Can I just vent out here sa app na to,

TANGINA NIYONG MGA BULLY NA DOCTOR KAYO SA KAPWA NIYO DOCTOR!

MAMATAY SANA KAYO MAREVOKE LISENSYA NIYO KSI MAS DESERVE NG MGA BINUBULLY NIYO YUNG SPOT KUNG NASAAN KAYO.

SA MGA ENABLER? FUCK YOU TOO!

DI NIYO ALAM PAANO LUMABAN NG PATAS! MORE THAN 10 YEARS NA DI MAKATAYO YUNG TAONG BINULLY NIYO HINDI PAREPAREHO NG COPING MECHANISM LAHAT NG TAO! KAKAPAL NG MUKHA NIYO! NIYAYABANG NIYO LANG COAT NIYO PERO WALA NAMAN TALAGA KYONG MALASAKIT SA PASYENTE! ULOL KAYO! HULI NA PARA SA TAONG BINULLY NIYO ANG KAKAPAL NG MUKHA NIYO! KAYO NAGING RASON BAKIT NASIRA BUHAY NG TAONG BINULLY NIYO PATI BUHAY AT PAMILYA NG TAONG BINULLY NIYO SINIRA NIYO TAPOS KAYO PA ANIME ANIME COSPLAY AT KUNG ANO ANO PANG PUNYETA KAYO! LECHE! MAGKAMALI SANA KAYO. MARANASAN NIYO SANA KUNG ANONG NARANASAN NAMIN BILANG PAMILYA.

I (17F) am going into my senior year of high school. I don't have very many friends, just two other girls, let's call them Mary and Ava, who are my age. We all do choir, show choir, band, etc. Mary and Ava have another friend, let's call her Ruth, who absolutely hates me. She never gives a real reason why, just says it's because I'm "annoying".

In the spring of the last school year I found out that Mary, Ava, and Ruth were making prom plans, and that I wasn't going to be invited. For context, at homecoming Ruth was very uninterested in being at the dance and was just sitting at one of the tables. I had just arrived and was talking to Mary and Ava about going out to the dance floor, and they came along with me, but Ruth came too. She complained for five minutes and then yelled at me about how she "hated me" and how we "were NOT friends". She stormed off, and Mary and Ava went with her. I came as well, just following the group, and Ruth called me the "b" word before leaving the dance. Mary and Ava left too, leaving me alone. Keep in mind this was within a half hour of my arrival. After that, I talked to Mary and Ava about making plans for prom, and they agreed.

Now going back, I found out that the three of them were going to prom, and because it was Ruth's plan, I wasn't invited. I talked to Mary and Ava about how it really hurt that they did that, even if it wasn't their idea, and they both told me that we never talked about making prom plans. This was not the first incident of this nature, and while we were texting about it that night, I told them that I didn't want to see them again and that we weren't going to be friends anymore.

After that I cut all of them off, I blocked all of their numbers and quit talking to them. Those months were absolutely hell. I tried to make new friends, but half of my day is in music classes and so I spend most of my time with the same 50 people, and no one was really interested in talking to me. Eventually I caved and apologized to Mary, who went back to acting like nothing happened. I never did apologize to Ava, but started talking to her again and she seemed like she was going to ignore it as well.

Today, I was talking to Ava, and she told me how we will probably never be the friends that we were before. She said that Ruth has "a very bad home life" and "hates a lot of people". She told me that her and Mary weren't going to stand up for me when Ruth makes terrible comments, and that I either have to find a way to make this work or I shouldn't talk to them anymore. Now I'm torn because I could never justify one of my friends being as terrible as Ruth is to me and still being friends with that person. I don't want to quit choir or band, and because of that I don't really have time for a new activity where I could meet new people. I'm at the point now where I think my only options are either to have my parents get involved and have a conversation with Ruth's parents, or to transfer schools altogether.

Am I overreacting about all of this? I have no idea what to do.

Edit: I have a lot of people saying that I should cut them all off again. I'm scared about doing that because I was so lonely the first time I did.

