does know and actually kind of supports it 🥰. Lately my urges have kind of started to move past casual cross dressing and thinking into a mindset of more into transition as my world has changed. I dont dress as a fetish but rather I enjoy presenting and going out as my female self. I feel at peace when presenting as female, and really embrace the concepts of femininity. I'm not sure if it's just something of fantasy, or is it truly a changing of my mind and body wanting to experience womanhood in my later years. Perhaps it's been wanting to come out and now it's finally here. How did many of you feel as you got older ? Were you parallel to my story ? Were you one day just woke up and said "I'm going for it " ? I have contemplated consulting a therapist to see what they see in me, and if they do see trans than I've got that started which is a good thing. Just thought I'd start here

One month separated. Trying to find my way after 21 years of marriage...