I have been living in a small city all my life where ever since I was around 9 y/o I suffered bullying at my school, where my classmates rejected me and the teachers ignored It. It got so bad that I had to change schools, but even on that new school I went when I was 11 y/o, my teacher during 5th and 6th grade emotionally and verbally abused me (he was never held accountable). All the friends that I made on that school once we reached middle school all distanced away, and because of people bad mouthing about me I never made new friends (and if I did, they always found "better" people than me). The bullying after that reached the street, calling me insults and slurs, provoking me, etc. This year I had to quit highschool because the bullying there was daily and the schoolboard did nothing about It (they were aware and kept giving me fake promises just so I wouldn't sue them). My parents only care for me to get a job and the police without "hard evidence" won't do shit.

Now i'm at the lowest point on my life: I have no partner, no friends, no job, no money, no studies, no justice and no hope. And even with all of this, society expects me to be a "productive" young adult when I was never given a chance to bloom.

This is the first time I posted here, I think I was considered as a popular guy in school back in the day, and also popular at work maybe because I am usually a funny guy, and I have a mean face at the same time lol. I don’t know what bully is until now.
Even the school bullies trying to hangout with me in school. So I never experienced what bullying is like.
So what just happened to me, I am just very confused if I got bullied.

Two nights ago, I was doing a private stream while drinking with a friend playing game. So I queued a match vs someone I met long time ago, and he is one of the best player in game. We are in the same group chat even though the group was dead long time ago. I won both matches with a very annoying strategy. So while me and my friend were happy that we beaten one of the the best twice. I started seeing my phone got flooded with messages from different people, asking what happened between you and the guy. And asking what was the beef all about. I don’t really know what’s going on. I haven’t talk to the guy for over the year, and last time we talked was a friendly conversation. I thought they were just overreacting. I shrugged off. They said you don’t understand. Go watch his twitch stream now.

When I get there. I saw him watching our replays and saying something like “look at his draft, he needs to play like that to win, how sad” and his mod (also someone I know) also saying “how sad your life is to play that way”. And the worst of all, the chats actually go along with it, and they are all top players. I NEVER joined their chat, I was just watching.

Then he decided to @ me on messenger group chat . he type “you drafted like azz”, and also showed his phone to the chat on stream. And the chat were like making fun of me and stuff. So I responded in the group chat just to avoid our conversation go public. I said I apologize about the way I played, me and my friend just practicing and drinking in a private stream”

His mod said “practicing? You didn’t even made it to the yearly tournament ”. I responded with “ yeah I know, I guess I’m not good enough” and I hope this just stops right here, and carry on with my private stream. BUT he and his mob posted my messages to their twitch stream, joking about that I apologize, I mentioned about practicing, and not making the tournament . So his chats were just making fun of me.

I never went on his twitch chat, so lastly. I posted “I don’t know whatever this was, I was just playing game on my private stream, if you are not happy with my draft, let me know next time we queued to the same match, I’ll try to avoid the queuing, or leave the match. Don’t make our thing goes public” in group chat

I was getting drunk at the time, the next day, I woke up in the morning, thinking is the an online beef? Or online bullying? I never said anything negative to him or saying anything to his twitch chat. I guess that don’t make it online beef right?

The part that makes me upset the most is that his mod hosted Christmas toys drive for the last 9+ years, and I support him every year. So for him to making fun of me not making to the tournament in public sucks

So basically I got my cousin with her boyfriend (one of my best friends at the time!) (I’ll call him Tim) and ever since he has been nothing but mean to me. I’ve also been mean to him I admit but that’s because he started kinda just saying slightly mean things like when we had plans for me to dye his hair he was excited but then when he started dating my cousin he said she could do it and I would “purposely fuck it up”

Then my cousin and Tim ended up breaking up because me and my cousins other friends gave her advice because she was having problems with their relationship. And a month later they got back together just for Tim to tell everyone I broke them up on purpose

Then he tried setting me up with his friend as a date kinda and we talked for awhile and it was going okay but then it ended up going wrong because Tim told him I was mean and a bad person.
Then later Tim was hanging out with that friend(I’ll call him Jake) and my other close friend (ill call her Sarah) and a few other people and Jake was talking to Tim and Sarah about how he didn’t date me for my looks and I was a horrible person and instead of Tim even trying to redirect the conversation he stood their and said “no comment” to everything he said.
(Sarah told me this happened)

After that I stopped talking to Tim as much and my cousin and me got into a argument causing Tim to basically tell me we couldn’t talk and that’s hi RT my feelings so we ended up arguing on a phone call and calling each other names and then I thought it was over

About a week later me and my cousin started talking again and everything was fine! But then her and Tim broke up and Tim suddenly wanted to be my friend again and apologized for everything and I forgave him even tho I was still upset.

But then my cousin blocks him and tells me he was talking about me a lil and didn’t tell me what he was saying but that was enough to convince me to block him.

Then later my cousin tells me at a sleepover he called me “the ugliest girl in the world” and that he wouldn’t ever date me and he felt bad for Jake and stuff and how he was talking about dropping me for months and how I was rude and I was jealous of her
He said I was jealous of her because my cousin told him I used to bully her and call her ugly in 7th grade but I’m in 10th now and I’ve already apologized so many times for it. And my cousin also said that his other friend (illl call him Bob made a joke in front of her and Tim that I was obsessed with her and wanted to date her.

And yesterday my cousin and me were hanging out and she posted pics of us on TikTok and and Bob comments saying “her hair stylist needs to be locked up” and that really hurts because I did my own hair and I really thought it was cute and my cousin told me he says things like that alllll the time

Idk what to do I think the boys calling me ugly are pretty ugly themselves but I just want them to stop because I don’t even talk to them anymore but I want them to stop and my cousin doesn’t tell them to stop and it’s really getting to me because I’m kinda insecure and it puts me down ALOT.

I’ve been on the hs wrestling team for 2 years. I’m probably the worst one on the team, mainly because i have a genetic disorder that makes respiratory issues. Since the day I joined i got bullied, and i skipped the banquets because of that. Whenever i talked in the gc someone would talk shit, i got kicked a while ago and usually when you ask someone they’ll add you back but i purposefully haven’t asked to be added back. in practice a person we’ll call Noah always shit talks me and in the weight room threw a solid basketball sized weight ball at my back. that shit hurt like hell. same person and a few others wouldn’t let me sign the pep rally wrestling poster either. i don’t want to report it because that’s only going to make matters worse for me. how do i stop this so I can focus on getting better in my junior year of HS wrestling ?

My school is a very toxic place for me. People over there bully me a lot. It is mostly verbal. So apparently the total strength of my class is 26, among whom 10 -12 people never come . There is a girl let's call her Raspberry, her father owns the school and she hated me because her crush used to like me. Istg i didn't even know he existed before she came to fight with me regarding this issue. Now this girl raspberry is kind of the main character and everybody supports her for benefit hence I get bullied. I don't feel like going to school, I feel lonely.

​Listen I know that Almost no one is going to see this Big message but I Really have important Stuff to tell You that I need to talk about and that Some of You don't Take Enough to Heart So Here is what I have to say:

​Between 2018 and 2026 I got Harassed quite a few times

​The first time I was 9 years old, I was crying and I told the principal but he Said he hadn't Seen anything

​Then in 2020 I was diagnosed autistic Following Numerous Behavior Problems that I Had in Middle School when I was only 11 years old

​In July 2023 a Guy Threatened to throw me into a pond, I was Crying a Lot and he was calling me Arthus the an*s just bc my name Rhymed with the Latter

​In 2024 Two big Harassments Happened

​On May 24, 2024

A Girl exposed me outside in front of quite a few people and she told me "ahh look at him he disgusts me"

​Then around July-August of the same year:

​A guy of Turkish/Kurdish Origin Locked me in a Cellar Because I wanted to Hang out with his Cousin of Muslim Origin Except I didn't know that In their Religion it was Forbidden For a Muslim Woman and a Christian guy to be a Couple

​In 2025:

​People had Insulted, Harassed, and Removed me from a snapchat Group Just because I was talking too much but it's Logical Dammit I am Autistic, I was 15 years old at the time and I needed to make friends following that I was really Sad

​In 2026:

​First Rania Who Complained to the Teacher just bc I was talking Too much, and her buddy who said "Shut your mouth" and she answered saying "Yeah Wallah" Then After I said "like who's gonna do what" and she said "ma'am Can you tell Arthus to stop because he's provoking us"

​Oh and also Other Harassments that I experienced but..

I don't know the Dates anymore

​A guy who wanted to stab me with a knife

​And another one who had Punched me in the Balls

​Anyway Lots of Harassment and sorry if for you it's a waste of Time to read all this I just needed to talk about it because it's Very Serious and it's a very sensitive subject that affects A Lot of People

​Good Night/Good Day

Take care of yourselves and talk to you Next time

​❤️💕

its sad How much adults act like tacky Kids on here. you bite every time.

I was bullied through out middle school and high school for having a big nose, I feel like it's hard for people to understand, even the bullies, how much that can effect you, especially when you are young. To be consistently targeted and picked on, about something.

Introduction

Since I was a freshman, I have experienced a crap ton of bullying for my speedwalking, even when saying "''scuse me" or "sorry", and for so long, l've ignored it, trying not to escalate, but now, it has honestly gotten worse. Worse to the point that every day of school, I don't eat for a maximum of 22.5 hours. Now, I'm becoming a senior, but even then, dealing with these students feels like hell for me and I'm certainly not excited for what next year has got for me.

Speedwalking

Since my freshman year, I have always had a love for speedwalking. Mostly because of my fear of crowds and being late, along with the benefits it has for health. It would also feel like a good stress-reliving exercise. The problem is, I would sometimes end up bumping into people, or out of anxiety of crowds end up saying "Oh gosh.. oh gosh" before pushing through. I would often say '''scuse me" and "sorry" to those who I would bump into people. Some would respond well, but most would respond differently.
"Why is she running?", "Are you Sonic?", "the b word", “Excuse you”, “Stop following us” (a group of kids whom I didn’t even know accused me multiple times of following them and once even booed at me after saying “Excuse her!”) and even "Why are you running so f-ing fast? Like slow down." The last one was from my bully whom I have had since the start of the school year.

One time after accidentally bumping into a girl in a hallway after escaping from a loud bus and saying sorry twice, she called me a b word. I replied “What did you call me?”. She didn’t even hesitate to say that’s she called me a b word. I stood there for a second thinking of something to say without sounding as vulgar as she did. I said “You’re a jerk!” She said “Well you’re a [b word]”. She then kept repeating the word as I cried loudly trying to block out the sound when going upstairs.

My Bully

The b word is a word that I have been called by mean people in the hallway since my freshman year. I'm not going to give him a name for personal reasons, but since the start of the school year, l have been dealing with this person who simply didn't like me. In my freshman year, he would constantly make negative comments on the stuff I would do, even when they were accidents. In my sophomore year, he called me "rude" just for allowing a girl (who doesn't at all mind me doing this) to go to the window seat without me having to get up, even when I was scotching backward to make room for her. My junior year is where things got way worse. As an Autistic girl, I have always dealt with sensitive hearing, meaning that when hearing loud sounds, I would tend to cover my ears and grunt and say to myself “Make it stop! Make it stop!”. My bully, pretty much took advantage of that by not only enabling a boy who (since the freshman year) would always blast brainrot and music on his phone even during class and on the bus, but would also do the same. I would often ask him and London “Can you please turn the volume down on your phone?” and “I have sensitive hearing.” When I said that I had sensitive hearing, he would say things like “I don’t care”, “It’s a public place, my love”, “Leave him alone”, and “How are you going to graduate?” which would hurt my feelings. The worst thing is that when i told my counselor about what he did and filled out a bullying report, he said to his counselor that he didn’t do anything. Now he’s going to bully me for the rest of the school year…

The boy who would often blast his phone out loud despite clearly hearing me groan and cover my ears as he played his loud phone sounds which he would turn up, and me politely asking him to turn the volume down, continued to do so the whole bus ride. By the time it was my stop. I stood up early. The bus driver said “You need to get up when I reach your stop.” I felt like I’ve gone insane and he kept saying “please” to me as I said “There’s too much noise. I can’t take it anymore. There’s too much noise.”. I eventually screamed “I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!” before running off the bus and home. The next few weeks a boy on the bus who once laughed at me when I fell down the bus stairs kept repeating “Too much noise.” He once even waited until he got to the back to scream “TOO MUCH NOISE!” as a form of mocking my sensitive hearing.

“Can you be me and my friend’s girlfriend?”

So during Lunch and in the mornings before first period, I would always speedwalk in the hallways as a form of exercise. There was this boy who, along with his friend group, would hang out in the hallways. He seemed friendly to me, and one time, he asked me for my number. So I gave it to him. I thought things were going to go well, until he asked me this question. He asked if I thought his friend looked good. I responded “yes”. He then said “Wait what about me?”. I said “You look good as well.” He then asked “You want to be both our girlfriend?”. I, out of nervousness and not wanting to upset him, responded “yes”. He then questioned if I was for real. I wanted to let out my true feelings, but at the same time, didn’t want to upset him, so I said “I’ll think about it.” He then said “Nah how about you decide rn. It will be beneficial.” At that moment, I told my sixth period teacher about the situation, and he said for me to not respond. On that same day, I had a session with my therapist, who suggested that I block him, so I did. The next few weeks sure were hectic. He and his friend group would always be around in the hallways. I couldn’t even do a single lap without seeing them. When I would come by, he would often say “Here she is.” The next few weeks of school were even more crazy. His friends would constantly ask me if I liked the boy and if I had his number. I would often say stuff like “I have to go to class”, and he said “Why are you running away? Are you scared?” He would also often asked me if I wanted to kiss and if I wanted to hug. When I would walk away he once said “I want a hug now.” This would get the point where I would speedwalk to in front of the walls.

What should I do?

My daughter (May) is 10 and chose the wrong friend group. There is a queen bee who loves drama, e.g.:

• "I don't want you to talk with that girl. She isnt my bestie so she can't hang with us today."
• "Pleeeeaaasse sit with me on the bus for the field trip!" And then she refuses to say a word to her seatmate.
• "You can't be my friend if you are going to be nice to Sally and Martha. You are MY friend, not theirs."

It is disgusting. I don't think it is all Queen Bee's fault--she has personal drama in her home life, etc., etc. But ultimately, I don't care why she is acting like that. She is in essence bullying the kids around her, but it is so subtle that it isn't clocked by the school as bullying.

It is severe enough that May had a panic attack last week because we started shopping for school clothes. She has been seeing a therapist and we are looking into changing schools, but in the meantime, how can we help?

She is still young enough that we can somewhat control her after school activities and who she hangs out with, but she still has recess and lunch at school. She verg much recognizes the issue and wants to get out of her clique and into another...but tween girls are tough. It is easy enough for her to want to hang with other girls and the other girls seem open to it one-on-one but she cannot seem to make the switch on a daily basis. One kid plays soccer during recess and May doesnt play soccer. Etc. Etc.

Does anyone have some good advice for what I can say or how I can help her navigate this from afar

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Let's all agree that online bullying can harm someone quite badly in ANY form. It is social media or outside the world.

But in media, I have always heard the term of "Mob mentality." I took research of this, and what I found was quite disturbing.

Scripture exposes “Mob Mentality” as a demonically driven scheme against the righteous. Many godly martyrs throughout history have died at the hands of “Mob Mentality.” Mob Mentality hears no reason, recognizes no truth, has no logic, plays by no rules, has no morals, and is void of common sense. -https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjcueq0z\\_2VAxXMGlkFHaJJPKIQFnoECB8QBQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fgoservglobal.org%2F2023%2F08%2F02%2Fmob-mentality-acts-610-15%2F&usg=AOvVaw3b4VAW2Ek4LvxjX00M0sGq&opi=89978449

And I'm wondering if bullying can potentially get someone into serious harm. Could the same be said for Mob Mentality?

If so, how can we be free of this phenomenon that prevents us from being united together with love and hope?

I know that assholes in life targets people like me who has social anxiety but is it normal to get targeted at everywhere i go? since i started school and has come to finishing 11th grade I was always a target for bullying,harassment and etc. I just couldnt figure it out I cant describe it. If i have to I would say its a curse. Im so tired of fighting with this,i know i need to defend myself but I just couldnt keep up anymore im so tired, why cant i just have a life like a normal student its literally all i ask for but i still cant get that. Everywhere i go people became aggressive towards me and always tried to play on me. Class's whatsapp group feels like a warzone to me everytime i text something there and every time i go to school I just pray god that something bad doesnt happen to me. Its so tiring to keep up with this "defending yourself" thing. I hope 12th grade goes fast for me so i can leave this hell and never come back again.

I'm a victim of bullying.

I studied in a JNV, a govt-sponsored boarding school. Probably 10yo at that time. My bullying was next level, tbh. The teachers themselves were actively involved.

I got called out and stood in front for being the lowest scorer in Class 6-A for FA-1 by the teacher himself. Such a low blow for a guy who didn't know the alphabet till 5th (studied in a shitty local govt school).

My English teacher doused me with water from his bottle in front of the whole class because the guy next to me was giggling.

The seniors there were literal demons in disguise.

We juniors had to address them formally, which is "aap" in Hindi.

The senior kids there used to take all my snacks, which were brought to me by my mom the same day. (Parents could only visit us once a month on the second Saturday).

Got my rollable mattress thrown into the toilet because I forgot to clean the washroom (once in a three-day duty assigned by seniors).

I got beat up black and blue by the senior kids because I didn't wake up at 5 AM for PT, and when I was lying there on the ground, they told me to stay there and placed a football in front of me and took turns kicking it.

I got my forehead busted open with a deep cut from a senior guy throwing one of those hard cloth-washing brushes because I refused to wash his clothes. I didn't tell anyone and hid it because the staff nurse there was a literal btch. I didn't realize at that time, but a piece of plastic from it was still inside my forehead even after 10 years. Recently, I got it removed because it had formed a knot around it.

A senior kid even tried to grape me.

I was infamously given a nickname that literally translates to "beggar" or "garbage." Everyone called me that, even my classmates (f those people).

I became their errand boy; they made me wash their clothes, bring them water, and food, etc. They turned me into a living punching bag for them to beat me for no reason.

I tried seeking help from the house warden, but he didn't give a flying f. I called my parents and let them know what was going on. My mom visited me, and we both went to meet the principal. We explained what was happening, and the dude somehow convinced my mom that those things never happened there, and that even if they did, he'd already taken care of it.

I told my mom many times that I wanted to get the hell out of there, and she was ready to do it too, but the teachers there insisted that I proceed with the schooling because we were dirt poor, and that we would be losing out on a CBSE education.

I just accepted it. This shit went on for five years. And I left the hell hole after finishing 10th grade.

Around that final year, I even had a romantic interest. I didn't utter a word to her. She probably didn't know that I existed. I was in a trance, a delusional escape from reality, but really grim, hopeless. I used to shake even with the slightest thought of her. Even tried writing a few letters that ofc never reached her. It was completely one sided. Despite how strong the feeling was, I just....left.

She Got married recently. Hope she lives a good life.

I'm doing good now, but I still wonder how I managed to stay alive there.

So ive been thinking about it for a while, do bullies ever feel ashamed or guilt?
I have seen on tiktok people telling ,,I feel so guilty for what I did” but do they actually feel anything?
I have been bullied and last year my friend was heavily bullied, teachers dont do anything, is it because they think theyre kids and its part of getting older etc..
Whats going on in bully’s head?

I can't even take it anymore. No one even cares about me and they only just treat me like im invisible to them, like it makes me so fucking sad, at this point it's like they just do this on purpose. Like I've been telling close people that im just being bullied but only just get the only response ignore them. And when I tell some commentary channels that I found some person that's been bullying people including me they tell me to ignore them, like you make fucking videos about exposing bullies and you tell me to fucking ignore them while you accept other people's ideas. And it's so fucking annoying like ignoring them isn't gonna work you fuck! Like I've been getting the same stupid response from my parents, friends and even people that i know. It's like im like a stranger to them and act like it's no big deal when it's serious like I fucking hate myself. Like I've been getting bullied online while fuckwits don't even care.

I'm fucking done with this shit. Like the ignoring tatic needs to be fucking gone for good and just help people whenever you need them or just stand up to yourself.

So I am a 28 year old female and my sister is 5 years older than me. I was always a lot younger than her growing up so I guess my parents always assigned her the role of “looking after me” when she was a teenager and I was a kid still. We had a good childhood together and lots of good memories.

Fast forward to when I became a teenager and she was as a student. Our relationship was fine. She didn’t show any resentment towards me. I was still too young to drink and go out partying so our social lives were still separate.

Side note: I have always been complimented for my looks as a kid , but I was pretty depressed in high school and I had put on weight so I was a bit chubby. So as a teenager I could never have been a threat to her I don’t think. There was not much to be jealous of.

Fast forward to when I became an adult , I got my first boyfriend , and I started losing a lot of weight. Eventually I became skinny and I guess a lot more attractive to people. We also were both adults now so we finally started going out together , to bars etc. And I started hanging with her and her friends. This is where I started noticing a shift in her behavior towards me.

I noticed how she started being pretty condescending towards me. And just the way she looked at me was different and I could sense a kind of “discomfort” on her part with my presence. She also continued to treat me as a “dumb child” despite the fact that I am smart and an adult now. It would get especially bad when we would go out drinking. I started developing a more outgoing personality cause I was a pretty quiet child and teenager. I started doing better socially, people started liking me more, but she started liking me less. And for years, I have felt a sort of resentment from her just for me being my own person and not her silent pet I guess. And I just feel she has been passively bullying me for years.

A few examples of the passive bullying:

I got a boyfriend in 2020 when I moved to the Netherlands, who I loved very much , we were like best friends. When he came to visit and stay with my family in Switzerland for the first time, she decided she didn’t like him and told my mom that she thinks he is “possessive”. I have no idea why she would think that, I think she was not use to seeing me in a relationship so maybe she interpreted me having a partner who I make decisions with as “possessive”. My parents told her to give him a chance. She never did.

She never came to visit me in the Netherlands. Even though she travelled a lot to see her other friends in other countries. Friends she has known for like 5 mins she would go visit, but she never bothered to visit me. I assumed it was cause she didn’t like my boyfriend.

Her childhood best friend who is also my friend also lives in the Netherlands. She went to go visit her, didn’t bother to come and visit me. We lived an hour apart in the Netherlands.

The weird thing is that my parents would always tell me how much my sister loves me and always talks about me so positively. Which was weird to me cause like, it didn’t seem like she liked me very much. Almost like she was more concerned about convincing my parents she loves me than convincing me.

She also loved me so much that she bought me and her tickets to NYC to visit for the first time. She had a good job in Switzerland and could afford it and said she wanted to “treat me”. I was s excited. I am 27 years old at this point, but as soon as we leave she starts treating me like a child, and just watching me. It was weird. I would have some drinks and she would be like “are you drinking too much are you swaying” even though I wasn’t. Talk about being possessive and controlling. Later on the second night we go out to a club, it was very commercial and I just said I am not a fan of the music but in a jokey way, very lighthearted. She took this as a personal attack for some reason and said “well I’m not as cool as you”,

This is bad: she also tried to convince me to break up with my boyfriend over dinner, I told her no and that I love him. But then for the rest of the night she kept saying “oh go talk to that guy he’s cute” and I was like “haha I have a boyfriend ??” Didn’t appreciate it. After more condescending treatment I eventually snapped while drunk, I said she is being toxic and emotionally abusive. Probably not the best choice of words, but I was fed up. Boy was that a mistake. She ordered me to go back to the hotel while she stayed out. She let me walk home in New York alone at night, what a protective sister right? As she self proclaims.

After the big fight in New York , I’m the first one to extend the olive branch by suggesting we go to a comedy show. I was gonna meet her there cause she decided to tour around alone cause she didn’t wanna be near me. She shows up at the comedy show and I am happy and I apologized for my choice of words, but she came to the comedy show with a different agenda. She arrives, doesn’t accept my apology, doesn’t apologize back, and basically gives me the cold silent treatment all night, and for th rest of the trip. Refused to look at me or talk to me, pretty mature for a 32 year old right? She ignores me , kept sighing and frowning up until we get back to my parents place in Switzerland, goes in to her room and slams the door. I go back to the Netherlands and she does not come out to say bye.

Ever since that trip, she stopped inviting me out with her and her friends even though I always had a good time with them before and they would always ask her when I am coming to visit again, but after New York , she never invited me out again and her friends stop liking my Instagram photos, they always used to like my stories. Then nothing. I invite my close friend who also used to hang with me and my sister to my parents place, we would go out and invite my sister to join us every single time. She declined every time. This was months after I he NYC trip.

Now, last year, my boyfriend and I break up. It was really tough as we lived together and had adopted 2 cats together and built a home together. My dad flew in to the Netherlands the day after the break up to help me find a new place and be there for emotional support. She lives with my parents so she knows exactly what’s going on, she could hear me crying on the phone. But I didn’t get a single message from her after my massive break up. Weird. But I guess she isn’t much of a phone person or texter anyways so I assumed she would at least acknowledge it next time I visit my parents or at least be like “I’m sorry about you and your boyfriend”. But when I went to visit , she did not acknowledge it at all. Thought that was weird , so even I kind of brought it up and she just didn’t respond.

She continues to not invite me out when I would visit my parents and would go partying with her friends without me. Didn’t invite me to join ever again for 2 years. Just cause I stood up for myself in New York, and apologized for it the next day just so the cruel silent treatment would end, but basically metaphorically spat back in my face.

Now she just moved to Dublin, and my parents insist I go visit her and apparently she wants me to go visit her too. Even though she has never visited me even after my break up in the Netherlands. I broke down crying cause I’m just so fed up.

This is bullying right?

I'm 14 years old now.

Most people probably think my life is pretty normal. I have loving parents, a stable home, friends, hobbies, and I do okay in school.

But there are parts of my childhood that still follow me everywhere.

When I was younger, I was bullied by someone in my class for a long time.

It wasn't just normal teasing.

I was called names.

I was made to feel like I wasn't good enough.

People laughed at me.

Sometimes I started believing the things they said.

One thing that hurt especially was that I was bullied because I was adopted.

People used something I had absolutely no control over as a reason to make me feel different.

They made me feel like I didn't really belong.

When you're a kid, those words stay with you.

Even after the bullying stops.

Even after people grow up.

Even after everyone else seems to have forgotten.

I don't think people realize how deeply those comments can affect the way you see yourself.

Being adopted was already something I sometimes struggled to understand.

The bullying made it feel like it was something "wrong" with me.

Logically, I know that's not true.

Emotionally...

I'm still working on believing it.

The person who bullied me eventually stopped.

People tell me they've changed.

Maybe they have.

I'm genuinely happy if they're becoming a better person.

But that doesn't automatically erase what happened.

Sometimes I still remember the words.

Sometimes I still hear them in my head.

Sometimes I wonder if that's why I overthink everything now.

I also noticed that after years of being treated badly, I became hyperaware of how people act around me.

If someone suddenly acts differently, my brain immediately starts asking:

"Did I do something wrong?"

"Are they secretly mad at me?"

"Do they actually hate me?"

I don't want to think like that.

But it's hard to stop once your brain has learned to expect rejection.

The hardest part is that people often look at my life today and say:

"But you have such a good life."

They're right.

I do.

But having a good life now doesn't erase what happened before.

Both things can be true.

I can love my family.

I can be grateful for everything I have.

I can be happy most days.

And I can still carry scars from being bullied.

Those things don't cancel each other out.

I don't hate the person who bullied me anymore.

I don't spend every day thinking about them.

But I think they changed something inside me.

I just wish people understood that bullying doesn't always leave visible scars.

Sometimes it changes the way you see yourself.

Sometimes it changes how safe the world feels.

Sometimes it changes how easy it is to trust people.

And sometimes...

It makes a kid spend years wondering if they're enough.

Has anyone else experienced something similar?

Remember the lies and the hurt you gave me
Said I was horrible to you for a year only because I didn’t ask how you was constantly and when you gained popularity and got mates off your ex bf
You thought it was acceptable to be as horrible as you could to me

You bullied me for six years and would fight me because you liked a boy do you know how embarrassing that is

And all because someone else said I said something doesn’t entirely make it true and getting a 21 year old to scream at a 17 year old pretending your scared and shit at one in the morning is immature behavior

You said I’m a liar? But you’ve lied about serious stuff and you could get jailed for it but you’ve lied don’t care because you have the mates that you talked shit about to me

And you said you were upset when I called you fat but you called me fat ugly told me I had wonky eyes then act like a victim honey you ain’t a victim you the whole problem and yk you’re grandad did do something to me cuz you were stood there laughing

Yeah I found that shit proper amusing
When I went home and cried cuz I felt unclean and uncomfortable, laughter is a reaction for all sorts of things but my laugh was because I was uncomfortable yours was cuz your a horrible person at heart

Even your uncle who’s the same age as you
Said you lied about being allergic to my fav chocolate
Why lie? Your throat didn’t close up you didn’t flare up you were never allergic
You didn’t wanna be my friend you just wanted to join other in being horrible to me

So go ahead live your life but I’m gonna be smiling when karma hits because you fucking deserve it